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It seems like there is a gender war going on this days all over the social media. Men have come to believe that all women are materialistic and money freaks. While women have accepted the assumption that all men are sex meniacs and cheat.

Everyone is taking sides on genders. I will always be neutral because out of billions of men in the world. I barely know a thousand. So who am i to judge from my experience or assumption, when i haven't been with all. I will advise each and everyone of us to reason in a similar way. There is no point taking sides. A good individual will always be a good one irrespective of his/her gender.

If you look around you, you will notice that wedding invitations are coming up every week. Introductions and traditional marriages being done on regular basis.
Now as a man ask your self this . How many estates or apartments do this men possess? How many landed property do they have? How many empires have they built. Have you ever considered that most are still living on a rented apartment, yet they still have a woman who accepted their proposal.

As a woman, ask yourself.this .if all men are really perverts , sex maniac or generally bad. Do you think they would have a woman who would accept to walk down the isle with them? If all were players would they have thought of getting married to their damsel.

Stop generalizing, stop living in assumption. Wheather you believe it or yes. people are meeting their soul mate. Pray to meet yours soon. Pray that your paths would cross soon. I mean your own and not some other person's. You need one who would understand you. He is not all men, she is not all women. They are simply whom they are. Don't allow your asumption make them slip away from you or walk pass you. Give love a chance again despite your broken heart.

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Addictions are like thorn in the flesh. Today you decide not to do them anymore, tomorrow you find yourself falling back to the same temptation again. It is like slavery, it has ruined so many lives and destroyed so many destiny. Are you seeking for a way to quit? Perhaps you might be wondering how to go aboout it. Worry no more..you a'int alone. So many others are struggling with that.

Read this tips to enable you
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Long courtship is becoming a norm in today's society, as a result of rise in the rate of divorce. So many people believe that courting for so long will enable them prevent such occureance. But then do you think that long courtship is a criteria in determining a successful martiage. Do you think that by courting your to be spouse for long, you will definitely know everything about them? Find out here @https://loveonet.com/does-long-courtship-guarantee-sucessful-marriage/

Having an egocentric partner could be a daunting experience. He/she hardly apologize even when they are at fault. They always feel they are doing you a huge favour being with you. They make you feel insecure all the time. They place more value on their Ego more than the relationship because they feel you are replaceable. It takes two to tango. A relastionship can never thrive well when the other always feels reluctant in putying effort to make it work. But there are ways to handle such kind of people. Read here to understand how https://loveonet.com/how-to-handle-an-egocentric-partner/

Sometimes in life, we run from pillar to post, helter and skelter looking for a source of livelihood. Without realizing that it is right under us. Your greatness in life most times in you, but most times, we prefer chasing after shadows. To unleash means to release or let go. Remember you can't let go of something you a'int in possession of. Read this to understand how to unleash the greatness in you.https://loveonet.com/unleashing-your-greatness/

Guys please help me, am finding it very hard letting go of the man i love. Our relationship was sweet and memorqble. All of a sudden, he began to withdraw. With the reason he dpesn't want a relationship at the moment but wants to focus on building in his career. I understand the fact that he has no stable job yet aside N power. But i wasn't demanding. I loved him whole heartedly and was ready to stand by him and support him. Am surprised he is pushing me out of his life just because he wants to focus. He said he wont stop loving me, but the fact that we are no more together is something bothering me. I have decided to let him be, but is not easy. Guys, does it really mean that suppirting and standing by a man is mere illusion and doesn't exist.because when i try to do, they will always be the one to withdraw like i am a distraction. What shoulf i do?

We have been dating for eight months. I'm that kind of girl that often shows commitment when in love. I don't double date. I don't cheat..when am in love with someone, i give it my best and ensure he is just the one. So far, he has been good to me, but all of a sudden, i noticed that the rate at which he calls suddenly reduced. When i asked him, he said he wants to move out from relationship and concentrate with his life but that doesn't mean he has stopped caring.
I decided to give him space, but it has not been easy. He said he doesn't want to commit or tie me down... That if is the will of God that we would be together, fine but right now, he a'int sure and he expects me to live my life freely.

In as much as i love him and am willing to wait, but with what he is saying, it means i shouldn't wait. Am confused, should i give up on him. Does it mean that is now wrong to stick to a guy you love even when he is not financially ready.what should i do?

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Is blogging still lucrative this days?

This is what is killing so many relationships today.
A friend once said and i quote. "Any man that sends me 100 naira recharge and expects me to call back and thank him is wasting his time. I was like "wow". Why not send it back to him rather? Another said if she can't be coming to cook or do any other domestic chores then she shouldn't bother having me...i was like Really? Is that a signed obligation or contract.
Is high time we understand that as long as both ain't married yet, then anything he/she does for you or decides to do for you should be regarded as a"SACRIFICE". And not an "OBLIGATION".
It only shows one thing.
He/she values both "YOU" and the "RELATIONSHIP".
You may only deserve it, (i.e if you do)but a'int entitled to it.
Even married couples have their limits to which they sacrifice for one another, let alone people who a'int married yet.
Learn to appreciate. Even if they couldn't grant your request at that moment, what about the ones they did for you in the past? Is not really because you deserve it but because they truly cares. For more relationship tips, visit my website@www.loveonet.com

What does it mean when a man says he wants to quit the relationship and just be friends because he wants space to focus more on his christian life but doesnt mean he doesnt love nor care for you anymore. Also said that nothing has changed aside the fact that there is no more relationship between you both.

Note:there wasno sex in the relationship

judestefan:
what is your blog niche about?

Relationship and dating

I use rank math SEO

I am a blogger, I blog for passion. I put all my effort into it by posting consistently.
My problem:traffic.
I've tried everything including sharing my post on social media and posting on forums, but none seems to be working. Can't even boost of 20 page views. And my blog is already four months. Please bloggers in the house, how do you do it. Am getting frustrated already despite my love for writing as no one seems to care about what you put down.

Rejection is a condition or state capable of demoralizing one. . The feelings is like having a sharp object being pierced in your body, yet with no one understanding your plight.
You feel you feel like the whole world is against you, you feel like no one actually cares. I have had a taste of it too, I understand how it feels. I can't even wish that for my foes.

Your contribution often gets flapped because your worth is being measured by your size and stature.

You qualified for a job, but was given to another because you knew no one.

On your birthday, no one notices you despite the facebook notifications and constant reminder on your timeline. Not Even the group you actively participate in. They celebrate others but as soon as it was your day. Nobody gives a damn because you ain't that important .

You are always intimidated because you don't meet up to their standard and class.

You watch as they walked pass you to serve people that mattered .

If you've experienced any of this or still experiencing them relax, I have an antidote that works.

The worst thing that can happen to any man is to allow inferiority complex deter his/her dreams. You still remember Nigerian popular actors Chinedu ikedieze and Osita iheme popularly known as (Aki and paw paw) right?
Do you know that ordinarily, they wouldn't have escaped intimidation, mockery and rejections in several aspects.
Now who would have thought that this fellow would be attracting so much attention from people.

Despite their stature, They speak and walk with so much boldness they are soaring higher everyday, not even height six packs or macho body can compete with then. . One thing made it possible and I. e success.

Money they say stops nonsense. But in my own quote, I would rather say "success stops nonsense". You know why I chose success?. Money can be gotten by any means and may go down before you say Jack especially when the source ain't genure. But you see "success"it is a generic name for wealth. When your successful with a legit means, , you've already secured a permanent wealth, with doesn't just give you money, but also gives you respect and boosts your worth and confidence. Success automatically attracts respects irrespective of your stature,class or background.

You don't have to prove your worth to anyone, just work hard and become successful . Give it time and see people discovering your worth.
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From a "radio station".

And I quote "my boyfriend loves me, but he sometimes acts bossy on me, doesn't trust me, and threatens to hit me anytime I complain about his attitude. What should I do?

Really?
Is that suppose to be a joke? My problem is not even with the hittings and threat. But with the first paragraph. What is the correlation of love with threats and abuse? Am still wondering if love have some element of ethanol? if not. Why do some people get intoxicated whenever they claimed to be in love. Why do some people suddenly loose their sense of reasoning whenever they are in a relationship. This is why even if you counsel them till eternity, they will still be shouting love Upandan

At your work place, (where your source of livelihood depends. imagine your boss being too authoritative, orders you around, always speaks to you in a rude manner., and threatens to sack you at any slightest provocation, you will conclude he doesn't like nor care about you right? Yet you chose not to leave.

Then why would another fellow who has nothing to do with your daily source of living still does the same yet you claim he loves you ?

Why would you be stuck with something that doesn't put food on your table, something derives away your joy yet you refuse to let go?

I know there are a lot of people like this who are still wallowing in ignorance for fear of being alone. I just want to let you know you deserve better.

No matter what he gives or does for you that you attest to love, it does not worth it. It still doesn't indicate love.

It shows he ain't doing that for love but probably as an exchange for sex.
Where is the joy?
After providing, he hits you
Rain abuses and you and still rubs it on your face indirectly telling you. "you don't deserve this treatment or favour he does for you.
Someone who loves you wouldn't just care about you or provide for you, but they would be happy they did. To them, you deserve to be treated with so much affection. They won't rub it on your face.

Please stop abusing this word "love".it has suffered enough.for more relationship tips visit my website @www.loveonet.com

I recently saw a chat in a group where a girl allegedly lamented over her boy's friend uncaring and negligent attitude towards her on valentines day. I read further only to find out that he actually spent the whole day with her, got her a a mouth watering gift.
What was this young man's offence?
He used her mother's picture as d.p instead of hers.

She abused and rained all manner of insults on him. Accusing him of infidelity and making their relationship secrets. While the young man maintained his cool and fought so hard to be diplomatic during their discussion.

Why do we always take advantage of people's kind gesture towards us?
Why do we abuse love and care so much to the extent of allowing irrelevant issues come in between us and our partner?
Relationship is not for kids. Is for matured adults who understand what it takes to keep and maintain one. You need more than body size, age or rapid growth to be able to strive well in a relationship. Psychologically, your maturity have to evolve from your mind and reasoning. You have to see things from a more deeper and matured perspective.

When has posting d.p become a yardstick in measuring the amount of love or care a man has for you?

What you don't know is that Players does this all the time to lure their victims. , and to worsen the scenario, WhatsApp even introduced a new feature whereby you can easily block someone from seeing a particular d.p on your wall. You only choose whom you want to be allowed

To view it.
What am saying in essence?a man who wants to cheat will still find a way to cheat. Irrespective of who he has on his d.p same goes to women. That's why so many ladies are being deceived easily with unnecessary social media advert. Am not saying is bad, but don't let it be a yardstick.

Understand your partner when he says he does not want social media dramas. It doesn't necessarily mean he isn't proud of you. Look out for vital signs to be certain he truly loves you. And if there is, don't ruin it with unnecessary demands.
Picture displays does not guarantee successful marriage/ relationship. If it does, we would have the most successful marriage among celebrities.
Check out Adenkunle Gold and simi. No one knew they had dated for five years. Until they announced their wedding invitation. They caught people unawares amidst of all this social media dramas going on everywhere.
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The rate at which young people are committing suicide over matters regarding to relationship is becoming too alarming.

These are young people with promising future, but unfortunately ventured into a relationship without having a proper knowledge on how it works. And out of naivety became depressed when the drama began to unfold.

Are you a teenager, jambite or undergraduate . Please pay attention to what I have to say as you are the most vulnerable.

It would be very nice to stay away from relationship at this period. But then if you insists, which i wouldn't force on you. No problems.
But just know that relationship is full of dramas. Especially in this part of the world. And if you ain't ready for it, please don't venture in. Even a marriage which has been legalized officially isn't left out let alone a relationship that has the tendency of ending at any point in time.

Don't get carried away by the esctacy, the feelings, lust and promises at the early stage. I think this is where the problem begins.
That feelings of he is my first love, I won't find another if he breaks up with me. "my life would be meaningless without him". And before you know what had happened, depression sets in. You still have a long way to go my dear. Dont be too overwhelmed by your juvenile feelings. A lot of relationship started in school and ended in school, only few made it to graduation point . Not trying to discourage you though but to get your mind prepared in case you still wanna try.

The bitter truth is that most guys you are dating at this stage ain't including marriage plans in their budget in spite their promises. And may likely to date few others after you before settling down. They still want to explore life. And ain't ready to be tied down by one emotional heart.

So in that case, don't make relationship your priority at this stage, focus on improving your life, any relationship at this stage may be to prepare you when you finally meet the one. Don't settle with that mindset that your first love would end up as your hubby. Wake up to reality girl, it may never happen. Nobody is worth loosing life for. Only if you realize that there is a better man/woman for you in the future, you wouldn't take any drastic decision. Live up to your dream, make your parents and loved ones proud. Don't let your life span be cut short by unnecessary relationship .for more relationship tips. Visit my blog @www.loveonet.com

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Life is not complicated as we think. we give ourselves unnecessary pressures because we imitate a lot, We copy a lot. We prefer what is in vogue to what suit and brings out the best in life.

If you are using a 500 naira cream which is good on your skin. Please stick it as long as it suits your skin and makes it glow. That 500 naira cream is better than the expensive one which might not be good on you. Just because your friend uses the one of 2k and it looks good on them , does not imply it will be suitable on your skin. That's how a lot of people ended up damaging their nice complexion.

There is nothing wrong with make up. Having it moderate is good. But if you discover you look more good without it, why stress yourself because it is in vogue You must not paint or fix lashes to look beautiful. I've seen a lot of ladies who look more beautiful with no or moderate make up. But because they don't want to feel outdated. They paint and apply all artificial stuff making them appear sophisticated and scary.

Your best is not the most expensive, your best is not the most classical. Your best is simply what suits you and brings out the best in you. If we learn this principle, we would stop copying every life style, and stop subjecting ourselves to unnecessary pressures to acquire things which we can't afford.for more relationship and inspiring articles, visit my blog @www.loveonet.com

Do you know that a larger percentage of Nigerian men ain't happy with their marriage, irrespective of their wife's beauty, qualification and stature. They are cool outside but going through depression and he'll in their marriage. You envy their wife, but they regret ever meeting her.
The shape and beauty that got them attracted no longer entice them. They are tired of it already

Majority now seek for solace and comfort in the company of their friends. Their home has suddenly turned to a house where the sole purpose is to lay their heads at night.
Is usually from work straight to the bars to hang out with their friends. Then comes home at night when they are sure their wives must have slept.
Why would the thought of coming back home cross their mind? Is it to meet a woman who nags the living broad day outta their life? Or a woman who has nothing to do rather than watch telemeundo all day yet nags him for not giving him sufficient money?

Women are not left out too...
Do you know that most women today are just happy they are married. They flaunt their hubby's car, pose pictures on their expensive and luxurious apartment. But the truth is that they ain't happy.
The money is there but they are not fulfilled. (the movie Mr and Mrs confirms this, if you've watched it, you will understand what am talking about)
They have more than enough but they are lonely.
Their hubby spends excessively on them, but the spending is always accompanied with insults, bruises and scars. (if she dare talks, he would have to remind her how wretched she was before marrying her).
The hubby sees her as a sex object that he can bounce on anytime he comes back from work. Even when sick With the mentality of " I paid her bride price, therefore her body belongs to me anytime I wish to have my way. "
Her heart beat skips whenever he hears the sound of her hubby's car.
He cheats with different women and even rubs it on her face, because he believes that money rules the world including her wife. She can't voice out, either for fear of being thrown out the house.
He's bossy and talks to her rudely after all money speaks.

I call it mansion in hell, yes there is mansion, but the location is awful.
You need happiness and peace of mind in your marriage/relationship.

You need a man who rushes back home to meet you whenever he closes from work.

You need a woman who cheers you up when their is financial set back or pressures from work place.

You need a man who doesn't get mean all the time, a man whom you can talk to like your best friend, play with like your playmate, and joke with like your colleague.

You need a woman who understands your current situation and instead of giving you blood pressure, gives you suggestion, clue and encouragement.

You need a man you can trust to the point that even if he is out for some months, you wouldn't freak out.
You need that woman who would motivate you to the point that even if the going gets tough, you both would still get going.

We all need happiness, and that happiness is not tied to any factor than having a compatible partner. With the right partner, every other things falls/would fall in place at the right time including the money and luxury. For more relationship tips visit my blog@www.loveonet.com

Marrying out of pity!!!
Marriage is too sensitive to accept someone out of pity.

If someone is becoming too nice to you, gives you so much attention, takes care of you with the intention of marriage and you know you don't want them for reasons best known to you. You can't bear to hurt them or see them pass through emotional pain and Your conscience wouldn't allow you do that either or you are afraid of karma hunting you in the future . Then I would rather advise you to stop leading them on. Stop receiving favours from them. Be honest to them so they can move on. The gift or favour you receive from them is temporal, but marriage is a life time union.

This type of marriage usually doesn't work, is better to part ways than end up with someone whom your paths never crossed with.
Remember you accepted them not because you actually love them but because you can't afford to be a victim of karma. You can never be happy in such marriage. It would always be issues every now and then. You would always disagree with each other, no compatibility, no understanding. You may end up cheating on them on the wrong run which ain't cool. To avoid such.

Stop leading people on, when is obvious you don't want them to be part of your life.
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Break up's, misunderstanding, and unresolved issues so prevalence. as a result of mispriority.

Societal definition of date
(for men)
inviting a lady to an eartery or mall spoiling her with drinks, foods and gifts with the intention of getting them back via sex.

(For women)
A time to be in your best attire, invite your friends, and be ready to order as many food as you can especially one's you've always craved for.

This is why relationship today hardly last, two people would start a relationship and before you say Jack, they've already splitted. One complains of sex, the other complains of money.

The true definition of date.
A date is a romantic arrangement between two individuals with similar interest usually make and female with the intention of getting acquainted with each other, getting to understanding each other better and then deciding whether or not to move their friendship to the next level.

You are wrong if you are inviting your friends except it is a group date or he requests you that.

You are wrong if you are trying to order everything in the bid of "chopping him".it only portrays lack of self control. Some people might call it "smartness" but I call it lack of self control and manners. First impression they say matters a lot, he may not have known you for long but your attitude on the first dates speaks more about you. And would definitely send so much signals to him.

The truth is that so many people have driven their spouse to be with this single attitude. Not that he doesn't have much to spend, but he would see it as big turn off being with a woman who forgets herself at the sight of catfish . A woman who is not afraid to thread her value for pizza and barbeque. He will be like "if she can't portray discipline here" then what happens when faced with bigger challenges or scenarios.

Try to respect yourself. When asked to place an order, do that in respectful way that signifies you are well cultured. Appreciate what you are offered with and be contended. Request for another only only if you were asked to. (I.. e if need be). Be cautious at this stage, remember this is also a part of getting to know you. Don't thread permanent gain with temporal benefits.

For guys.
a date is not a time of arranging for the best hotels or guest house to have fun. It is not a time to make sexual or romantic advances either. It is just a time to talk, have a better understanding of the one you actually want to date. You equally need self control at this period. You must not display your sexual libido. That's why your house or any secluded place may not be an idea venue for the date.
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I guess You don't know he's married right?

Is OK no one has to blame you about that. But what comes to your mind when he always request you visit him in hotel or guest house? Doesn't he have a home? Or does he reside in a hotel.

He can call you in the day time for as long as he wishes, chat you up, have a nice time with you. But when it comes to night, he sets his boundaries. his phone becomes out of bound for you. , your call gets rejected or ignored. Your messages suddenly goes unreplied. Have you ever wondered what kind of job he does in the night?even security men does not have to switch off their phone or ignore calls from their loved ones when on duty at any time of the day.

Sometimes, you have to make use of your brain, don't wait till he comes out open to tell you he's married. Which would never happen, don't wait to be caught unawares, which may become too late before you realize. Don't wait till an irreversible damage is done. Most times, we see this signs, but choose to ignore. Probably because of the luxury and monetary gains he provides. All you know about him is that you are both in a relationship, you don't even know what he does for a living nor where he lives. As long as he takes care of your needs, you are OK.

Watch it girl, take your time to know whom you are getting into a relationship with before diving in. Don't get carried away by the love and attention. Most are married, and are looking for gullible ladies like you to have their life ruined. Don't fall a victim to their deception.
The truth is that no matter the level of care you think he's gat, a married man has nothing to offer you. The love and attention he lures you with is temporal. You can only enjoy it while it lasts. And before you realize what has happened, he is done with you an discards you like a waste paper. Am sure this is not the kind of life you wish for yourself. Then you have to look before leap.

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When we talk about murder, it doesn't always imply making someone loose their breath. Sometimes,the way we treat people who loves and cherishes us can paralyze their soul and kill their being emotionally.

I happened to listen to a conversation between two young men whom I pressumed to be in their early twenties. They were making jest of a lady whom according to them was so timid and insecure to the point of loosing her self worth. One of them who began the conversation talked about how she wouldn't give him a breathing space. Even a times she caught him cheating on her, she wouldn't mind. Always apologizing and begging unnecessarily which turns him off.. They tagged her as a weak woman. The other young man said he prefers ladies who are emotionally strong, crazy, who challenge their "Ego. And makes the chase interesting . To the ones that often cries like a baby. They bought laughed hysterically while cajoling the lady.

It sounds funny though, but then I have come to observe that people only value things they are afraid to loose, rather than things which are readily available.
Someone loves you, and instead of reciprocating their love, you take advantage of it, which tends to destabilize them emotionally.

They gave you their heart, expecting yours in return but you rather filled it with so much pains and regret. You are not just hurting them, you are killing them emotionally, you are changing their perception about love. in such a way that their heart may become hardened that they would begin to torment another innocent fellow who might try to show them genuine love.

The funniest thing is that, these are the same people who would be so quick to Tag women as " same" after experiencing tough moment in the hands of their so called "emotionally strong woman". They would automatically forget that they once had a " rare gem" but deliberately pushed her away away. And made her realized that they ain't worth the stress.

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There is more to being broke than just having a zero account in one's account.

Confused right? Now Chill, let me give you a better illustration.

A broke man is a visionless man.
No doubt, he has so much money in his accounts, but doesn't spend it wisely.
This type of men spend extravagantly because most of their money are gotten through dubuios means.
They don't have a genuine or standard source of living.
Savings or investment seems like a rocket science to them, because they depend greatly on their ill gotten wealth. And then what happens where they get caught or no longer see whom to dupe?
Some may not be ill gotten wealth, but gambling. Then what happens when the gambling doesn't turn out positive?


Unfortunately, most ladies often get carried away and fall victim to this category of men.
They take you out, buy you sharwama, pizza and the likes. Spoils you to your satisfaction. But they can never give you a dime to add value to your life, learn a skill or probably start up a business. How would they? When they don't even have plans for their own life? But they are ready to spend an amount equivalent to that on drinks and meats .

There is more to life than eating pizza and visiting every happening bars and restaurant in town. Ask yourself... In few years to come... Say five years, can this type of man am hanging out with be able to take care of the home,, pay the bills and probably take care of the children?



Don't be deceived by long chains and fake Gucci's ...and probably a borrowed car. Most don't have a dime apart from the money to buy hero and 5 pieces of meat.

You see them spend as much as 20k per day, you begin to blush thinking they have so much money without knowing is their last dime.

Stick to a man with vision.
To you he might be broke or stingy because he doesn't dress shabilly, or spend unnecessarily. But that's because he is investing his money wisely for a better yield tomorrow. rather than on drinks and women.

He goes out to have fun occasionally, but spend moderately.

He is always simple, he does not need to broadcast himself, but his personality speaks more of him.

But unfortunately, we tag this kind of men as "stingy or broke". Well, I don't have much to say, but now is the best time to make the right decision. Otherwise few years from now, you will still be wondering around the city with your extravagant and supposed rich dude . While the assumed "broke dude cruizes around with a woman who was patient enough to realize his worth.
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There is more to being broke than just having a zero account in one's account.

Confused right? Now Chill, let me give you a better illustration.

A broke man is a visionless man.
No doubt, he has so much money in his accounts, but doesn't spend it wisely.
This type of men spend extravagantly because most of their money are gotten through dubuios means.
They don't have a genuine or standard source of living.
Savings or investment seems like a rocket science to them, because they depend greatly on their ill gotten wealth. And then what happens where they get caught or no longer see whom to dupe?
Some may not be ill gotten wealth, but gambling. Then what happens when the gambling doesn't turn out positive?


Unfortunately, most ladies often get carried away and fall victim to this category of men.
They take you out, buy you sharwama, pizza and the likes. Spoils you to your satisfaction. But they can never give you a dime to add value to your life, learn a skill or probably start up a business. How would they? When they don't even have plans for their own life? But they are ready to spend an amount equivalent to that on drinks and meats .

There is more to life than eating pizza and visiting every happening bars and restaurant in town. Ask yourself... In few years to come... Say five years, can this type of man am hanging out with be able to take care of the home,, pay the bills and probably take care of the children?



Don't be deceived by long chains and fake Gucci's ...and probably a borrowed car. Most don't have a dime apart from the money to buy hero and 5 pieces of meat.

You see them spend as much as 20k per day, you begin to blush thinking they have so much money without knowing is their last dime.

Stick to a man with vision.
To you he might be broke or stingy because he doesn't dress shabilly, or spend unnecessarily. But that's because he is investing his money wisely for a better yield tomorrow. rather than on drinks and women.

He goes out to have fun occasionally, but spend moderately.

He is always simple, he does not need to broadcast himself, but his personality speaks more of him.

But unfortunately, we tag this kind of men as "stingy or broke". Well, I don't have much to say, but now is the best time to make the right decision. Otherwise few years from now, you will still be wondering around the city with your extravagant and supposed rich dude . While the assumed "broke dude cruizes around with a woman who was patient enough to realize his worth.

You met her, got attracted to her and fell in love.
She might be beautiful, but remember she is not the only beautiful woman you've met or have seen. But amongst them all, you decided to go her.

She might be intelligent, but remember you have equally met other intelligent ladies who were probably better than she is .but you ignored them all and went for her.

She might be ambitious, but remember there are over thousands of other ambitious women in the world, both the ones you know and the ones you are yet to meet. But you overlooked them all and went for her.

If that was the case, why would you suddenly start portraying an infidel attitude. What could be your reason of jilting her and going after other women since you are aware she ain't so perfect .

I kept wondering why people cheat on their spouse/ partner. When I couldn't find any cogent reason, I came at a conclusion that infidelity is nothing but a choice.

you fell in love with your partner not because they are perfect or has it all. But because you chose to love them the way they are and assist them towards perfecting their imperfections and walking on their flaws. If you don't like her body physique. Assist her with the right strategy and diet, she needs in other to keep fit. If her facial look or mode of dressing is no longer appealing to you, assist her in the little way you can.

Mould her into that perfect woman you want. Rather than chasing other women with flimsy excuses.
Is also vice versa. Ladies, also learn to appreciate your Man and make them become that perfect and dream man you've always desired and craved for.
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A woman hardly gets over a man who first had a carnal knowledge of her. This quote and statement has held a lot of women captive over the years. I think this is the mindset we invented by ourselves and believed.

For the fact that people had hurt you, betrayed or jilted you doesn't imply you should loose your self esteem or subject yourself to an object of ridicule.

People had lost valuable items in the past, yet still find a way to get over it, pick up the broken pieces and move on. How much more about you?

Yes you've made that mistake in the past, but you don't have to get too hard upon yourself. Stop pleading to be accepted, if is not working, stop forcing it, it doesn't matter if he was the first or last. Who is destined to stay would definitely stay regardless of his position in your relationship status.

It is only people with low esteem that will stick to an abusive relationship because they felt they had invested a lot. But the truth is that, the earlier you move on, the better. Your value and dignity would be restored again. But when he treats you like a trash and you are unwilling to let go. You are only giving him that impression that you worth nothing. And he will continue seeing you that way.

Is time to let go, despite whatever you think you may have lost.
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I recently saw a post in a group and I quote "Money sustains Relationship more than love".
Smiles, this kind of mindset is why you hardly see any successful relationship built with sincerity this days.

The word " sustain is synonymous to existence. This is the same as saying, there can't be any relationship without money.
First what do we even understand by the term "Relationship". Because you can't succeed in a business you know nothing about. You have to understand its concept before diving in. Funny enough, to most people, relationship is simply a transaction. You give me sex, and I pay you in return. And failure to do so, the business automatically comes to an end. I give you sex, you give me money. And failure to do so, " I may not patronize you again. It sounds funny right!!! But then, this is exactly what is obtainable today.

Don't get it twisted, I am not trying to exempt the importance of money, money is important in every aspect of life. But then, do you just go to the market to purchase anything, just anything, even though you may not like or value it, simply because you have the money?
The same scenario is applicable here. If there is a relationship, the money still have to be spent on someone you value.

Money can never be a basics or primary factor in a relationship. For a relationship to commence, there has to be interest built for someone. And for the relationship to reach its climax, the interest ought to be mutual.
It is called Relationship because two people must be involved, they have to have a similar interest and goals.

They have to love each other and must be willing to sacrifice for each other. They don't do things for their own selfish motives, but also to the interest of their partner.
Now am talking about Relationship and not " business transaction" like in the scenario I described earlier.

With this few explanations, if you still believe that money sustains a relationship then I put it to you there was none in the first place. It may only spice it up but it can never sustain it.
Any relationship built with lies, can never stand. Even if you place it on top of dollars, Euros, pounds, Ghana CEDI's and naira. It will still fall

But a relationship built with sincerity would always stand erect,till it begins to gets nourished and watered by every other factors to become more better. For me relationship and interesting articles, Visit my website@www.loveonet.com

Chinenye Blessing Nnamani

very certain that if marriage was a laid ambush, a lot women would fall a victim as a result of their desperation and irresistible quest to get married.


Marriage is a beautiful thing, it is a union approved by God and meant for two individuals who had already taken a decision to spend the rest of their lives together.
Note the word " two individuals". This is to say that it is meant to be a mutual agreement and desire.
You shouldn't be the one reminding a man that he needs to settle down with you, you shouldn't be the one making the move. You know your job as a woman. Is very simple. Be yourself, exhibit a good character, work on your attitude and the right man will show up. Just like an ignorant adage which says "Ahia oma n'ele onwe ya. (good market advertises itself).
If it didn't work out with him, then know it wasn't meant to be.

But the problem is that we approach this marriage thing in a wrong way. You pack your bags without an invitation and start assuming wify roles, hoping to get his attention.

This was exactly the same issue I was arguing with a friend on some days back. She said and I quote "most of my friends got married by going for what they want and fortunately achieved that. Smiles, unfortunately, so many have this kind of mindset. Listen sweet hearts, that your friend got married by throwing herself to a man doesn't mean she was smart neither Does it imply it must work out for you the exact way. It was probably meant to be. You may not meet that kind of man, so the best thing is to be yourself.

A man already knows whom he wants to get married to. Cook for him, wash for him, satisfy him with all the methods you can think of. You would never get his attention if he doesn't want you.
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Many a times, one of the major challenges that some women face in relationship is the pressures of being sexually involved with their partner. Especially for ladies who wants to remain celibate. You love this guy, and at the same time, you really don't want to be sexually involved with him. Not because you don't have feelings for him, but because you've resolved not to be intimately involved with any man till marriage. We are in a generation where the rate of immorality is becoming the order of the day, that is so difficult trying to convince a man of your virginity status. Most of them have this mindset that there is probably some other guy enjoying the benefits you are restricting him of. Which may not be true.

However, in spite the general beliefs, there are still few men ready to wait. Am not talking about men who just came for the sole purpose of sex, but men who are ready to control their hormones, because they truly love you. But it all depends on your approach and how you package yourself. There are certain things you ought to do or stop doing


1) place a value on yourself - the problem is not about his constant request of sex. But the question is what else can you offer apart from sex. What other unique qualities can he found in you which would make him curtail his sexual desires? What differentiates you from other women he had dated out there? Every woman have vagina, but not all have an
outstanding character. A man can only choose to respect your celibacy decision if he sees an irresistible virtue in you that spices the relationship.




Avoid unnecessary demands- in this part of the country, most men believes that excessive demands from them equates to sex entitlement. And a lot of them are willing to spend, as long as they keep getting the juice anytime they wish.

Excessive demands lowers your value and gives a man the wrong impression about your intention towards the relationship. He will begin to assume that you are dating him just for the material benefits.

And to him, sex would only be his reward.as he will feel cheated if he doesn't get it. If you really want a man to respect and take your celibacy statue serious, then you must learn how to be independent. It commands respect. If you must demand, demand reasonably. Give him that impression that you ain't dating him for sex, but for the love. And I bet you, if he truly loves you, he will respect your decision and still take care of you even without you making a request. For more relationship tips. Visit my blog@www.loveonet.com