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Did they confront you and told you it was over?
Or were you ghosted? Let's have fun.

FACTS ABOUT MEN.

Men are not fascinated by emotions, but rather they are rational being who loves being real.

Unlike women, men are known by their decisions. They often stand firm to it, no matter the cost. Their yes is often their yes, and their No, their "no". When a man says its "over". Avoid begging or trying to force it, because they will rarely reverse their decisions.

Men take their time to think through before making any decision, unlike women who do that in a haste, and that is why they don't take it back.

Men are thrilled by unavailability. The more you give them a breathing space, the more they long for you. They dislike neediness, avoid it at all cost.

Men love independent women, they love it when they realize that you also have a life aside relationship.

Men unlike women love a time alone when they are passing through challenges. They hardly open up as a result of their manly EGO. They want to believe they can handle their issues without involving anyone. So when he began to withdraw, find out what is going on in his life, don't conclude yet.

What killed the feelings you once had for someone?

Physical attraction is as important as character and trait when searching for a life partner. Do not let anyone deceive you on that.

Character might be the beauty of any man/ woman, but then, first impression matters. How do you intend to ascertain the character of a man/ woman whom ain't you impressed by her looks.

How would you get close to someone whom you ain't physically or sexually attracted to?
If marriage eventually happens, how do you intend to spend together with someone whom you never had feelings with?

This is one of the leading cause of infidelity in our society today. Most people are in a loveless marriage because they neglected physical attraction which ought to be a part of their spec or desired quality. Even though they ended up with that God fearing, responsible, talented, man, yet they are not fulfilled, because there was no attraction. Hence the infidelity. A case of keeping a good woman at home, but getting satisfaction outside.

Feeling don't grow like trees, it is important to have them present at the initial stage, while considering other attributes.

All men are scum! This statement is one of the most common statement that usually emerge from ladies who've had several bitter experiences in relationship. The statement is usually borne out of brokenness, bitterness, emotional trauma and severe heartache.

Sometimes, this mindset or perception. Continue@
https://loveonet.com/men-are-scum-how-true-is-this/

A friend wants to know if his guy actually loves her. The relationship is new and the guy flaunts him everywhere on social media especially on Facebook.

She first changed her status to "in a relationship" the guy accepted and did the same. Ever since then, it has been using his pictures as cover photos, while she does the same. The relationship is a distant one (he's based in abroad).

She is having doubts though, but this flaunting of pictures is giving her z second thought. What's your opinion guys?

Should you share your secret with your partner?

I came across a trend on Facebook where a question was asked on whether is right to share your past life with your partner?

On Reading the comments, I discovered that a lot of people was against sharing your past with a partner as that might affect the trust in the relationship.

But then, what works for A might not work for B. Do you know that a lot of relationship has ended because of lack of transparency.
And a lot has equally ended because a truth was finally revealed.

I think the summary of this is, try to understand your partner before hiding or revealing any past relationship history to him/ her. Not everybody can handle the past.
To some, it is now a past, while to others, it is such a big deal, and they will keep reminiscing on it every now and then.
And most importantly, observe how transparent your partner is, if he/ she is the type that reveals every secret to you including his/ her past, then hiding yours will become a disaster waiting to explode, especially if it has correlation with the present.

That a relationship has come to end doesn't mean you should become an enemy to your ex. You can be friends.

But when you discover that the friendship is going out of boundary, try as much as possible to cut off.

Yes I say block him, if you can't control the feelings.
The truth is that you can't be friends with an ex when you are still hurting. You are only putting on flames of fire you may not be able to quench when the heat becomes intense.

So when is the proper time to reconnect with an ex as friends after a break up?

When you've moved on. ( making sure there are no more feelings attached).

When you are happily married or in a relationship with another. ( note the word) " happily. Not forcing yourself in a relationship to forget about him/ her. Once you've moved on, love will certainly find you naturally.

Have you ever met an online friend? I first saw this question on a popular page. And going through the comments, I read so many positive confessions about peeps who testified that their online meeting became successful as they are happily married.
Now going further, I discovered some other commenter who were shocked and were asking what version of the Facebook were they using so they can download theirs and meet their own spouse.

Helo sis,

This is not about the version of Facebook. Neither is it a rocket science. Is very simple, learn to be polite and always apply courtesy even on line. But first, you must erase that mindset that social media friends are all fake and unreal. Remember you are on the same platform, if you ain't fake, then why do believe every other person is fake. Fake and real people abounds everywhere( offline and online). You only have to apply caution.

Secondly, always be mindful of your post and comments. Don't comment or post anything that comes to your mind just for fun. Stop replying to people in a rude or aggressive manner. If possible, maintain your silence , you must not reply to every insulting post or comment, it shows maturity. Try to be humble and or. Stop ignoring messages, you never can tell where your destiny helper will emerge from. Even if you are not interested, please be polite and tell him. Is not just about your facial looks and shape. People are watching all these.
First impression they say matters a lot. You might overlook

I've been busy have destroyed a lot of relationships.
5 out of every 10 relationship issues is usually centered on negligence and lack of attention.
When a man or woman is bothered about your negligence and lack of attention, it doesn't always mean she's jobless. It simply means she/ he loves you. Her interest for you is unnegotiable.

No one says you should abandon your job in the pursuit of love or relationship. But learn to strike a balance.
As demanding as your job is, do you forget to eat or take your bath? This is because, you see these activities as a priority. Why not include him/ her in your schedule, i.e if you love them and value your relationship well enough. We only give relevance to things that is of so much value to us.

How do you reconcile the fact that you are dating someone and you can comfortably stay one week without checking up on them. And the usual defensive statement is " but that doesn't mean I don't love him/ her. Excuse me!!! Love is a verb, not a now. It is best expressed and not declared. You don't have to harbour it in your mind, you need to show it to them.
It doesn't take the whole day. Just a minute voice note during your leisure/ break time or even amides of work would have solved it.
Or a minute call after work....these things are not really difficult as we thought. Is just that we don't prioritize our partner or include them in our schedule.

When men says they don't want a liability. It doesn't always imply that they are looking for a woman who works in a chevron or any other big firm. At least I know this for responsible and matured men and not for leeches looking for women to shoulder their financial burdens on.

Liability does not always mean a woman who isn't working yet. Liability in quote to a responsible man refers to a woman who knows nothing about handling finances, such women can't manage resources but can spend and demand incessantly.

All they are interested in is buying expensive items. They don't care if you are making profit or loosing. They don't care about the source, but the supply.

Not everyone is opportune to be gainfully employed, not everyone has money to start up a business. You may not have both, but please try as much as possible to possess a managerial skill. A virtuous woman is not a woman who works in a big company, but a woman who knows how to manage her husband resources.

Always help him make a good budget/ plan. Know when he's spending unnecessarily and call him to order. Once in a while, give him a good suggestion or opinion on a business idea. He needs to know that he got married to an intellectual woman, and not a parasite. Be a woman that manages wealth, not the one that squanders wealth.
With such qualities, he will trust you enough to establish a business for you, if he has the resources at his disposal.

A young bachelor was about getting married. He was caught in between a date whom he had known right from his Nysc days, and his present girl whom he had dated for three years.

He didn't spend much time with his nysc girl as both were separated by distance during their PPA. But he felt that what he has for this nysc girl was more stronger than what he has for his present girl.

Few weeks later, he bumped into his ex, the feelings resurfaced again. Even though he knew that his present girlfriend was an idea woman to get married to, he was moved by emotions for the ex. When he couldn't control it any longer, he called off the engagement with his fiancee. And got married to the Ex.
Few months after the wedding, marital problem set in, as he discovered that it wasn't love he felt initially but infatuation. They both had nothing in common. It was full of regrets, but sadly, he couldn't turn back the hands of time.

Not every fly that flies to your tummy is butterfly. Some are tse tse fly, while some are housefly, with carriers of regrets at the end.
Marriage is a life time commitment and emotions alone is not enough to sustain it.
Watch what you feel, Not every feeling is qualified to be termed "love". It could be infatuation.
Infatuation glitters and seems more appealing but deceptive, it occurs so fast but rarely last long. True love is time factored, it is patient, may not be appealing at first, but lasts longer than you can imagine.

He wooed you, you declined at first, but asked him to give you time to think about it.
He waited and waited, yet no response. Two months have gone already, still no positive response from you as You were still indecisive
He decided to move on, rather than get stuck on the friend zone forever.

As soon as he moved on and got someone else, you became angry and concluded that he never really loved you otherwise he would have waited as long as you wished.

Smiles, sweet heart, not every man has that time and patient to wait,,and not every man is persuasive either. As a matter of fact, any responsible man in need of a committed relationship detests indecision a lot because he knows what he wants and might not be able to tolerate a lady who doesn't know what she wants and can be easily distracted. Is Only boys who still want to flirt that are usually persuasive.

I understand that you want to play hard to get, is fine, but don't overdo it. Don't stretch it for so long.
Pretending not to have interest, when you are actually interested will not make you to be held in high esteem by your admirer.
Have you heard of playing hard to forget? I think that's what you should be craving for.
Is not about taking forever to accept them and then they will suddenly realize that you never worth their time.
But accepting, and then giving them so much vibes and value that they find hard to resist.

I lost Access to my Facebook account with my huge fan page on it, as the hacker changed all my login details including email phone number and username. Created a new one and made reports through friends, and equally submitted an imposter form. The accounts was finally taken down, and new one disabled probably because I used the same email.

My old account is no more with the hacker, is there a way to retrieve it back? Still seeing my fan page though when I search but can't access it, but personal account has been taken down already .

Good day,

I was the one that posted about having issues with my guy as a result of a text I sent to him out of anger. The text was about a girl he normally comments on her picture with lots of words of endearment even telling her that he loves her. I have confronted him about that before he told me is nothing, but i wasn't convinced, so i sent him a text that it is obvious he is dating her, and he blocked me after all the attempt to reach out to him. After giving him a little space as he said, I later tried with another, this time not to plead but to ask him if he still wants to be with me, which he replied that he's done.

I am heartbroken now, someone should please guide me on the tips to move on.

Good day,

I was the one that posted about having issues with my guy as a result of a text I sent to him out of anger. The text was about a girl he normally comments on her picture with lots of words of endearment even telling her that he loves her. I have confronted him about that before he told me is nothing, but i wasn't convinced, so i sent him a text that it is obvious he is dating her, that he should continue with her, and he blocked me after all the attempt to reach out to him. After giving him a little space as he said, I later tried with another, this time not to plead but to ask him if he still wants to be with me, which he replied that he's done.

I am heartbroken now, someone should please guide me on the tips to move on.

was the one that posted about having issues with my guy as a result of a text I sent to him out of anger. The text was about a girl he normally comments on her picture with lots of words of endearment even telling her that he loves her. I have confronted him about that before he told me is nothing, but i wasn't convinced, so i sent him a text that it is obvious he is dating her, and he blocked me after all the attempt to reach out to him. After giving him a little space as he said, I later tried with another, this time not to plead but to ask him if he still wants to be with me, which he replied that he's done.

I am heartbroken now, I don't know if I overreacted or my guess was actually true

I was the one that posted about having issues with my guy as a result of a text I sent to him out of anger. The text was about a girl he normally comments on her picture with lots of words of endearment even telling her that he loves her. I have confronted him about that before he told me is nothing, but i wasn't convinced, so i sent him a text that it is obvious he is dating her, and he blocked me after all the attempt to reach out to him. After giving him a little space as he said, I later tried with another, this time not to plead but to ask him if he still wants to be with me, which he replied that he's done.

I am heartbroken now, someone should please guide me on the tips to move on.

Do you use the block button when your partner offends you and for how long?

had issues with my guy. I was literally at fault as I sent him a hurtful message over an assumption without clarifying from him.

He blocked me on both WhatsApp and Facebook. I changed a number and chatted him on WhatsApp, he still blocked it. I finally got through him with my friend's WhatsApp number. After several attempts, he finally picked my calls. He talked so calmly to me, and asked why I reacted that way, I said nothing, but was only apologizing. He said he will talk to me later. He expressed how hurt he was, and reminded me that it wasn't the first time I was doing that. I kept apologizing, promising him that it won't happen again.
I waited for his call,, to no avail. I texted again, he still blocked me, and left the message. " I need space for now, I am sorry. Is that a good bye message?

Have you ever blocked your partner because you are angry with them or having issues? How long did it take before talking to them again?

, I had issues with my guy. I was literally at fault as I sent him a hurtful message over an assumption without clarifying from him.

He blocked me on both WhatsApp and Facebook. I changed a number and chatted him on WhatsApp, he still blocked it. I finally got through him with my friend's WhatsApp number. After several attempts, he finally picked my calls. He talked so calmly to me, and asked why I reacted that way, I said nothing, but was only apologizing. He said he will talk to me later. He expressed how hurt he was, and reminded me that it wasn't the first time I was doing that. I kept apologizing, promising him that it won't happen again.
I waited for his call,, to no avail. I texted again, he still blocked me, and left the message. " I need space for now, I am sorry. Is that a good bye message?

When a guy who has been your friend, though you both do not reside in the same state,tells you he wanna visit you. And then ask you what your mum likes. Mind you, he hasn't asked you out yet. What does it mean? Thought the visit has to be on a neutral ground.

When a guy who has been your friend, though you both do not reside in the same area tells you he wanna visit you. And then ask you what your mum likes. Mind you, he hasn't asked you out yet. What does it mean? Thought the visit has to be on a neutral ground.

There's this friend of mine that helped me get when I was emotionally traumatized in my relationship. He was there for me at such period. Though we stay in different states. But became close pals, always chatting and calling. At s point, I began to grow feelings for him. initially, I thought the feelings was the same cos a times he will come with some kind of green lights. He once shared a business idea with me when i sought for an advise from him. Telling me that we can partner in the business, he promised to assist me with a little money and then at the end of the month, I will send him whatever I can out of the proceed. Then after that he made a statement. That if he comes marry me, we' ll expand it to other business venture. I jokingly mentioned our name, but in bold letters he wrote a name which he expects it to be. So all these made me think he had feelings for me, but maybe shy to open up. When I couldn't take it anymore, I decided to open up. What I've never done in my life. But I was disappointed. At first, it sounded like , he was glad I did. But at a point, he blatantly told me that he's not ready for any relationship now as he fixed his wedding last year but his then girl disappointed her. I felt embarrassed and humiliated. At some other days, he will apologize for hurting my feelings and telling me that it was because he's in the phase of his life that everything seems confusing to him. That it was no longer what his reasoning can handle that I should join him in prayers. I don't understand what ye meant by that, but Am just emotionally down. No matter how I try to get him off my mind, I just can't. is obvious he doesn't feel the same way or what do you think? I need to get over him.

And so many women have been wondering.

Why do men spend so much time in wooing ladies, why do they spend so much resources in trying to gain a woman's attention, and then they become so busy all of a sudden once their mission has been accomplished? Now you finding yourself stuck in the road, and helplessly in love as they vanish into thin air.

Now let me share a little secret.
The thrill does not rely in how long he spend wooing you, but how best he sees you after the chase.
Am pretty sure that you've heard a lot of men use the statement that they can't continue running campaign once the election is over. This literally means that once the chase is over, there's usually an expectation from whom they wooed. But unfortunately, a lot got disappointed as they discover that the content is quite different from the container.
The content does not actually glitter as they taught.
See, is not about the pretty face, or body shapes. He's probably seen this before coming to you. As a matter of fact, that was what got him attracted in the first place. But he needs something more valuable and substantial to sustain his interest. else he will disappear to the next victim.

We've often heard about the popular saying. " familiarity breeds concept. So many people are scared of given their all in a relationship as a result of insecurity. A handful of others are currently being taken for granted. And the conclusion was that " they were too available, and that's why it is happening that way. But the question is, does too much attention equate to less attention or mere fallacy? Let's find out from this beautiful piece and video.
https://loveonet.com/does-being-too-available-reduce-value/

Playing games in a relationship, when is it necessary? And when is becoming a wrong idea which might probably turn the other person off.

Playing hard to get in a relationship is so common especially at the early years of the relationship where everyone craves to be loved and cherished without giving out the impression of being desperate and needy.

At first, we may want to careless, or pretend not be fully attached with our partner so as to get their maximum attention.

Some people go as far as ghosting their partner or paying little or less attention to the relationship in other to induce the other's interest or make the other person become more pushy. We've heard about the saying.
https://loveonet.com/when-playing-games-in-a-relationship-becomes-bad/

Hello sisters.
Listen attentively , let me give you a little gist and hint.

You've all heard of playing hard to get!!! But I tell this Era has passed. Right now, what is in vogue is " playing hard to forget".
What do I mean by these two words.

When a man approaches you or tries to toast you, is natural and expected of you to start doing the Norman women "shakara" of pretending not to be interested even if you are. Right within you, he may be in possession of dope qualities you desire, but you don't want to appear cheap or desperate.

Then you snob him, expecting him to keep chasing you like a cock on a heat period. Well, for serious and responsible men who wants a committed relationship. He may not have all the time.

That stunt may signal lack of interest and give him the impression that you ain't into him. And thus may back off. While the player and flirt type will never rest at this period. As a matter of fact, they will see your shakara and forming as a challenge to them till they get down with you. Some will even go as far as betting with their friends to get you at all cost. And once they do " shakara don end".you will be the one to regret by loosing a responsible man over a player.

But this is what is like to play hard to forget.

You humble yourself and adopt a good manner of approach in other to attract and receive a potential mate. When a man comes to you, and he looks responsible. Rather than turn him off with aggressive and rude expression. You give him that

Facial and warm reception. You may not accept his advances right away, but try to be close to him and adopt a friendly attitude. Your behaviour and manner of approach at this point will convince him of your exceptional qualities. As the friendship begins, you begins to build yourself more, physically, intellectual and otherwise. This will boast his brain as his yearns for your attention more. At that point, you may want to accept his proposal right away. Even if it takes a few days/ weeks. he will not tag you cheap seeing that you've a lot to offer. You may not be hard to get in this scenario but automatically, you will become hard to forget.

African women particularly Nigerian women should come off with the mentality that playing hard to get will make them gain more respect than accepting a proposal right away.

As long as you are reserved, as long as you have values and dignity in addition to other admirable qualities. Any man will respect you, even if you accept him the day he wooed you.
But after playing hard to get for several months/ years and you finally accepts and jumps to bed with him immediately. You've outrightly sold your value. He( especially) players will value you less. This is what makes a lady cheap.

Should I tell him how I feel towards him? Should I make my feelings obvious, or would i be considered as cheap and desperate?

These are one of the fears most ladies have towards being the first to make a move or approach a guy especially in our society where such is considered to be absurd .

https://loveonet.com/should-i-tell-him-how-i-feel/

A girl summoned courage to let a guy know how she feels about him. They have been friends.
The guy expressed shock over it, he didn't give a straight reply but went ahead to say that he's been praying earnestly for God to show him his own as he has been feeling lonely and bored. Pls what does that mean?