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I'd say go with the name change. If u can change ur last/family name, why not ur first name? U chose to marry him, changing ur first name will make u inseparable and ensure ur husband can fully "shelter" u. imagine if u were in his village and a tribal war broke out. would u rather the villagers knew u as Ndidi or Sinmi? I'm just saying..

Are any ladies in really confusing or difficult relationships with their men? Please share, especially if you'd like a male point of view.

Women always go on about how men are emotionally absent and never share their experiences. Men tend to be naturally defensive cos u chics are always offensive. Talking a lot about everything except that one little thing that matters the most, suspecting every move we make as a sign of infidelity or similar. when you ask questions like "how was ur day?' and u get an answer like 'fine', it shouldn't bother u. If u really want to know wot a guy has been up to, never ask where he has been. try, ' heard Oshodi was really crowded today, hope it didn't affect u?' and he'll say 'no, i went through Apapa so i could see my cousin Timi on my way home'. Questions like that tell you what u want u know without getting his guards up.

Been in both, black on black, black on white. At STP the white chic remains d same, change a factor n she becomes totally unpredictable eg location(tell her u r goin back to naij). Sorry to say, but black chics are unpredictable even at STP. If a white chics luvs u, she shows it in every way. A black chic might luv you more but u'd never know. Just my thoughts