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Dear, Nairalanders,

I am sorry to bother you all, but I do not have a choice at this stage.

I am a single mum who just secured a job,and posted to the Office's branch in Ibadan,I am presently sharing a room with a friend,and the arrangement is just to stay here for 4 weeks.

Please I am in need of financial help to get shelter for myself and my daughter , this will enable me to bring my daughter down here and give proper care , I had to leave her wirt a relative just to resume work.

Please assist me, may God continue to bless you all(Amen)

Hi guys, I had to create this profile for this post. I am a mother of one who has never enjoyed her marriage from day one. I dont even want to go into the long stories and issues now because it's so long that I cant type them .

Everything has neva worked out for us, I went through lots of trauma and emotional stress before giving birth to my my Little one, and ppl always told me he will change once he sees his baby, but it got worse. I was neva good enof.

Fast forward to months after giving birth, we had d usual quarrel again and this time he beat me up. He boastfully said he would have been beating me before,if not for the pregnancy I was carrying.

We were planning to move to another apartment at that time, so he moved his things along with his brothers that lives with us then, he left my things behind(I moved all my things down from Lagos, was working then). I eventually had to go move my things to my parents house(my parents are also fed up, he calls them up almost every week to say all sorts of things and has told them severally to come pick their daughter) .

For like 2 months, I was shuttling my Parents ans elder sis house with my baby, Trying and pressing hard to get a job(He told me not to work, that hes gonna set a biz for me. That's why i have been idle). While i was with my ppl, he came begging severally, ppl came on his behalf also, begged and begged, said he was sorry for everything, that he didnt mean to hurt I and my baby. Wrote apology letters for us, bought gifts, called and sents series of text messages to my Parents, and even visited severally to apologize to my elder sis and my parents.

Well, I moved back wtih him December last year. It was after I moved put that his younger brother and uncle moved out,the uncle had no excuse, but the younger brother said I have to be serving him in his room before he can eat my food(i noticed he wasnt eating, so i discussed with my hubby). Well, I couldnt do that because they always take me for granted. I had gave lots of privileges in the past, but they still dont see me as a good wife. Their definition of good wife is being a Slave

Well, things were going well untill recently, I discovered I am pregnant in february when I missed my period. We already talked about family planning, but he said we should have two kids first. So when I told him about me being preggy, he said he wasnt ready blah blah, I was shocked. I reminded him that we talked about it, he said yes we did, but hes changed his mind. So I explained to him I cant go through abortion that I am scared. He brought local herb, said its gonna work. I gullibly used it, vomited for hours,but nothing happened.

Then he said its fine,we can keep it. Issues started after(same old ones). And we try to settle amicably, I just let him be. This man always play the victim, he manipulates and lies runs in his veins.

Anyway, we had another issue ds week, and he started shouting that I should leave again, that I chased his family members away, said all sorts and even brought police officer to the house. I asked the police officer what he came for cos if he is to arrest me, I have to know for what purpose. The Officer said, he came for peace making because my husband said I want to kill him, and I might even poison his food... Hmmm, I was dumbfounded, the officer sha talked and talked then left. The next day, I had to ask him a question which had been bugging my mind, it was about a gal (my mum's friends daughter). One of my husband's Alfas collected her no from me on my wedding day, said hes interested in her. I dont even have the gals no then cos shes the age group of my last younger brother. I had to chat her on Facebook to get her number, but I have been hearing lately that its my husband that is dating her. I asked him politely and, he just said yes, I am dating her, so what else. My jaw dropped cos I was like, u are dating her, just like that, no remorse, no fear sef. Well, we started another argument and he called police officer again. The officer said we have to come to station so they can talk to us. I already called one of his closest that came to beg me then, and he followed me to the station. Hubby got there before me, and had said lots. Said I threatened to kill him and the gal, and now he fears for his life. They told me to talk, but I refused to narrate anything, I only corrected the lie of me threatening his life or anybody's.

We were taken to the DPO who talked to us for hours(advised each party). And we left, but I didnt go back to the house with him because I am scared too. This man has grudges with his family members, none of them likes him, but they always come to his aid when he goes to report me painting me black. My dad called to instruct me to pick few things, then leave cos if anything should happen to him now, it balls down on me(there was a time hired assasins came to the house, that was during the period I wasnt with him, and he later claimed they must have been sent by his elder brother. They are sworn enemies, that one too is a long story ooo) .

I also asked the police officers and DPO that my so called husband claims I want to kill him, and I might poison him, that if anything happens to him who will be their first suspect, they sighed and said I have a point.. I moved to my Parents place again yesterday with just few of my 11 months gal clothes. I have made up my mind of not going back, cos nothing ever changes for good. My going back is to pack things left.

He hasnt called since yesterday, not that I am even expecting his calls. My major problem now is that I want to evacuate the fetus inside me, it brings me no joy for wanting to do this, but for how long will I continue. This man is irresponsible, I am 100% sure he wont even send child welfare for my first except I drag him to court. I told my mum and elder sis about my plan before its too late, but my mum objected, said their is nothing wrong in having two kids(Two kids with seperated parents). How will I cope? I wish to do, so that I can go out and hustle, Our family is not even financially bouyant, not like they can support me forever. I believe I can still fend for a baby than 2, and I cant wait till October which is the due month. How will I survive till October and after before I can start working again.

I am in a confused state of mind, pls help me with advises.

Thank you.

Hi guys, I had to create this profile for this post. I am a mother of one who has never enjoyed her marriage from day one. I dont even want to go into the long stories and issues now because it's so long that I cant type them .

Everything has neva worked out for us, I went through lots of trauma and emotional stress before giving birth to my my Little one, and ppl always told me he will change once he sees his baby, but it got worse. I was neva good enof.

Fast forward to months after giving birth, we had d usual quarrel again and this time he beat me up. He boastfully said he would have been beating me before,if not for the pregnancy I was carrying.

We were planning to move to another apartment at that time, so he moved his things along with his brothers that lives with us then, he left my things behind(I moved all my things down from Lagos, was working then). I eventually had to go move my things to my parents house(my parents are also fed up, he calls them up almost every week to say all sorts of things and has told them severally to come pick their daughter) .

For like 2 months, I was shuttling my Parents ans elder sis house with my baby, Trying and pressing hard to get a job(He told me not to work, that hes gonna set a biz for me. That's why i have been idle). While i was with my ppl, he came begging severally, ppl came on his behalf also, begged and begged, said he was sorry for everything, that he didnt mean to hurt I and my baby. Wrote apology letters for us, bought gifts, called and sents series of text messages to my Parents, and even visited severally to apologize to my elder sis and my parents.

Well, I moved back wtih him December last year. It was after I moved put that his younger brother and uncle moved out,the uncle had no excuse, but the younger brother said I have to be serving him in his room before he can eat my food(i noticed he wasnt eating, so i discussed with my hubby). Well, I couldnt do that because they always take me for granted. I had gave lots of privileges in the past, but they still dont see me as a good wife. Their definition of good wife is being a Slave

Well, things were going well untill recently, I discovered I am pregnant in february when I missed my period. We already talked about family planning, but he said we should have two kids first. So when I told him about me being preggy, he said he wasnt ready blah blah, I was shocked. I reminded him that we talked about it, he said yes we did, but hes changed his mind. So I explained to him I cant go through abortion that I am scared. He brought local herb, said its gonna work. I gullibly used it, vomited for hours,but nothing happened.

Then he said its fine,we can keep it. Issues started after(same old ones). And we try to settle amicably, I just let him be. This man always play the victim, he manipulates and lies runs in his veins.

Anyway, we had another issue ds week, and he started shouting that I should leave again, that I chased his family members away, said all sorts and even brought police officer to the house. I asked the police officer what he came for cos if he is to arrest me, I have to know for what purpose. The Officer said, he came for peace making because my husband said I want to kill him, and I might even poison his food... Hmmm, I was dumbfounded, the officer sha talked and talked then left. The next day, I had to ask him a question which had been bugging my mind, it was about a gal (my mum's friends daughter). One of my husband's Alfas collected her no from me on my wedding day, said hes interested in her. I dont even have the gals no then cos shes the age group of my last younger brother. I had to chat her on Facebook to get her number, but I have been hearing lately that its my husband that is dating her. I asked him politely and, he just said yes, I am dating her, so what else. My jaw dropped cos I was like, u are dating her, just like that, no remorse, no fear sef. Well, we started another argument and he called police officer again. The officer said we have to come to station so they can talk to us. I already called one of his closest that came to beg me then, and he followed me to the station. Hubby got there before me, and had said lots. Said I threatened to kill him and the gal, and now he fears for his life. They told me to talk, but I refused to narrate anything, I only corrected the lie of me threatening his life or anybody's.

We were taken to the DPO who talked to us for hours(advised each party). And we left, but I didnt go back to the house with him because I am scared too. This man has grudges with his family members, none of them likes him, but they always come to his aid when he goes to report me painting me black. My dad called to instruct me to pick few things, then leave cos if anything should happen to him now, it balls down on me(there was a time hired assasins came to the house, that was during the period I wasnt with him, and he later claimed they must have been sent by his elder brother. They are sworn enemies, that one too is a long story ooo) .

I also asked the police officers and DPO that my so called husband claims I want to kill him, and I might poison him, that if anything happens to him who will be their first suspect, they sighed and said I have a point.. I moved to my Parents place again yesterday with just few of my 11 months gal clothes. I have made up my mind of not going back, cos nothing ever changes for good. My going back is to pack things left.

He hasnt called since yesterday, not that I am even expecting his calls. My major problem now is that I want to evacuate the fetus inside me, it brings me no joy for wanting to do this, but for how long will I continue. This man is irresponsible, I am 100% sure he wont even send child welfare for my first except I drag him to court. I told my mum and elder sis about my plan before its too late, but my mum objected, said their is nothing wrong in having two kids(Two kids with seperated parents). How will I cope? I wish to do, so that I can go out and hustle, Our family is not even financially bouyant, not like they can support me forever. I believe I can still fend for a baby than 2, and I cant wait till October which is the due month. How will I survive till October and after before I can start working again.

I am in a confused state of mind, pls help me with advises.

Thank you.