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Lately any page I open on the internet, the corpse of Goldie always pop up at a coner. I dont know why I find it difficult to overlook it, it always scares me even when i try to look away. I ll lyk to know am not the only one this happens to.

chaircover: It amuses me when some ladies say that there are no single men out there or that the single men dont want them. It amuses me because every Saturday every major town or remote village has a sea of aso ebi's and with people getting ready their nylon bags to pack take away from someones wedding.

So where are these ladies who get married every Saturday getting their own single men from?

Me sef wey don born 2 pikin still gets toasters, so I wonder why these girls are not getting any suitors. You cant have impeccable manners & be a decent lady and not one . . . just one man want to hook you up! The problem is that many of us have very high standards and want ready made meals rather than go to the market and start our own personal meal from scratch.

Let her go and find a married man that will have her . . . .shebi what goes round comes round and soon her own daughter be contending with single girls chasing her own husband around and as she has given another woman no rest in her matrimonial home, so shall her own daughter have no rest in hers. period.

so...do you mean d married woman here must have done such probably before she got married?

Efemena_xy: @Poster, you've touched on a couple of things here that need to be addressed separately.

Firstly, your friend is not attracted to this guy in question. I think it's really unfair of her to keep leading him on. The best thing for her to do is to stop giving him false hopes that they might have a future together. She needs to be open and honest with herself and let him go. Let him go so he can find someone who is truly meant to be with him. She needs to do the same thing to..to find that special person who is meant to be with her.

Right now, there's just no chemistry between them both.

Secondly, with regards to marriage, it's not about how soon or how quickly you get married, but how long you stay together after tying the knot. Sure, we women have a biological clock that ticks against us but trust me, being 30 is not the end of the road. It's best to wait for that special person than to rush in, only to rush out a few months / years down the line because both partners aren't compatible.

Advice your friend to relax and take it easy. Marriage is meant to be for the long haul, so it's best she takes her time to do it right.

All the best.

U r correct that she should let him go....in fact she was about doing that, but this man is so good to her that she doesnt want to hurt him.

Advice your friend to relax and take it easy. Marriage is meant to be for the long haul, so it's best she takes her time to do it right.

All the best.[/quote]thank u Efemena....i strongly agree she should do this. it ll be best for her. but the problem is her family, they r not helping her at all.

I keep wondering about the happenings in our society, some people said early marriage is better while some said it is rather late. But the main point here is getting married anyway.

Women on the other hand tend to always be the main focus; even Mother Nature is not very nice to us. In the young age, we bloom like a flower, looking gorgeous for every eye to cherish. As time goes on, we lose some of those good looks and then “the MOTHERHOOD”. No matter how hard we try we lose it. Is natural!!!

Coming back to the topic, my friend will be 30 by March; she is so scared of joining the list of old unmarried ladies. Though she is in a relationship and the guy is quiet nice and caring “at least that’s how we see him” but the point here is that she doesn’t love him as such. ‘though this man wants to marry her.

She said in the beginning, she likes him and enjoys his company, but now she is really hesitant. Several times she complains of not getting the attraction, the urge to be with him. At times too she might want to see him but when they eventually see themselves; she does not get the pleasure/satisfaction. Even when he calls her nowadays she is always reluctant to pick his call. All along they have not gone far, they only kissed(according to her).

My question is what could be the cause of her not feeling anything for this guy, is it because they have not done it? She told me he has been demanding for intimacy but she always turn him down. Is there other thing this guy can do to make her want him or should I advice my friend to allow him?

Got me thinking too, that, can love be built after marriage? Maybe she should just marry him, after all there was nothing like love in old days.

Is true that ladies dont want to be outsmarted in any sense. But lets face the facts here, a lady being a simple person; dresses decently without exposing herself and the other lady comes in with tight sexy trousers, expensive perfumes and all that. The guy in the picture here sees the sexy lady as more beautiful just because she wears all sort of sexy things. Could that really be a beauty? Is being sexy means beauty in the real sense?

Whoa! I love that. Can't wait to be married.

tpacalipse: A kettle calling the pot black. Another male bashing thread by a broken hearted chick.

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I strongly support d poster, but u can't call her broke hearted coz she s saying d truth. I am nt broke hearted nd I support her. Men believe they own d world, everything is created for them to enjoy,they want to eat their cake nd hv it & in dt process they spoiled everything. They run after young girls since they knw the girls r naïve nd can be easily tricked. Little do dey knw dt those girls r even wiser now. I don't what any bastard sex hungry old rag can really give me dt will make me trill for him. Y don't they try it with ladies of 30+ & see if they'll hv their way. Rubbish.

@OP am in support jawe. Women rule the world, wherever they go they'll still come back to us.

@ Mustay tnx a lot for this update.

I understand that ACCA and ICAN are both internation institution for professional Accountants. But for a beginer like myself, I'm not able to decide on which one is best to pursue. I will appreciate a positive guidelines from professional Accountants in the house please.

There s dis guy I met, he was honest in answering all my questions. So when I asked him what he do @ his leisure time, he said he go to club. I ws lyk, club? But my confusion now is dt he always act gentleman, he doesn't make any move unless I initiate it. You knw lyk going out, requestn fr my visit etc. Whenever he calls he will speak so gently, lyk a novice yet he clubs. Can a club person be lyk dt? Or is it all a pretense? He also said he is willing to settle down ASAP!

I wonder what white ppl derive from d sun. Just @ d pool now, nd there s dis man dt just finished swimming nd for past 50min dis man hs bn lying out there in d sun. Am nt new to dis anyway bt I just want to knw if there is any other thing attached to it dt is only known to white ppl. Even when I traveled in winter I yearn for sun bt nt as much as exposing myself lyk dis. huh!

I have been a good follower on Nairaland, though I don't usually post or create topics but I happen to read almost all interesting topics I could lay my eyes on. Unfortunately my 1st topic has to be on a note of dissatisfaction nd am sure am not the only one. I just got to know about the mass recruitment of lagos state civil service, which closed on 20th Sep 2012 and could not participate. I wonder why it didn't make it to the front page. But if it were something irrelevant, it would have been on the front page with so many views and posts. Pls the coordinator should make it a point of view, to place topics that will be of great use to us on the front page. Thanks!

A man dt beats a woman is simply a coward! You hv no reason wtsoever to lay ur hands on ur wife no matter what. She is ur patner and nt ur slave,
pls nothing can justify it.