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DeadRat:
hahahahaha if You Do That He Will Feel important... Return To The Normal You, it May Be Difficult I Dont know. Dont Turn Your Face Away When You See, he Will Probably Know You Are Avoiding Eye Contact With him... Just Mind Your Business... If Your Eyes Meet Dont turn Your Face Quickly, just blink normally And Look Away... He might (but Dont Bet On It) come Back Sometime Later To Talk About Dating you. Listen To Him like Every Other normal Girl Would and Then Tell Him You Lost Interest in Him Already (even If You Havent)... Let Him Come Huntin For You... My Dear! Just Focus On Studies for Now, If You Want To Chat feel Free to Come Here To Chat With us

dollyjoy:
I can hear Tiiiiiiiii, are you saying anything please??

dollyjoy:
So you mean after all the heavy make ups and all,you couldn't attract a real man to your life other than some guy who is irritated just at the thought of you? Girl leave the poor man alone. He doesn't dig you at all.

DeadRat:
hahahahaha... Its Okay To Talk Trash about Him... I Know That Feelin when You Cant Get The One You Love... You Conclude They Are Not Worth It, sayin That So You Can Get Him Out Of Mind... Lol... Its Okay Shit happens

DeadRat:
I Told You To Allow Me Guide You But You refused... Maybe You Had Something Else At The back Of Your Mind... Sorry Though... Move On...

mofeoluwadassah:
nairalanders especially romancelanders gave you advice and you follow....

SMSguru:
Sweetheart, listen and listen real good.
You are not ugly but something about you is a 'turn-off' for the guy.
In summary, he's seeing you more like an unnecessary distraction.

greatnaija01:
calm down... PM me and I will tell you how to get him back. its simple... but next time do not listen to majority

profstar:
I almost took you serious, until I checked your profile and discovered every single one of your topics are trash.

Too bad. boy

LifeofAirforce:
Don't you have real life friends you can talk to ?

Why bother us with your unromantic life story

ghost3040:
SEE FINISHING!!!

tk4rd:
It is clear to me now..
You are not just shy.
You are extremely shy..
You need to start working on yourself first.
Start reading some practical books on how to overcome shyness and low self esteem..
It would help you a lot..

makky555:
The guy is a douchebag.... He had no idea the amount of courage you summoned from the seven rivers of your daddy's village... How dare he? That singular act should have killed every iota of what looks like love to you....

You need someone to slap you back to yours senses ... Just call my name... I'll be there

SemuhleB:
I am a bit old fashioned so I don't believe in women chasing men. It just seems kinda desperate to me.
Delete that number and stop contacting him.

You can perhaps find a way to speak to him perhaps ask his opinion or a question. However since you have spoken to him on phone just make sure he doesn't recognise your voice otherwise he will know it's you.

teelaw4life:
Babe nothing wey i fit tell you wey relationship experts never talk finish. How long have you been crushing on this dude? Personally, i'm not certain about the reasons you gave for your attraction to him. Just chill out jare...Give yourself time, try to be casual friends with him for a while. maybe 3-4 months? if the way you feel for him remains the same then you can begin to assume that what you feel for him is kinda sustainable. Whatever it is you do though, observe his reactions any time you guys talk. don't dropped explicit hints that you like him a lot, make it subtle. You don't want to give a guy who might not really feel you to know you like him scatter...that'd be extremely dangerous for you with a high potential for fatality.
stay woke though...don't dwell on it too much.
I'm kinda in the same situation with you but me don tell her how i feel sha...she's cool but i feel like i might have showed her my hands and given her much advantage by letting her know i like her big time. right now, i'm just giving myself space...focussing on work and money making.
I'd suggest you do the same...it'll help you clear your head and not make any more rash decisions like extracting his number and texting him anonymously. His reaction is perfectly normal because for all he knows, you might be one of them scam boys who pretend to be female.
Anyway, na here my advice finish.
STAY AWOKE!!!

bobokunlexzy:
Funny enough.....I couldn't stop lol wen I saw ur post here on NL cos.........the guy in question is my friend's roommate & we are very good friends. I really feel for u cos I can understand ur plight & I'm ready to help u get d guy(trust me) Just mail me here & let's talk.

DedeNkem:
You behaved childishly! How old are you? 8?

First, you can't love someone you had no relationship with. And you can't love anyone within three days of anonymously texting them.

Secondly, you are seeing your dead school sweetheart (A) in this new guy (B). So you're obsessed with B simply because his looks reminds you of A, which is bad.

Thirdly, you can't be sending anonymous text to a guy and not expect him to suspect something. If he has a girlfriend, he may think his girl is testing his faithfulness! You must not do that again! It is so childish.

If you're truly serious and want to start a relationship with him, be bold enough to introduce yourself to him and apologize for not telling him your name in time. That's what a matured girl would do after a fck up as you did.

I don't know why Nigerian women find it so hard to approach men they would like to start relationship with. Most women have missed out on good men because of this mentality. They would rather wait for men to approach them and sometimes end up havng the wrong ones.

I'm not saying it is wrong to expect a man to approach you. If you only date men who approach you, you may have miss the right man for you. Be approached and approach.

Every woman has a man she knows, admires and wants to date. There are women reading this post right now who have been approached by many men except the particular men they've been eying.

We are in 2017 not 1817. If you see a man you want to date, as long as he's single, nothing should stop you from approaching him.

Best way to approach a man;

1. Make sure he sees you, especially, when you're well dressed and looking pretty.
2. Make sure you get close to him.
3. Look for something to talk with him about, relating to the place both of you are. Or you can ask hm to help you check what's wrong with your phone. There are many things you can use.
My lady friend asked a man (she wanted) to check if he could see a fly in her left eye. The guy is her hubby today.
4. If he still doesn't any interest in you after the all above, then you can go nuclear by asking for his name and number.
5. After collecting the info. stay with him a little and get to know him a little bit and gently walk away in style. He'll think about you all day.

Goodluck.

DedeNkem:
You behaved childishly! How old are you? 8?

First, you can't love someone you had no relationship with. And you can't love anyone within three days of anonymously texting them.

Secondly, you are seeing your dead school sweetheart (A) in this new guy (B). So you're obsessed with B simply because his looks reminds you of A, which is bad.

Thirdly, you can't be sending anonymous text to a guy and not expect him to suspect something. If he has a girlfriend, he may think his girl is testing his faithfulness! You must not do that again! It is so childish.

If you're truly serious and want to start a relationship with him, be bold enough to introduce yourself to him and apologize telling him your name in time. That's what a matured girl would do after a fck up as you did.

I don't know why Nigerian women find it so hard to approach men they would like to start relationship with. Most women have missed out on good men because of this mentality. They would rather wait for men to approach them and sometimes end up havng the wrong ones.

I'm not saying it is wrong to expect a man to approach you. If you only date men who approach you, you may have miss the right man for you. Be approached and approach.

Every woman has a man she knows, admires and wants to date. There are women reading this post right now who have been approached by many men except the particular men they've been eying.

We are in 2017 not 1817. If you see a man you want to date, as long as he's single, nothing should stop you from approaching him.

Best way to approach a man;

1. Make sure he sees you, especially, when you're well dressed and looking pretty.
2. Make sure you get close to him.
3. Look for something to talk with him about, relating to the place both of you are. Or you can ask hm to help you check what's wrong with your phone. There are many things you can use.
My lady friend asked a man (she wanted) to check if he could see a fly in her left eye. The guy is her hubby today.
4. If he still doesn't approach you after the all above, then you can go nuclear by asking for his name and number.
5. After collecting the info. stay with him a little and get to know him a little bit and gently walk away in style.

Goodluck.

ahnie:
This,really got me...oh Bleep
Hahahahahahagagaghahahaha queen of savagery you are babe.damn you got my ribs so mufasa*ed*

Choi Airforce1 wee not sleep well this NYT.

Magnifik18:
Bigsarah, I really think you should focus on ur studies than trying to push yourself to a boy that will probably take advantage of your weakness, distract you and dump you.

However, if you insist, stop contacting the dude via d other line and don't even tell him you were the one pulling that nonsense cos he'll prolly not want a stalker as a friend.

Give him a couple of weeks then, approach him as your real self.

In a couple of months/years, you may not even dig the dude again and will wish you never approached him in the 1st instance.

bikat:
Even if he's not alone you can just joke about it and walk on, he will surely say something. Trust me that guy is dying to know who u' r, he's just forming but what if he's on NL and can see your post?

bikat:
Lol, thou I didn't see the pic every1 was....but I think she has a point, if she was a celeb, it will be ok to av a bikini pics, Nigerians and this holier than thou attitude.

I think you should tell him who you are and then when next you see him, don't be too serious, approach him and say something like, don't mind me I can be crazy at times... he will say something

naijaboiy:
[color=#1980BC]Oga why can't you advise her here so other girls can learn too? [/color]

NeeKlaus:
You are scared of rejection yet I am sure there are numerous guys you have rejected like they are some filth or something.

I won't say anything shaa.

chiraqDemon:
Ok, let's start by saying u fvcked up.
U should have inboxed him on WhatsApp with your own number. A simple hi would have sufficed.
But what is done is done, u can only forge ahead.
Now I would suggest u actually meet him face to face and talk about it, if he is the understanding type he will understand your shyness and ur weird approach. If he doesn't, then expect to get a weird look from all the guys in school the next day, like a group of guys looking in ur corner n suddenly bursting into laughter. It's risk stuff sha, just be sure u want to take this risk

DeadRat:
getting The Guy Is Not So Difficult... You Flop badly i Most Say... Men Do Not Want To Be Dominated By Women, you Cant keep Him In Suspence for Too Long, or There Is A Better Way Holdin His Neck To it. I Want This To Be A Private Conversation for Certain Reasons. I Will Pm You If You Dont mind?

MrDandy:
Op do you still make use of a java phone

That d.p is barely a 5 m.pixel photo.

And your post even makes you look cheaper

DeadRat:
E Be Like Say Her Network Bad Sef

Adaumunocha:
Go present yourself to him. Either way, life goes on. You love him? Then go to him and stop being a coward.

MaritzaNL:
Let me sincere with you, if that boy is not into you, there is nothing you will do that will make him, love you or date you. You guys can only be friends if he is not into you.