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I would like to buy a used laptop from dubizzle.com but I am bit apprehensive about buying one that will end up being faulty. Do you do a sort of pre-check of the items before paying the sellers? And can it be returned if a fault is discovered?

The binis have proved themselves capable of leadership. Oshodin did excellently well during his tenure, those witches and wizards refused to let him be, I hope they can leave him now that he is no longer on sit. The man is a nice man. This new VC should not spoil what Oshodin has put in place rather let him even do better. Finally UNIBEN is free from those aliens who don't have the best interest of the school at heart.

Poznan:
In all honesty, it is notan easy battle to be chaste in marriage. I have a pretty wife and a very cute son, and i can say in all honesty that i have been under situations that could have made me do it. But i had tofight it. My marriage meant i hadto stick to my wife. She may not be the best sex partner, she may be odd in bed, perhaps, but i have a commitment to her and i wish to see it out.

I don't claim to be a saint. No. Jah knows i am not. But the truth is, single and married, chastity is a virtue. And in my little experience, sometimes, the girls seem to go for married men, they know u are married, yet they still want u. Beats me! I wish all of us, men and women, live up to our marital dedication. Hebrews 13:4- 'Let marriage be honourable among all and the marriage bed be without defilement for God will judge fornicators and adulterers'. So the point is, one act of extra-marital sex, defiles the marriage bed.

God bless you for dis comment. May God continue to give u grace to resist adultery!

ayobase:
forget it . it can never get better. this is just the start.

no be curse o.

let's be optimistic bro, if we put our minds and energy into it, we can do it. If nigeria could control ebola, we can control divorce rates. Lol

Farouksenior:
Bottom Line : add the fEar of God. [most dudes nd babes claim Godfearing durin courtship but after marriage...kabooom!!!!]

I think this is the number one thing. The number one source of marital problems. Most people wwho claim to fear God donot truly fear him if not u wwill never justify adultery, fornication, stealing (u need to see people justifying that grandma dat stole her grandchild from her mother, I got shivers) and all sorts. Religion doesn't change people.

coogar:
does poverty affect a man's erëction?
statistics will tell you that poor men are even the best in bed. he's too poor to afford fattening foods. he's superb in bed & he's ultra-fertile.

in other words, using money or material comfort as an excuse to leave one's hubby is quite lame. the men who go outside to seek greener pastures love their wives.....they want things to be the same as the courting days but they just cannot get an eréction for wifey - the spark has disappeared!

if u say a man who cheats on his wife because she got fat is justififed why do u turn around n say a woman who cheats on her husband because he got poor is not justified.

A man who cheats on his wife obviously married her for her body structure that is why a change is enough to push him out, he never loved his wife. Same way a woman could cheat on her husband because he got poor. Its all about satisfaction which in the mans is case is sex while in the woman's case its money
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We all know that men want lots of sex while women want lots of money but In life you will neva be satisfied with these two, u will always want more, ur wife will not always satisfy you with sex and ur husband will not always satisfy u with money, ability to love ur partner despite dissatisfaction(if their is a word like dat,lol) is what I call true love!

Infact those marriage vows should be changed, let it be; this woman you now hold will not always be sexy, are you prepared to not cheat on her and cherish her all the same?
For the woman it will be; this man is not always going to be able to provide u d necessities of life , are u prepared to not cheat on him and respect him all d same?

Truth! Mayb if we got more advice addressing both genders, a lot more marriages will be saved. We keep teaching girls how to be decent and women how to keep the marriage but we forget that marriage is between two people. No matter how hard one partner is trying if the other partner isn't putting in just as much effort nothing will work.
We need more advice to men on how to be decent, how to keep their marriages and how to make their wife truly happy.
We have been advicing women since I can remember and yet divorce rates keep climbing. This means we are doing something wrong so let's start advicing the men, probably things will change, who knows

Op as long as his family don't eat humans I dnt see any reason y u r scared. Talk to ur own parents about it n hear what dey hv to say too. If they say its ok den go.
Be ursef n do not try to please. Just b friendly, polite and courteous.

Also try to find out about d family n how they relate to other people(neigbours) while u r thr. Its an opportunity to know the kind of family u r getting into n the kind of upbringing ur man has

KEEP UR EYES n EARS WIDE OPEN(Be observant)

MissMeiya:
Last one
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lol, I love this music video 'it all belongs to me' monica ft brandy.
Loved d way they messed up the guy in d end, d more reason why I advocate for women being independent

Duru009:
D guy no sabi f*ck. He forget dat he is married to an akwa ibom girl. Dey luv f*ck f*ck f*ck n f*ck

this comment got me. So true! Marry an akwa ibom or calabar gal at ur own risk. No matter how good their man is one d.ick doesn't satisfy them

I hate men with big tommy, I would never allow my husband have such, I like 'em toned and fit!

TribalEAST: I also don't care which pastor she worships, but for her to travel to another state weekly for worship when that same church has branches littered close to her home is something I find crazy
yeah, I know that, but why
would you leave your baby at home with the father who isn't built for such task just cos you want to travel to another state to worship oyedepo? The baby was in the mother's womb; connection with her started from there. The mother is the only one that can understand the baby's feelings better.
now I know you are not only a feminist but also a heartless person. You mean you'll actually leave you infant at home just cos you want to go and party with thesame set of people that'll hardly commiserate with you if you lose such a child? Why do you think they give maternity leave? Is it not for a woman to have full time for a child in the safety of their home? A woman like you will simply party away with the time. Perhaps you should suggest to your husband to be the one to carry the pregnancy cos you don't want to task yourself with anything but partying
look who's talking

taking care of a child isn't rocket science. When mum had our last born, my elder brother had just finished his waec and I was still in secondary school. My mum would leave the baby at home with him cos children are not allowed at her work place and they don't hv a creche system. Even if they did I doubt my mum would want strangers taking care of the baby for her. Its not about being feminist, its about situation. I have heard stories of men who lost their wives and had to take care of their kids single handedly. I read one of such in sun newspaper some years back

erutoria: yes, enough holiday

see groove for me! Thx for the info

Acidosis: If wifey had married a believer who goes to church, this sad event wouldn't have occured.

ALL BLAMES goes to Wifey. Even Bishop Oyedepo would never approve such marriage.

#The thought of ignoring the proposal of a rich lekki-based unbeliever

lmao at the last line
This didn't happen because she married an unbeliever rather it was because she refused to apply wisdom. The husband was right in this case, he wasn't stopping her from worshipping with her church, he only wanted something closer home probably because of the baby but she couldnt open her eyes to reason.
May God see her thru dis trying times

Will be eating and sleeping. Please is it true that monday and tuesday will be public holiday for the muslim celebration?

ARKdiscloser7: Why are people surprised? Am not surprised at all considering the tribe involved. Its their culture.

I kind of agree with u. Not to sound tribalistic but igbo men make the best husbands in Nigeria. I hope this rumour isn't true anyway.


DISCLAIMER: I am not an igbo person neither am I dating an igbo person but I have the most amazing igbo friends

Op sorry about your situation and I pray that God will give you wisdom to handle it. The problem I see in polygamy is the women, if every woman on earth said, I will rather die single than be someones option den polygamy will reduce. Come to think of it, there are so many single guys around willing to settle down, but these leeches who call demselves girls would rather settle to reap whr she didn't sow!

beeevan: You assumed every one is a lay about like you ? No, I have never cheated nor double dated, some of us are tu.sh like that . When last did you check for STI'S? Are you sure you are not that dude with the herpes thread?


Lol @ swear on your bla bla bla, dude don turn Priest for my matter, swear on your mother's menstrual blood that bla bla blaaa....... Why don't you go ahead and swear on my behalf? Aren't you the one that knows me so well?


You are in agony dude and for real am laughing at your frustration . You both should shoot a movie titled 'Pained' .

lmao! U r Ruthless!

thandii1: I was about to throw in this line of argument. Some kids do not mourn their parents because they are bitter about them, and yet they can't be judged because i did not walk in their shoes to know how badly hurt they have been with these people alive. We see these bitter kids on nl, who have terrible things to say about their parents and then people try to counsel them to let go the bitterness and bla bla. You just can not mourn someone who was a symbol of bitterness in your life. All you will feel is a sense of relief. Does that make it morally right, well, that's subjective.

I think its easier for some men to sit out while a few just come in to twist the storyline to murdering a cheating spouse because no man will put up with a cheating wife in the first place(even one time cheating sef, she's out of the house for sometime or forever, not to talk of continuous unhidden cheating) , but quite a number of women put up with cheating husbands(including the ones who rub the cheating in their faces) because of the fear of being alone, being judged, the stigma of single motherhood, and of course their favourite line 'for the kids', not realising they are living with bitterness and planting the seed unknowingly in the kids.

A lady opened a thread sometime ago about missing a spouse who died 10 years ago even though she's remarried. Another opened a thread to talk about how hard it was moving on after years of losing her fiancee. A good number of women refuse to remarry and choose to mourn their spouses forever despite the advices from different angles to move on. Of course the mourning will not bring back their loved ones, but to them its the best way to keep them in their hearts forever, they believe they owe it to them.

Bottom line, everyone has a right to mourn however he or she pleases . Aint like the one being mourned cares from his or her coffin.

true words! And thanks for that statement " everyone has a right to mourn however he or she pleases. Aint like the one being mourned cares from his or her coffin"

davdandam: I'll arrange for thieves to come,beat both of us blue black,collect the money and give me my share.

lmao!!! U r wicked!
Op, I would not collect that 5k. Infact I wwouldnt ask for money frm my husband if I know he is a miser. The more reason why women should be hardworking and independent

majekdom2: The truth remains , No matter ill a spouse could be , there is that thing you ll miss about him/her and wish then they never left. The lady might just have that outward look , she does will have some grieve. cheating is totally different from not caring , giving attention or showing love.

true! And the more reason why we should not judge her, she myt be grieving at home but trying to put on a strong apperance outside. That was why I said in my first post that people grieve differently. Thr r men who do not grieve loved ones openly because people will judge dem to b unmanly, that doesn't mean they don't grieve in secret

Lol, cool guy codes, lemme add mine.
1. A brother must never say "awww"
2. A brother must never call another brother just for a chat
3. A brother must make small bets as often as possible
4. There is only one reason to date a girl you already dated before; breast implants
5. The only reason a brother should wait a month for sex is if the girl is 17yrs11months old. - BARNEY STINSON's HILARIOUS QUOTES

majekdom2: Does he have to die before she can have a swell time ?she could have moved on rather than be happy over the death of her spouse. someone compared a cheating spouse to hitler .... na wa oo. if the cheating spouse was your brother , would you be happy at the spouse's action. ladies be talking on here like they all got holy friends and family.

the fact that u r my brother doesn't give u a right to do nonsense, I have a relative who father died, n he didn't shed a single tear, then I was 17, the late man was my uncle. When I asked him why he didn't cry for his father, he said he didn't feel any love, care or attention from him when he was a live so what is thr to miss about him. To him, his father was a complete stranger. Now this same guy cryed when he lost a coursemate and a friend, every year he posts about this his friend on his facebook wall, he neva misses it.
How much more a spouse who took vows before God to be faithful and true. Look, nobody can eat his/her cake and have it at the same time, if you want to be mourned when u are dead, live a life worth mourning. If an evil person dies I would only feel pity for such person bcs he neva got a chance to change his ways! My parents always tells me, live your life as if you r going to die tomorrow, cos you only have this one chance to make everything ryt.

remsonik: Almost every man on this thread has insinuated the lady killed her hubby through her actions or inactions.
What if he died by natural causes??
What if karma struck at him??
What if he died of some sort of undiagnosed ailments??

Seriously I don't pity the guy cos he met his waterloo. No one can be forced to mourn for anyone, life is too short and we all should live right!!
Men pls live right don't think because the society is made to favour ur infidelity and philandering habits you can go on cheating.

I have an aunty who lived with her hubby in calabar. The guy infected my aunt with HIV,she didn't discover until she wanted to deliver her last child. Her parents didn't know she had a baby until the baby was 9 months, up till now they didn't know their dear daughter has hiv. The husband has repented from his cheating ways since he's discovered he had hiv but can it repair the damage he's caused?? Men could be cruel, life also could be cruel

thk u my sis, and some hypocrite will quote my post to talk trash.

aisha2: I remember a scene I witnessed in the hospital once. A woman was screaming and cursing seriously at a man in coma in the accident and emergency ward. She was being dragged out by the nurses and security yet she was still cursing and cursing, the man was in pretty bad shape.
I heard later that he travelled with his mistress while she was in the hospital taking care of their sick child. Unfortunately both he and the mistress had a horrible accident just outside the state capital and were rushes to the same hospital where she was busy nursing her baby thinking the man was on a business trip, she got called to come that her husband had an accident only to get down and discover he was brought in with his mistress whom she had several clashes with before.
Oh the woman cursed and cursed I had never witnessed that kind of thing, the mistress had multiply broken bones while the man was worse.

I heard later that the woman asked his relatives to come and care for him because their child had cancer and that was who she will care for. Sadly the man later died but the mistress spent almost 2 years in the hospital.

After the way she cursed him out in the hospital I doubt she would pretend to mourn later even though death brings about some soberness and forgiveness. You can be angry at a dead person can you?

thank you. I can only imagine, den by the time the man dies tomorow and the woman is having a swell time with her life, heaving a sigh of relief some people question wwhy she isn't mourning

kaboninc: Did you read the intro at all? And those peeps who liked your comment too...probably birds with same feathers flock together

no I didn't read the intro at all u did. A cheating husband dies, his wife who probably spent all nights of their marriage crying because of his cheating way doesn't deem him worth mourning for, what wrong did she do. This goes to show how hypocritical some Nigerians are, so unless she mourns it means something is suspicious, am surprised nobody has come up with the hypothesis that she myt actually have another lover somewhr.
Do you know what it means to mourn somebody, so u expect me to mourn somebody like Idi Amin of Uganda or even Patrick Sawyer because he is dead? Well to me she has already mourned her husband while he was alive(all those nights she spent crying and probably trying to play good wife so that he will stop cheating,probably those days at the hospital because he infected her with some STI's, carrying a gloomy face around and sadness in her heart) there is no point pretend-mourning. We don't need to place her under our judgement microscope because she didn't mourn somebody worth mourning. I know people who died who I didn't mourn while there are others I still mourn till today 10yrs after because of how they impacted my life while they were still alive.
Like someone rightly pointed out previously, let his concubines do the mourning, for her its good riddance to bad rubbish!

BABE3: Olodo

I wish you same! If u not dumb u will know how to make your point without insulting anybody

Na wa for una o, r u guys trying to say any man that dies was killed by the wife just because she isn't wearing black, starving and carrying a gloomy face? This is the 21st century for crying out loud, people die, we have to move on. People grieve differently pls. Will mourning and torturing urself bring the dead person back, or will it take him to heaven?

Please someone help with a link to download 'TOMB RAIDER'

moreeni: I know his kind. Always playing the nice guy outside and being 'himself' with you at home. It's not going to work...there will be fire on the mountain!


For starters: ask for whatever you want outside too since he functions better outdoor By outside, I meant in front of those others he impresses so well.

hahahahaha, u r wicked o!!!

Why do whites bear 'Amanda' if its an igbo name. Mayb the igbos truly have their origin from the white mans land

CFCfan: Obama's "Change We Can Believe In" movement hit her at the wrong time, as her campaign team didn't have enough time to re-evaluate and re-strategize against the Obama-mania phenomenon. Obama's 08 and 12 campaigns were the best run presidential campaigns in modern US history. It's just unfortunate that Romney, McCain, and Clinton went up against Obama at the wrong time

barack obama used argumentum novitatis/antiquitatis (appeal to novelty), works almost all the time, everyone wants change, everyone wants something new, everyone wants something different, that is why you hear 'variety is the spice of life' and yes, hilliary clinton as president is a whole new change, its novelty too