Brandonx:

My Ex- girlfriend who just got married recently (arrangée marriage) still calls and chats with me.

When we parted ways I severed ties with her completely. Few months later she called and texted at first I ignored but after a while I decided to reply her messages and take her calls.

We talked about so many things that happened in the past. She came visiting, we were cool until she traveled back and started acting funny.

I ignored her got into a relationship. She somehow knew about it and she went berserk.
So I stopped communicating with her.

After a few months she called and sent text as usual, we started talking again as my new relationship wasn't too serious.

She requested for my recent pictures, we made video calls. Little did I know she was getting married in a few weeks. I sent her a congratulatory message and she was surprised.

Few weeks after the wedding she called we spoke at length, at a point I asked about the husband, she quickly changed the topic and I also observed she wasn't too comfortable, I told her I was about leaving the house , we should probably talk some other time .
She then said " you asked about my husband, he's fine " I then told her to extend my greetings, her reply was " who do I tell him sent his greetings".
I think we still have feelings for each other.

You better let her be. Face your own life and build solid relationship with serious Lady that is your and stop chasing shadow.

Prosper82:
I Feel Like My Marriage Is Falling Apart

I would like in advance to apologize for the long post but I think some background information is needed so you can assess the situation.

My wife and I have two kids. The oldest is turning 8 soon and the youngest is 7 months old.

Since our first child was born she has been co-sleeping with us. And ever since our sex life has been going down hill.

Now since our youngest child was born he has also been sleeping with us in a queen sized bed. But after two months of very poor sleep, I decided I couldn't follow that arrangement anymore so I went to sleep in the next room.

So since our kids were born my wife has been sleeping with them and now I sleep alone.

As you could imagine, you can't really have sex with two kids on the bed. We have gone weeks and even months without having any sex.
So my wife says that we should have sex in the room where I sleep after she puts the children to sleep.

This to me sounds like making an appointment to have sex. It isn't something you can have if you have to set up a time in advanced. I also miss cuddling with her and sleeping in our bed.


I feel like us sleeping in different rooms and beds has been the biggest hurdle to get back to the point we were before having kids.

We have a crib for the baby and a bed for our oldest daughter where each of the children could sleep separately but she's into attachment parenting so if the children cry (which I suppose they will when adapting to a new sleeping arrangement) is something that she wouldn't tolerate.

I also I understand the 7 month old might need to be breastfed in the middle of the night so she says it's more convenient just to have him nearby in bed than having to get up to breastfeed him but I feel that my daughter should be learning to sleep independently.

Anyway, it's been quite a while without sex and I don't know what to tell her or do.
We have a lot of fights because of this.

I feel that attachment parenting might feel like you're doing the best for the kids, but if it also ends up destroying the marriage and we separate what good would that do for them?

What do you guys think?

Guy you need to understand that your wife need to take care of 7months baby because that is her priority. Anyway she has provided a good way out for you by coming to your new room for sex anytime you need her. Just exercise patient you will get use to it, baby will soon grow then plan how the children will have their room then u have your wife back. Talking from my experience. God bless

[quote author=allthingsgood post=85909719]Dead on arrival. Amotekun is unlawful and illegal, period.[/
That is your view but wait patiently to see Yoruba in actions.

[quote author=allthingsgood post=85909719]Dead on arrival. Amotekun is unlawful and illegal, period.[/
That is your view but patiently to see Yoruba in actions.

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Let northerners mind their business and solve problems that engrossing them first. Southerner are wise peoples.