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eldav:
Let me make it very clear to you that you do not know what you want, yet. When a man begins to fight or struggle for what is his, then there's a problem. You should never need a woman, they are the ones that should need you.

What you should be bothering yourself with, right now, is how to be the best version of yourself. Allowing irrelevant things to dominate your mind is where you got it wrong. So, get your head up and put that mind of yours to better use. Women will come when they'll come, and if they don't?

Better things still abound.

thank u for ur advice i really appreciate ur comment sir. It has really motivated me alot. This is one reason i opened this thread just to get people opinions nd with what i ve read so far it has change my Mindset nd i m really encourage to focus on other vital aspect of my life than to make woman my most priority..

Those my happy single guys who na try bt for me i no do single again. U go to d mall alone, u go to fast food joint alone, u go to d club alone ,U go to market alone, come prepare ur own meal alone eat ur meal alone go to bed alone wake up alone go to work come back to home meet nobody u continue like this for 30 days 365 days for many years haba una try i no fit..

AngelsAndStars:
OP I am in such situation too. 99.99999% of people in my estate have never seen me with a Girl before and am above 25yrs old. a graduate for that matter. the few relationships I had were in school. it's not easy but you really shouldn't give a fvck.


the only time I feel bad is when I feel like talking to a girl and I remember am single it hurts really but I just forget it. getting a better job(though I have one whose pay is OK but I don't like it) and a roof over my head is top in priority for me now.


ask yourself, do you really need a girlfriend now or you just want to have one just because of what people say?

thanks for ur comment i don't really care of what people are saying abt me bt to b sincere one need to ve somebody.u can share something with some1 dat can make u forget the stressful day u ve at work some1 dat can lightning ur mood when u are down some1 dat can give joy laughter i need some1 i can play with i m nt getting younger anymore.

Poorboy:
You're very broke, boring, maybe very ugly and uneducated too, notwithstanding that you are busy looking for women far above your class, those are what could make a young man single...

so one can't get a girlfriend because he is broke. For my look i can't posses all the characteristic a girl needs in a guy notwithstanding i m very handsome. If u should rate top 20 finest male ndler i think i will make it.. I find it difficult to make a long conversation with a girl .maybe i m just too boring being with them all the same i will try to improve on my skills, confidence nd my physical appearance . In terms of class i no fit get i self na classy i come de look for. I m educated bt nt to a. university level.

TANKDESTROYER:
Bro.... if you don't learn how to be happy and fulfilled when single then you are not ready to be in an healthy relationship..
Use this opportunity to discover your purpose and make yourself a person of value...(if this story is true anyway)

being happy nd fulfilled without having some one u can express ur feelings to some one that can listen to u that happiness won't last on the long run.

For one to b single is nt an easy task since my ex girl friend broke up with me i ve find it difficult to get a girlfriend. I can't stand d loneliness nd boredom of being single. Some time i feel ashamed when people around me tell me they ve never seen me with any girl. I ve been single for abt three years now to make every thing worse i can't stop calling my ex nd her response too won't help things. I m just too tired of being single nd it affecting my every day life.

I lost my dad in a way like this. He got retired from the company he was working with in the city. The company paid my dad a very huge amount of money as payoff then . The old man decided to relocated the to d village to established a small bizness couple with fishing . He bought a canoe, fish net nd one tokunbo motor . He renovated his old house nd he built a small 3 bedroom flat . With all those things he was doing some people were not happy so they attacked him spiritually . Oboy no b play fear those people dey gave a very dangerous illness to my dad ontop that illness my dad spent the rest of his money to make sure he is well. yet he still gave up the ghost . The person dat did that to my dad has confessed nd he is a younger brother to my dad. He is blind for forever.

My bro it is real bt now Christianity has taken over everywhere so everybody dey mind their bizness. i would advice u build ur house in a town close to ur village. Witches do not really attack easily except somebody from ur family that is envious of ur success be it ur mum dad brother sister uncle aunty grannies present nd approve ur matter before the house then ur case will b look upon. Money get grade o if u get money like dangote or politicians the witches and wizards go dey fear u. U can even destroy their meeting place nothing go do u .

This is the reason i luv my delta girls especially girls from warri and sapele dey no born u well to b messing with their mother b u male or female if u know say u dey craze u better locate ur bearing if not u come trespasse omo anything u see just manage it. A woman like u dey give ur mumsy wahala u come here dey cry like rat when dey fear darkness. If u can't protect ur mum who else can u protect. this is Africa we need iron hand. My advice for u just confront her one on one i don't fight with her meet her face to face talk to her with action let her know u re serious tell her never in her life should she come close or have a quarrel with ur mum again. I mean if u don't have the strength to fight her u most ve words in ur mouth. Don't b sunprise dis woman dat u re afraid of will be the one begging u atlas if u can summon d courage to meet her one on one. Don't allow her to smell the weakness in ur family else others will take advantage . I think u should caution ur mum on how she go abt her normal life in the village. Trust some mothers when they getting old they tends to display a childish behaviour. Even my mum in the villa she dey use style dey find trouble her report don full 4 in one notebook u can't know until u leave with them. If u can't confront her report her to the youth in ur village settle them with little money nd lie that she had a fight with ur mother hmmm if na delta state dat na serious gobe for the woman b dat.. .

This afternoon, my friend whom we bt live together just came back from work he was telling me the bus-stop close to the place we live,there is dead human keep inside a tyre. He said, when he came down from d taxi at d bus stop he was perceiving odour of some thing dead as he tends to search further he saw a dead man kept inside a trailer tyre.. His head has bn cut off and his intestine removed.. I went to confirm it. It's true i can't move close to take pics, cos d odour is strong. I want to tell every one on this forum living in ibadan nd felele precisely should call the police to move d body from dat place before it turns another thing.the body is located at Macmillan bus stop opposite felele along the ibadan,lagos express way.. .

Twistaray:
So Mr oral stats where did you draw your own stats from,and what would you have suggested I provide I provide to back my claim if not a well researched stats
Funny dude.
You want us to believe your self made and throw away a well researched stats
Wonder shall never end

You must be a comedian!

oga is like u want to settle in ibadan. Well ibadan is a peaceful place which consist of both Muslim nd Christian they can relate with strangers very well. There are some companies that do pay their staff workers high salary aside from dat the hunger extremely massive. There are some places u goto in ibadan you ill ask ur self if this place is really a city. The city is over rated..

Twistaray:
I am sure you are not aware that SW is the least poverty region base on facts and not oral or aba made stories like you cooked up there.
Abeg, prove your home movie nah
Prove it..

in this apc regime some one is believing what he read on paper do u know by rating Nigeria is the giant of Africa nd it has d fastest growing economy in Africa twice south Africa nd egypt nd yet is not reflected in the lives of its citizens. Let me explain better. i read in news this morning, hw fg ve started paying the 5000 naira they promise.for d first 9 state as beneficiaries do u know oyo state nd 2 other states are from sw.are among 9 states listed. reason being dat those 9 states are states with d highest number of poor people. I don't know where u get ur facts from all i know with the current rating from fg oyo (ibadan) ranks among highly poverty states in Nigeria.

Twistaray:
Where did you pull all these home made movie,story from,please?
Aba is even worst..
I am reporting live and direct from aba sef unlike who's somewhere I alaigbo cooking up stories

no story is cooked here d hunger is real if u want to feel it just come settle in ibadan u will know what am saying . There are many people on this forum that live in ibadan why can;t they go against d op cos they all know what he wrote is real. One thing i love abt ibadan people is dat they are very contented.even the with the massive hunger they believe it will b better someday. Mind u i m not from aba or south east i m from delta south south..

True. There is a very hash hunger in ibadan people are suffering chai. Some time i used to ask myself who placed ibadan to b among d top 4 cities to live in. Any body who planned to settle in ibadan should think twice before making a move. D hunger is real. Business is low social life is dull nd companies here are under paying their workers imagine some body working in a factory for 13hrs is bn paid 15 thousand naira, nd dat same person will b paying 200naira everyday as t fare .he will b paying for house rent while won;t there b serious massive hunger in the land. Ibadan people can soak ijebu garri every day with kolikoli without getting tired because that is the most affordable meal in ibadan. Don;t allow anybody to deceive u,that food item is cheap in ibadan Is a big fat lie. Well the hunger reach every place, even my state delta is not left out. I live in ibadan currently. When i was in delta state i can still remember vividly how i used to weigh 70-75 kg bt here in ibadan due to hunger i m weighing 53-56 kg the op is 100% right. Stop hyping ibadan there is nothing here. The dry harmattan wind nd brown dust come worsen everything. .

Well he might b right to himself bt i will not go into marriage with the hope of having kids without financially buoyant. I have a neighbour who told me that he used to wake up in the middle of the night to cry because he can't provide for his family.. The man I'm talking abt only have one kid nd her wife he is also a Tyler .i ve.a broda too who has two kids, bt he doesn't knew where those kids are. Whether they alive or dead. So with whatam seeing nd passing tru i will never make the mistake others have made #saynotoabrokenhome. .