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felong:
So you're married with kids. I never knew.

Yeah, married to a man whom she claims is "impotent" and can't get it up hence why she became an Adulteressss :

https://www.nairaland.com/6372936/re-coping-impotent-husband-journey#98245510

HarunaWest:
So this is your new found hobby?

You are a Mumu man ah swear.

Clout chasing low life Niggaz..Your simping na die..Instead of bowing your head in shame for committing adultery, you Wana become a storyteller ma *as..

nzeobi:
You should be ashamed of yourself and show some remorse for adultery.
You actions and intentions were clear to you from the onset except you wish to deceive your self. She hide her husband but you were aware that she is married.

Osheeyy, disciples of Christ
When the aging olosho opened her thread una no talk o. Hypocrites.

Vyolet:
Lol, I will entertain you.
In her own post, she said she met the first guy at a supermarket, how come you now met her on nairaland?

Maybe because she was part lying?do you honestly expect her to admit she met her fvck buddy on this trashy website? She gats package na

DilatedPeoples:
You never bothered to ask her reason for opening the thread she opened. Why are you interested in knowing why I opened my thread? If it wasn't idleness that brought you to this thread, tell me what it is. Learn to jump and pass next time

Ride on boss.
Please reveal her main account or at least give us a clue. I'm dying to know!!

DilatedPeoples:
I know the lady in question very well and I know how she writes. Besides I was looking out for certain markers and they kept showing up all over her posts. Even certain words... It couldn't have been a coincidence

Are you in anyway confirming that Adulteressss is Pocohantas?

Gabe427:
this tunde guy short ooo

Me sef I shock. No wonder bros dey para anyhow

Leshurr:
There's something called sacarsm you know.

you dey mind am?
Proverbs 712:900; It's ok to be a fool, but for a hopelessly frustrated fool, disgrace is certain.

LordKO:
You're in a loveless marriage. It doesn't matter whether you're the reason why your husband doesn't love you, or he didn't achieve self-realization before marrying you; however, his actions and inaction show that he regrets getting married to you, citing your submission. So, the problem in your marriage didn't start from the point you made your choice to have your biological mother to visit - which under normal circumstances shouldn't have caused a problem, even if he's unfavorably disposed to the idea - the problem only reared up its ugly head from that point.

He's a man who hasn't conquered himself ethically and mentally, thus the reason why he's a slave to native doctors - the native doctors aren't the problem, but him. He isn't fit enough to lead himself, least of leading another grown-up in particular and a family in general. It doesn't matter whether he's of good financial and academic standing. By the way, your shortcomings are glaring; strive to be less self-absorbing.

That nigga (her husband) is quietly planning an exit strategy. Trust and believe

Biglittlelois:
Okay my father is obviously a pained little mangina who gave birth to a mannerless, uncouth cretin like me.

According to my skewed logic, taking a baby to a nursery is suffering . I am a lazy woman and a useless mother.

It's so painful to take a baby to a strange environment to be in the care of strange people because I'm too lazy to take of a child I willingly opened my rotten vagina to conceive.
I know my child will be safe during the period the child will be in their care but I'm too entitled to say otherwise.

Parents who go through this phase sacrifice a absolutely nothing. Rather such parents should be grateful to have others take care if the baby they are too lazy to care for and they just have to keep whingeing, knowing fully well that their child is in safe hands, and at the same time, dismiss every stupid, entited mentality.

So since I know nothing, I will shut up, read, and learn.

Oh really? good to know!

Vevejoy:
[s]I'll pass because the Bible says I should in the book of 2 Timothy.

2 Timothy 2:23-24 Don’t have anything to do with foolish and stupid arguments, because you know they produce quarrels.

Nice try to get me[/s]

See me see wahala.
I saw an apt comment.
I quoted the wise son of man.
You (a frustrated wife) went out of your way to quote me directly claiming you will avoid quarrels?
Make that make sense.

lalalista:
Hello all, I opened an account to post this issue here because I want a honest advice from people who don't know who I am.

I have two men in my life asking for my hand in marriage. One is a working class graduate while the other is an ssce holder who recently lost his job. I like the ssce holder the more because he is more intelligent, neat, generous, fun to be with, more handsome and he's also from my tribe. When he had a job, he always gives me money without me asking him. He takes me out a lot and buys me things. Now he's just into daily hustles that fetches him 2- 5k daily.
On the other hand, the working class graduate is not from my tribe. He has money but spending it is always a big issue. Let me just say that he's kind of stingy. He's not as neat and intelligent as the ssce holder. I need to choose one of them before April. I'm equally a graduate.

My friends say I will suffer in future if I choose the ssce guy because he's got no degree and his chances of getting a good job is very low. They want me to marry the working graduate so I won't have to suffer. Deep in my heart, I want the ssce holder. Please I need your honest opinions on who to choose. Thanks

NOTE : I've been out of job too. My job was affected by the pandemic

Because he gives you urgent 2k init?
Imagine the nerve of an unemployed chick dating two hardworking guys, feeling entitled to their pockets!
You probably fucck the both of them as well. na your type dey carry belle give innocent man
Just marry the ssce holder since he's dull enough to spend his hard earned pittance of a salary on an employed, double-dating whoore.

heniford2:
all this thing you typed here break up with him please let me ask you what is wrong with him seen a native doctor, if we check very well know we will get to understand that the whole problem is from your side, you talk, abuse him, yet you want him to act so you will use it against him in overseas, maybe the will depot him thank God the young guy is smart very smart to avoid you, better re arrange your life oh or break up with him you want to have another issue while your still queering with him Ahh! you self shall chill oh or move on since you claim independent

very wise, bad sharp guy I tell you - glad he ignores her wailings.
Proverbs 25:24 it is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman
That niggar is a practicing Christian if you ask me!

Commotfornigeri:
We use to be an exemplary and happy couple up till this may 2020

Really? So you mean you used to be happy even with all the Native Dr. Issues? That means you always ignore obvious signs.

2. You said your baby is suffering waking up at 6am. My kids wake up at 6 too and i get them ready for daycare. The secret to waking early is to sleep very early. Bed time for my kids is 7pm. You can try that.

3. Stop reporting him to his mom. They can't save the marriage if he decides to kick you out. It's like reporting a cheating husband to the wife. When they make up, you become a topic for discussion. His mother can never love you more than she loves him.

4. Stop repeating the "independent" "can take care of myself" talk. You're grooming something that may overwhelm you.

5. Suggesting that your mom comes first is not wrong. You'd be able to "command" your mom to help put things in order or press your stomach much more than you'd be able to "command" his mom.

In conclusion, it's unfortunate that your husband is who he is. Except he loses contact with those native doctors, they will be at the helm of affairs in your home.

If you people are still fvucking, then be hopeful, another baby may come soon. If you're not, then just go ahead to care for the one you already have.

You may share a home, but don't let anything get to you. Live your life to the fullest. Get busy with activities, spring is coming, summer thereafter. Plan a trip, if he comes, fine, if he doesnt, fine. Make yourself happy.

This advice can only work on a matured mind - op is a spoilt, childish little girl who believes the world owes her something because she happens to have a vagina. Imagine a mother thinking taking a child to nursery is suffering. Tueh!

Winneygirl:
So, "Goodmorning, How are you doing?" is not enough for you?
You want to ask about her ancestors too.

CalliDora1:
Just take it easy. Better still, leave her house.

That's his father's house. Therefore it belongs to him and his siblings as they will outlive her.

Vevejoy:
The only person who has addressed the native drs issue. I was almost wondering based on the focus of the comments on this thread if believing so much in native drs is a normal thing for most people in naija.

Truly my dear trading with someone who can lay his life for native drs is a bitter pill to swallow.

Thanks for ur comment.
What will u do in my situation?

Your own don dey too much sef. Haba!

Na by force to marry? Free the nigga if you no sabi deal with am. Afterall you said you're self sufficient enough to survive on your own.
Talking as if you are perfect and your shiit doesn't stink. What were you hoping to gain from this thread sef or you just want us to insult your husband so that you will feel good about yourself.

Very soon you will claim you didn't know he was diabolical before you married him. Mtcheww

crackhaus:
Raise your hands if you're a Nigerian woman under 45years of age on NL and you've NEVER cheated on your husband/boyfriend, not even once...

PLEASE NOTE that cheating includes any and all behaviour you can't engage in with another man in the presence of your husband/boyfriend.

We need to prove this arsehole wrong for insulting Nigerian women

mosdii:
If it were to be a non mod that said "Nigerian men are also scum". it would have attracted outright ban from you.

Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

RisenPhoenix1:
You just conclusively ended the argument, not a single hand raised. I think the TikToker should increase his statistics to 100% for women under 45 on the basis of your remarkable study.

descarado:
So many women crackhaus, so many.

Now, let me throw the question back to u.
Have you?

Seems like nairaland don't like happy and functional relationships.
So tired of these negativity.

Besides, when are u inviting us.
My gele is ever ready

Acidosis:
Wow

Well fellas, a supposed male moderator has said outrightly on this thread that "men are scum". This includes himself I suppose . No wonder they use him as tampon to wipe off traces of their menstration all over Nairaland
E be tinzz.

Winneygirl:
There's a lot of abuse in many marriages. Emotional and physical.
I mean, there are soo many of us who come from abusive homes. Many people have watched their parents fight over and over again, but the marriage did not break up.
Unlike in the past where a lot of women endure abuse, women have learnt to walk away from abuse situations.
Plus, more and more women are becoming financially independent. They can take care of themselves and their kids without having to depend on the husband. So where the marriage becomes unhappy, they have the means to walk away.
Of a truth, the world is changing. We all need to change with it. The rules of marriage is changing. Everyone now has a voice.
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Marriage is like a contract. What are you offering? Know what your partner is offering. If the terms are acceptable to both of you, fine. Proceed.
But people just go in with sentiments, emotions and blind trust. Many expect marriage to solve all their problems in life. They become disappointed when they learn that marriage is just a continuation of life, not a problem solver, or a happiness delivery truck.

Left to men, marriage would've been scrapped a long time ago. Nah Una dey force am

Seems every death now is reported as Covid. What a great way to fuel the agenda.
RIP to the dead.

She as she ugly sef. Evidence that anything with a toto can be fvcked