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lefulefu:
well if he's really a proffesional relationship advicer then he's certainly doing himself more harm than good. But i doubt if he's really a professional love doctor by career cos no sane person would want to jeopadise his real career. He's just doing all this to thrive on online notoriety.

Yes, no doubt that's his game plan

emydnoble:
Obviously, you guys misunderstood Joro article. Simply have a good man who has marriageable quality around you, while being a spinster with your dream man. Never, be emotionally attached to him (Backup man), rather discuss issues and rob mind together without romance.

If your relationship fails he can easily embrace you into his life for serious settlement.

Hmm all this without strings attached? How possible is this for many ladies considering how u men are easily moved to explore different unimaginable things??

Some will actually use this as an avenue to "strike" that girl they've been eying for long, lol...

Damfostopper:
this news is becoming stale already since yesterday when that useless relationship counsellor started it

Useless relationship counsellor, Joro, u said?

I think it's better as we now have this well written article by a far more better relationship counsellor Tayo Demola. I think Tayo Demola is more reliable and responsible than that fraudulent advice from that scam artist called Joro.

Horus:
Once a cheat, always a cheat.

U get it

Amberon11:
Let you now speak of the scenario I know of.

My uncle had this gf. Very nice , loving,
caring, beautiful, respectful etc. My entire loved her and damn she was a very good cook too. Guess what my foolish uncle dumped her when the rest of the family didn't approve of their union. Less than 6 months later , she came to our house inviting us for her wedding. She married a nice guy and had lovely kids.

My uncle had a hard time moving on to the point everyone kept disturbing him to settle down. Well he finally settled down several years later in his late forties.

Foolish uncle u said, maybe their destinies don't match. Maybe they were not compatible. Is it not better to have a broken relationship than to have a broken marriage??

@ lefulefu, u're right, this Joro guy is a real attention seeker, but i think he might end up destroying his career if he continues to give bad advice to people. What do u think?

Colourich:
I'm too focused achieving my dream to have a backup boyfriend, the stress is not my thing and am actually not cut out for that shi.t.

U are right. A busy person who has a job or busy schedule won't even have the time to double date, u know!

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So much stress in it really

lefulefu:
all for d glam.so jus forget joro.he was jus re echoing what is already happening.

But was it ok for him as someone who advises people on relationships to give such advice? Being a role model to some people, do u think what he said was proper? I saw many people condemning him and calling him fake on that thread

lefulefu:
joking ke?. If i want to add their facebook and instagram liason some of their backup might be running up to 10 or 15. Many ladies can handle their backups professionally though but then the motive for backup relationships for the ladies is financial for the guys is just for male ego.

This is serious. This is expert oloshoism abi?

And yet we complain about our leaders. The things some ladies do in private is even worse. All for the money. Lord have mercy

@lefulefu

Some ladies have six boyfriends & four sugar daddies? Are u really serious? That can't be true. U must be joking.

Moderators pls move this thread to the front page

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So it's a lucrative business u say??

Hmm, really??

Really cogent reasons indeed

Babatundebaabs:
And you can be pregnant and also dont kno the real owner whc is d main and the worst of it. And this can make innocent child suffer. Cos I was dating a girl then and I knew she was seeing another guy and the other knew she was dating me. Later she said she was pregnant and I denied it. I dont care if shes mine or not. She had the baby, atimes looking at the innocent baby brings many questions .... is this beautiful baby mine? So sooner or later AMA go for DNA. But it's a life time pain to me. And I wont forgiv her even thou we live togeda

Hmm such a pity really, so as u were dating her she was still seeing another guy, waoo, she was unfaithful to u. I think u should go for the DNA test to know if the baby is truly yours. That's one of the implications of having many partners, unwanted pregnancies is common, no doubt. But I pity the innocent baby who now becomes the innocent victim of everything.

Suoo

I guess this one is not controversial, so no comments yet abi

Moderators pls kindly move this thread to the front page

Babatundebaabs:
And you can be pregnant and also dont kno the real owner whc is d main and the worst of it. And this can make innocent child suffer. Cos I was dating a girl then and I knew she was seeing another guy and the other knew she was dating me. Later she said she was pregnant and I denied it. I dont care if shes mine or not. She had the baby, atimes looking at the innocent baby brings many questions .... is this beautiful baby mine? So sooner or later AMA go for DNA. But it's a life time pain to me. And I wont forgiv her even thou we live togeda

A lot of innocent children have been brought into the world thru this way. Some women don't even know the real fathers of those children. And we're worried about this country's problems how it came about, what about the home front? Is it ok?

Not only pregnancy, many things involved, all join

Op, mind u this article was written by Nigerian activist & relationship counsellor Tayo Demola, but how come u didn't give him the credit here on Nairaland?? Hope this is not some copyright infringement sha?

For your confirmation, this is the original link to the article on the author's blog:
http://tayodemola..com/2018/08/ten-proven-reasons-why-having-backup.html

And that's the author's pic below.

As for those who think it's ok to have backup boyfriends, well ur body belongs to u & only u can decide what u do with it! My one centttt

And the guy will be enjoying himself while the lady will be suffering it when it happens, ladies always suffer more in issues like this

Pls read and drop ur views

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Why not? I can. Love is what matters, not money. Yes I can! Women should be humble. I will give the money to him & set him up to become the breadwinner.

If u're waiting to get a ready made man that will take care of everything in this country now, my sister u are deceiving yourself, lol.

Whatever situation u find yourself, make the best of it. Marry him and things will surely turn around for him and for both of u for the better.

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Hmmmmm

DavidEsq:
Which one have u decided to read? Ah ah!

You can pass your message across without referring us to read the Bible passage. Sorry no time to make all those references. Just pass the message for everyone to learn from it.

DavidEsq:
Which one have u decided to read? Ah ah!

None

DavidEsq:
Jesus Christ in using the analogy of a faithful and wise servant was referring to persons who oversee the congregation. These persons are required to feed the congregation with proper spiritual food. That's why at John 21:17 Jesus instructed Peter to feed his flock. How can a flock be fed, if proper guidance is not given?Jesus Christ set the yardstick for who is to feed his sheep. He said the faithful servant is that one who feeds his sheep with the PROPER food at the RIGHT time. Today, there are people masquerading as faithful and wise servants but these one are ripping the sheep off(exploiting the sheep), rather than feeding them. Several events have shown these persons as being selfish, materialistic, greedy, ignorant of true and pure bible principles, proud, boastful, etc. That's why at Ezekiel 34;1-22, God berates these persons masquerading as shepherds. If If read that scripture of Ezekiel I quoted, u wld find out that u can identify these false shepherds among us. Read Romans 12:8, 1timothy 5:17, 1 Peter 5:1-3, Ephesians 4:11-16, etc, spell out several qualities of these shepherds. These shepherds are to stir the sheep through this evil system. Are these shepherds not supposed to stir the government of the whole world? Why would they stir a few, to the exception of the whole world?
God was the ruler over man at the beginning of creation. How what is the evidence of this fact? Did that rulership by God change? How was that rulership changed? Who changed it? Why was it changed? We would discuss thes as soon as u have read that scripture and the rest of my quote.

Definitely too many scriptures to read there. But who are the shepherds u talked about?