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her number
and u will hear.....
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76) na my hentihen number be
that.
HAUSA man nko?
U will hear...tzero seben
tzero,pipe pipeseben,por pipe por,
eleben (07055745411).
Na my Gilo numva ve that.
THEN ASK Anambra man...
U get this...
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E no easy Jare..Everything na
dozen dozen. - Hope For Nigeria

EVERY SECOND:
Nearly 30,000 persons view pornographic web sites.

EVERY MINUTE:
Internet users send more than 1.7MILLION pornographic e-mails.

EVERY HOUR:
Nearly TWO hard-core pornogrophic videos are released in the United States.


EVERY DAY:
An average of more than TWO MILLION pornographic movies are rented in U.S.A alone.


EVERY MONTH:
Nearly 9 out of 10 young men and 3 out of 10 young women view pornography.


EVERY YEAR:
The Global pornographic industry generates an estimated $100 BILLION(U.S).

We cannot approach God in prayer without Faith.(james 1:5,6).We must be convinced that he exists and cases about us.We can strengthen our faith by studying the Bible because true faith is based on the evidence and assurances found in God's Word.(Hebrews 11:1,6).
We should pray sincerely and humbly.Even God's son,Jesus was humble wen he prayed.
(Luke 22:41,42).So,rather than tell God what to do,We should try to understand his requirements by reading the Holy Bible.Then we can pray in harmony with God's will.(1John 5:14).

i reserve ma comment....bt no be end tym things

manmustwac: Well for a man to take his own life on church premises means that somewhere along the line Jesus messed up & refused to answer his prayers

are u 4real?

vanguard news----- Man
commits suicide in church
premises - A 67-year-old church
guard identified as Matthew
Isidahume, yesterday,
reportedly committed suicide with his lifeless body found
dangling within the premises of
Holy Trinity Anglican Church,
Gbagura, Ago- Oka, in Abeokuta
North Local Government of
Ogun State.The post Man commits suicide in church
premises appeared first on
Vanguard News. http://ow.ly/ 2xuzFg

If Jesus is God, what did he
mean when he said “The Father
is greater than I”? The best way to understand this
verse is to recognize that Jesus
was less than the Father in
terms of His incarnation as a
human being but not less in
terms of His divine nature. This is similar to the way someone
can say that the Queen is
greater (i.e. in her position)
without implying that she is
somehow greater in her nature
(i.e. more than human). Ron Rhodes (Th.D., Dallas
Theological Seminary) makes
this point well. He writes,
____________________ It is critical to recognize that in
John 14:28, Jesus is not
speaking about His nature or
His essential being…, but rather
about His lowly position in the
incarnation. The Athanasian Creed affirms that Christ is
“equal to the Father as touching
his Godhood and inferior to the
Father as touching his
manhood.”
____________________ Dr. Rhodes also points out how
the apostle Paul made
essentially this same point in
the Bible. Philippians 2:6,7
states that Jesus, “being in very
nature God, did not consider equality with God something to
be grasped, but made himself
nothing, taking the very nature
of a servant, being made in
human likeness” (Philippians
2:6,7) Mars Summit: Explore the
ultimate questions of life from
a Christian worldview.

-- Parts of central Oklahoma -- where a
devastating and deadly
twister struck earlier this
month -- were under a tornado
warning Thursday afternoon,
with forecasters and authorities urging people there
to take cover. "Take cover now in a storm
shelter or an interior room of a
study building," the National
Weather Service told
Oklahomans in the warning
areas. "Stay away from doors and windows." Tornado watches -- which
means conditions are
favorable for tornadoes to
form, though one hasn't
necessarily touched down or is
though to be imminent -- extended through parts of
seven states Thursday. That
area stretches from Texas
north to Michigan and
Minnesota. The National Weather Service,
which issues the watches and
warnings, noted on Twitter several "wall clouds" on
Thursday afternoon, including
one "very impressive" one
west of Chickasha. Chickasha is
about 35 miles southwest of
Moore, the Oklahoma City suburb hardest hit in a
powerful May 20 twister. Powerful winds aren't the only
issue. The weather service, for
instance, reported golf-ball
size hail around 1:45 p.m. (2:45
p.m. ET) two miles south of
Anadarko. Even if a tornado doesn't touch
down and cause destruction
Thursday, that doesn't mean
Oklahomans and others are
totally out of the woods. The weather service's Storm
Prediction Center is forecasting
a moderate chance of severe
weather in parts of Oklahoma,
Nebraska, Arkansas and
Missouri on Friday. The forecast is less dire
Saturday, but on Sunday parts
of the Northeast could be in
danger. The Storm Prediction Center
says there is a 30% or higher
probability for severe
thunderstorms in parts of
seven states, including the
cities of Scranton, Pennsylvania; Springfield,
Massachusetts; and the New
York cities of Syracuse, Albany
and Elmira.

Lilimax: I even learnt that all squatters in the building diedon the spot
but the few who went to watch Chelsea match survived .
RIP to the dead.

better visit ya Doc.seems u gat cancer of d brain..evrybdy na chelshit fanz?

I KILL: yes, they even collected my e-registration slip

hopefuly,they would release the results....

I KILL: Seriously I don't know and I hope something positive can be done cos I can't afford 2 sit at home 4 another year, I just pray, I don't even know what d biometric verification means

did the invigilators collect ur name?

do u think anything positive could be done?

He registered the just concluded UTME biometically,but can't view his result.indicating he has no biometric verification plz what'z this young man's fate,or is there other victims?

your thoughts. Plz

Liverpool forward Luis Suarez
could face retrospective action
from the Football Association
after seemingly biting Chelsea
defender Branislav Ivanovic. The incident occurred in the
second half of Liverpool's 2-2
draw with Chelsea at Anfield on
Sunday, as Suarez battled for
the ball with Ivanovic in the
Blues' penalty area. Ivanovic was seen appealing to
referee Kevin Friend after his
tussle with Suarez, and
television replays appeared to
show the forward sinking his
teeth into the defender's arm. No action was taken against
the Uruguay international, who
was already on a yellow card
after giving away a penalty for
handball, which Eden Hazard
duly tucked home. The FA will now wait for
referee Friend's report, and
should the official not mention
it, Suarez could face
retrospective action. The striker had the final say on
the outcome of the game as he
scored in the dying seconds to
clinch a draw for his side and
dent Chelsea's Champions
League qualification hopes. In 2010, Suarez, during his time
at Ajax, was given a seven-
match ban for biting PSV
Eindhoven midfielder Otman
Bakkal's shoulder. In 2006, Tottenham striker
Jermain Defoe faced no further
action from the Football
Association after appearing to
bite West Ham's Javier
Mascherano.

plz wer can i dwnload kcee's maga? Itz hiz new single.rili suprisd itz nt in any site 4nw...

Dr. Vineett bhatera of the
United States has found new
cancer in human
beings, caused by Silver Nitro
Oxide. Whenever you buy
recharge cards, don’t scratch with your nails, as
it contains Silver Nitro Oxide
coating
and can cause skin cancer.
Answer phone calls with the
left ear.
Don't take your medicine with
cold water....
Don't eat heavy meals after 5pm.
Drink more water in the
morning, less at night.
Best sleeping time is from 10pm
to 4 am.
Don’t lie down immediately after taking medicine or after
meals.
When phone's battery is low to
last bar, don't answer the
phone, because
the radiation is 1000 times stronger..... U.S.A. CHEMICAL Research
Center Gives New Result : Dont
Drink Tea in
Plastic Cups n Dont Eat Any Food
on Polythene Paper. The plastic
reacts to heat n It Will Cause 52 Types
of Cancers. IGNORANCE iz a disease!!!

surely in d next census,there wud be high num of death rate.

15 Tips for Talking to Women And Attract Them Like Crazy


Many men are never taught how to talk to women. Because of this many guys go through life without the ability to attract a woman. Here are 15 tips to help make sure you aren’t making mistakes with the women you’d like to attract:

1. You should talk about “emotional” topics like childhood memories, future ambitions, or her passions. These conversation topics will open up her emotional floodgates.

2. Women want a guy who is not afraid to lead her. While talking to a woman takecontrol of the conversation. Never wait for her to dictate what you’ll be talking about.

3. Pay attention to the non verbal cues a woman is giving you. If you’re standing too close to her, accidentally spitting when you talk, or making her feel uncomfortable in any way… she will send you hints. Pay attention to them.

4. Remember this motto “Fun not Funny.” Women are attracted to men who allow them to have fun. Don’t concentrate on having the funniest jokes. Concentrate onshowing them the most excitement and enjoyment.

5. Tease women. One of the easiest ways to take a conversation to a fun and flirty level is to begin to tease women. Think back to your time on the playground. In the world of dating… what worked on the playground is effective all over again.

6. Get intimate with her. Women are turned on by men who are not afraid to take a conversation to a personal, intimate level.

7. Use things like “cold reads” to turn women on. Women love to hear opinions about themselves. Tell her what you observe about her.

8. Avoid complimenting a woman too much. Women are turned off by men who come across as “needy.” If you are complimenting a woman too much she will think you’re trying to impress her. Which will have the opposite effect.

9. If you want to know how to talk to women in a way that doesn’t bore them… Avoid asking too many “interview” style questions. Instead state your opinion about things.

10. Remember: Statements over questions. Instead of saying “where did you grow up?” Say “You don’t look like you grew up around here.” This allows you to make observations about her and express your personality.

11. Don’t hide your identity. Don’t be afraid to talk about whatever you’re passionate about.

12. Never compliment her on her eyes, looks, or body.

13. Say something that lets her know that you view her in a “sexual” way. If you don’t, you run the risk of winding up in the “friend zone”.

14. Use conversation “games” to keep the mood fun and flirtatious. Games can be anything like “truth or dare” or to less extreme games like the “5 questions game”.

15. Don’t give away your hand so fast. Women like men who are a challenge. If you want to keep a woman’s interest she has to feel like she is slowly winning you over. If she thinks you’re too easy… she’ll lose interest.

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maybe i shud jxt log+out 4 today...evryfin here seemz 2 be Aprial+foolz.

ur take on dat Nairalanderz....

"THERE WAS A COUNTRY"

As the world’s biggest and
most influential football
website Goal.com released its highly anticipated list of the
wealthiest footballers alive , many Nigerians were
surprised to find that none of
their countrymen had made
the list. While Nigerian businessman
Aliko Dangote was listed
among the top 50 billionaires
in the world by Forbes a few
days back, no Nigerian
footballers made the list of the elite of their sport after the
country recently won the
Africa Cup of Nations. The Goal Rich List was arrived at after measuring “only
identifiable assets including
salaries, length of contract,
bonuses, endorsement and
sponsorship deals, accounts
filed at Companies House, properties and other business
interests” of the players who
must be Fifa registered
professional players , or
registered players currently
without a club, but who are actively looking to sign for a
professional club. Interestingly, Africa had four
representatives in the coveted
Goal Rich List with Samuel Etoo
of Cameroon leading the
charge. The Anzhi Makachkala
striker is listed as having 12.3 billion naira (£52m). Etoo is
listed number six in the global
list. The next African on the list is
Cote D’Ivoire striker Didier
Drogba who has 5.9bn naira
(£25m). Drogba now plays club
football at Galatasaray in
Turkey after he led Chelsea to the Uefa Champions League
trophy last season. He is in 24th position on the rich list. Both Michael Essien and Yaya
Toure are the other Africans on
the list with 3.9bn naira each
(£16.5m). They are listed in 48th and 49th positions. Essien who is on loan at Real Madrid
from Chelsea has not played
for Ghana since 2011. Ivorian Toure is reigning
African footballer of the year. The lack of Nigerians on the list
could be cause for concern but
columnist Calvin Emeka
Onwuka said the reason is
simple: “[Nigeria has] not
produced a top player in the last 12 years.” Or perhaps they
have not mastered the science
of marketing themselves
properly? Thirty seven year-old
Englishman David Beckham is
the richest footballer on the
planet with 41.5bn naira
(£175m). Beckham recently
moved to French giants Paris Saint Germain where his five
months salary of 80m naira
(£3.4m) is to be donated to
charity. The bulk of his
earnings come from outside
football. Four-time Fifa Ballon D’Or
winner Lionel Messi is the
second richest footballer with
27.2bn naira (£115.5m). The
Barcelona striker has broken
several records in club football that many regard him as the
best footballer to ever play the
game. His rival at club level, Real
Madrid’s Cristiano Ronaldo is
listed third on the Goal Rich List
with 26.5bn naira (£112m).
The Portuguese is widely seen
as one of the most complete players in the game with the
ability to score goals and also
create them while also lending
a hand in defence. Another Real Madrid player is
Kaka who comes in at number
four with 15.6bn naira
(£66.5m). Even though he
spends more time on the bench
than on the pitch these days, the Brazilian is still in the elite
zone in terms of monetary
rewards. His compatriot and fading star
Ronaldinho is in fifth place
with 14.9bn naira (£63m).
Even though he moved back to
Brazil after brilliant stints in
Europe, the Atletico Mineiro midfielder maintains his billing
among the top paid stars in the
game. Noteworthy is the fact that out
of the top five wealthiest
footballers, only Beckham has
not won the Ballon D’Or, the
biggest individual prize in
world football given to the best footballer annually by
Fifa. All the players in the top five
have played or currently play
in Spain for either Real Madrid
or Barcelona and three of them
are from South America. What is responsible for
Nigerian players not reaching
the top 50 wealthiest players
list?

Millwall or Blackburn Rovers vs. Wigan Athletic Manchester City vs. Manchester
United or Chelsea.

Your take on that Nairalanderz. . . . . . . .

EACH day presents people with
numerous opportunities to do
kind things for others. It may
appear, though, that many
think only of themselves. You
see evidence of that nearly everywhere—from the
shameless way people defraud
others to the aggressive way
they drive, from their crude
language to their explosive
tempers. A me-first mentality also exists
in many homes. For example,
some spouses divorce simply
because one partner feels that
he or she “deserves better.”
Even some parents may unwittingly sow the seeds of a
me-first spirit. How? By
indulging their child’s every
whim, while hesitating to
administer any kind of
discipline. By contrast, many other
parents are training their
children to put others before
self, and with great benefits.
Children who are considerate
are more likely to make friends and to enjoy stable
relationships. They are also
more likely to be content.
Why? Because, as the Bible
says, “there is more happiness
in giving than there is in receiving.”—Acts 20:35. If you are a parent, how can
you help your children to reap
the benefits of being kind and
to avoid being contaminated
by the self-absorbed culture
that surrounds them? Consider three traps that could foster a
me-first spirit in your children,
and see how you can avoid
those traps. 1 Overpraising The problem. Researchers have
noted a disturbing
trend: Many young
adults are entering
the workforce with
a marked sense of entitlement—an attitude in
which they expect success,
even if they have done little or
nothing to earn it. Some just
assume that they will be
promoted quickly, even without mastering their trade.
Others are convinced that they
are special and deserve to be
treated that way—and then
they become dejected when
they realize that the world does not share their view. What is behind it. Sometimes a sense of entitlement can be
traced back to how a person
was raised. For example, some
parents have been unduly
influenced by the self-esteem
movement that has become popular in recent decades. Its
tenets seemed plausible: If a
little praise is good for kids, a
lot of praise is better. On the
other hand, the thinking was
that showing any type of disapproval will only
discourage a child. And in a
world on a mission to build
self-esteem, that was
considered the epitome of
irresponsible parenting. Children must never be made
to feel bad about themselves—
or so parents were told. Many fathers and mothers thus
began lavishing a constant
flow of praise upon their
children, even when those
children did nothing
particularly praiseworthy. Each accomplishment, no matter
how small, was celebrated;
each indiscretion, no matter
how large, was overlooked.
Those parents believed that
the secret to building self- esteem was to ignore the bad
and praise everything else.
Making children feel good
about themselves became
more important than teaching
them to accomplish things that they could actually feel good
about. What the Bible says. The Bible acknowledges that praise is
appropriate when it is
deserved. (Matthew 25:19-21) But praising children simply to
make them feel good may
cause them to develop a
distorted view of themselves.
The Bible aptly states: “If
anyone thinks he is something when he is nothing, he is
deceiving his own
mind.” (Galatians 6:3) For good reason, the Bible tells parents:
“Don’t fail to correct your
children. You won’t kill them
by being firm.” *—Proverbs 23:13, Contemporary English Version. What you can do. Make it your goal to give correction when it
is needed and commendation
when it is genuinely deserved.
Do not dole out praise just to
make your children feel good
about themselves. Likely, it will not work. “True self-
confidence comes from honing
your talents and learning
things,” says the book
Generation Me, “not from being
told you’re great just because you exist.” “Do not think of yourself more
highly than you should.
Instead, be modest.”—Romans 12:3, Good News Translation 2 Overprotecting The problem. Many young adults
entering the
workforce seem ill-
prepared to cope
with adversity.
Some are devastated by the slightest criticism. Others are
finicky and will accept only
work that meets their highest
expectations. For example, in
the book Escaping the Endless
Adolescence, Dr. Joseph Allen tells of a young man who said
to him during a job interview:
“I get the sense that
sometimes parts of the work
can be a little boring, and I
don’t want to be bored.” Dr. Allen writes: “He didn’t
seem to understand that all
jobs have some boring
elements. How did one make it
to age twenty-three without
knowing that?” What is behind it. In recent decades, many parents have
felt compelled to protect their
children from any type of
adversity. Your daughter failed
a test? Intervene and demand
that the teacher raise the grade. Your son received a
traffic ticket? Pay the fine for
him. A failed romance? Lay all
the blame on the other person. While it is natural to want to
protect your children,
overprotecting them can send
the wrong message—that they
do not need to take
responsibility for their actions. “Instead of learning that they
can survive pain and
disappointment, and even
learn from it,” says the book
Positive Discipline for
Teenagers, “[such] children grow up extremely self-
centered, convinced that the
world and their parents owe
them something.” What the Bible says. Adversity is a part of life. In fact, the
Bible says: “Bad things happen
to everyone!” ( Ecclesiastes 9:11, Easy-to-Read Version) That includes good people. The
Christian apostle Paul, for
example, endured all manner
of hardship during the course
of his ministry. Yet, facing up
to adversity benefited him! He wrote: “I have learned, in
whatever circumstances I am,
to be self-sufficient. . . . I have
learned the secret of both how
to be full and how to hunger,
both how to have an abundance and how to suffer
want.”—Philippians 4:11, 12. What you can do. Taking into account the maturity level of
your children, strive to follow
the Bible principle: “We each
must carry our own
load.” (Galatians 6:5, CEV) If your son receives a traffic
ticket, it might be best to let
him pay the fine out of his
allowance or salary. If your
daughter fails a test, perhaps
that should be a wake-up call to her so that next time she
will be better prepared. If your
son experiences the breakup of
a romance, comfort him—but
at the appropriate time help
him to reflect on questions such as, ‘In hindsight, has this
experience revealed any ways
in which I need to grow?’
Children who work through
their problems build resilience
and self-confidence—assets they might lack if someone
was constantly rescuing them. “Let each one prove what his
own work is, and then he will
have cause for exultation.”— Galatians 6:4 3 Overproviding The problem. In a survey of young
adults, 81 percent
said that the most
important goal of
their generation is
‘to become rich’— rating it far above helping
others. But striving for wealth
does not bring contentment. In
fact, research indicates that
people who focus on material
things are less happy and more depressed. They also have a
higher rate of physical and
mental problems. What is behind it. In some cases, children are being raised
in materialistic families.
“Parents want to make their
children happy, and children
want stuff,” says the book The
Narcissism Epidemic. “Thus parents buy them stuff. And
children are happy, but only for
a short period of time. Then
they want even more stuff.” Of course, the advertising
industry has been all too eager
to exploit this hungry
consumer market. It promotes
such ideas as ‘You deserve the
best’ and ‘Because you’re worth it.’ Many young adults
have devoured the message
and are now in debt, unable to
pay for the things they
“deserve.” What the Bible says. The Bible acknowledges the need for
money. (Ecclesiastes 7:12) At the same time, it warns that
“the love of money is a root of
all sorts of injurious things.” It
adds: “By reaching out for this
love some . . . have stabbed
themselves all over with many pains.” (1 Timothy 6:10) The Bible encourages us, not to
pursue material riches, but to
be content with the basic
necessities of life.—1 Timothy 6:7, 8. “Those who are determined to
be rich fall into temptation and
a snare and many senseless
and hurtful desires.”— 1 Timothy 6:9 What you can do. As a parent, examine your own attitude
toward money and the things
it can buy. Keep your priorities
straight, and help your children
to do the same. The Narcissism
Epidemic, quoted earlier, suggests: “Parents and children
can start discussions on such
topics as ‘When is buying
things on sale a good idea?
When is it a bad idea?’ ‘What’s
an interest rate?’ ‘When have you bought something because
someone else thought you
should?’” Be careful not to use “stuff” as
a drug to cover over family
issues that need to be
addressed. “Throwing material
goods at problems is a
notoriously unsuccessful solution,” says the book The
Price of Privilege. “Problems
need to be addressed with
thought, insight, and empathy,
not shoes and purses.”

EACH day presents people with
numerous opportunities to do
kind things for others. It may
appear, though, that many
think only of themselves. You
see evidence of that nearly everywhere—from the
shameless way people defraud
others to the aggressive way
they drive, from their crude
language to their explosive
tempers. A me-first mentality also exists
in many homes. For example,
some spouses divorce simply
because one partner feels that
he or she “deserves better.”
Even some parents may unwittingly sow the seeds of a
me-first spirit. How? By
indulging their child’s every
whim, while hesitating to
administer any kind of
discipline. By contrast, many other
parents are training their
children to put others before
self, and with great benefits.
Children who are considerate
are more likely to make friends and to enjoy stable
relationships. They are also
more likely to be content.
Why? Because, as the Bible
says, “there is more happiness
in giving than there is in receiving.”—Acts 20:35. If you are a parent, how can
you help your children to reap
the benefits of being kind and
to avoid being contaminated
by the self-absorbed culture
that surrounds them? Consider three traps that could foster a
me-first spirit in your children,
and see how you can avoid
those traps. 1 Overpraising The problem. Researchers have
noted a disturbing
trend: Many young
adults are entering
the workforce with
a marked sense of entitlement—an attitude in
which they expect success,
even if they have done little or
nothing to earn it. Some just
assume that they will be
promoted quickly, even without mastering their trade.
Others are convinced that they
are special and deserve to be
treated that way—and then
they become dejected when
they realize that the world does not share their view. What is behind it. Sometimes a sense of entitlement can be
traced back to how a person
was raised. For example, some
parents have been unduly
influenced by the self-esteem
movement that has become popular in recent decades. Its
tenets seemed plausible: If a
little praise is good for kids, a
lot of praise is better. On the
other hand, the thinking was
that showing any type of disapproval will only
discourage a child. And in a
world on a mission to build
self-esteem, that was
considered the epitome of
irresponsible parenting. Children must never be made
to feel bad about themselves—
or so parents were told. Many fathers and mothers thus
began lavishing a constant
flow of praise upon their
children, even when those
children did nothing
particularly praiseworthy. Each accomplishment, no matter
how small, was celebrated;
each indiscretion, no matter
how large, was overlooked.
Those parents believed that
the secret to building self- esteem was to ignore the bad
and praise everything else.
Making children feel good
about themselves became
more important than teaching
them to accomplish things that they could actually feel good
about. What the Bible says. The Bible acknowledges that praise is
appropriate when it is
deserved. (Matthew 25:19-21) But praising children simply to
make them feel good may
cause them to develop a
distorted view of themselves.
The Bible aptly states: “If
anyone thinks he is something when he is nothing, he is
deceiving his own
mind.” (Galatians 6:3) For good reason, the Bible tells parents:
“Don’t fail to correct your
children. You won’t kill them
by being firm.” *—Proverbs 23:13, Contemporary English Version. What you can do. Make it your goal to give correction when it
is needed and commendation
when it is genuinely deserved.
Do not dole out praise just to
make your children feel good
about themselves. Likely, it will not work. “True self-
confidence comes from honing
your talents and learning
things,” says the book
Generation Me, “not from being
told you’re great just because you exist.” “Do not think of yourself more
highly than you should.
Instead, be modest.”—Romans 12:3, Good News Translation 2 Overprotecting The problem. Many young adults
entering the
workforce seem ill-
prepared to cope
with adversity.
Some are devastated by the slightest criticism. Others are
finicky and will accept only
work that meets their highest
expectations. For example, in
the book Escaping the Endless
Adolescence, Dr. Joseph Allen tells of a young man who said
to him during a job interview:
“I get the sense that
sometimes parts of the work
can be a little boring, and I
don’t want to be bored.” Dr. Allen writes: “He didn’t
seem to understand that all
jobs have some boring
elements. How did one make it
to age twenty-three without
knowing that?” What is behind it. In recent decades, many parents have
felt compelled to protect their
children from any type of
adversity. Your daughter failed
a test? Intervene and demand
that the teacher raise the grade. Your son received a
traffic ticket? Pay the fine for
him. A failed romance? Lay all
the blame on the other person. While it is natural to want to
protect your children,
overprotecting them can send
the wrong message—that they
do not need to take
responsibility for their actions. “Instead of learning that they
can survive pain and
disappointment, and even
learn from it,” says the book
Positive Discipline for
Teenagers, “[such] children grow up extremely self-
centered, convinced that the
world and their parents owe
them something.” What the Bible says. Adversity is a part of life. In fact, the
Bible says: “Bad things happen
to everyone!” ( Ecclesiastes 9:11, Easy-to-Read Version) That includes good people. The
Christian apostle Paul, for
example, endured all manner
of hardship during the course
of his ministry. Yet, facing up
to adversity benefited him! He wrote: “I have learned, in
whatever circumstances I am,
to be self-sufficient. . . . I have
learned the secret of both how
to be full and how to hunger,
both how to have an abundance and how to suffer
want.”—Philippians 4:11, 12. What you can do. Taking into account the maturity level of
your children, strive to follow
the Bible principle: “We each
must carry our own
load.” (Galatians 6:5, CEV) If your son receives a traffic
ticket, it might be best to let
him pay the fine out of his
allowance or salary. If your
daughter fails a test, perhaps
that should be a wake-up call to her so that next time she
will be better prepared. If your
son experiences the breakup of
a romance, comfort him—but
at the appropriate time help
him to reflect on questions such as, ‘In hindsight, has this
experience revealed any ways
in which I need to grow?’
Children who work through
their problems build resilience
and self-confidence—assets they might lack if someone
was constantly rescuing them. “Let each one prove what his
own work is, and then he will
have cause for exultation.”— Galatians 6:4 3 Overproviding The problem. In a survey of young
adults, 81 percent
said that the most
important goal of
their generation is
‘to become rich’— rating it far above helping
others. But striving for wealth
does not bring contentment. In
fact, research indicates that
people who focus on material
things are less happy and more depressed. They also have a
higher rate of physical and
mental problems. What is behind it. In some cases, children are being raised
in materialistic families.
“Parents want to make their
children happy, and children
want stuff,” says the book The
Narcissism Epidemic. “Thus parents buy them stuff. And
children are happy, but only for
a short period of time. Then
they want even more stuff.” Of course, the advertising
industry has been all too eager
to exploit this hungry
consumer market. It promotes
such ideas as ‘You deserve the
best’ and ‘Because you’re worth it.’ Many young adults
have devoured the message
and are now in debt, unable to
pay for the things they
“deserve.” What the Bible says. The Bible acknowledges the need for
money. (Ecclesiastes 7:12) At the same time, it warns that
“the love of money is a root of
all sorts of injurious things.” It
adds: “By reaching out for this
love some . . . have stabbed
themselves all over with many pains.” (1 Timothy 6:10) The Bible encourages us, not to
pursue material riches, but to
be content with the basic
necessities of life.—1 Timothy 6:7, 8. “Those who are determined to
be rich fall into temptation and
a snare and many senseless
and hurtful desires.”— 1 Timothy 6:9 What you can do. As a parent, examine your own attitude
toward money and the things
it can buy. Keep your priorities
straight, and help your children
to do the same. The Narcissism
Epidemic, quoted earlier, suggests: “Parents and children
can start discussions on such
topics as ‘When is buying
things on sale a good idea?
When is it a bad idea?’ ‘What’s
an interest rate?’ ‘When have you bought something because
someone else thought you
should?’” Be careful not to use “stuff” as
a drug to cover over family
issues that need to be
addressed. “Throwing material
goods at problems is a
notoriously unsuccessful solution,” says the book The
Price of Privilege. “Problems
need to be addressed with
thought, insight, and empathy,
not shoes and purses.”

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