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budaatum:
Please don't generalise.

There are obviously millions of Nigerians who are not "Toxic, Dramatic In Nature or Hinder Our Prosperity As A Nation".

Who ,where are they?

See what Nigerians waste their energy and intelligence on.

We chase clout and irrelevant things alot.

See what a white man wrote on Facebook and their reactions .

Is so bad that it contributes to our economic backwardness. We are full of negative energy.
Both the elites and masses, a common man today can become an elite tomorrow.
We hate real facts about life ,we wallow around illusions and that's why our society is in shambles.
We waste our supernatural energies on irrelevant matters. Busy body,drama and toxicity everwhere. Do you know why the whites are so progressive in nature?
No 1 reason is that they chase real facts about life, no room for false illusions.
No 2 ,they are less dramatic and very conserved in nature which gave the advantage to discover their supernatural energies (that's how telephone,technology, science, internets and others ) came into existence.

No 3 they are very focused and again hardworking.
The first stage Nigeria needs to adopt and see instant changes is mental and psychological re orientation. We must think right ,do it right to develop as a nation.

With the mentality we have we are going no where.

Is so bad that it contributes to our economic backwardness. We are full of negative energy.
Both the elites and masses, a common man today can become an elite tomorrow.
We hate real facts about life ,we wallow around illusions and that's why our society is in shambles.
We waste our supernatural energies on irrelevant matters. Busy body,drama and toxicity everwhere. Do you know why the whites are so progressive in nature?
No 1 reason is that they chase real facts about life, no room for false illusions.
No 2 ,they are less dramatic and very conserved in nature which gave the advantage to discover their supernatural energies (that's how telephone,technology, science, internets and others ) came into existence.

No 3 they are very focused and again hardworking.
The first stage Nigeria needs to adopt and see instant changes is mental and psychological re orientation. We must think right ,do it right to develop as a nation.

With the mentality we have we are going no where.

shortgun:
A very foolish boy who's clearly exhibiting traits of foolishness and disrespect that comes with being raised by a single mother.
By the time he gets to the age of his father he will understand that men don't walk away from good women.

You are a wise man. May your days be long

She Will Never Leave You If You Understand This;-

1. Don’t revolve your life around her.

Too many young men these days have zero sense of ambition, identity, or social circles outside of pathetically revolving their entire lives around whatever woman reluctantly gives them crumbs of attention and physical intimacy.

They happily sideline their interests, hobbies, goals, and guy friends to chase the near miss validation of being some female’s obsessive orbiter. Women can sense the soul-crushing thirst from a mile away, and it’s utterly repulsive.

A man of high value doesn’t alter the core of who he is for the sake of any female.

2. Don’t tolerate manipulation.

Women are masters of subtle and not-so-subtle manipulation tactics from a very young age.

Pouting, playing dumb, using guilt, and crying are just a few of the patterns you’ll see.

The second a high-value man detects these emotional ploys, he shuts them down immediately and refuses to play into the manipulation games.

He sees through transparent attempts to garner pity and unearned sympathy.

He’s not so psychologically weak that he falls for childish mind-warping techniques.

3. Don’t give her free attention.

Low-value unconfident males are always trying to buy a woman’s attention and validation by showering her with free attention, compliments, favors, and constant texting.

If she can’t reciprocate the attention and investment, she’s just using you.

Don’t be a sucker.
4. Don’t morally compromise.

High-value, high-integrity men don’t gradually corrode their principles and core virtues by indulging female partners who try to convince them to stray from their moral compass through persistent coaxing and rationalizing.

Whether it’s prolifically lying, cheating, or anything else that would wound their conscience, truly grounded men hold fast to their ethical stances rather than slowly eroding them to keep a woman superficially interested or content through guilt and games.

5. Don’t hopelessly buy affection.

Here’s a harsh truth:

The two prime traits that arouse the deepest, most profound attraction in women are confidence and status.

Social proof, wealth, and looks might get you some shallow gold diggers in the short term, but dangling money and assets won’t make a high-quality woman truly crave and value you on a primal level.

Countless obscenely rich, handsome celebrities get cheated on and divorced all the time by partners who never felt true devotion.

6. Don’t try to impress her.

Too many males bend over backwards, spending excessive money, time, and effort trying to impress and win over a female through grandiose displays and demonstrations.

A truly grounded, self-assured man doesn’t need to foolishly waste resources proving anything to a woman.

He has Intrinsic confidence in his worth without resorting to showy games and gimmicks.

Men of value remain unshakably self-possessed.

7. Don’t be her therapist.

So many clueless males listen to every little emotional issue and insipid drama fest their female friend vents about for hours on end, acting as an unpaid, unappreciated therapist.

Wake up, she’s just using you as an emotional tampon while getting her actual intimacy needs met elsewhere.

A high-value man has self-worth and better things to do than be some woman’s surrogate mom.

Keep talks brief and avoid her emotional chaos.

8. Don’t let her control you.

Guys too many women say they want a nice, agreeable partner who follows their lead until they actually get one.

Then they’re inevitably turned off by the lack of strength and autonomy. You think the high-value businessmen, celebrities, and athletes that females swoon over let some broad dictate all their decisions and actions of course not?

Make your own choices like a self-directed man.

9. Don’t abandon your boundaries.

Women are masters at pushing men’s boundaries in insidious ways, cajoling them to abandon principles and do things they’re distinctly uncomfortable with all in the name of making her happy.

Once you cross that line for her, she’ll promptly lose respect for your lack of integrity.

High-value Alphas don’t yield their standards and fold their boundaries on a whim for the sake of plating a woman’s entitlement.

This made me laugh ,Nigeria leaders are seeing their people as fools who wouldn't do anything. And that's the Fact

This is one of the most strict advice my father gave me when I was small.
No matter what ,never drop your standard for a woman . As a married man hustle hard ,born children you can provide and cater for. Always live below your means.
No woman is kind. The moment you can’t provide, that’s where the love ends.
Many men are facing shege in their marriage today due to ignorance.

Word of advice.

Tinubu knows how to play politics. This man understands the rudiments of contemporary political cultures in Nigeria.

Fubara na strong man.

Mancity 3-1 west ham, latest update

If I travel abroad, I will never interact with black men again, especially Nigerians.

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IbrahimSkiba:
No dey yarn rubbish



You dont hate women, yet you created a thread just to show how much you dislike women

we still have few good women out there. But They are scarce.

Over 70 per cent of Nigerian ladies see men as tools to exploit. The day I discovered that I nearly choked. They see men as idiots.
Over 75 per cent of married women hate their husbands. They manipulate a lot, cheat , lie, nag a lot, drain energies, and employ all sorts of negative tactics/antics to get what they want at all costs and Yet men don't see this.
Am saying this from experience.

Most of them can lie for Africa.
They demand a lot and yet bring nothing in return.


Mind you I don't hate women.

raumdeuter:
Why cant a fool do wonders in Anambra?

A governor that is investing state resources in buying crates of beer to keep

You too daft by comparing lagos to Anambra state. Lagos was former capital of Nigeria for over 30 years plus with functional national seaports and Airports uptill today.

raumdeuter:
It's like the OP went to the Obi schools
The grammar in the topic shows

Language is a means of communication, so far that you get the point that I made My writing skills don't matter.

Get the message, Peter Obi is far better than Tinubu. Even a fool will do wonders in Lagos state as Governor with their huge resources.

DatNiggaDaz:

Language is a means of communication ,so far that you get the point that I made My writing skills don't matter.

Get the message, Peter Obi is far better than Tinubu. Even a fool will do wonders in lagos state as Governor with their huge resources.

Language is a means of communication ,so far that you get the point that I made My writing skills don't matter.

Nobody is perfect.

Here in Anambra state primary and secondary schools were established by missionaries. I was born and bred in Onitsha. Here in Onitsha, we have lots of Primary and secondary schools to accommodate students and pupils. Onitsha North Lga and South Lga have many primary and
Secondary schools. Why build new ones, when you have many of them.
The best is to maintain the already established ones.

When it comes to rural areas with low populations, each town has 4 to 5 primary and secondary schools.

Peter Obi did very well in the education sector and Anambra State. When he was Governor, youths and sports ministry were up and doing.
He built two mini stadiums in Onisha alone.
School sports were more active during his tenure. He gave all the primary and secondary schools in Anambra state school buses.
I benefited from Peter obi legacy in Education then when he was Governor.
I have never seen a Governor as passionate as Peter Obi when it comes to Education. He reformed the Anambra State Education system.

I attended Mobebe Primary School then, and Christ the King College Onitsha.
Am a living testimony. I saw it all.

Reno is too dull and sentimental, he knows nothing about politics.

jaszplus12:
Set your goals NOW that you've realized!

Sure ,am working on something bigger now.

NPFLADMIN:
Coincidentaly I'm 19.
Thanks for the advice.

But you see that source of income and that health consciousness, e no easy.

Since 2023, I've been looking something to do online but no result.

Amazon KDP, upwork, crypto, youtube, e.t.c

All to no avail.

Every single person I meet will tell me to bring capital.
Me wey no get nada.

Worse still, I'm to scared/shy to ask from others that even I hate it.

Na only NL you fit see me posting account number cause I don't know anyone in real life here.

I should have just learnt barbing late last year while waiting for admission but mumu me go waste chance.

And I always stress myself with treaking and thinking of the future, family issues and so on that I'm always tired at the end of the day.

currently preparing for Jamb

Abeg, anyone wey fit help me with something.

The starting point in a man's life is always difficult . All you need is to Focus on your goals, don't despair. No matter how hard it seems ,always be determined to succeed and never lose focus. Hustle very hard ,avoid distractions.
At the end you will definitely make it in life.

Dyfynezz12:
It's not about u realising it,it's abt u not been able to put it action
Most ppl between 19-25 know all those things are essential for growth but doing it is the problem.
Just like young guys doing drugs or masturbation they know it ain't good but can't stop.

At a point they lose focus due to societal/peer pressures . Self control and discipline which I listed above determines how far a man can go in life.
I realised that 2 years ago and it still pains me till today for not realizing it earlier in life.

A man without discipline and self control is like a ship floating on an ocean without a sailor/captain, With time it drowns.

tochez24:
It's never too late bro, you can start from somewhere!!!! Reset your priorities and hustle... Most people made money in their thirties my brother, some even in their forties. Ask around if you doubt me.

The main thing is that you reach your destination in life.... How long it took you doesn't really matter, once life dey hope dey plenty🙂

I'm 31 years old and I'm still grinding.... Giving up is a big SIN💀

Am on my hustle, Still grinding hard .
May God bless you and all guys out there .

T0BY:
Even with all these information, some guys will still learn lesson the hard way.. that's how some people are wired. Experience will do the needful.

Good writeup though.

Am almost 30 ,and I which I had realised this earlier in life ,I would have gone very far in life.

1.Hustle hard and be productive in life.

2.Always put yourself first.

3.Be health conscious because the body you abuse today might hunt you in future.

4.Avoid women/relationships and never invest in them.

5. Practice self control and cultivate self discipline.

6. Don't even worry about what others think of you ,you are what you think you are. Other people's opinion about you doesn't matter.

7. Stay low key ,avoid show off . It can destroy you.

8. Keep your source of income Secret.

9. Be grateful ,never compare yourself with others. Life na turn by turn .

10. Focus ,determination, courage and gaining knowledge brings success.

11. Surround yourself with friends that loves and uplifts you.

12. Put God first in everything you do.

13. Never succumb to societal pressure, because most many people lacks purpose in life.

13. Stay away from from people who doesn't value you and get close to one's that hold you at high esteem.

14.Abstain from sex or you can Use condoms ,HIV and STDs can destroy your life.

15. Know the friends you keep. Avoid keeping Criminals as friends .

16. Never value what you see on social media ,all na packaging .

17 . Avoid fake life ,distractions and dramas because it drains you.

18 . Have at least 2 source of income.

19. Be real and always keep your emotions in check.

Try to be patient, take life easy . There is light at the end of the tunnel.

Mynd44:
Same in Ogun state

In south East here ,such tax doesn't exist.

They even tax food for lagos .
See what I saw on Twitter . I for say why lagos is extremely expensive.
People waste money on unnecessary things.
Even lagos state government they tax their own join.