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Efemena_xy: I'm assuming you're female - and a very young one at that, based on your actions.

You know, when in a relationship with someone, even if it's casual, it's good to be courteous to the other party, no matter what you feel or think about them. To do otherwise will tell poorly on you.

Obviously, (from what you've written here), his mother liked you as a person - hence her introducing you to her son - nothing wrong with that. Perhaps, she saw you as good enough to be her daughter in law, meaning you must have made quite an impression on her - again, nothing wrong with that. Infact, it's not uncommon for mothers to act as 'matchmakers' for their sons if they see a girl they think will do well as a suitable spouse for their son.

Where you went wrong was ignoring and not acknowledging his calls. That was rude of you. If you aren't interested in someone, at least give them that respect to let them know how you feel. Since you both were friends, you should have let him know that you don't see him as anything else other than a friend and you'd like to keep it that way. You should have let him know in very clear terms that him wanting for a much deeper relationship with you wouldn't lead anywhere as you weren't interested.

If he had persisted with his calls after you'd let him know how you felt, then you'd be excused for ignoring his calls / not picking them up. Problem is, you didn't do that. My guess is that he must have mentioned this to his mum hence her coldness towards you.

My suggestion: Find the time to apologise to him about what you've done, then, let him know that you don't want anything more than plain friendship from him. Hopefully, that'll ease the tension between you both and between you and his mother and before long, things should go back to how they were (hopefully!)

P.S: Wait o! I've read a lot about the average Naija girl's conduct towards guys interested in them on threads here. Did this guy spend money on you while dating??!! If yes, did you lead him on deliberately, making him spend on you, knowing it won't lead anywhere? If the answer to both my questions is yes, then you should understand his annoyance and I'll blame you twice for it then. If you can, better refund his money back, pronto!

I agree with you to some extent that I acted immature. Though I gave him some signs by never calling him but always pick his calls. But men can be funny at times, they will pretend they dont know what you are trying to tell them. They always want you to say things bluntly. As regard if he has spent money on me; NO, he has not spent a dime on me and I have never requested for any favour from him.

People experience different kind of things in life at every stage and I am not an exception.

I used to know this woman around my work place, from all indications she liked me and even showed it anytime I great her. But to my surprise she liked me to the extent that she wished me for her son, can you believe that! Hmmmm, then on this faithful day, I got a call from someone, he introduced himself, he sounded so familiar as if we have known each other for long. To cut a long story short, we started chatting and I really enjoyed chatting with him anyway. Later I had to come out and asked him how he knew me, he tried to cover up a little but I was able to make him speak. Then he told me his mum knows me very well and he got my contact from her. I was like . I told him ok o no qualms. So we became friends. I never imagined what he really wanted from me. But later on he was getting too close and too serious. He calls me so often, more than a friend will. I got tired at point and so don't pick his calls. Then later, his mum started ignoring me at times I will want to great her but she will just move away and tried avoiding talking to me. Has she now become my enemy or what?

This is interesting. I have always been looking for this kind online. @op please can you explain something on beaded balls, making the balls is really challenging. Thanks in anticipation.

Dubemkelly: Can't believe u asked such dumb qxn. This 21st century nd we have got d swags 2 hold it down 4 honeymoon

Pls speak for yourself. Dont use ''we''. I know some number of guys that will tell you, why go for honeymoon; what is special in honeymoon and blah blah blah.

sarutobie: There is something very ironic about this comment

Pls lets know your mind. What could be ironic in that statement.

As a lady I will love to go for honeymoon. Is a life time experience for me and I think every girl will love it! My concern now is whether Nigerian men even have a thought about going for it. If the reason is cost, I dont mind saving up for it with my man. I will love to experience honeymoon, me and my man day in day out......

Intresting.

You ppl should stop judging me now. I came here bcz is the first thing that came to my mind. I could have gone to the muslim section but it did not occur to me. Christians are nice ppl too and I can marry one but is a matter of choice.

@SLIDE waxie, if expressing myself means am a terrorist, then you are one as well.

tpia@:
Did she say she's suffering?

Seems she herself wants to hang out with christian guys, because if she really wanted to interact with muslim guys, she'd know where to find them.

For example, she stayed away from muslim section yet she's complaining about not meeting muslims.

Sounds like she has a grudge of some sort.

no I dont

gambus007: mayb u dont look or dress like muslim.u ave 2 dress like 1.not only dressin,also practice islam on a moderate level.u dont ave 2 b xterm.relate with muslim ladies nd guys.mind wher u visit .

Believe me I dress like a muslim. I grew up using scarf everytime and I continue the same even to work. Anyone that sees me will surely know I am a muslim. Another problem is that people call me igbo.

sukan_mi: Well, I guess we muslim youths need to work on dis...am a muslim guy who meets only xtian ladies to talk to or date

oh oh!

Intresting.

I am not trying to sound too religious here pls, but only trying to understand why this is happening to me and just saying what I want. I am a muslim and I dress like one, though I dont use hijab but I always use head scarf. My problem is that I wish to settle down soon, but I seem not to meet muslim guys. 90% of the men I met are christains. Where are the muslim guys or what exactly do the christians see in me that the muslims refuse to see.

THIS IS MY PREDICAMENT....

@spenca, yes I mean "I washed myself nd off course is nt self service. Thanks for d response. Tnks everyone!

What Is Islamic View On Women Having Wet Dreams?

Salaam Aleikum nd Ramadhan Mubarak! Lately I had a strange experience and to my surprise it happened during Ramadan, so it got me confused if at all my fasting is still valid. This morning after sari, I went back to bed before I could even catch a sleep I noticed I was already wet. Then I just got up and washed myself. But later I started thinking if it could be a wet dream and if my fasting has not been contaminated. Please can anyone put more light on this. Jazakum Lah Hairan!

tosh_acer: 69 is a sexual act involving your mouth, hence ATE something.

Mathematically Sqrt of 69 is 8. something something.

so with the sexual meaning it is ATE something something, in the sexual 69 pose.

oh oh!

I hv heard ppl saying this, bt i seem lost coz i dont knw wt it means. No one is willing to explain nd google dd nt help either.

berylLOL: @OP-have u told him about your strong dislike for clubbing?..well if you are not comfortable with his lifestyle it's better u let it go dan endure it.

I did. bt he resurfaced. so wt do i do?

Pysam: Gurl he ll milk you and run
See I don't know why girls acts so silly when ever a guy promise married.
Married is just the pass word to use them and bump them neatly.he wants to tie you with married nt rock and drink his head out rite?
Ok see gurlfriend if he is serious tell him to stop clubbing and drinking.refuse sex and watch him closely

Dts more like it.

venatus25: use the money of the dead and train the son of the dead as said by the dead. Use your money and train your son being your responsibility.
Give to ceaser what belongs to ceaser

U dey vex?

You're on an island with only one other person your best friend. He's dying of cancer. In his final days he tells you, "I have one hundred thousand dollars in a bank back home. When I die, make sure my son goes to medical school. "Then he dies. But his son is a no good playboy who has no intention of going to med school and will waste that hundred grand away in a couple of months. But your son is entering college, and he has a burning desire to become a doctor. Which one do you give the money to for mesical school?

Hmmmm, God is really wonderful.

Thank u all you all for your contribution.

I have also read some old posts on d topic, & some ppl suggested herbs are effective.

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thats how God does His wonders!!!

Fibroid is common among blacks, hydatidiform mole is common among asians, and alzheimer's disease is common among whites!!!

Thats life for you[/quote]

But why is it common only with african & asian women. Why not with white women. ddnt we have the same body organ?

@ safe06,tnx a lot for d advice. yes i have been reading a lot on the subject. just that is very shoking to me.

I have never been to a gynaecologist, though I should have but I hardly have issues. Besides im always scare of anyting relating to hospital. Lately i noticed I had prolonged period for like 2 times now. I decided to see the doctor, even though Im not always comfortable with them, after examning me , she asked me to go for a scan which I did. Then she told me i have fibriod, i couldnt believe my ears. She said i should see a gynee. Now im so scared & disturbed to listen to any further problems. The doctor said I ll have to undergo surgery..O God! I dont even have a baby yet. What do I do? am really scared.

just log on to www.accaglobal.com, you ll get all information required there and you can resgister online too. With your qualification you will have good no. of exemptions on certain courses. Goodluck!

TEXZLEM: As every profession has it own challenges... However, in respect of being an accountant! This might just be some;

-Ethical issues

-Dilemma of satisfying your boss or acting professionally

-The ever changing accounting standard and the need to keep inform

-The expectation that Accountant should not make mistake or commit financial error.

That is what can come to my mind for now... I believe my other noble accountant have some insight also

Yes, you are right sir, expecially in the area of satisfaying your boss and acting professionally. The so called boss always like to manipulate, you know.

preciousbabs: I m having same experience presently.

Sorry dear, you can try and see your doctor too. Our cases might be diffrent.

Thanks everyone. I was right about the worm, my doctor gave me some other tablets though for my chest. Now I am ok.

Every vocation has its own challenges. What are the likely challenges we are likely to face as young Accountants. Please experienced Accountants in the house, we'll like to gain from you.

I have been battling with this infection since last 2weeks. It started by causing pains on my left shoulder then i tot it might possibly be my hand bag. i stopped carrying my books after then. But later d pains was on my chest, making me feeling tired, having shortage of breath and streching every now and then. This week is another story, I started coughing but nothing comes out. I used cough sirup, it doesnt help. Yesterday I went to the chemist and bought a worm expeller which I used in the night before food. I noticed a riot in my stomach up to throat as if those things were running for their lives. I was happy thinking by morning it will all be over. But I was wrong, as it get worst this morning, right now I feel as if something wants to come out from my mouth and is blocking my airways too. Though im going to see my doctor this morning but from several articles I'v read there hs bn no reall solution. Please if anyone has experience this before now, kindly share your solution. Thanks in anticipation. [b][/b]

@r231, eyah! sorry for bringing back that memory and for the loss of your Dad.