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BlazingAyomikun:
I really see nothing wrong in it. It's perfectly fine. It depends on the people involved in the date and what appeals more to them both. Personally though, I wouldn't indulge in it. The male attitude to sex has been perpetually portrayed as unimaginative and direct. While female seduction lures men into dark, unknown space - the realm of the vagïna, so to speak - male love is centered on the known and visible, on the phallus and penetration. It is like a Cruise missile that wants to get to its target as directly as possible in order to detonate (ejäculate). It seeks to get the job done fast. Whereas female seduction concerns the symbolic order, male love is focused on mastering the real order - the physical completion of the sex act. It is about [color=maroon]instant gratification[/color]. I want to RESIST, for a moment, the reptilian male impulse, that bestial side of the archetypal male that fully expresses his Dyonisian nature, to experience the deep excitement and thrill that comes with being subjected to the tantalizing feeling associated with prolonged, mind-blowing art of seduction.

Consider activities such as striptease and burlesque. They are about tantalizing the male imagination. The art is in how slowly a woman can disrobe, how fevered she can make her audience in anticipation of the final unveiling. The performer is operating in the symbolic realm. Each item she removes is heavy with symbolic weight, and gets heavier as she reaches the items that conceal the things the men most want to see. As she reaches the final item, she is moving incredibly slowly, magnifying every gesture, every tiny adjustment of the last garment which conceals the holy grail. Men's eyes are bulging and their tongues hanging out. They are literally drooling. Yet what is about to be revealed is something they have seen countless times before and in some senses is an absence rather than a presence. Women are nevertheless able to transform it symbolically into the sanctum sanctorum, the holy of holies, where the goddess resides..... Venus herself. Think of the ultimate striptease... Salome's dance of the seven veils. So seductive was it, so potent and infinitely bewitching, that it cost a prophet his life. It was the perfect performance. It gripped Herod's imagination and never let go. Flirtation, titillating gestures, oblique glances, double entendres, mysterious codes, whispered promises - all of these revolve around [color=darkblue]delayed gratification[/color], and can be thrilling and gripping on the imagination. It explores the inner Dionysus in a completely different but fascinating way, and I would prefer an exercise in such divine art on a first date to having sex itself.

[color=darkgreen]After all, the point of Orgasm is a union with the divine itself, and women are the portals to the Gods, what could be more wondrous than a period of ritualistic preparation before heading to the holy vessel to make contact with the divine?[/color]

Plus, the French writer Stendhal described the male pursuit of a woman in terms of a siege of a castle. If the castle (a woman's honour) fell TOO SOON, she was dishonoured. If the siege went on TOO LONG the man was humiliated. Timing is the essence. A man must not storm the castle too brutally, and the woman must not reinforce its defences too effectively. According to him, a perfect romance involves perfect timing where the woman's honour is preserved and the man saved from humiliation. So, while the siege is ongoing, I can make the best out of it by indulging in the fascinating and imaginative symbolic art of seduction. Even if she pulls down the walls of her castle by herself, I won't go in, until I've delayed my gratification enough to my satisfaction.

So, although, I consider sex on a first date perfectly fine, this is my personal reason why I can't indulge in it.

A verrrry personal reason, indeed.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

Frolic:
the truth pill is too bitter for you to swallow I understand, but you could have simply rejected it "politely" instead of trudging this not-noble path of airing your conundrums. ..

see? I wasn't wrong after all.

we balance just fine.

dingbang:
you didn't have to insult him.. Cmon.... I thought you both were on the same page.. Jeez. Now you being so cheap after all

we still are...Dingbang

BiafraBushBoy:
you too lie

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Frolic:
Damn! Youre overating a piece af pussyy here lady and that notion is bad for your health, young lady!

i think you should take a chill pill or slice some part of your overrated d*ck to patch your deluded brain.

Frolic:
So, youre saying sex is not fun or what?

im saying, fun is not all there is.

McBrooklyn:

nice tit. Oops! Sorry teeth.

Limescale:
But if I had a bad character why agree on sexing on a first date, should have left and sex your Samantha after 2 months of waiting

you have a point!

itsJude:
well that gamble is the fun

Not knowing what to expect

He behaves well after, u have a new guy

He behaves Badly bad experience




U ladies are cool with it , u just dont want to seem cheap

For fun? Just imagine!

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itsJude:
awkwardness is sexy na

If u like a guy i swear u will submit urself to him

Ur brain go off

Sex on the first date is cool

Just that if the guy behaves slightly off after it the girl will read it wrongly and everything will be ruined

True! The latter reaction is what most people fear.

Frolic:
Yeah. As long as she radiates the level of competence in terms of maturity and intelligence indicating free spirit which in all honesty is what I look out for #realness

wow, this is a very mature comment. You just projected my thoughts!

itsJude:
Depends on the chemistry

If ur game tight just looking at u she will flood her panties


If she feels u of cos sex on the first date is nothing

so, chemistry is all you need? And it doesn't matter if it seems awkward on a first date?

RB007:
A must

why?

Mature comments puuleaaase!

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marshalcarter:
how i wish you can Just write a little epistle about God and his Love towards us lyk dis that would change the life of sumone......heaven would be rejoicing....Jah bless

Be deceiving yourself

He lubed her an*s and aimed his c*ck. He seemed to line it up very slowly, even as she shifted from knee to knee as if to get away from him. “N-n-noooooo!!!!!” she moaned as he pressed forward. The extended word leaped to a squeal as it obviously popped into her.

“Oh f*ck yeah, baby,” he moaned. “You are so fucking tight back there.” She moaned loudly. Both his hands went to her hips, using them as handles, as he pressed forward, pulled back slightly, pressed forward, and pulled back. She was whimpering like she’d been spanked as their bodies came back together firmly. “Oh baby. This is so good. I filled your stomach from the other end. Now I’m going to fill it from this end. And you’ll love it just as much.”

He began the same long, slow f*cking movements in and out of her as her toes splayed wide like a duck. Her protestations stopped but her squeals and grunts and groans continued and escalated with each stroke.

“Oh god. Oh god. This is. So nasty. Oh god. Oh it. It feels. Oh god. Uhhhhhh. Ohhhhhhh. Oh Bleep. F*ck my. Assssss.” And she was back to humping back against him with each of his increasingly hard thrusts. Then she seemed to be sliding forward, her legs straightening, until he fell on top of her flat against the bed.

“Oh yeah. Riding your fucking a#s right down. I’m gonna fill your little a#s.” When he started pumping almost wildly into her, she squealed continuously, her knees bent with her feet pointed up radically, and somehow she was humping up to him in spite of his weight on her.
...syncityng.com

luminouz:
Hmmmm......

this is hilarious

luminouz:
Haba! U know I just came back from d mountain!!!

ahaha

lefulefu:
i don read d story already .na only oyibo man dey take im time to kiss and carress the woman while making love.we african men we no jus get dat patience. we go just rush d woman like say na mango we wan chop

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hey gawd! Is dis laif?

luminouz:
U don spoil dis guy!!!

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luminouz:
U don spoil dis guy!!!

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lefulefu:
but its true na .mills and boon was very popular in the US/UK in the 1930s among ladies.in nigeria it made its mark in the 70s,80s,90s.for a novel of its age the sexual content are quite graphic .i dont know if ladies of today read it so thats why i asked bum.bae.do u read it? its kul wen ladies read romance novels.they learn a lot frm it

carbonado:
"" ....kwontinue the story joor...lol

see story Lefu.

goan read it, come back and tell me what you learnt, I still dey wait for my 5line

lefulefu:
Bumbae1 una still dey read mills and boons? even my mom get a number of collections wey she prolly use as a girl.

hahahahaha

carbonado:
"" ....kwontinue the story joor...lol

na syncityng.com I dey peep am, go continue there

carbonado:
"" ....kwontinue the story joor...lol

goan finish it on syncityng.com, I think it's under private syns.

carbonado:
"". Continue joor....lol

I should continue what?

firstking01:
When she said she's in the mood for daily work you should understand the category of mood and work she's referring to...chai, you no sharp et-all.

just lukatyou

luminouz:
Nah! Ain't all for romance n DAT soft lovey dovey bullshiit!

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dacovajnr:
Talamose Oooooooo!!!1st paragraphs

Talamose Oooooooo!!!2nd ""

Talamose Oooooooo!!!3rd ""

Mabo!!! Mabo!! Mabo!!4th ""

Moti de Oooooooooo!5th ""

wedon sir

comradespade:

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