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A friend complained to me about her relationship. According to her, her boyfriend does not communicate with her daily. I asked, " how often does he calls? She said like four times a week. I smiled... Then asked her again, assuming he doesn't call at all, what would have been your reaction? She became mute and didn't utter a word again.

You see, humans are the most difficult creature. No wonder God even regretted creating us initially. And please don't say is women. The fact that I used a woman as an instance does not imply men ain't guilty too. Both gender are guilty of this. It is an individual trait.

We are insatiable to the core. And we abuse things a lot. Forgetting that being opportune to have something a times is not because we deserve or merited it. But because favour and fate decided to smile on us. but unfortunately, we abuse the privilege.

He calls, you complain he doesn't call daily. I have to remind you that there are people begging for attention from their partner. And Not even "mere chat" from them.

He doesn't give you complain, he manages to give, you still complain is not sufficient? How much have you given? Or do you think he is allergic to receiving?Do you know there are people who haven't received a dime not even a hundred naira recharge card, yet ain't complaining. and here you are abusing a privilege.

She doesn't visit, you complain. She visits you still complain, there are people who does not know the route to their partner's house.

Be contended, and learn to value what you have. It came to you by fate, not because you deserved it.. Stop looking at others. Not everyone would share their
True story. Some are just suffering and smiling in their relationship. Disguising themselves to be in a happy relationship. whereas they are enduring.

In this hard time, Appreciate the one who still sees the need and importance of giving and calling.

In this corrupt world full of immorality, deception and lame excuses, appreciate the one who still makes out his/ her time to visit you despite their busy schedules.

Value what you have now, before someone else grabs the privilege you abuse. For more relationship tips, visit my blog@ www.loveonet.com

I can't help but marvel at the kind of outrageous and ridiculous stories we often hear this days.

A guy beats a lady for dumping him after paying her tuition fees of 20k.

Smiles, it sounds funny though, but this could only surface as a result of not defining a relationship on the onset.

I've always told people, a real relationship goes beyond visiting each other and professing your undying love for one another, romancing or sharing intimate body parts. Sometimes you need to ask your self, what do I stand to gain in this relationship? are we really in for something serious or just dating for fun?
Do we have a chance in the future or just having momentary pleasure?
I think all this funny stories will be minimized if we starts defining a relationship from the onset before venturing into one.

What do I mean by this?

please don't give out what you can't afford to loose with the intention to please her or have her all to yourself. The truth is that humans are unpredictable, what will be would definitely be.
Give because you want to give, give or render any financial assistance as an act of generosity and not as a reward for marriage. Unless there was an agreement on that. Even if there was, have it in mind that not all relationship would lead to marriage, so you don't end up with some sort of weird attitude if peradventure she dumps you.

For the ladies.
Please, if you reject the devil, also reject whatever he offers. The days are hard and the devil is gradually penetrating into people's heart. not every guy out there is is a gentle man, Not every guy would forget easily or allow you go Scot free after enjoying his hard earned money and toiling with his emotions afterwards.
You've chopped Emeka, and you were glad you did. Now Emeka struggled to move on with his life . Your next target is Chinedu, just know that Chinedu might not be soft hearted like Emeka..... This is a variation in human traits.

You didn't force him I know, like majority would try to justify. But then, why trigger a fire that you know you can't quench?why accept him in the first place, with the intention of enjoying his luxury, when you know you don't have an atom of feeling for him.
Why allow him train you to a certain level, when is obvious he has the intention of marriage, and you know you won't accept his proposal at the long run.
This is not right? Don't you have conscience? If someone does it to any of your siblings, how would you feel?
Just be careful, not all persons would take it lightly with you. Some are ready to fight with their last blood. It might not be a physical fight but spiritual. There are lots of people passing through some strange stuff they can't even explain and They blame it on their village people without knowing it is nemesis and karma taking its toll on them as a result of their past deeds.

karma is real.
live right to avoid story that touches....

Chinenye blessing. For more relationship tips visit my blog @www.loveonet. com

For Married/singles.

Though not married, but am Inspired to write this..........

I've discovered that the only (1+1=1 ).language married couples especially men understands most is sex.
And a man shall live his parents and cleave unto his wife and they shall become one. There wasn't any specification or condition attached to the oness. Aside being legally married.

So why do most men understands oneness only when the issue of sex pops up? What happens to oneness in understanding, tolerance and respect.

Some men would treat their wives as crap, and disrespect them in public. When she denies him sex. Hell will let loose. And all of a sudden, he would remember they are one. And start calling up family meetings to know why his wife must deny him sex...... Is that so?

This category of men are the ones who would forcefully have sex with their wife without her consent. Then goes ahead to justify themselves as not being a rapist with the guise that her body belongs to him. What happens to respect?

You care about the body alone, what about the heart that gives the body life and energy to perform? Dont you that whatever happens to the heart, would equally affect the body. If you let the heart pass through hurt, the body gets affected too.

Respect, love and understanding is the primary definition of oneness in marriage. Oneness implies that you both are one regardless of the age qualification or gender.

If you are always acting bossy on your wife, disregards her opinion and ignores her ideas. You are not one but two different individuals living together under one roof.

When last did you get close to your wife? Chatted, discussed and played with her like your playmate, aside when you want sex.

When last did you compliment your wife? apart from compliments on bed.

Oneness should include every aspects of your marriage.
Oneness includes living as best friends and not flat mates.

Chinenye Blessing Nnamani. For more relationship counselling visit my blog @www. Loveonet. Com

A lot of folks still believes that there is nothing wrong with dating your Ex's friend. But I still insist that everything is wrong with that. While it may work out for guys, it usually doesn't work out for women.

As a woman, dating your ex's friend is like digging your own grave while still alive. You know why?

I've never seen two blossom male friends loose their friendship all because of a woman. Though it does happen. But the possibility is rare as to be compared with that of women. Women can ditch their fellow women just to have a man. But men may beef on their fellow men, have a little misunderstanding, but would rather

loose the woman than loose their friendship. This is just an undeniable fact.

Don't ever try to date your ex's friend with the intent of getting back at your Ex. It usually doesn't work out especially if you were sexually involved with him in the relationship. Most a times, it is usually a set up to lure you or make jest of you . And when you fall prey, you will end up feeling used and frustrated on realizing it was all a game.

Be careful as not to be a victim. For more relationship tips. Visite my site @loveonet. Continue

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