₦airaland Forum

jhydebaba: May his gentle soul rest in peace.
_{won ti ta katapult fun eiye to wa lori twitter}

jhyde u no well o

mayen ni banger.. pishaun pishaun

kulyie: lol,i dont expect a typical nigerian man to accept it.they never admit their stock in trade like someone is lying against them

CC is a female and she is happy with her NAIJA man, ur point being wat exactly

that because u had one or two bad experiences with naija men
all naija men are evil

Im sure one naija man(men) is saying the same abt u

mzfelivisions: Am a very Atypical AA. Think its becuz of my Cherokee bkgrnd. Iv adopted Nigeria as my home so where in genetically tied here, I am spiritually planted and going no where! This is my home. I'm not a expat I'm a Nigerian by choice and I utilize my energy developing my country. I'm not saying I don't love America, but there is a sense of peace that I get only when here. A satisfaction I never had before. I love workin with the youth n women, they hv such passion. I am home and choose not to do a DnA test because I just want to be a Nigerian not an igbo, yoruba, uhrobo, hausa, tiv,fulani, itsikiri,I will b from where ever my hubby is from by Gods grace. Insha Allah. We are one Nigeria and we need to remember that. Its the only way forward.

wowee....
Cherokee are brave warriors and [s]also a fine brand of car id like to drive [/s]

I hope you can find what you are looking for in this land
You just have to be patient

Also moving round the country would have been nice taking note f the security situation

Have u been to the Calabar Carnival happens december
Also visiting the village homes of your friends for weddings, new yam festivals can help your assimilation process

With your accent, you will surely not lack admirers as a foreigner is always a novelty but only a[b] self - assured amd made man[/b] will want to be with you for you rather than a ticket to yonder

The problem is that most of them are married already/divorced bla bla
They may not want that whole drama all over again where there are younger women who will not complicate their lives

Dyt: End of story
Happy married life

I hope so
One good story maketh not single motherhood right

May the Force be with you

^^ LOL

Dem dey kidnap dog these days
NA WA O

mzfelivisions: Thank you for the candid and focused reply, but I'm still a bit frustrated. I apologize that the post was a bit disenfranchising, but someon seriously annoyed me. I say Nigerian men because I'm in Nigeria and I will not date another race for now. The type of business I do entails I interact with different people globally and yet I'm inately drawn to the Naija man so I cnt refer to any other than him and my hubby was American like me so no other reference point except Naija.. Sori, but I say it as I see it. No harm intended. [/b]. I'm enjoyin your jist by the way.

Fair enough but you will have to be patient then to get the kind of man you want

Interesting, have you done a DNA check, you may have naija blood iin your bones
Innately drawn.. however i bet you know that expats of other races work here in naija

The reason AA women r single is also subject for another thread. Our families were intentionally turned upside down and women have forgotten what a pride it is to be a woman and prefer to be a man and relegate the men to duties which don't allow him [b]bear his crown as he in his prime is a threat to govt and society's perpetuated ideology of a perfect life

this will be controversial and coming from an AA woman.
Prepare for attacks from your own kind


I would like to discuss with you more on what you think your ideal man shd be like

[quote author=Brand_new]I'm sorry @Op there are still some Nigerian men who qualifies to be called a gentleman in every sense of the word.[/quote]Gentleman is whose sense... American or English
me i am a gentleman in the naija sense of the word

That word is so vague and undefined

If u cant live with the way we do our ish, other ethnic groups dey there

Your post is long but i will take your points one by one

Ok by the trial thing I mean, I'm ok lookin n get a bit of attention. But men want sex with no commitment. They love to say let's try n see what happens, I'm sori I don't know any store where I can go if I'm thirsty or hungry and say let me try a coke and pounded yam with efo riro and if I like it I will commit n pay. Love and relationships are about commitment. If you want something settle down and make a choice. You can't live your life tasting things you must finally commit to eat something!

Good point but this is not limited to nigerian males. All men do this especially in the middle life age range which you are obviously interested in
your target males will be moderately successful men (married or divorced) who may not want drama in their old age
So a FWB arrangement willl be suitable for them

If this does not work for you, hold out for what you want but dont go bashing Nigerian men for them being who they are
Have you forgotten the most endangered sub group marital-wise are african american women?

Secondly men it seems to me sumtimes like to start quarrel. How else wld you explain sumone calling you and saying" so you have just forgotten me, abi?" My response is always politely " may I ask you a question? Is it that your phone doesn't load with naira recharge card like mine?" They're usually taken aback, but what's wrong with honestly saying to someone that hi, I've missed your calls, or I was just thinking about you? Why must you put the person on the defensive? Why begin a conversation with sumone feeling guilt.

Good one, I admit you are right here cos i do it a lot too and some people not from this culture dont get it
So i consciously stop it when i am relating to non naija females,
Look at it as a sort of ice breaker they mean no harm
The correct response is just to say "Sorry, I have tied up with work stuff. how are you doing"

mzfelivisions: Thts not fair and thts not submission that's subjugation, there's a difference between the two. Submission is given in love and Subjugation under duress. I'm not a basher, I just want to understand men here in hopes that I may settle, remarry and have at least one original omo naija. No disrespect intended.I'm not saying there r no men around, there are plenty.. Too many in fact. What I'm saying is that I don't understand them.. I am not getting their message. They don't appear genuine to me because the way to show me you love me is pickin my call or replying my text that your in a meeting. Sending me a message tht your thinking of me, asking how my children are faring and trying to know them. Not booking me into a luxury suite to lay up with me for the weekend. Take my kids out for a movie, not buy me a new phone, spend a sunday in the park not tkin me out to drink n eat while u hang out with your friends. I want to understand what a man rationalizes love as in Nigeria, because I believe they're the best men on earth when compared to those outside. Its just maybe I don't understand the language they're speaking to me. I'm naturally reserved and love my privacy, so love family time and I had expected from the men I know that are Nigerians that quiet time is prefered, but it seems most love social life and that's not me. I'm grounded, family oriented, and quiet. I enjoy lifes simple pleasures. How do tell if a man is serious or wnts to slip n ur panties?

We are traditional also family people but not all of us are into all that solo family time
A typical naija guy recreational ish is to hang out with family, friends and talk about good times with good food and drink
All this your bungee jumping, hold hands etc is not sth you will find easily

Holdup, we are not the best out there, so lower your expectations or hold out for the Mr White Knight

All what youve said here, i am sure other women will tell you is common to other men of other races

I like how you put out your points. Your first post was

Im open to more discourse

usdane: Hi guys, I want 2 to defer a little bit. There is a particular scholarship that i wish to apply for. Meanwhile, there are different requirements specified for each country. Im a Nigerian but i do not use a Nigerian passport due to the fact that im eligible to use my Mother's country passport which is different from Nigeria. I was also born in that particular country. So i hold that particular country's Int' Passprt. Now, back to the matter, JAMB (Joint admission and matricularion board), is one of the requirements for NIGERIAN STUDENTS WHO WISH TO APPLY FOR THE SCHOLARSHIP. But it's not a requiremet for student coming from the country which i hold a passport. However, i schooled here in Nigeria and hold Nigerian school papers. So my question is, should i apply with just the WAEC result and other docs which is required from the country of my passport or i have to get the docs asked from Nigerian students includin Jamb (which i dnt have nw)since my school papers originated from here? Thanks, waiting eagerly for ur responses/ideas/advices

why dont u call the org n find out if bi racial kids can apply

mzfelivisions: Sori you took it that way because I clearly asked for advice and didn't diss anyone. I stated my observations and req feedbk which you sadly havnt offered. I do business with them daily and know what I see. I'm trying to get pointers on how to cope with and rationalize their behavior as well perhaps understand their mores and motivators better. Pls dnt transfer agression to me because I know my post wasn't confrontational although your response clearly is. I'm in love with Nigeria and her people, I'm not here to fight anyone.

your initial post is not clear and yu are getting unnecesarily aqgressive
I am a man and i found your post weird

What qualities do you think irksome in nigerian men and what do you expect
Lets start from there

But if this is another male bashing thread you want to start upp, prepare...

mzfelivisions: Hello all, I'm a foriegner living in Nigeria because of love of the culture and people. I knew from my 1st visit tht this was where I wanted to live my life.I'm a widowed mother who unfortunately doesn't look her age. My delima is that as much as l love Nigerian men, I'm afraid of them because they seem to like quarrels and controversy and to be emotionally bankrupt. It seems they assimilate the amount of Shakara a woman causes with the assumed depth and commitment to their "professed love". Where I come from, love is not noisy, its deep, trusted, and given freely. There's no price tag attached(although a man should be a man and support his household) and its definately not a trophy to be shown off or bragged about. Its a nurturing of two spirits that are becomming one. Men want to be loved and catered to, yet are incapable of loving. Its as if they don't realize that love is reciprocal and that its the love they feed their partner that they will inturn feed them back, that will nurture their children, give her the strength to run their businesses n home. Also every indication of likeness is attached to sex and trial. Is that how pertners are chosen, just by trying everyone til you find the one who does it right? What about the sanctity of a woman? Isn't she supposed to be a mans prize? His pride? How can she be if everyone has tried up until him? Please help me understand or I think I will have to remain single in Nigeria, as I've no plan of leaving the country.

You have some good points but i have highlighted some parts of your post for futher discourse
what do you mean exactly

kilishi