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Ayomide11111:
She is currently 23 yrs old, from Benue, Tiv by tribe
She is very careless and nonchalant about her personal hygiene, only to just look beautiful outside. And I've been working over this attitude of hers. How could you disposed your menstrual pad in the kitchen besides our pot of soup? Disgusting!!
I've also been correcting her to stop abandoning used towels in the bedroom, instead take it outside and spread it on the line to dry off.
Correcting her to stop abandoning dirty clothes, dirty plates, dirty floors for days or weeks before tidying them up.
Entitlement, this one is getting me turned off. How could you be telling me that the clothes and shoes you bought for yourself from your salary that they are suppose to be my duty that I should give you back the money, haa!!
Are these ladies mad or something? They never care about the happiness of we guys except their own alone. I like the girl anyways, but I'm thinking of cutting the relationship off. And if not because I like her I wouldn't have been doing some corrections over her and enduring some nonsense sh!ts she has been displaying in couples of month we've known each other.
I'M SCARED OF MARRIAGE BECAUSE OF ALL THESE UGLY ATTITUDE AND CHARACTER FROM OUR NIGERIA GIRLS IS PISSING ME OFF . Does this mean that there is no any responsible Nigerian girls out there anymore

person wey u suppose don discard. If you think she would change after marriage, it’s a lie. It will only get worst.

canada123:
Hi guys,

Been awhile,

So I posted awhile back about being tempted to be paying pretty escorts here in Canada for sex, sadly something I thought was a one time thing, has now turn to become a habit , and I’ve really tried seeking for help to stop it. I’ve spent over $10,000 so far on escorts since 2023- date now.

It’s draining me physiologically, and I’ve confided in close friends and was advised to get married so I can have access to regular sex .

Just drowning now , I really need help . Feel so lost

bro, I try dat shit wen I first land. When I realized how much I was losing, I give myself brain

Quenncee:
A word is enough for a wise.

Good night

Ok

MrSly:
What I heard now did not happen in Nigeria. The government paying for a citizen's medical experience.

Prove me right.

I don’t understand the question

Quenncee:
Angry over someone success? I know how many friends I helped coming down to Canada then. I don't hesitate to help people out.

We don go school (southern Alberta institute of technology calgary (SAIT) for Canada over 10yrs ago, come back and set up big things here.

Once again, let me sound it as a warning to you and your woman, don't take life of another. If you can't live without her, go ahead and marry her character but don't pregnant her to avoid SS. Adopt children. Don't bring a child or children that will make you depress.

get away. You Dey warn me like say na me and u go bear any consequence. Crazy person

Quenncee:
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Who are you warning self? If ona travel outside, you folks will start feeling like demigod. Mind you, some of us go to same country just for shopping and come back to our green white green.

It will never be well with you if you take a life you can't create.

If you can't do without her, then marry her but adopt your children. In the same vein, remove her womb to avoid impregnating her, since is her character you are most concerned about.

on top everything, na dat one u pick. Envy just full pple mind. I argue say you Dey come here come shop. You seem like d kinda person who would see your friend succeed and would be angry

07kjb:
Keep insulting people u don't know

u r crazy. No b u say I dnt deserve anything good? Rubbish

Lifebender:
Pls check your mailbox,I need to send you a message.
Or you can just drop your email address for me here.
Thanks.
You can also go through my profile here if you're in doubt.

I replied u

meetme01:
Let me honest with you.

Get her to Canada first. That's the sacrifice you can make for your relationship and kind words towards her. When she arrives, book a session with the genetic counselor. Her facial expression and questions afterwards would make you a definite decision. Trust me, her feelings won't hide.

But sincerely, give her the best which is, bringing her to Canada and be best of friends. Don't take chances.

this is one of the best advice I have seen here. Thanks

07kjb:
Because opportunity have taken you abroad that is why abortion is nothing to you

There are people that don't deserve anything good in this world,, people like OP

weyre. People Dey ur back yard Dey do am like nothing. People you know . You are not serious.

DMerciful:
You should have asked her genotype when you started dating. You have no excuse!

dis you even read my write up?

Zupay:
She is okay with it because she wan relocate to Canada.

but this is someone I have been with before relocating to Canada. I have always had it in mind that she would join me. Left to her sef she prefer nigeria because it’s too cold here

Childfree:
Since you and your Lady are okay with it, what again?

Do you want to know the chances of getting the IVF right considering how you might waste cash? Or what are the chances the first 1 or 2 pregnancy wouldn't be SS i.e if you decide to take the first option?

Why shouldn't you asked the genetic counselor to tell you from her experience since she might have deal with such problems previously?

People here are religious. Their religion forbids the first option, I doubt if anyone would say any meaningful thing to you.

thanks

I am not writing this for religious people to come with their funny talks, I am just putting this out here to hear from people who might have tried this methods or who heard about this methods and still proceeded or did not. I want to hear your experience. I have been dating someone for 5 years now, it happened that I began to see her as someone I would want to spend my life with. Last year we did our genotype test and we were both AS. Now , I know some of you will say this should be the first thing you ask when you meet someone but c’mon, would you say people in university that are dating now, would ask their sef that question? That theory is only feasible when you are single and ready to get married and want to start a new relationship, then you can always ask, but we all know some of our relationships started when we no Dey even see marriage in the nearest future, all of a sudden you just see them as the right person and you take the bold step. Now, I had to meet my family doctor here in Canada, I explained to him my current situation and he referred me to a GENETIC COUNSELOR. I am trying to take the necessary steps cause I am not ready to bring in a child with Sickle cell to this world, and I am not leaving anything to faith. A fone appointment was set with the counselor and we spoke at length. She told me that in every foetus, there is a 25% chance that we can get an SS child. Now , how do we mitigate this percentage to the barest minimum I asked as I am not even ready to bring in a sickler to this world. She gave me three options, I would rather say two because the last involves test when the baby comes, and that is out of the question.

Option 1:
A) CVS: They take a sample of the fluid in the womb through her vagina, at 12 weeks to test, if it’s good then fine, if not we have to terminate.

OR

B) At 16 weeks, they take the fluid using a needle directly from her womb, and if it’s SS , they terminate. Both procedures are cover by the government and we don’t need to pay a dime.

Now, she assured me that abortion is a very safe procedure if done properly, and it is even a bigger risk that one can die from a penicillin injection or carrying a pregnancy to term than any harm during an abortion.I know many people would come here and say abortion is this and that but let us be frank to ourselves. If you were told that the child in your womb would have cerebral palsy, or Down syndrome or a neurological disorder, would you still keep that pregnancy? Is there a 100% assurance that two AA people would give birth to a healthy baby? I have come to a realization that pregnancy is just a risk that people take, cus you really don’t know how your child would turn out.


Option 2:
PGD. This is just like IVF, where they would select the genotype before they insert back to the womb. She told me the government doesn’t cover this, and it could cost between $10K- $40k. However she mentioned, just like IVf, it is not guaranteed as it can fail and your money is gone.

I discussed this with my girl in Nigeria and she said she was fine with option 1a. I then asked her, that if the first, second are SS would she still remove it. She accepted. I would not lie to you, this girl is everything I want in a woman. I am not just looking at just love because I know love fades with time, but she is a really nice person, and has a good character. She has always been like this from my days in Nigeria because I was with her before I moved outside. Now after finding out our genotype, I tried to get into a relationship with AA. The first one Dey nigeria, she is a nice person, beautiful, but I just didn’t like her or feel attracted to her. She got tire and we just free ourselves, the second one is here in Canada, I just don’t like this one . Please note, I never slept with any of these ladies because I feel it’s not fair.


Now my question is for those who knew all this and still proceeded, how did it work out for you?

I repeat, don’t come here to tell me about how abortion is this and dat. Cus I know if they tell any of you that your child would be abnormal, 90% of you will go for the abortion