ndidibabe: This is why i like Nairaland. I will try this today - If he calls me Sinmisola, i will call him Chukwuemeka.

afam4eva: This is one of the reasons why i don't like Igbo ladies marrying from outside Igboland. They go never to come back. They lose their identity, Igboness and all the characteristics that comes with being Ada-Igbo.

@OP
I think you married a tribalist who likes you but hates your heritage. You should never change Ndidi for anything in the world. Next time he calls you Simisola call him Okogwu. By the time this goes on for some days he will cease to call you such.

alj harem:

It is a shame that even you are talking like an Illiterate.

When the white people came, you easily adopted Allison, John etc what is wrong in adopting your husbands heritage ?

A Yoruba woman married to an Igbo man from Anambra is called Chioma today because that is what her husband wanted and she accepted it. Why can't they just laugh about something as trivial as this ?

What a shame, OP you no like am, break up you marriage then rather than share your happy marriage fun afire out for the world to see.

afam4eva: After hausa/ fulani people, i think Yorubas come next when it comes to forcing their heritage down people's throats. We know how Maryam babangida got married to babangida and she made people not realize that she's an Igbo woman from Asaba. Why can't they learn from Godswill Akpabio and Liyel Imoke who both have Igbo wives but don't try to force their culture on them.

KINGwax: you're an id¡ot, and so inexplicably senseless for a married woman. Your age should be like 21yrs or so.
'this is why u love nairaland'? For bigotry and tribalistic reasons abi? You think nairaland will fix your childish marriage if their stup¡d ideas finally break it?
You knw? I've seen natured people post real problems and sensible people has helped them solve serious marital issues with helpful responses.
But here, u exposed d stup¡dity and immaturity in your senses by bringing this kind of issues on board wit no real sense of solution. You're a waste

alj harem:

It is a shame that even you are talking like an Illiterate.

When the white people came, you easily adopted Allison, John etc what is wrong in adopting your husbands heritage ?

A Yoruba woman married to an Igbo man from Anambra is called Chioma today because that is what her husband wanted and she accepted it. Why can't they just laugh about something as trivial as this ?

What a shame, OP you no like am, break up you marriage then rather than share your happy marriage fun afire out for the world to see.

KINGwax: well, ndidi, i hope d above and other like responses help fueled your hatred for you husband and may be d only excuse needed to fuckin that igbo gateman in that office. That will surely solve your problem abi? Plus as u said, not that he's wealthy! Typical igbo wife.

afam4eva:

She can be given a new Yoruba name but it should never replace her original name. That's madness. That's probably the only thing left of her Igboness.

texazzpete:

From the way you're fuming over this storm in a teacup, I wonder if your husband isn't the one getting a raw deal inside this marriage.
You admit you know he still loves you very much yet here you are flinging words like 'I am not going to take this from him' and 'why does he hate my name so much'.

The first few paragraphs were all about how much he loves you and nothing at all about how you felt for him. All you could say was that you married him because he loves you.

Minus the flaky insistence on calling you by a pet name you don't like, i really feel sorry for your husband!

Okija_juju:


Chukwuemeka is a porshe Igbo name jor!!

She should call him EbubeDike

ndidibabe: What is really wrong with my husband? I am Ibo and he is Yoruba. Before we got married, he talked so much about how beautiful (light skinned), intelligent, hardworking ibo ladies are. He also said an average Ibo lady knows how prepare good delicacies. He loves me and that was the reason i married him not minding our ethnic differences. After 14 months of marriage, i can say his love for me is still intact but the problem is that he is fond of calling me Sinmisola, a name i do not like. I asked him the meaning of the name and he said 'rest in wealth'. What sort of stupid name is that? I didn't marry him because i want rest in his wealth! Besides, it is not that he is wealthy, so why the name? Now, his parents too call me Sinmisola. He told me to do a change of name to Sinmisola + his surname. His Surname, Yes but why should i change my first name. Isn't he the yoruba man that love Ibo ladies so much to the extent of marrying one them? Why does he hate my Ibo name? I asked him why he wants my name changed and he said he just love it that way. I am not going to take this from him but i need mature people (married) to advice me on how to resolve this issue wisely.

Bandit C.:
Lol. Yoruba man wants to convert an Igbo woman to Yoruba by all means. Why he didn't go for a Sinmisola in the first place baffles me. Then again, any Igbo woman f00lish enough to settle for a yoruba man deserves whatever comes her way. This is the first sign of the kind of marriage she has gotten herself into. After one and half years of marriage, it is name change, what then would happen after say 15 years? she might then have been totally subdued and living in a cage somewhere in ogbomosho or something like that. SMH.

akpanbaba: My sister use your head and watch out because some of your advisers are waiting for your husband to throw you out and they will gladly change their names to Sinmisola just to marry him.Shine your eyes well well.

Analytical: @Ndidibabe, I really don't understand why your husband would want you to change your first name! Surname, yes;but first name, I am hearing that for the first time! You have to let him know that is about the last thing that is personal to you as an identity. I don't think it's cool for anyone to ask his spouse to do that. If he wasn't comfortable with it or your being Ibo in the first instance, he shouldn't have gone into the union with you.

Sinmisola may be a fine name to him, but obviously not to you. He can give you a pet name to call you, but going to the extent of asking you to change your first name is going too far. Please find out from him why he wants you to change the name and lose that identity and everything associated with it (certificates, credentials, attachment, cultural etc). Does he know the meaning of your name? Let him know if he doesn't already. The Sinmisola can be reserved for your daughter when she comes.