jascopassion: †нªηкs a lot everyone, the girl in question is not a loose gal. Wev bn frnd for couple of yrs and she once profesd to me that she wl like to marry a man like me bt am in a serios relationshp wc she is aware abt.

@op, u say u're in a serz relationship, and the gurl in question whom u strafd without protection!! is aware of this and now wants to tie u down to a preg u no nothing about, c'mon!!!, can't u see the deception...mmmtchheww...use ur brain and run!!!...are u still sitting there??..i say RUN!!!!...nonsense...she's nt even smart enuf to pause for effect..smh..real dumb.

Christiana Aguilera-Bound to you
Roberta Flack-The first time ever i saw your face.

okay...but i do love my man...it just seems like the side of me he's not ready to reconcile with is given full attention from this other guy...i think i really need to see my man soon,its been so long and we rarely stay apart for months..bt wud he be willing to listen,he's quite jealous,and we've argued over this

Demelza, thnx but i may never find someone like him again...probably for the best..

confusion247: You don't love the first guy that's the simple truth because if you do, there will never be the second guy. Go with the second guy.

But i've only just met him,and i'm totally confused, i may never see him again and that's okay...my man is in P.H, i'm in Abj,and i'm not based here,i'll be leaving nxt month..this cud probably be lust ,i dnt want to leave my man over a sheer fling,and this person tells me he wants to stay in touch and maybe more,i dnt want to loose the friendship,but the temptation is too much,when we meet at work..

@Rex u seem to think all things could be solved in bed,...well that's your problem.

@Rex u seem to think all things couls be solved in bed,...well that's your problem.

i'm lucky enuf to have a very wonderful man in my life who makes me so Happy...however here's the trouble i just met a guy who makes me want to open up to being my real self which is quite *crazy* not bad,just crazy and i'm absolutely falling,however i love my man cos he knows me,even the real me and accepts me,but i'm so cautious around him,cos i'm ashamed of that part of me which makes me feel more than think,this other guy wants me to open up this *bad*side and my man doesn't seem to understand my need to sometimes want to be like that...i'm so confused and troubled,this other guy just had a painful break-up lyk 2 years ago,and says he's not ready...we spent the whole of yesterday in his house *though nothing happened*...he wanted to kiss me and i wanted to but the me with sense wouldn't agree...but i wish i did,and my man seems so occupied with so many other things now,lyk say devil dey give me signal...hmm,this other guy is tormenting my peace of mind!!!

I just need advice on what to do *pls,mature comments only*

Umm...firstly,our relationship is based on certain priorities- love,trust,security,communication,and essentially understanding.
He taught me how to be patient,he really worked on my self-esteem,and he made me feel strong as I'm certain he's gt my back. Personally,I drew him to know God more,beyond religious beliefs to ascertain a stronger foundation for our relationship,after that I made him have a more open, solid and less passive mentality in setting goals,I respect him and that really helps his ego,so he's not afraid to stand up to any situation...there are quite a number of other things which we've both contributed.......and I Love him so...much

No.10 is hilarious,but quite true matter-of-factly....

Doyn1: Common peeps I'm no Gay but I just dont see us having a future together honestly I would be very lucky to have her as my wife because I know for sure I will have a great home and a good mother to take care of my kids but really there is something I just cant explain. well maybe she's not all that facial beautiful asides there's something I cant really explain but rlli I really dont know, I am confused!!!

mmmttcchhewww!!!!!.......be sensible and responsible,act like a grown-up make up your mind or leave her for a more deserving man...not 'confused-boys' as y#ur*self.

Your question itself is quite confusing,make up your mind and give back formidable reasons why you know/think yhu can't marry her and we'll get back to you.

Umm............lemme see..NO..NO..NOT @all!!! it absolutely creeps me out,whether his cute or otherwise

Start slowly,don't shove your tongue right dwn her/his throat(that's just NASTY!!!),also try taking something really minty,or cool like ice-cream(my bf loves this )jst b4 or while @ it,or something fruit-flavoured...you'll find ds 'tasty'

Babe,the whole 'crap' of him being 'confused' is jst so he can eat his cake and have it,sweety,wake-up frm la-la land,ur friend obviously wants to hang out wt the other gurl,steer clear of him,till he's nt confused.Don't fall for such nonsense!!

Definitely!!!...I'm really into sticking with one guy for as long as possible. It's absolutely possible to find such,although quite rare

If I'm nt sure of any other relationship,I'm pretty sure,he likes you as a person...most gals dnt get this,if he's been your friend and you guyz have been open to each other,it's even so much better,friendship creates a stronger relationship....i dnt kno why you dnt wanna,but i'll go for it,if i liked him in such manner,he's obviously a keeper.

@OP,you do seem too lost and desperate.......soulmates don't just pop-up! certainly not HERE!!..take heart!

Gurl,yhu've got too much-'boy'-issues rattling your mind...seriously!!! ...getting bored is all you ever do to post topics as this...mttchhewww!!!

Are yhu drunk?....so why r yhu confused...there's no need to still hold up a torch that's burnt out...you'll jst crash & burn..

Sober or tired

none !

Awwwwww.....I'm sincerely sorry,i do think your 'girlfriend' is really funny though,cos if she values her relationship(despite your denomination)with you...something as flimsy won't require that you break-up,when you're a step into happiness...i suggest you sort things out,but i support your stand in putting God first.
P.S-Not that religion is flimsy!,but while the years were rolling by,she should have discussed about her preferences and not make you wait this long for nothing!

first of all,tell the young lady she's too loose ..and obviously shud stop making women look so bad...Some ladies are worth loving,yhu just haven't met the right one.