Just an advice......


I'm not a dullard, heck, I've never even been a struggling student, ever, but i guess, the only thing constant in life is change. At least that's what they say.

I'm not asking for what to do, i already know what to do, i'm just saying my story, so that parents can maybe, learn from it.

The way our parents talk to us, matters a whole lot, so, as parents, we should be really careful how we praise or curse our offspring. I don't know, but i'm pretty sure neither the Bible, nor the Quran supports, nor encourage the parent cursing and abusing his/her child.

I have a father, who for over 20 years, and i'm not exaggerating, has NEVER said anything good to me. Don't misquote me, I didn't say he doesn't say about me, i don't know, because i'm not there, but i'm saying, he has never, in my front, in my presence, say anything good to or about me. NOTHING. That shouldn't be a problem, except for that, he uses every opportunity he has, to remind me how useless, stupid, senseless, i am. Basically, there's no derogatory word an average Nigerian uses in his/her day-to-day activity that he hasn't used on me. And there's NOTHING good i do to deserve praise. Y'know, when out parents don't want our head to swell, or something, but they still want to credit us for a job well done, they stylishly do it, say: "Thank God you even did something good today o", like, that kinda statement, even that, I've never gotten, ever, and yes, in over 15 years. Maybe before then, while i were still a small child, he used to, well, i cant deprive him of that just to badmouth him.

Why am i saying all these? i started having problems academically a few years back, but i took it as me being unserious, and i buckled up. But it persisted. as a result, i had an extra year, which i'm still struggling in, tbh, during my final year, i noticed weird things about my result, courses i failed, i got either 42 or 43, and even at that, i was the only one that failed 3 out of 4 of them. Then, i was unsettled as to how unlucky i could be, i met some lecturers(that attended to me anyway), and discovered that, 2 out of these 3 , they weren't even aware any student fail. You know, this kind, they supposedly passed everybody, but magically, i was missing, hence i fail. How i failed itself is a mystery anyway, but that's not the point. I sucked up and came back at extra year, Once bitten they say, twice shy, i did everything humanely possible to not make any of the mistakes i made. But yet again, somehow, i failed 2 again, in which, i was the only student. So, in finding out why and how, i met one of the lecturers who happened to be a man of God, and while he was listening to me, he asked me questions.

After our discussion, i left his office and thanked him, but with a whole lot of questions, could it be that my fathers curses are finally catching up to me?

He said, and i quote
"Sometimes, when our parents out of anger curse us, we children often times return it back, or do nothing at all. Either of this 2 acts makes the curse reach us faster. But in a case whereby, a father/mother curses a child, and s/he says, it will not be my portion o, or rebukes it in whatever form, it counters the curse, and it eventually gets to one"

I'm not sure why he said it, but it got me, as i knew i had a dad who always curses me, and i never bother about it, so i kept asking myself, is his curse finally catching up to me??

I do not know, but i figured, i should advise some of our parents in here, we should be careful about our utterances to our offspring. There is power in the tongue, and even more power in that of a father or mother to their child.

I know and have heard some parents saying, "abi ori e da nii?" instead of "abi ori e buru?" (or you are sane? instead of or are you mad?), "shey won gbadura fun e ni?" instead of "shey won o shepe fun e?" (are you blessed, instead of are you cursed?)


If parents can learn from these, and aspiring parents also, then that would be for the good of our children.


Thank You.

This is really a nice initiative sha... I missed infinx party last year

phaulzoe:
Go get your free ticket joorh

lemme follow suit o

phaulzoe:
Sha don't forget the hastag

#DoubleAmazingNaija

Moreover infinx is giving a free ticket but that doesn't you're guarantee of it..... If others first, lobatan o

LaMujer:
we should even get free ticket to the event na

na your papa get infinx na??

There will always be a need to improve technology day after day....until then we will see the need to upgrade again

That's the good part of the phone

phaulzoe:
Just assumed the ba3 is removing bro... Just comot the ba3 one time and allow the phone to rest

i haven't replace my ba3 since the last 3yrs and it's still working fine

LaMujer:
when wuna ma go dey get unnecessary app for phone, why won't it be hanging

what is the essence of the phone if you can't stock it with Apps

phaulzoe:
Mine is even that ba3 that someone cannot remove

...bad belle no like beta thing o

phaulzoe:
exactly but the 4000mha is still fair enough sha

it's fair na.... Make dem improve am go like 6k

But to think of it sha... Ba3 improvement will be nice o but not as exaggerating as the guy was saying once in week charging

phaulzoe:
because na power ko

oya mi lenu oo

Anegbettedude:

A bigger RAM Space will do well

i don't understand bigger RAM space will do well?
You 1 turn am to system ni or what..