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I caught my fiance red handed with another man this afternoon. She has been calling and begging me for forgiveness. Have cancelled my marriage plans although I have paid her bride prize.
Am going to their family house next week to collect the dowry and marriage rites that I paid on her.
Fear women. Spits on them .
Have suspended marriage plans this time around till further notice.
Women are something else .

Fg should deal with those ungrateful minorities ,despite the Nddc,Niger Delta ministry and 13% derivation Nigeria gave them they have nothing to show for it...
Igbos have suffered so much in Nigeria for shielding these people .

education is overrated.

America is losing there ground at world stage. China and Russia knew that Biden/Harris are too weak for them to handle. China may emerge as world power soon.

Op ,how old are you?[/quote]

In terms of economy Trump did well,
National security he did well.
Foreign policy ,he threaded with caution and did extremely well.
He defeated isis and brought alqueada to negotiation table with the US backed Afghanistan govt.
He's the first American president that didn't invade and distabilise foreign countries since 37 years.
US hit map(the middle East ),he brought some political stability there. He loves America more than ever.

So why did they hate him ?
They said he's too arrogant ,narssicist ,foul mounted and selfish .
That he's not a gentle man
How he handled covid 19 pandemic ,that he's responsible for the casualties US had .
He's corrupt how ,I don't understand.

Biden was never a good choice, under him as vice president ,US invaded Syria,libya ,Yemen, Iraq and Afghanistan ,killed innocent people.
They sabotised the war against Boko Haram in Nigeria , supported buhari .
They voted for Biden ,is there choice .
Let's see what happens.

You can never win the war against technology,the world has advanced rapidly
This is 2020 not 1980.
#Endnigeria#

funny but true

I have said it times without number that Nigerian banking system is one of the problems we have in this country.Banks in Nigeria works with government to frustrate poor masses , only the wise can understand. Every year they post billions as profits at the detriment of the customers .The looting of Banks in Lagos and Enugu opened their eyes ,they didn't cry foul nor blame youths.
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The people's General ,the man who saw the future . Tried to avert the disaster we are facing today but was subdued by evil forces beyond his control. He was humiliated.
Just like asaba massacre ,history repeated itself at lekki tollgate Lagos last night. Young vibrant youths with national flag , reciting the national anthem were slaughtered .
History will never forget your efforts in the 60s ,we will never forget .
Your efforts will never be in vain.we must March to our promise Land .
Good morning to yorubas .

Great respect to a man who saw tomorrow ,biafrans were slaughtered in eastern Nigeria.
Yorubas were rejoicing and calling him names .today history repeated itself at lekki tollgate this evening.
Good morning to Western Nigeria , enjoy your buhari.

Buhari is a very big criminal.

10 billion down the drain ,,,,

ottalo:
I just recieved SMS today that my covid19 loan has been approved is it a scam or legit?

270k was approved for me waiting for the fund

It's real ,guy you better cashout now.

This statement is simple but it has deep meaning,,
Check it out.

Chelsea messed up big time by signing a n average keeper ...it's a pity

Wike is the definition of real man.
Respect sir.
Ambode should try and learn from wike.

Liverpool has agreed 45m deal for Wolverhampton wanderers striker Diogo jota ...
http://www.thehardtackle.com/news/2020/09/19/transfer-news-liverpol-sign-diogo-jota-from-wolves-in-45-million-deal/

Codepain:
Good,
now, we need a striker that will give lackadaiscal Firmino a challenge

Diogo jota is on the way

Evolutionlove:
I've got cash of N5Million and assets worth N9Million but I'm not even getting married anytime soon. I want to explore the world and achieve my dreams. How about you??, What's your perspective on my decision??

My guy u are blessed ,,don't lose guard..
Hold your wealth tight ...

NkanAkpanika:
You sound so sure, why?

Na Naija we dey.

an avenue to siphon funds....

They said portal will be open this September but till today no feedback.. Any latest development or updates on that scheme ??

An enigma of our time,.
Very calm ,productive,resourceful and the most intelligent gentle man .Nairaland changed my life positively,learnt a lot from this forum.I rank him on par with great Mark zukernberg ,jack Dorsey etc...Great guys. Am an Igbo guy but I must say this, seun deserves an accolade from Nigerian government.

Masculinity is under attack, and with good reason.

For millennia, unchecked masculine impulses wreaked havoc on our societies, causing wars, bigotry, and in some cases the near-annihilation of modern civilization (think: The Cuban Missile Crisis).

And in our postfeminism world, things haven’t gotten much better.

Pick up artists, the “manosphere” wannabe tough guys, and gym bros have bastardized the concept of masculinity to the point where it seems all but impossible to agree on what it actually means to be a man.

When most people hear the phrase, “Masculine”, their mind is drawn to characters like James Bond, Don Draper, the Dos Equis man. Narcissistic and arrogant men who are willing to do anything and everything they can to achieve their goals, regardless of who they hurt or how much pain they inflict.

Masculinity in our modern world has become synonymous with “Rich Assholes”, and we’re taught to think of masculine men as overly domineering, arrogant, and aggressive.

I for one, believe it’s time to redefine what it means to be a “real man.”

Today, more than ever before, the world needs real men. Men who bring the masculine and feminine energies together in a balanced and powerful way. Men who are strong, courageous, even capable of violence…yet tempered by virtue and compassion.

To start, we must first understand that the masculinity which society has deemed “toxic” and inappropriate is not true masculinity. But a bastardized “shadow” of authentic masculinity.

Because when it’s all said and done, being “the man” has nothing to do with how you stack up against other men…it isn’t about being the biggest, richest, or best-looking guy in the room. It is not influenced by your “lay count”, bank balance, professional success, or appearance…and it does not tolerate subterfuge, arrogance, or bringing others down to get your way.

Although it is possible to fit the classic stereotype of the jacked, rich, and socially suave “alpha”, it isn’t always–and shouldn’t be–the case.

In this article, I will clarify the reality of this “New Masculinity.” But for now, suffice it to say that the old views of masculinity aren’t working. Real men are in greater demand (and shorter supply) than ever before…but the definition of manliness has changed.

It’s time for you, and all men, to evolve. To step into a new way of being. To develop a new relationship with yourself, your masculinity, and the world around you.

And this is how you do it

Throughout most of our lives, our very souls have been quietly and systematically castrated, causing us to enter adulthood as little more than boys in adult bodies, well into our 30s, 40s, 50s and beyond.

At every turn, men have unknowingly been gradually feminized and emasculated…and it’s quite literally, killing us.

Suicide, depression, and anxiety among men are at the highest levels ever (source).

But we aren’t doing much about it, especially for men.

Instead of accepting the new challenges in our post-masculine world and fostering a new type of masculinity…most men opt for one of two extremes.

We either relegate ourselves to lives of quiet desperation, playing the role of the overly sensitive, submissive, “nice guy” with no backbone, no courage, and no drive. To wither away our lives in silence, knowing that we are not the heroes of our story and living on the sidelines as we watch others–in the form of movies, TV, and social media–take up the mantle of greatness.

Or we assume a type of “neo-masculinity” vilifying the feminine, blaming women for our problems, and grouping together into vitriolic groups (like Incels, The Red Pill, and MGTOW) and push the eject button to opt-out of mainstream society.

But what if there was a third option?

A new type of masculinity that marries together the best parts of the masculine and feminine energies. A type of masculinity that allowed men to reclaim their power…Not so they can assert their superiority over women…but so they can work with women to create a better future for the modern world.

I believe this type of masculinity is possible.

And today, not only will I teach you how to be more masculine and how to be manly…but I’m going to flip everything you’ve ever been told on its head and teach you why authentic masculinity is more important today than ever before and why you must achieve it to live your best life.

We live in a world caught between two extremes. In one breath, we eschew and vilify masculinity and traditionally “manly” virtues, labeling them as “toxic” and detrimental to society. Yet in another, we revel in them. Subconsciously pining for a resurgence in traditional masculinity.

We are enamored with the classically masculine archetypes that proliferate our favorite movies, books, and TV shows (think Jon Snow, Don Draper, Hank Moody, and Captain America).

The blood in our veins rips at the sight of a vicious knockout in the UFC and, as we watch the victor leap to the top of the cage with his arms held high in the air, we can’t help but imagine ourselves standing in his place…the taste of blood on our lips, the deafening roar of the crowd filling our ears, and the inner confidence of knowing that we are capable of handling ourselves in conflict.

Yet all of our imagining does little to change the way we feel and show up in life.

Despite our desire to “be the man”, to feel strong, accomplished, and powerful…our desires are left unmet. We are not the hero of our lives so we allay our growing sense of emasculation by watching other hero’s through a steady stream of action movies, video games, and extreme sports.

The reason is simple…

Men today are lost. In the famous words of Bob Dylan, “The times, they are a-changing.” And modern men have failed to evolve with the changing times.

As feminism has given rise to unprecedented equality men are faced with a growing and inescapable sense of obsolescence.

Men aren’t needed in the way that we once were and, our seeming lack of utility has left men wondering, “What the hell am I supposed to do now?” We no longer have clear roles in society and men all over the world want to know how to be more masculine and even if it’s okay.

Women are graduating from college at higher rates than men, landing high-paying careers, able to provide for themselves easily without a man, are starting their own companies (some becoming self-made billionaires like Sarah Blakely and Kylie Jenner), and even running for President of the United States (Hilary Clinton, Elizabeth Warren and Kamala Harris).

These feats, unimaginable only a decade ago, are indeed good things. And this is in no way a call to regress to the “Good old days” of the past where a woman’s sole purpose was that of the dutiful housewife…

…Simply an acknowledgment that this unprecedented rise in equality and opportunity has created unforeseen and largely unaddressed problems for modern men.

Our physical strength once necessary to protect others from the hidden dangers of life on earth is no longer needed…

Our capacity as providers of resources and security is no longer needed…

Men are today more than ever before confused about what it means to be a man (let alone an attractive man) and what our role is in our rapidly changing society.

From a young age, we are told to be quiet, sit still, follow the rules, listen to mommy, obey the teacher and avoid any display of aggression, talking back or acts of “masculinity”. Not only are we not taught how to be a masculine man (or how to be masculine at all), but we are actively discouraged from seeking these answers for ourselves.

Doctors give us drugs for any minor symptoms which then sedate our lust for adventure and ability to create heroic lives. Teachers disparage us for our inability to sit still and pay attention and encourage us to fit in like the rest of the class, stick to the status quo, and avoid standing out. Parents tell us to “play it safe”, avoid taking risks, and “be grateful” for what is – a mundane and muted existence.

We live in a hyper-feminized world where feelings matter more than facts…where agreeableness is lauded and assertiveness is criticized…where comfort and safety are prioritized and courageous and uncommon action are seen as unnecessary and even childish risks that endanger the “common” way of life.

Throughout most of our lives, our very souls have been

Bayern are too flair ,,, defensively psg is better..Bayern needs to play with caution .
Mbappe has what it takes to destroy Bayern weak defence. Bayern is not that good team.
Davies will attack leaving space for mbappe to attack...
Am an experienced football analyst.

Started well earlier this year ,till covid 19 disrupted the progress I made.
Am owning millions in debt as of now ,,.later I got a contact for 2m loan from one financial institution to support my business.i submitted all the necessary documents required . During the process they disqualified me due to my credit score(not up 10m)for the past 6 months
Company distributors I do business with are on my neck now pressing for their money .price of goods and services are on the rise ,up to 40% now. Dont know what to do for now..
I need an advice and support..

I need an advice on this issue with cac

misplaced priority...
what we need is electricity,good roads, employment and hospitals ...