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Bad Boy that started smooth, cool, mysterious, and loving… but ended up emotionally unavailable, unattainable… even stretching into emotionally abusive.
I used to be a nice guy – way back when. Like most men, I learned rather quickly that being that nice guy wasn’t the best of decisions.

If you are a guy reading this, you have probably noticed that, instead of opting for a nice and calm partner who would treat her right (you), the girl usually chooses a ‘bad boy’. If you are a girl, then you probably are wondering why you are attracted to and end up with a man who treats you badly. We’ve tried to come up with sensible reasons why this happens, but you are very welcome to add some new insights on the matter in the comments!

1. Not real. Nice guys  are too nice. No one can always be that nice unless they’re a saint. They are busy being nice instead of being real and women instinctually don’t trust that. Bad boys “keep it real.”  Nice guys  don’t want to upset the apple cart.

2. Respect. No one respects a doormat.  Nice guys  don’t set boundaries or make any real demands. A  bad boy  doesn’t let a woman walk all over him or control him. Women can’t respect a man they can control. No respect equals no attraction.

3. Predictable. Most people lead boring, predictable lives, so they’re attracted to people who are exciting and a bit unpredictable.  Bad boys  are always a challenge.  Nice guys  are never a challenge. Predictable plus no excitement plus no challenge.

4. Mother Nature. Women are designed to nurture. However, instead of doing this with children, they often end up doing it with  bad boys . They think their love will save them.  Nice guys  rarely need to be saved.

5. Fixing. Nice guys  don’t usually need to be fixed.  Bad boys  usually do, so they become a project. Women think if they can “create” the perfect man, he will never leave them. Also, if they’re busy fixing someone else, they don’t have to look at what needs to be fixed in their own lives.
6. Genetic wars. Women are designed to procreate with the strongest possible genes.  Bad boys  are sending an unconscious message that they have great genes, so they’re not afraid of losing the woman by misbehaving.  Nice guys  are sending a message that they don’t think their genes are good enough, so they won’t misbehave.

7. Fear of intimacy. If a woman is afraid of intimacy, she subconsciously knows she can avoid it with a  bad boy , since she can never get close enough to him to have to go there. A  nice guy  will eventually want a commitment, and that’s scary.

8. Low self-esteem:  We don’t feel comfortable with people who treat us better than we treat ourselves. If you don’t think much of yourself, the  bad boy  is simply reinforcing your negative belief. A  nice guy  is treating you in a way you’re not familiar with.



9. s*x.  Women feel a  nice guy  won’t be good in bed. They sometimes like to be manhandled and think a  nice guy  won’t be able to take control and get the job done. A  bad boy  comes across as being able to deliver, even though that may not always be the case.

10. Hot.  Have you ever seen a  bad boy  who wasn’t hot? They probably wouldn’t be able to get away with half the stuff they did if they didn’t look so good. Meanwhile, when a woman describes someone as a  nice guy , she means, “He’s not hot.”

11. Charm. Nice guys  don’t always know what to say and are sometimes at a loss for words.  Bad boys  can be very charming and know exactly what women want to hear. However, they eventually switch over to being selfish. By the time they reveal their true colors, the woman has fallen for them and has a hard time letting go.

12. Protection.  Historically, men have protected women — physically and otherwise.  Bad boys  give the illusion of being able to protect women, while with  nice guys , women aren’t so sure. Life is about balance. Most men fall into either the  bad boy  or the  nice guy  category. The  ideal man  is neither, but walks that fine line between the two. Until men learn how to do this, more often than not, women will choose the  bad boy , until they realize that his bad qualities outweigh his good ones.

Prowizy2: I sent him to Sambisa Forest to get me Herbs. . He'll be back soon!!

abba!

ChinoElects: Na lie! Yolobass are aboki subjects!

what you uttered even show that you don't have just little idea of what I mean...

The beginning of the end of abokis in lasgidi is near then! I sincerely pity those pple

temigracie: yeah...dats true...really missing all his funny post in d romance section

I think he just decide to go on low key, I sight him just now *i won't tell*

Anybody hear from him lately ?

Chelshit as not being doing any of this player good at all!

One of my friend find himself in this kind of circumstance please advice him on what to do.

He love this girl so much but she's a kind of person that always doesn't want to see him with any of his friends, she complain of some of his friends that live some kind of rough lifestyle,(she's on point on that,anyway.) drinking bear habit, carrying different kind of women. he's a good looking handsome guy(bobo), he has so many female friends but this guy keep up with it in the sense that he wouldn't want hurt her feelings he rather stick with her, they do almost everything together in shut in any area of their life it was always just the two of them, she's like no calls, no pings no special outing and all that.
It was on the day he mark his birthday he find out he as being so disconnected from all of his friends, he has almost 200 friends on his bbm list, non wish him happy birthday and about 150 on his facebook page not even a single beep of that too, no call no text messages even his best friends that they grew up together pretend as if they've forgotten his birthday.
My guy realize his mistake.
Since he meet this girl he as not being chatting, calling or hanging out with any of his friends the way he use to unlike before that he even have 5 nd 6 female friends they normally rob heart together, he as totally lost all of his connection with his friends so he now decided to start reaching out to them by chatting them up, calling and always keep in touch with any activities that involve being friendly with his friends.
All this cause him big trouble , the girl start complaining that he spend so much time pinging and chatting she take it for cheating, meanwhile all his friends have started calling him to check on him , my guy(padi) is so confused right now please advice him on what to do.
He's now staggering between two opinion; " my friends or my love life" ?
she's now threatening him seriously that he must not be in-contact with any of his friends especially female friends.



He's following the tread...

sotasty: well, the mental community patients we look after are not complaining yet. we are enjoying their lost minds.

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Like I use to say, chelsea /mourino are those responsible for mikel unproductive game tactics, smh for him seriously!

Here we go again...

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