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Please i dont know what else to do,as i have tried in many ways to resist having high sexual urge anytime i see or come in contact with ladies with big boobs and massive booty(ass) i will lose control and start melting inside and most times go to any length to ensure i tested them or how i can woo the lady by toasting her even if just to romance and touch the endowments alone without going to her engine house.Slim ladies NEVER attract me no matter how beautiful the lady is,but once the lady is loaded front and back irrespective whether she is ugly for face or not,i must lose control.Ironically,i know some of my friends that dislike any lady that has big boobs and massive booty but always prefer slim or skinny ladies.Please what should i do to reduce my urge to this group of ladies or is it natural.

Honestly,its never a good experience.Atimes will keep on asking "na so this world be?".Just like somebody commented-ur phone hardly ring because nobody cares abt calling u again.

Being out of job for a longer time is very frustrating.You have been working and later lose ur job due to ur company passing tru hard times.You have spent almost ur savings to ensure taking care of urself n family,ofcos Kids and paying ur bills don't know whether u r working or not.Worse still,many of ur friends will start deserting u.They can hardly visit u or call u on phone.If u call them,most times they won't pick ur calls or return ur calls even if they saw tens missed calls from you for fear that u want to beg them for something.Going out to hang out,they won't call u to join them because they now see u as a parasite.U r on ur own.Some may claim to ask u to send ur cv without even for once forwarding it to anywhere on ur behalf..Family memebers won't be happy with u as if u don't know wat u r doing.Infact,the experience is very severe with many negative effects and can never wish anybody to undergo such.For those that have passed tru this terrible experience or passing tru it,how do u cope.Share ur experience and advice.

TheArchangel:
She is either refreshing and cleaning up the vaginA or she is inserting a barrier contraceptive.
Have you ever complained of any unpleasant odour from down there.

I just think that your wife is being self conscious about her body and is taking precautions.

I have never witnessed anything odour.Neatness is her second nature.She is more than neat and beautiful.This is making me to get scared..,d sudden change of insisting that she want to wee wee before d act.I dnt understand.

Nobody has given me d reason behind this,except somebody that mention one thing which I don't know whether its a joke.Does it mean we don't have women or Doctors or similiar that can explain the reason behind it if any.

MISSNORA:
Pay me and I ll tell u y some of us do it...

Please tell me if you know as it is giving me a bit concern.this wasn't like this before and don't know why she suddenly adopted such act for some time now.

This has not been happening before,but just for some time now,i noticed that any time we want to make love whether in the night or not,my wife must first stand up and say she want to wee wee(urinate) first.When she started acting as such and i observed that its now like a tradition to her ,i asked her why is it that for some time now,anytime we want to make love,you MUST first wee wee before it starts,she said there is no reason for that,and this was not the case before since ever we got married.I dont know whether she has any personal reason for that,but she did not tell me if there is any.Please is it a normal thing.

For more than a year now,i have been looking fora job.I have attended some job interviews and none has offered me job.Its normally 'We will get back to you'....,bla bla,etc.I dont know where i m getting things wrong.I am depressed and keep on asking myself,where is the problem coming from,does it mean i dont answer interview questions well?,is it that i dont know how to attend interview or how to talk before interviewers?.Considering the ones i have been attending and no result,recently i noticed that i dont have confidence anymore anytime i am called for interview.The last two i attended last month, when i got the invitation for the interview,within my mind i wasnt even happy, i see it as usual,wont it go the way other ones have been going(dont say i am not optimistic).When i faced the panel of interviewers i noticed that i am not confidence anymore,my body was slightly shaking.Please advise on how i can build back confidence and how best to attend interview or what you think is the issue.I am getting fed up of the whole situation.

Pls let this stu.pi.d Oliseh be sacked.

Tell her parents.Naturally,she is more like unfaithful wife.A well groomed lady from a good family background can never dream of interacting with EX once married,knowing full well d harm it causes in marriage n it looks irresponsible despite even d warnings from his husband.Not every woman is a wife material........more of "nak n dump"lady.mtcheeww

I asked her several times,if she is aware when she contacted it,she say no.The only thing is that my mind keep telling me that she used trick on me,as she might have known that she knew that she have it before we got married,and thats why i am very annouyed over the whole issue.Sounding as if i m a 'MUGU' and 'MUGU' don fall.

she say she no know

As soon as i see it where she hide it,i was shocked and nearly collapsed,and i rushed to the hospital the following day for the test,and it was negative.

Please what i need is an advice and not words that will keep on rising my already body high temprature.This is not what i expect in my union,but it just happened.Should anybody know of pple that are in this kind condition or have idea,such is an advice i want because i m really down phychologically.The kind of overthinking this thing is giving is too much.The marriage is still too young and this kind thing is existing.

@gestapo,

really,its stressing me and weighing me down heavily.Since this happen,i have seen how overthinkng reduces somebodys weight.Telling the elders,she dont want us to let any of the families know,because of the stigma attached to it.Truly,i m very very disturbed and confused.I dont know how i will handle this.Thats why i m seeking advice.

Last time i posted how my wife tested HIV+ and hide the result for me only for me to discover later,and that she was aware of it for the past two and half years yet she hide it.Truly,since the time i discovered this,it has been affecting me phychologically in this marriage,especially anytime i remember that she hide it from me.Since then,i dont have appetite for sex like the way i used to have it before.She dont even attract me any longer unlike before.Despite that most of times,she may object we using condom as she feel that i m now running away from her and also as husband and wife,there is still more pleassure in doing without condom than with condom.This issue on my marriage is really disturbing me phychologically,i m no longer enjoying the marriage.The sexual life of couples is no longer there.For how long will i continue the use of condom for a marriage that is roughly three years.How many couples are living on condom for their sexual life?,So i cant enjoy natural sex again?.For how long will this be?.Who will be happy that his/her sexual life is placed on permanent condom based,couples for that matter--,lets be sincere.There is no joy again especially anything i remember the way she hide it.In fact,i m little bit confused,that atimes my mind will be resorting to divorce.My question is,is there anything bad if one take the part of divorce?.The phychological trauma is too much on me.There is no day,i will not be thinking of this issue,whether in the office,along the road,anywhere,the issue refused to go off my mind.PLease i need sincere and mature advice.

Thanks for the reply.The fact is that when i noticed it fews months ago,i was heart broken that i can hardly feel sexual appetite anymore.The phychological trauma weighed me down.Anytime she disturbed on us making love,and i want to go for condom,she will be very unhappy,and complaining that for the past years we have been doing it flesh to flesh,i have not contacted it,why am i afraid.In facts she objects using condom.Besides,in a situation like this,like i mentioned early,flesh to flesh is unavoidable as being couples,there is still primary aim of doing flesh to flesh which everybody knows that even if you re using condom atimes,when that one reach,you people will resort to flesh to flesh.Truly,i am not happy over the situation of things.

We have married for roughly three years now.My wife tested HIV+ but she hide it for me.Just three months ago,i discovered the result of her test where she hide it.I was very shocked.I did not ask her,i kept it the same place she kept it.The following morning i rushed to the same hospital to have myself tested and mine was negative.Later i used all available trick and ask her certain questions to know if she can open mouth and tell me what is at stake,but she did not.I now brought out her result where she hide it and ask her what is this.She was very surprised,and later told me that she dont know how she will tell me,thats why she keep it within herself.Truly,i received the greatest shock of my life that day,not only for the result but for her to know that this kind thing is existing and she hide it from me.After like one week,i called her again and compel her to tell me everything she know about her HIV status,as my mind was telling me that she might have known this result for long,even b4 we marry and she kept quiet.She now tell me that she first detected it in 2008 when she was going for antenatal in the hospital,that being pregnant women,a lot of tests will be conducted.That ,that was when she knew that she is negative.I became more shocked,that my wife can know for more than two years now(if at all not that she knew before i even marry her and keep it hidden) and hide it from me till date and she she still have mind of us sleeping fresh to fresh since then.I really became more than shock.Now i am even suspecting that she may knew that she has it before we marry.(No thanks for intending couples not to undergo HIV screening before they got married).Now since this incident,she got my heart broken for i can hardly believe that she can have that mind and act this way.I do no longer have appetite of having sex with her,but as married,even fresh to fresh love making is still unavoidable.Anytime i bring the issue of condom,she felt somehow that i m running away from her,that we have not been using condom before,that i m trying to abandon her,all kind of mind touching words.We still do it fresh to fresh,but I got scared anytime we want to make love.Please i am really disturbed.What suggestion can anybody give me on how we can live our sexual life?.I know that since the time i discovered this,that i m very very scared,yet we still sleep together fresh to fresh courtesy of couples,but i am very very worried.I need an advice please.