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Why are you saying kill the woman, what did she do, unless she killed him? There is no obligation to the wife from the woman he was messing around with. Her husband was a lowdown dirty bastard, and unfortunately he got his due while trying to mess around on her. He died trying,

I would very simply bury his ass as cheap as I could, spit on his grave, and me and my kids would move on.

omg @disney, I was trying to spare you what apparently your dad didn't on what using that phrase can do.  But do as you please.

You live and learn.

Disney, please stop referring to us as Yankees, I find that to be offensive and rude, especially if you are here in the US. That is a term reserved for whites, not everyone, and even for them it's rude.

Some of these stories are just too funny.  I guess pretty much the same as my going to Germany and not knowing what do to, waiting on the train.  My train had passed me twice, and someone that noticed I was american asked where I was trying to go.  And when I said where, he said it in German, and everyone started laughing, and then he said, your train has passed you two times already.  Then he said stupid americans, 

Sad part is I had taken a class on welcome to germany.  Come to find out, it was a common American mistake, because we all were looking for the words in English, not German, duh!!!!

Anyway guys, welcome to the good ole US of A!

@mama, thanks. I understood as soon as you put it out there. But I would feel horrible to love someone from a tribe being Black American and not be accepted by his parents. But I guess that's life.

Being that I am a Black American, I may sound ignorant in this question, but how important and why is it so important that you stay within your tribe? You can't find true love in another tribe, etc?

Also by my being American, does that mean I wouldn't be accepted by the parents of my friend if he was Nigerian, because I am not from the same tribe?

Just asking to get a better understanding.

BigSis,

I will attempt to give you more respect than you are giving me or any other sister or brother of color in this thread.

The unity that you says will never exist in my "nonsense" post, will exist when you start with yourself. I can't possibly ask or suggest for something I am not willing to practice daily. As an african-american woman in the US, how can you be so judgemental of Africans in Africa (I am not separating, just putting the distinction out there right now for the sake of this post). I can't speak on the treatment in Africa of each other, because my post was in regards to brothers and sisters of color that have come to the US and the treatment we provide them with, which is so lousy. You continue to refer to them as "they" which is the same thing that white america refer to us as here in the US. See you are attempting to make us better, and my dear if you look at the prison population of black men in america, that should make you weep.

Every person from Africa is not looking to get over on you, or looking to scam you, there are just as many brothers and sisters born and raised in the US that use our women everyday. Regardless of where they are from that needs to stop. You are so worried about what they are doing in Africa, but what are you doing here to change you? You sound bitter and your ignorance throughout this thread is overwhelming. I am yet to meet a man from Africa that has approached me that is not hard-working, and has really done well with themselves in the US. You attract what you present. Check yourself on what message you are sending on those that are looking for a woman to make them a citizen.

I feel sorry that you feel like this can never happen, that simply means your mind is not large enough to accept growth and in order to grow, you have to make changes. Also on your comment about liking all people because they are black, no I don't like everyone, but if I dislike you, I promise I have a legitamit (msp) reason, and it's just not because of the color of your skin or where you came from.


But I do have a question, if you have such views of our brothers and sisters in Africa and that has come to the US from Africa, why do you frequent this board?

Romeo,

Please don't be angry, channel that energy into the next time you come across someone that is not familiar with our brothers and sisters from Africa and educate them, you show them, that we are the same. Not every black woman or man in america view africans as foreigners. I embrace the black race regardless of where you're from. I think that may just be the southern girl in me. I agree with you, I wish we would stop separating ourselves by saying black americans or feel slighted if we say african americans in front of africans. And the sad part is the only way we ever know that someone is from Africa (per se) is once they speak most times (in regards to those of us in the US).

I think there are so many myths that the media has shown us about Africa, that we only know one part of Africa, and unfortunately that is South Africa. But until those of us that have lived in the US all our lives begin to educate ourself and embrace our brothers and sisters from Africa, well will continue to be ignorant, thus making ignorant statements. We all have dark skin, and that makes us family. Every family member won't like each other, but we need to know WHEN to stand together to make things happen, do you all really realize the difference we can make in this WORLD!

Our race is the most feared and intelligent race out there. They fear us, because they know there is nothing that the BLACK race cannot and has not conquered, but they also know we will never stick together, how sad!

And Chelly, if men that are from Africa approach you, thats your time to show them, that love has no barriers, if that person is right for you. Is your skin not the same complexion?

You ever heard the song in the USA "I hit that B*** with a bottle"

Ok, all seriousness. I would let both of them know in a very ladylike manner, that I know about them, and that they both are release from my life.

Don't scream, yell, curse, or show anger. "Just use the words, you both are release." I have learned, being calm shakes your offender more than your screaming like crazy.

Ok, I know yall are going to go against me for this, but I have stopped my cycle before. My guy was coming home from working out of country for a month, and I wanted to make love, plain and simple. So I did take the pills. You take 1 pill for 3 days before you cycle starts and it pushes your cycle back.

He will be back in 2 weeks and I will do the same thing again, if necessary. Because I haven't stopped them for good, it's not as if I am off balance on my cycle. There hasn't been any side effects because as I said I have only done it once.

My GYN, which has been recognized as one of the top in the USA, has said that it's not necessary, but since I am from the old school, I feel like my cycle is a cleansing time for my body, so I don't want it to be a permanent thing, until God sees fit for it to cease.

@larger, please don't misunderstand that I have a problem being single, and if I implied that, that was an error. I am single by choice because I don't have time for the bs. Even though I mentioned being intimate, please don't mistake it to be that I am going to fall for the okie doke, and just have sex and mosve on. He is a really sweet guy, and I am please with the responses that I have recieved in this post. I will just player by ear, and probably lean toward what Lexi state.

Btw, someone called me a He, I am a female, he is male.