₦airaland Forum

DailyNews: No man wants to marry his fellow man. Getting married to some ladies sometimes look like marrying your fellow man. They may be so beautiful in the eye, so elegant, but arrogant, not humble, not submissive, pompous, carried away by career or chase for money and fame, and no reasonable man who isn't a gold-digger want to marry such a woman. a man wants to hustle outside and come back home to laugh, crack jokes and play happily with his wife and kids (when they arrive), and not to hustle outside and still come back home to start hustling again with someone he called a wife, thats bad.

I am only trying to open the eyes of single ladies reading this...these are some of what's scaring Nigerian guys from getting married.

I like this.. you try
You make sense

DailyNews: Can't a lady be successful financially, career-wise and still be humble enough to respect men and not cross the line? Is it so difficult to do? It seems we need UAE, Dubai's approach in Nigeria whereby women will be sent back to stay at home and watch films and do house chores while we fetch the money and give them so they can come back to their original creation- humble, submissive and responsible lovely creatures. These western exposure, chasing money and career of a thing seem to be doing our women more harm than good from all indications

Ol bros, the matter dey vex you o
The ladies have opened pandoras box and will never accept to be re domesticated

Long life and prosperity yto yo@taio_luv, may your wishes come true in this new year of your

iykmora: itz d 4th and nt d 3rd dat summoned Gama

Jiraiya also summoned a mighty frog .. i think its gamabunta though he had another frog when he faced off pain's 3 headed dog

Parnassuss: Hashirama killed Izuna

spoiler

Ihedinobi: Yeah, just like another one thinks the SO6P fell out of the sky to grow a rinnegan.

On that one , you sef no sure
We just know the SOSP developed ninjutsu, had the rinnegan and tamed the juubi and subsequently the bijuu


oN the summonings, the stronger the shinobi the more the no of rashomon gates
Orochimaru trained the sound 4 and their specialty was sealing

Abali1: About having fear that your spouse may die young, is another reason why am having this survey. The awareness of SS is still very low and most of those that claim to know much about SS, don't really know as much as they claim.
Thank you.

Please can you elucidate us
I hear the child birth process can be physically exhausting
In a poor medical world like our country here, what can be done

Abongs: i remember sakon saying sumtin about it but its being a long time i cant remember what he said.yes of cus u need to sign a blood contract to use it.i think sakon introduced it 2 him

Dude you are being heretical here

Abali1: Baby, the questionnaire is necessary. I have gone beyond looking at things subjectively.

For instance the two people who have responded to the questionnaire seems to have the uncommon belief that as AA they might actually father a SS child by marrying SS.
That is where educating the populace about genotype pairing comes in.
Hope you will help out with the questionnnaire.
Thank you.

dude where in my statement did u hear that from
Now i am getting befuzzled

I know a union of AA & SS can never produce a SS child
I dont want to marry a woman who can die anytime
My faith never reach that level
Why shd kids be left motherless early in their life

Calm down.....

Abali1: Biola,
I believe that for some reason(s) which I don't know, you find this thread offensive.
Being born rich or poor is not a permanent status in life and my thread is not about oppressing anybody.
Equally being born in the Namid desert is not a permanent thing also.
 
If for any reason you don't like this thread and it's making you to respond emotionally, you can click unfollow. Thank you.

Dude now you are being emotional
Because I was born a sickler should i live my live in fear
You achieve what you can given your physcal limitations
When your time comes, you leave with peace and transquility that u achieved your tasks in life
 
I dont know you so i can only relate to you based on what you post here, hence my first question what was your point
Conversely you don't know me

On the survey questionnaire, you are making a basic flaw in your assumption that I an reacting to hear say

I am AA yes but why would I risk my marital life by marrying an SS who may not survive the rigour of childbirth. That to me is common sense

I may marry an AS but that's where it stops for me

Abali1: This thread is born out of the desire to get people's opinion concerning those of us living with SS. Below is a draft questionnaire I intend distributing to people, in the course of researching Sickle Cell Disease (SCD).

QUESTIONNAIRE:

1) Did your parents do genotype testing before they got married?

2) If not, do you consider yourself 'lucky' to have escaped being born a SS?

3) Would you categorise Sickle Cell as a terminal illness alongside Cancer or HIV/AIDS?

4) With you knowledge of Sickle Cell disease, which genotype pairing do you think is the most compatible for someone with sickle cell to marry?

5) Do you think that with the right education and awareness of Sickle Cell disease, that someone living with Sickle cell can live a long, healthy and productive life?

6) In your estimation, how long do you think that a SS person can live? In other words what is the expected Life expectancy?
7) Can you marry someone living with Sickle Cell?

If NO, what are your reasons? (Please state a cogent/tenable reason)

9) Do you think a SS male can father a child?

10) Do think a SS female can carry a pregnancy to term?

11) Have you ever been in close association with a SS person?

12) If yes, do you consider them different from other people having AA or AS?

1/2.I dont know if they did, but i am AA so i guess i am lucky
3. I dont know whether to class it as terminal cos adults manage it even to the 40s and 50s but its something i wont wish on my enemy
4. someone with SS MUST marry AA if they even survive to that age. For a woman the stress of child brearin is even another issue
5. Yes it can be managed but i hear some days can be terrible
6. Na God do answer that one
7. NO
8. Nothing more cogent that i cant leave it to chance or FAITH of having a child with SS with attendant heart painm , finance issues etc
9, Yes, as far as i know, it does not affect the gonads
10.With God on her side and good medical advice
11.No
12. n/a

Good luck on your exercise and appreciate your passion for this project to increase awareness

victorian: is it that serious? Abeg take am easy o ....lol

was looking for some juicy scoops

but no kain

Maya2pretty: yeah thats true, when I do get married,I want it 2 b because we r so inlove wit eachother, best friends that cant b seperated #Ilovemyfuturehusband

Amen to that

Abali1: The purpose of this thread is to get people aware that being an AA or AS does not make them better than someone who is SS. Yes it may seem as if SS people have more challenges, especially as kids and teenagers because they are yet to come to grasp about the peculiar health challenges.
But adult SS who understands their body rarely do have health challenges. But still the stigma stiil trails both the child who suffers SCD and the adult living with SS.

Ok conversely the rich should not oppress the poor as it is matter of opportunity.

If I was born in the Namib desert I would be a Bushmen lookin for the coca cola bottle

Its not about your lot in life but what you did with your time in life
There's a thread on two children that died before they were teens and their name is forever

Read up on the story of Anne Frank

Laffing at Pay As We go



Are we not harsh on the guy
His post further butresses the point that naija ladies open eye for $$$$$$$

Maya2pretty: to my dear guys on dis thread thats where d connection sets it, when I met my ex, we just walked pass eachother but I could feel d connection, we always stare at eachother, but one day I walked up to him and smiled, lol, Kennedy was taken off balance and when I asked his name, he stuttered, I told him my name and walked away wit a smile. That was enough greenlight 4 him, we kept on bumpin in2 eachother since den, became very good friends and started datin 1yr after memories

Awwww nice story however the reality is that some of us will marry for love, others companionship, some security and for so many reasons as we are diverse

You may need to be pragmatic going fwd

@nbright
Is it not that guy that tweeted himself on a toilet
SMH for t savage

chichi254: Do they think that money is a prerequisite 4 luv?

I like your write up but just accept you are an exception
The rule is MONEY FOR HAND BACK FOR GROUND

DN good points there are actually more ladies who are empowered and still can't see themselves SUBMIT to the authority of any man

I am not talking of abuse o

Maya2pretty: do u think single female billionaires r happy bein single, y do we have d cases of sugar mummy and sugar son so rampant in our society? no offense but I cant even start to argue, am not in d mood now

Not all billionaires are sugar mummies
Have you heard of gina rineheart. She is happy with her billions
Let's not be stereotypical here and say money is not important

No one has replied so far cause no one understands your thread

Are you hastling those who are AA(that they are lucky pple) or are you trying to improve awareness (there is enough of that already)

Our parents may have not know about genotype matching but WE KNOW AND IT IS ADVISED YOU CHECK YOUR GENOTYPE COMPATIBILITY BEFORE YOU MARRY TO AVERT UNNECESSARY MARITAL ISSUES
NO BE BY FAITH
NA COMMON SENSE

Ish

Sadly it is a result of the inevitable march of progress.

I was alone for a month and had to cook for myself and I really saw the effort required to whip up a meal.

Ordinary stir fry there
Chop and dice hot dog,green pepper,etc
boil prawn
Use rice cooker etc
Bbq fish in oven for protein

It took me 3 hours from start to finish
I now appreciated the efforts women put through just to get a meal on the table
Its not easy

What I can say is that some women are particular taught culturally and versed in the art of cooking for their men

Interesting discourse so far

I agree variety is important in the kitchen but our women don't have time like our mothers and have to make do with quick meals.

That is why soups are frozen this days as thw woman can only cook once a month for the whole month
Which time do ladies have to do traditional delicacies like cocoyam pottage and all.

I respect calabar ladies for this. They are not too modern to cook for their man
I can never forget ekpankwoko
Yummy


Pls ladies, your input are appreciated on this board. kiss and make up o

Abongs: @biolabee
sakon:kuchyose Rashomon(1 gate)
Orochimaru:kuchyose sanjuu Rashomon(3 gates)
1st:kuchyose Gojuu Rashomon(5 gates)
and i think oro learnt his 4rm sakon.And if u notice its sumtin u summon which means anybody can use it.

dude how can OROCHIMARU learn a summon from SAKON

Its like minato learning rasengan from naruto

sweetcheecks: I soo love what you have said here, it is very important for each of us to not only seek but listen and oblidge to the Holy
Spirit leading. Sometimes we do not do or oblidge to His prompts becouse we are bombarded with threats and voices that compels us to do as told as we do not want to be made an axample of what is stressed to be the results of not doind what the preachers say.

I for one, know that my spirit is turmoil when it comes to the giving and ticthing acts. I have secretly seeked out and gave to the ones in need who's prayer seem to go unanswered when I regard myself as Gods hands, partner and vessel here on earth. I have never redirected my tithes to these activities but have thought deeply and have suggested to some of the
church prominant people that a few number of big tithers/ tithes to be seeking out to help;

a) financially support the associate Pastors who are doing God's work but are not earning a wage and struggle to make ends meet,
b) the widow who every winter catches pnuemonia becouse the house she is staying in, is cold and leaking prompting prayer requests every winter but no action from the church to prevent this from happening in the first place becouse the one winter has been harder than the other and the pnuemonia is threatening to take her life,
c) an HIV church member who seems to be succumbing to the deases becouse the treatment/drugs side effects taking a toll on the frail body, as a result of bad diet or lack of nutritional food. Here are agains prayers are requested that this time she/ he should not die.
d) the mother or fatherless little girl or boy staying with a granny who earns governmental grants which can not take care of the kids or herself as a results the kids go to school without shoes or jersey in winter and going for a day or two without a meal.
The list goes on, tgen how could distributing God's money to where in needed most be sinful? When we are called to be God's co-workers, vessels, hands and in so doing answering prayers and restoring faith to that little boy and preventing him from selling drugs and robbing people, stopping that little girl from selling her body to feed her family and contracting aids in the process?

Arent we suppose to prevent these horrible stories from even coming to play before people loose faith in God while our Pastors chang e Gucci's for Armanis and Porsche's for Jets?

Lord, these are last days tge days of deception, let your will/ truth prevail in mist of the noise. Amen.

I love this

Ahh ahh Ahhh

[quote author=trae_z]Because we fail terribly when we examine ourselves against her starting post[/quote]Her specifications were really high
I wonder if they are realistic for ANY MAN

[quote author=baby-boy]I don't think Mercedes would be strong enough for this season....[/quote]I dont see them as title contenders but they will be spoilers to the top 3
LH is competitive in any car he drives once he sort out reliability issues

kandiikane: Anyhoo.....


*brings in blanket and a pot of icecream.


Where do I sit?

This your food fetish..... and u are a slimmie o

ileobatojo: Why has she "always liked my husband"?
-........

Will she suddenly no longer be lonely after that weekend? Will she no longer be a widow? Will she no longer like my husband? Why would anyone consent to such a thing?

Nice analysis..... the issue is really freaky
Even the word lease which suggests a financial arrangemnet makes it funnier

What is she bringing to the table when you lease me for the weekend

[quote author=trae_z]But if Op was below 30 than i would have just buried my head in shame on how useless a majority of us Nigerian males can be.[/quote]Please Why do we think we are useless if she is below 30