Ikennaford:
I hate when people use the economic state of the country to e giving unnecessary excuses.. Oga she's indirectly telling you she ain't cummin and another dude on the way,,, so when she eventually cheat, if she's not already coddedly, she go tell you at the beginning she complained, you lock up...

Oga the economic situation is not an excuse, if it were I wouldn't be up working till 4 am... My girl is the female version of 5mins man, she cums within 5mins and gets tired afterwards so her stamina is no match for me. If she she cheats and I find out its the end, I don't have anything to lose if she leaves because of her own inability to initiate sex.

Hi fellas, I will go straight to the point. My girlfriend of over a year hardly ever initiates sex, so sex between us strictly depends on when I make a move. Sometimes it might coincide with when she's Hot and everything goes well. Again I don't like going for more than one round of sex because I hardly cum during the second round till it eventually turns to hard work. She will still be the one that will complain that she's tired. I believe that sex is meant to be enjoyed and not stressful.

Now I am not a freak for sex, and can comfortably go for a week without sex depending on the situation of things between us even though we stay together for now. I don't initiate sex if we are having issues and sometimes she complains that other men come crawling to their women for sex at night after an argument with most times leads to reconciliation but I always lock up as if I am staying with a man thereby making some of our issues linger longer than necessary.

She gets moody each time she's Hot and I don't make a move, I simply told her to initiate sex anytime she wants because with the economic situation on ground sometimes sex is the last thing on my mind.

We had sex yesterday afternoon and later that evening we were gisting and we talked about early morning sex, she pointed out that I hardly initiate early morning sex and I told her it was because she hates being disturbed when sleeping. I proceeded to tell her we will have early morning sex today. Unfortunately I worked all night and slept around 4 am so I couldn't initiate any sex. She woke up moody and angry which made led to an argument that culminated in her leaving the house.

While chatting on WhatsApp she told me not to carry my boring sex life into marriage. So guys is there anything wrong with a lady initiating sex when she wants it I am pretty sure if she initiated sex this morning I wouldn't have refused.

UnusualEmissary:
Problem now Na to know whether story na true or false...

The last time I checked, people aren't paid to write on Nairaland, so why will I cook up a fake story??

yomi007k:
We know all if this. We have been there and done that.


So what's your way forward?

Baba...na break up, I've sat her down and advised her like a sister about the dangers of the path she's about to tow, but her head is turned, it's only a matter of time before she starts doing it behind my back, that's if she's not doing that already.

Before now, I thought that not all Nigerian girls are materialistic like we are made to believe, but a recent experience with my girlfriend made me rethink that particular conception.

I've been dating her for a little over a year now, and asides from normal relationship disputes, we have been cool. I met her when I was jobless and broke, and the relationship wasn't meant to happen because neither of us wanted a relationship then. We somehow clicked and started dating.

I got a job that pays 150k soon after, plus other small side gigs. She never put a strain on my pocket because I give whatever I feel whenever I feel like it. She hardly demands stuff, and I felt l just found myself a gem.

Rich guys hover around her like vultures over a carcass, but she stayed faithful, or so I thought. My company started experiencing difficulties towards the end of last year, and my salary was no longer consistent. At one point, I was owed three months' pay.

Due to the cash crunch, I could no longer give even the changes I used to give her. A bestie of hers that wasn't in the picture suddenly appeared after he started doing fraud and picked some mega bucks. He started getting her gifts and promising her heaven and earth to get her.

She's currently about write her final exams, and she has a list of stuff that she needs for graduation, which I promised her that I would be able to get her just two out of her list. Recently she went out with two guys within four days, and they were all yahoo looking guys with Benz and the likes. When I tried cautioning her of the dangers of associating herself with such people and how I was uncomfortable with her going out with random guys, she angrily said that I couldn't sort her bills and was still stopping her from going out with people that could sort it out for her. She kept referencing how she was not gaining anything from being a good girl while other girls that weren't half as beautiful as she was cashing out from guys.

She came over for the weekend, and just yesterday, she asked if I could allow her to go for an Easter outing with a friend today; I told her it's insulting to go see a guy from my place, but she saw nothing wrong with it.

This morning she begged me to allow her to spend a day with a guy that has been sending her money, and he is willing to pay anything she wants to spend a day with him. She pleaded with me to understand because she had bills and didn't want to stress me.

I told her she was free to go and started dressing up to leave the house. I never felt so insulted in my life, I already ended the relationship in my mind for her to even have the effontry to make such a proposition.

She started complaining that I wanted to ruin her weekend by giving her attitude when I could have easily said no to her request. I just ignored her and left the house to see a friend.

I used to think that she was different but just realized that most girls aren't contended which pushes them to do all sort of rubbish cos of money. SMH