well this is a topic very close to my heart. i used to feel sorry for myself when i was a size 20 but most people saw me as beautiful. i was not happy though so i decided to loose the weight for my self. i am a size 16 and i am very happy with my self. i can even fit into a nice swimswuit which is meant for my body size. i would not mind being a size 10 though but i am scared that i might be saggy if i loose too much

poster your thread is soo hurting

The topic keeps referring to this dirty molestor as '' the boy''. A 20 year old vs a 9 year old does not deserve to be called a ''Boy''. He is a man who took advantage of a fragile baby. 9 is not even a teenager yet. Why could he not approach his own age mates instead of going after a baby who is yet to even grow boobs. This rapist took advantage and he deserves a very harsh punishment. My condolences go to the family of the 9 year old baby.

When he says he needs time to let her go gentle, he is taking a chance and it sounds as if he even is not sure of what he wants but sounds as though he is greedy

hi girl. Reading your post brings so much pain coz it makes me realise what majority of sisters go through. I am not expect but 1 thing i know is that the heart can be a very foolish thing but piece of mind is what matters most in life. To me it sounds as if, if you were to stay in this relationship you would forever be wondering if you are the only one and might also open your self up to this guy taking advantage. Moving on is hard i know but trust me after all the crying, in a couple of months you will not even remember his name and you would have given yourself the opportunity to get someone who is worth it. I so wish you did not go there that night. The truth hurts so much and sometimes its even better not to know about it.M with you in tears girl. Cry if you have to but when you all cried out you won't even feel a thing for that jerk

op sorry to pry but would it be too much to ask if i were to ask that you explain what coursed the break up? i saw a statement above where you say he did not keep his promise. What kind of a promise was it?

Sugahylz:

Do big girls find love? Oh yes dey do.
The tin is..u have to love urslf first...c urslf as special, do not look down on urslf as not being normal. So wen u treat urslf well n don't act too desperate b4 guys, d right one ll come and surely ll appreciate u.

N/B; taking care of urslf also includes working out,eating healthily n staying HAPPY. Cheers!!

thank u so much

op take it from me,. I know heartbreak first hand and whenever i would think its all worse all of a sudden an angel of love would favour me. You will get love

lukulukuboy: Don`t loose hope, your true love will find you when you least expect !

Thank you sir

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k2039: You welcome, I will love to have a feed back about your opinions about the book though.

will sure do

house instead of compound

tshegs19: Love Yourself girl or Nobody will !.

No i have learnt that. Through all the wisdom of all the nairalanders who assisted me in this terrible time. I am sure in a few months i will tell everyone about my weighloss and new found life. I am soooooooooooooooo hapyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy. thank u Nairalannddddddddddddddddddddddd

am black and proud and i will say it loud. Black don't crack.Poster did you mean black as in race or dark skin as in exclusion to african light skin?

dkings101: U aren't looking bad either babe...u need to have self esteem.U need to appreciate your body and be happy always. For me, I don't do "skinny babes"...I do "Phat ladies" like u r..
Appreciate yourself and I know ur kind of man would come hovering over u.

NB: Do you reside in Nigeria?

no am abroad

k2039:
Try to be nice to me, I don't believe a woman should have just one woman, it's all about conquering as many girls as possible.

Sholly, na joke I dey joke o, before you change am for me.

@biggirloya2, I just remebered an ebook that will be of tremendous help to you.
AWAKEN THE GIANT WITHIN by Anthony Robbins.

Basically the part that applies to you is in chapter 6, page 81/378 ( HOW TO CHANGE ANYTHING IN YOUR LIFE: THE SCIENCE OF NEURO ASSOCIATIVE CONDITIONING)

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wow thank you sir.

hrykanu231: Funny enough some of us love the Big

really?

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is it tablets or how sir? can you please specify a little?

Cee9: Madam self pity kilz. I am ayoung man but i look more matured than my age dat my do joke bout me geting married in my uni.doer dat make me feel bad?ofcoursse not it had made me to handle positions pple my age may never get. Cheer up and make out smthing wit ur fatnes

Thank you sir

wow NL. The responce has been so overwhelming. You guy do not know how reading all this makes me feel. I am literally in tears because i am so humbled. I feel like jump start a work on a new life now. I have been dealing with this for years but have never spoken to anyone. Yesterday i was just so down and decide to write about it and the responce is sooo wooww. I am starting a new life as in yestersday and i owe it all to you. I am starting gym this evening and for now i am buying some different types of food which have been suggested by some of you even via email. I am taking this so serously because i know and believe that it will be life changing. As for the boyfriend. I do have sent him a text messgae telling him that i will not be taking part in sexual activities and i wil not be doing him any favors. He did not respond in a negative way but i do not know how he will respond when we meet but i really do not wana see him for now coz the only thing that will come out of my mouth wil be tears and me dumping him and him trying to sweet talk me again. I can't handle his lies for now. Wow you guys are the best. I feel like you guys are in this with me. wow i am so so humbled. I really do not know what to say but i really feel as if a heavy load has been lifted off my heart and shoulders. Why did it take me so long to open up. wow

this is me.

nbright: Don't post any pictures of you if you don't want to... Use your head

okay sir i hear but i do not understand what u mean by '' use your head''

alutacontinua: Why do i feel lyk this thread is just a way of attracting unnecessary pity?

Pics pls!

will post one now now

ayodeji752: it seems mailing isn't working. Watz d oda way dat i can contact u?

no oga i already got the email don't worry. thank you

tomnmenace:



Guy, UIZ DAH SHARPEST KID!

@OP, take a pic of urself n upload it. Lets see some pics then we can TRULLY deal with your issue. No pic, no telling!

***..but ehh!! I dey smell big lie creative arrangee for here***

it hurts me that you see my pain as a creative stroy. There is a time when we have to put aside all sorts of suspisions and be sincere to those in need. i really needed to talk about this today.its been eating my all mylife

ayodeji752: av sent u a message.go and check ur inbox

sir i did check my email but i just got a friend request from another person not you. did you send to biggirloya2@gmail.com

utumunta: Na wa oo. This is a problem?
All i can tell you is that there will never be another you in this life. If you like hide & cower because you are "big", na u sabi.
Maybe you will be slim in the next life cos you seem not to be interested in this present life.

somehow what u are saying wants me to wana live more and try make my life happy

nenergy:

There are 2 voices in your head, a dual personality stuff. Lady always listen to the better you. You have a beautiful body and believe me there is someone special dying to explore and it. Instead you're wasting time with a 25-year old Whiz kid fan. Dump is butt and only date mature unmarried people. African 'men' (not boyz) like a woman with extra flesh. I do *winks*

wow i feel like some heavy weight has been lifted off my chest

Screwface:

Yes. I have seen big girls love and fall in love too.
I have a colleague twice your size(even if I've not seen your photo before, trust me, she's twice ur size), and she seem happy and content about life and what it throws at her.
It all depends on how you carry yourself, chubby one. You are being treated exactly how you'd hope you'd be treated. The colleague I have sees things differently, you should do same too.

i will try

adusco: Dear, i really feel ur pains but d solution lies in own hand.you must know dis dt
1.guys are not only interested beautiful ladies but smtymz dey get convinced with thier action and d way dey carry themselves
2.you nid to blv in urslve never lok down on urself
3.you nid to dress well(not xposing ur body) it tells d kind of person you are.
4.you nid to smell well
5.check ur parent ,are dey big lik you, it might be hereditary,if so,ask ur mum hw she was able to get over it
6.dnt appear too cheap wen a guy approaches you.dnt be too desperate to have dem,take ur tym,dere are fat ppl i knw who are today happily married.Dnt say you are ugly,dere is inner beauty which you possess and odas do not.Everyone have thier own unique xtics and quality
7.pray along(prayer changes things)i'm nt tryin to bring religion into dis but you may find unexpected solution.God is real

thanks a lot sir

yuzedo: I feel your hurt, i can't even troll on this thread. I am sorry hun.. I think confidence in yourself and exuding a positive aura at all times might attract THE man (note: not A man)..

Can you lose weight through exercise? Easier said than done but if you can discipline yourself and put in effort, you might start to feel sexier and your new-found self-esteem will radiate and pull people towards you? Good luck, miss.

wow , i am learning new things today. i honeslty never thought that confidence would help me attractthe right person as the society has made me feel that its always all about looks. how do i work on my confidence sir if you do not mind me asking

tellwisdom:

ok, wld you be my gurl plus do you have big yansh??

your responce is flattering but makes me feel stupid also because i feel you would be dating me out of pity and also i would never have confidence in our relationship knowing how it started