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3 WAYS TO REDUCE YOUR SUSPICIONS IN A RELATIONSHIP
Being with a partner that is suspicious can be overwhelming in any stage of a relationship. Going through your partners call log and messages can further make lose his /her sanity the more .
In order for you not to let this affect your love life here are 3 steps that can help you cope.
1. IT IS NOT ABOUT YOU
Understand that your partners’ behaviour has little or nothing to do with you. It could be that your partner’s reason for being quite suspicious for whatever reason maybe as a result of their past, do you know what happened i n the pas relationship? Do you know their daily struggles? Are you aware of their biggest fears?. So since you cannot fight them for their perceptions or tell them that they are wrong to feel that way, it is best to ignore such a negative attitude for your peace of mind.
2. HEAR THEM OUT
Instead of mentally switching off or reacting to defensive criticism be patient and hear them out your partner when they begin to complain about your actions and their implications. Sometimes, it helps to let a jealous partner know that he or she can talk to you about his or her feelings. If your partner feels understood after talking about his/her problems in a supportive environment he or she will be able to move beyond such feelings and worries effectively.
3. TALK MORE
If you find that your supportive behaviour bears no fruit, and on the contrary, you are getting exhausted by constantly having to answer to your partner’s suspicions, then, it may be time to take a more direct approach by talking about it. Find a suitable time and place to have a talk with your partner and discuss how you are feeling unhappy at being interrogated all the time. Let your partner know that being constantly suspected doesn’t make you want to try harder to please them.
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Juice and Squeeze with Brume-Sip Anthony – (The Virgin Monologues) Part 1.
Just how important is virginity? Should it be discarded as just some old-fashioned tale or tradition, or is it something to be kept as sacred prize or gift. In this four part write up we will be looking into this.

VIRGINITY TODAY
Does virginity still have a place in modern society, or should it be considered old-fashioned or tossed aside? While some people may be of the opinion that virginity is not a direct indication of how moral or immoral a person is, I and generally most part of the world will always claim its significance. And while some believe that to put a guide or check on one’s sexual desires shows a high respect for moral values and strong sense of identity and self-worth, others wonder whether a spirit of liberation and independence is not preferable.
Another important question is how virginity should be defined. Should it be narrowed down to the presence of the hymen? Is it right to look at virginity merely as a physical state, ignoring the persons mental and emotional state? Some ask if virginity should be restricted to when the penis as penetrated the vagina: what about people who encourage other forms of sexual intimacy that bypass penetrations? Are these people to be considered virgins?
Way back in the 13th century, philosopher Albertus Magnus proposed four different types of virginity
1. Natural Virginity ; you’re a baby , you’re born with it
2. Avowed Virginity ; you take an oath of celibacy
3. Informal Virginity ; a personal choice , usually temporary
4. Questionable Virginity; you say you’re virgin, but you certainly don’t look, talk or act like one .
In an era where women are adopting more demanding roles, the idea of virginity could be very welcome – maybe there is some truth to its association with independence, power and influence. However, the importance of virginity often hits home with an unwanted pregnancy or STI , accompanied by low-self-esteem and shattered emotions and expectations .
In The end, the decision to remain a virgin or not is matter of personal choice, with its own particular consequences. Be sure you are prepared to pay the price for the way you have chosen
(Part 2 will be released in a few days )
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SPICE UP YOUR BORING LOVE LIFE

There are times when you realise that your relationship has become boring and the love you and your partner once shared turned so non-existence. There are actually a few steps you can take to save yourself from such predicaments; The Juice and Squeeze is here to recommend four easy steps to spice up your boring love life.

GET INTIMATE AGAIN

It is true when we say that actions speak louder than words. What I'm trying to say in a nutshell is that when you engage in intimate moments with your partner such as holding hands while walking or snuggling while talking in bed, you will awaken your partner and your desire to how you feel loved. Remember the honeymoon phase of your relationship, when you were just getting know each other when all you wanted to do was just be in bed all day with your partner , try as much as possible not to lose that spark .

LESS TIME WITH PHONE

Our phones are our best friends and our worst distractions especially when it comes to interacting with our partners. There's nothing more annoying than wanting to have a discussion with your bae about something important only to have him or her responds by occasionally looking up from scrolling through the phone. To avoid this, make it a goal to leave your data off when trying to spend personal time together. Even though this sounds like a small action, its one that will spark a connection with your partner that you felt was fading.

SPEND TIME APART (don’t breakup or cheat oooh)

The truth in life is that sometimes we don’t recognise how much we care about people until we miss them .The truth is that much harder to appreciate someone when you are constantly around them.

GET A NEW HOBBY WITH BAE

The act of supporting your partner in the things they love is sweet but the attempt to learn more about what they love is key. Along with doing what your partner loves, starting up a conversation about their performance and strategy is the kind of initiation that will have both of you seeing each other in a new light. While you don’t have to go out and study random facts about your partner's interests, the gesture of even knowing enough about it to bond over that won't go unnoticed

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THE SECRET OF ATTRACTION; HOW DO UGLY MEN GET THE PRETTIEST GIRLFRIENDS
If you have ever gone through the profile of a man who is looking for a female partner , these men usually emphasise what they are looking for in a woman physically , whereas women tend to look for wealth and status( especially in our time of day ) , if you're pained by that last statement , I apologize for that . But truth be said, it is not looks that matter to the female gender or even if it does, it doesn’t top their list when looking for an ideal man especially during the time they are planning to settle down. This why as a guy you would ponder why the prettiest girl in your area is dating a man who you see as not up to per with her in terms of facial appearance. The truth is that a woman would choose that security of having money, power and comfort, than running round town with a boyfriend who has nothing but good looks.
Further looking into this issue, there is also a big confusion as to exactly what women look for in a man. Excessive 'masculinity ' in men's faces, a big nose, a rough look hand with scars - can actually be seen by women as unattractive, as men with very masculine features have been found to be less resistant to disease and parasites . Women often find feminine features attractive on a man (This one of the reason I feel gay guys always have an array of good looking female friends). Brad Pitt, continually cited as a sex symbol to the female gender, has plump lips and large eyes that wouldn’t look out of place on a woman. This is because women always want to be certain that they can determine that their male partner is going be a good father or just someone they would have good time with.
Women are generally attracted to many things a man can offer, for example if you know how to cook, if you have a good dress sense, definitely a good personal hygiene can all be a form of attraction but it goes deeper in most cases for example women like a confident guy who is not arrogant, an intellectual who is very good with words and very caring, being trustworthy, patient with them Is also a selling point. Attraction to women is complicated because they are always trying to live in a fantasy (This is one of the major reasons why a guy who knows how to lie would be impress a large number of ladies ; I'm sure you know some of them). Yet there is at least one physical characteristics that is vital to male attractiveness. Most women prefer men with broad shoulders and narrower waist. Historically, upper-body strength would have signalled that a man was better at fighting and hunting.
Bottom line if you’ve ever wondered why our girls are in a relationship with an ugly be aware that he's offering her something more than a fine face , after all she no got chop the fine face !!!!
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HOW TO DEAL WITH A STUBBORN PARTNER BY BRUME-SIP ANTHONY


Being in a relationship with a stubborn person can be overwhelming. This would be a bigger blow when the person is not contributing positively to the cause of the relationship. For example as a guy you would feel a certain peace of mind if knowing that our girl is a well behaved person , who will always with reason abide and support the right decisions you make . There are few steps to actually dealing with these issues.

COMMUNICATION 
When trying to approach your partner about being a stubborn person, you should be subtle because you never can tell how their reaction might be. Avoid sarcasm, criticism or other negative approaches when speaking with your partner about his or her character. Be sure to communicate your feelings about your frustrations, concerns and worries and underline what you want from them. Do not expect your partner to know what you want to say just like that. Bottom line they would appreciate what you say, and nothing beyond
ASK FOR HELP 
When dealing with a sensitive issue like this, ask your partner to help you to help them. You can also ask help from your contacts who have gone through similar issues with their own spouses. You can also make a list of things you will like your partner to work on and ask them lovingly to work on certain behaviours that you seem uncomfortable with and can't condone anymore. Remember asking respectfully and affectionately because this will yield much better and positive results than arguing.
COMPROMISE 
COMPROMISE 
Do not will be as well behave as you always want him / her to be. You should be aware of the standing differences between you and your partner. There could be a few loose ends to your expected levels, but ignore these issues and compromise with their style and level of understanding. Never, ever redo something your partner has just done. Remember that opposites attracts and two people who are alike cannot complement each other.

ACCEPT FLAWS 
Everyone has their unique ways of doing things. You need to accept your partner's ways and not force them to adopt to yours; this would appear as if you're trying to be a control freak. Try as much as possible to be content with your partner's behaviour while you're hoping for better and improvements in due course and also try encourage him or her 

NEVER COMPARE 
If you know a person who you feel is well behave or less stubborn, always resist the temptation to compare them with your partner. The moment you start to mention names and giving examples, your partner may be angry about this. Comparison never works for people because it may make them feel inadequate which can negatively impact their self-esteem. 

DON’T BRING UP OLD ARGUMENTS 
Don’t keep on going back to things that did not go will in the past. Make good and mature conversation that would avoid bringing back the past fights or quarrel you may have had about maybe the same issues. Don’t argue but don’t also let your partner take advantage of you. 

BE PATIENT BE PATIENT 
When it comes to a relationship, you and your partner need to be a team at all time and with that effect you need exercise patience when you want a change to happen, especially when your partner is trying to change their life because of you. Shared experience can even strengthen your bond and love. And if you seem to be impatient, hold on to your patience levels and understand that losing your temper wont your partner less stubborn.

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TYPE OF GIRLS IN THE UNIVERSITY (part 1)
The university is the ultimate freedom gate for most people . This is simply because for most people it is the first time in which they are left to make life changing decisions by themselves . That being said , we find our selves meeting people with unique characteristics that make them different. The Juice Box has decided to shed light on the type of ladies one is bound to meet during their stay in the university .
MARY AMAKA
Usually from a middle class family with strict Christian background , These type of ladies are the prominent church goers and home cell leaders that wear long skirts and big blouses , usually with a simple hair do and apply little or no make up , They are major form of interaction with the opposite sex is either for academic purpose or church activities .They indulge in having one boyfriend in whom she sees as her future husband . These ladies are usually the pastors and lecturers pets and are used example of good student because of how dedicated and attentive they are to their activities . Now generally they are not the most brilliant but they are not afraid to ask for help and are always doing well in Continuous Assenting. Ladies like this have the fear of God and disappointing their family is something they avoid with all their heart ,hence why they live a life that some people will tag as boring ( You Pick !!). These ladies are typical wife material because , they are decent and see no issues with doing house chores and occasionally helping their friends out in time of need.
FUTURE MISS INDEPENDENT / FEMINIST OF THE FUTURE
These are beautiful and attractive self-righteous girls that are very hard to get along with .They are usually from a middle class family but can package and live like the rich . In terms of academics they are very bright and outstanding , this means that they are very confident and usually over bearing in the sense they feel that they have life all figured out . They believe they are independent and no one should dare tell them how to live their life . These ladies deprive joy in getting free meals and gifts from male suitors and always feel they know what every guy wants . Do not start an argument with the type of ladies , They are favourite type of argument is how Sex is beneficial to Men alone ,They always entertain rich boys who they can outsmart and avoid getting played , hence they avoid play boys. In reality these ladies are not as exposed or intellectual as they fell they are , personally I fell they are more conning than smart,they usually have a reason for interacting with any person they meet , once that is achieved they move on . Ladies like these are usually in a long distance relationship and can hype the unknown boyfriend so much , that one would be like “Aunty ,make we see the guy na”. Ladies like this usually don’t have many friends and are very very adamant that cooking ,cleaning for anybody is not their priority as undergraduates. They claim to be independent but never shy away fro getting free meals, recharge cards and so one. Well done oooo.
TOM BOYS
Gone are the days when a tom-boy had only boyish looks , certainly not in the university . Most times in the university , they are simply that female in an All Male clique . She is that girl that has come to the conclusion that other females are too problematic and is genuinely a person that can give you good vibes and funny conversations that last for hours . They can be very open about their life is she is comfortable with your kind of person. Tomboys are very jovial , fun and generally caring and can also be over bearing and jealous of the way a male friend would treat another girl. They are equipped with a male best friend in whom everybody thinks is her boyfriend . In reality she can be that annoying , overprotective and jealous girlfriend if she’s dating anyone . These ladies take school activities a little serious but have that hustle spirit during exam period and test , they are also the social type , they party often , they attend church but are not prominent workers , they rather talk about music and lifestyle with their male buddies , enjoy the occasional getting wasted with friends and always ready to come through for their close friends. Tomboys in the eyes of other type of ladies are usually judged to be wayward because of how they are surrounded by many of the opposite sex , but would realize they are cool once getting to know them. In terms of house chores , most of them are really like most guys who are mostly carefree except when necessary and go with flow of how you feel at that particular moment .
PILL POPPERS/ CASTED SLAYS MOMMA’S
These are the casted slay queens , They are most popular to night life around campus , their numbers are on everyone's phone .(If you want a good time, give them a call ; they will come through).They are usual billings are transport money, codeine , weed and rephnol; and food in the process , then that is a good day for them . These ladies are from a middle class but mostly low class family ,( but they can lie that their daddy is the abroad ). These ladies have been caged their entire life prior to coming to the campus . This Taste of freedom have gotten the Beast within these young ladies , They attend all the popular clubs and Parties ,all the yahoo boy and popular entertainers in school have probably had sex with them. They are always in a relationship with a happening guy who sees her a fling or a side chick( or a Yoruba demons will say “Sare wa”). These pill poppers are usually squatters that are always having house issues ,because they have probably spent rent and school fees in buying phones , clothes or used it to do a birthday party . They tend to change clique a lot because they have issues with friends almost every time .They love the campus life so much , they barely want to go home for holidays . In terms of academics , no one knows where they really stand , they become resourceful for grades though. They aren’t really prostitutes but some guys think they are cheaper and have less baggage and can give you fun time for less price . Do not expect them to do house chores at all . These girls live in a filty home and come out looking peng! All na packaging
(To be continued)
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Six Question Guys Dread In A Relationship !!

The Juice and Squeeze is a Lifestyle and Relationship Write up Series, Which is aimed at touching critical lifestyle issues and realities in which young people go through in their everyday life either by personal experience or their environment (immediate or distant) . On today's Episode I'm inspired to talk to the ladies in a way the guys will appreciate or crucify me for
6 Questions Guys reluctantly answer
They are few questions guys don’t want to be put up on the hotspot for. These things tend to be simple things (Some will disagree but others will not) . For Example questions like Do you Watch Porn? , or maybe Do you like being with your friends more than me?. These are few uncomfortable scenarios that make life at point seem too complicated.
Let's find out 6 Questions Guys dread
1.) ARE YOU ATTRACTED TO OTHER WOMEN? (Like seriously?)lol
(He’s uncomfortable because it makes him feel guilty )
This is very tricky because you might as well choose the weapon for your death if you don’t say the right thing. Women are literally emotional and tend to be sensitive to the littlest things you can least imagine and they feel more honest in cases like this because they can easily tell you that they are attracted to another man (They'll use a simple format like " Aww Look at his muscles , Honey you should hit the gym more) or even another girl, but as a guy you have to be mindful of the kind of girl or woman you are dealing with because some might absorb your reply normally and also you might just end up bringing out the demons in some crazy ones �. Most Men are distressed secretly and silently because of the fear or stress of apologising for a crime that is literally hypothetical. Some women find it offensive when it comes to issues like this and can use it against you whenever they feel like in the nearest future. But the truth is yes, He feels attracted to other Women. Just as you are attracted to other men (natural feeling) but he is not proud of his weakness (Some actually are) and your constant questioning might aggravate the situation which is so annoying (After all you are bae).

2.) WHAT HAPPENED BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR EX?
(He dreads it because he doesn't find the information necessary to be divulged)
Men do assume that they are in charge when they are in relationship. Let's say they are but latest statistical analysis and value proves that Women nowadays do more of the dumping in relationships and this is one of the major reasons that leads to sickening questions like "How did it happen ?", "Did It Hurt ?" And worst of them all "Why ?" . This questions bring about a past memory or experience, which can be an unpleasant one and might have involved one being unfaithful , abuse of alcohol and substance, perhaps generally that unserious attitude or the worst of them all, not having an idea of what happened in the past. Some guys do not know the actual reasons why their past relationships crashed and most do not care , but a woman with a right frame of mind will find it hard to live with it and so when your new spouse or partner confronts you with the question, you will want to skip that moment.��


3.) WHERE ARE WE GOING IN THIS RELATIONSHIP?
(He dreads it because this is considered "a far-fetched question"
There are only two ways a relationship can end ; happily ever after or as break -up,. But as a young guy with a bright future none of the above seems very exciting. If he pictures you in his future then definitely he's already initiating marriage and in the other hand if he is always reluctant whenever you bring up the topic then you just have to be prepared to face any music he plays; (Guys are not stupid) Ladies should be clear and direct on what they want from the relationship and make it known to enable the guy set his priorities right and know either to concur or state his own intentions.

4.) (AFTER SEX) WHAT ARE YOU THIKING ABOUT?
(Well I wouldn't say he dreads this question because at that moment his thoughts are incomprehensible)
Once it's over, it is over (You know what I mean abi) Women like I earlier said, are emotional and so is their thoughts and motive especially after an intercourse,they believe they now share a deeper bond with the guy and as such demands to be well cared and attended to,at that moment, if its their first time with the guy, they're kinda scared and confused about what just happened so the come up with questions like - Asking about the relationship, how two of you are doing, hopes and dreams etc. But for a guy , it is over . Next Step please. Their thoughts are usually not in the room-- Chelsea's match tonight, Do I have food in this house etc. are the things that go through their heads and they have moved on. Ladies will always want to do small talk but to the guy it isn't necessary? (We just had sex, please can I focus or get some sleep lady!!�).

5.) DO YOU LOVE ME ? Hmm i see the ladies smiling and becoming more intertwined with this article, this is their best question of all time�,guys beware just like KING LEONIDAS in 300 SPARTAN said "choose your next words carefully, you will be held accountable for whatever you say"��(He dreads it because the answer can never be NO).
This is a question to which there are only two possible answers to-but only one can keep the peace. For a Man, this is an epic scenario,To say 'Yes' would make you feel like you've met your life partner and to say 'No'(what?!!)would be a big problem. Please Ladies do not try to squeeze the word ' I Love You ' from your man, No matter how eager you are to hear it. If and when he is ready to say it, he will do so without your persistence. (Remember never to ask questions you don’t want to know the answers to)


6.)DO I LOOK FAT?
(He dreads it because he is afraid to speak his mind)
Actually there is no way you can win in this situation as a guy. Ladies know exactly what they look like but the want know how you view them as, they want you to give them that sugar coated love answer in order to boost their self-esteem . Personally I feel like every guy wants a not too thick looking lady (Opinions are always different about this ) but if you're on the bigger body size and sure your boyfriend loves you ,he will pay more attention to you and might encourage you in a lovely manner to lose a few pounds though but don’t just expect him to say this to you because he might not want to hurt your feelings.

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Episode 5
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"Is Bae Supposed to Have Your Social Media Password "
By Brume-sip Anthony Praise Keon and Daisy Wyte

Relationships are diverse in the sense that every human being possesses different characteristics that make them unique, both partners must have had a mutual agreement of living their lives together as one entity.

It tends to have certain spices that makes it fun, adorable, affectionate, dramatic and lasting. It is a major perception that when in a relationship you tend to think about your partner in everything you do which leads to doubts and insecurities. This becomes a reason why many relationships tends to move at different paces, have a different level of understanding and definitely the difference in duration.
If you're still reading this, then you should be able to know where I'm heading to.

Today's Episode is a field of interest that seems catchy and very argumentative.
Which is; In a relationship is your Partner suppose to have access to your Social Media Account(s)?

Firstly, a relationship is supposed to be solidified with mutual understanding, communication, trust and love.
Here, we are going to talk about how Social Media tends to break the ties of a Relationship.
Communication: For a Relationship to last longer and Healthier, there must be a strong communication between partners. Be it a Long distance or a Short distance Relationship. The social media plays a huge role in this aspect, it helps partners to communicate either by chatting or video calls.
In a case where a partner feels neglected by the other partner when online or when they are hanging out together, and one of them is constantly on their phone. It could lead to a breakdown of the relationship, and start to create suspicions.

In the aspect of trust: when repeatedly ignored on a daily basis, this induce to insecurities, and that leads to invasion of privacy like wanting to know the reason behind your partner's smile or giggle while they are on their phone, the doominering partner would demand for the password of their partner's social media accounts.
Here, the trust is broken. And this is also when "stalking" comes in, trying to figure out whom they are talking to when they are online, and this leads to major arguments among the people in a relationship. Wanting to know whose photo they liked of the opposite sex and why, questions also start to arise in their head when they see their partner with someone else in a photo in their timeline.

In the aspect of mutual understanding: When there's no trust, there's no understanding and it leads to fights and breakups. The time barrier of the relationship reduces/breaks, not understanding your partner's point of view.
A relationship without Communication and trust can never have understanding, and so the love subsides.

Love is supposed to be fed with this three things stated and without it, it dies. Love requires "Reciprocation", " Nourishment" and "Time" , "Communication" , "Trust" , "Understanding", and the least of all " Sex".

According to researches and interviews, about 90% of couples do not agree with letting out their social media password to their partners. Some feel it's the best way to make their partner(s) feel safe and it eliminate insecurity fright.

Whatever you choose to stand for, this episode has helped to broaden the knowledge of relationship and the mostly neglected issues that could terminate a once Healthy Affair.
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5 SIGNS THAT YOUR BOYFRIEND MIGHT BE "MR RIGHT"?

My close female friend (Name withheld) finally met a charming nice guy who has all the features she always dreamt her perfect guy would possess; Tall, Dark, Rich and Handsome. But at some point she became suspicious that he was too good to be true and she sank into deep thought of uncertainty; she said and I quote "What if it's all a game for this guy?", I want to be with him but the fear of my heart being shattered is so scary'. Now I began to ponder on the issue and carried out a rigorous research and now comprehended why she wants to feel secured. Like I expounded in my first article, it states that the reason why most relationships fail is because "true intentions might be hidden or misunderstood". Some of us have been in a situation whereby, you love your partner but he or she doesn’t reciprocate and the moment you come in terms with this, you become so downtrodden which can lead to emotional trauma or worst, depression. It would be much easier if we had guidelines to enlighten one, if truly your guy is heading to "Mr.Right" status quo. Well the Juice Box (my brain's fond name)has being vital in helping to make a little research and it came up with five(5) Signs that helps you decipher if he loves you or just in for fun and also this would allow you to identify and separate the friends from lovers with a lil emotional rupture. Nonetheless, without further ado, these are the itemized points for your enlightenment:

1.) YOUR PHONE BUZZES BECAUSE OF HIM ; How many times has he rung(call) you and began the conversation like this :
You : Hello,
‎Him: What's happening,
‎You: Nothing much,
‎Him : Okay, Just wanted to check on you, hope you're good.
‎ This may not seem convincing enough but, it's one of the signs that he thinks about you on regular basis, even when you're not together. From my perception, most men dislike talking for long when on the phone, unless they have a definite, clear-cut reason to call. When he calls you at work or home for no apparent reason then know that you're a reoccurring cue in his mind. A group of Guys I met recently opened up to me that they don’t like using their phones for call, but stated that "if they are in love, they are willing to do almost anything to stay in contact with the lady.

‎2.) HE TELLS HIS FRIENDS ABOUT YOU;
‎Don't be deceived, men are always talking about their latest catch (**winks**) to their buddies. . Does this ensure his love for you? No, but it doesn't mean he's lusting after you. So the thing you should be hoping for, is that he doesn’t just talk about you sexually, when he talks about you in a different perspective; giving his guys a non perverted info then he sees you in a romantic way which means he is into the relationship for good. This explains a certain warm or cushioned gesture and impression the first time you get to meet his friends. You can imagine how your partner must have being bragging and disturbing the boys on how amazing you are, a description of how beautiful you are, in that process of meeting they would be pleased to have confirmed your attributes.

‎ 3.) HE LOVES YOUR FRIENDS;
‎Personally, I don’t think guys can really love all your friends, but they would pretend to do so. Even the ones you secretly can't stand he will convince you that they are- cool, intelligent, charming, fun-to-be with and would like to meet them. But if he doesn’t care much about them, why the enthusiasm on meeting them? There are various reasons and this all because he wants your affection at the end of the day. Basically there are three major reasons he would want to meet your friends and be friends with them.
‎A.) He wants to please you
‎B.) He'll become a member of your clique, creating more room to spend more time with you.
‎C.)He may be able to squeeze information about you, out of them. There is always a possibility that he would actually like your friends, a simple way to know this if he can remember their names two days after meeting them.

‎4.) HE PAYS ATTENTION TO YOU WHEN YOU TALK;
‎This is one of the biggest giveaways. The next time you're out with your friends, pay attention to how other couples; how men and women talk under normal circumstances. See how their eyes are always prone to meet each other's and also not always does this happen but it might also be the opposite case. In another typical case the guy might be so distracted that he, might be caught noticing another lady too. Apply this to your relationship; does your boyfriend seem to be hanging to your every word, even if you're boring him to death. This is a sign is mad over you or simply not. You take your chance.
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‎ 5.) THE PAST IS FORGOTTEN;
‎Men are very different when it comes to situations about their past relationships, it's also one of the main topic of discussion when they're in the company of their fellow men. They can go into deep thoughts in self- pity and regret after a relationship has gone wrong and find it hard to control themselves from telling everyone they meet , how heartbroken they feel. Ladies are more inquisitive when it comes to matters of the past, simply because they want to make sure that the same mistakes doesn’t repeat themselves. Guys are all about moving on and when your guy is able to press that acceleration button on your relationship, it most likely means he's over his ex and looking forward to make new memories. He always keeps to time .
There are other valuable and insightful ways to know your Boyfriend may be Mr. Right
- Your Interests become His Interest
- He Talks After Sex -
- He sets up Dates on a Regular
- He keeps to time
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LIVING IN THE NOW
Growing up as kids, we were trained with the mind-set to reason or imagine the way our lives would turn out. Things like the next School test,our career and future Profession or even our life partners(marriage and family) .Everything we did and still do, is about tomorrow.
Then, we grow up and we still think about the future; but this time in a more complex and vast way because it's all changed now ; bills, insecurities,being broke, depression, responsibilities, relationships problems, office and work. The truth is that as an adult there is always a stubborn feeling or worry that compels you to be awake late at night. But you cannot reflect on your life and not look through the retrospect of time to remember the good days of the past which influenced your life either directly or indirectly.
Personally, I remember the first time I refused a direct order from my mother (The response I got was very overwhelming ��,trust me you don't wanna know although it's a story for another day). Also a time in Secondary School that I got an F in Mathematics and all those Tom and Jerry fights with my immediate elder brother. After a while, we think about our life choices and how it has affected us today. We think about how things might have played if we had done things differently. Future and past; tomorrow and yesterday. But isn’t today what matters most?

WORRY IS A KILLER

If you need one good reason to abandon the past and future and focus on the here and now, I know that you can live longer. First of all we should be aware that worrying doesn’t solve anything, it is so bad that in an article by Marcus Gomez in True Love Magazine, his research estimate suggests that between 75 percent and 90 percent of all doctor's visits are for stress-related ailments. Worry whether it's about the past or future, is a killer.
In my typical fashion, I have pondered on this issue and asked myself a deep and provoking question - How do you stop worrying? Because the alarming rate of depression and suicidal tendencies reports are increasing daily. Young people in our society are having bad days that leads to bad thoughts that end up causing a difficult life. If you doubt this just take a walk to your street junction, and ask a young man between the ages of 17 to 45 years about his struggles and I'm sure you would sit there for hours listening to stories that are very touching . The current state of Nigeria is also not helping matters, we've been forced to live in a society in which we are not being catered for by our leaders and it's simply appalling and it plays a major role in the reasons we worry .

Failure is a bull-headed issue that leads most people into deep worries and also the dread for it(not measuring up to the expectations of the society and family). Coming from a Middle Class family, there were standards that was effaced from our heads, which launched a certain amount of pressure on my kind of person. Parents and family are usually the first set of people to mount pressure on an individual. Growing up in African homes, we were always told and required to do certain things; just because it pleases our family. Most times we do not understand these Notion and there are certain repercussions that came when we fail to meet these expectations ( If you're lost , let me give a typical example) , Every parent, according them did very well in school ( that’s obviously not true) and there is always that child like me , who is not cut out for intellectual prowess and even when your parents know that you're not interested in being a doctor , lawyer ,engineer etc., they wouldn’t hesitate to persecute you when you fail your exams and would not even inquire about your desired goals in life . The way my father was bent on me getting my degree, I never had the mind to open up to him that I wanted to be in the show business (entertainment). These things at a point got me worried, depressed and uninterested in life at a certain period in my life because I began to worry not being able to achieve my own dreams and still fail to meet my parents demands, by performing poorly in my academics , I have fallen below the laid and set standards of the family and honestly I know a lot of people have similar experiences like this, often looking at what our mates (high school mates precisely) may have achieved ,can be intimidating , it makes one to have an introspective review and often it leads to depression and worry. The truth is that we tend to assume that most people we know, have their whole life all figured out (Some people, really do have it figured out though). With the rampant use of Social Media; the major tool for communication these days, which people use to often parade fake lifestyles.
The truth is that some people know how to hide their fears and worries well than the others. Every day is a lesson and not a failure so back to the question, "How do you stop to worry?"

BRUME'S APPROACH
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We all know that we can't change the past. We think we can change the future but that is mere illusion. All we can do is plan for it, to plan the things we want to do .But plans can easily go wrong as we all have been made to be aware that we are not the only one in the entire universe, there are billions of people who also have a to-do list, everyone is moving forward at the same time. The future is certainly for everybody and it's not for you alone. Hypothetically you might plan to go to the bar after reading this article in let's say 30 minutes time and if I choose to end the write up here -you would have to go the bar earlier .But because I haven’t stopped writing ,your outing would still be a little later. You may decide to still want to go right now, but what if starts to rain. At that point the odds with your plans has changed your future. What I'm trying to say in a nutshell is that we share the future with too many other creatures, each with their own agenda .The future is a more collective brawl not an individual thing.
In fact the only thing we have power over is the now and it seems impossible sometimes, but a long series of now's make up our entire life. What really matters is your attitude to everyday life and its various challenges and triumphs - if you want to be unhappy you can be. But you can also choose to be pleased, contented and loving.
I also feel that the best way to prepare for tomorrow is to put all your energy in God, your work and career intelligently, all your enthusiasm on doing today's work superbly for today. There is always going to be one issue or problem like having a bill to pay or emergency but it is advised that you try not to have anxiety. This simply means that you should live your life without worrying about the future that might not occur, and about a past that has become history and it also means that we are not certain about the future. The only thing we truly have is now -so, what are we going to do with it? I suggest you live it and make the best out of it, Live your dreams.

TIP OF THE WEEK
Make a contribution to something or someone you know that can't repay or reward you, passionately and you will feel a self-peace and content within you. Free yourself from your own wants and greed.

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Who Wins When It's Just Sex?? !!!
Relationships can be an emotional rollercoaster, The moment a Man meets a Woman for the first time and by telling her his intentions for courtship and vice versa, is often one of the most exciting feelings there is and most times this process doesn't achieve the desired expectation, Which is a lasting relationship or friendship.
This is mostly because, in the process of getting to know each other which seems to play the major key role that usher's in the next step or steps in a romantic relationship. Most cases, true and real understanding of intentions are mostly not stated or sometimes misunderstood.
In my experience the first step of a successful partnership /relationship is one whoms intentions are truly defined and understood, Still speaking from my experience they are various types of relationships that can happen between a man and woman. Namely
1). Friends
2.)Friends with Benefits
3.)Casual Sex
4.) Full Time Romance.
(See the way I broke them down ) Also as a guy I have been able to decipher this various types and know the benefits of stating true intentions in a relationship in order to curtail or minimise disappointments. ( Which could be heartbreaking or depressing, and also a waste of time, money and emotions �)
For example When you ask a particular set of girls (Mostly in the University) Why they are in a relationship with a certain Man they seem unemotionally attached to, Simple answer I get " The guy wants sex and has money but since he can take care of the bills , I have my fare share and call it quits without him getting a taste of the "cookie" from the jar (sex)." In a case like this two intentions have been made ,but at the end of the day one party is in the loosing end and the other party feels accomplished due to outsmarting the other ( This is because Oga's random notion is that the babe is playing hard to get and there by impressing her, perhaps might be to achieve a rather unattainable goal) and that is just one case Scenario.
The other way round is when all a guy wants is sex from the woman and gets it. The woman now tends to assume that she has been objectified as an object of momentary pleasure. These two case scenarios,are among the situations that we face in life these days mostly and these are the reasons why we have this misguided conceptions and inductive quotes or sayings like " Men are Scum" , " Women are Gold Diggers" and so many more.
(Thank you for reading so far)
So I'm moved to ask a tentative Question , that in a Scenario , When a guy and a girl hangout for a cool evening of splendour and romance although one thing leads to another and unimaginably they both end up having sex and that is it " a one night stand"which definitely will amount to nothing serious or tangible , Who is more at a Loss? The Male or Female .

My Honest Opinion.: Be honest with yourself and intentions, always put it out there because if you don't, you might end up feeling bitter when it hits you that the person you planned to use is actually using you ( This is game is mostly played by singles with the mindset of winning and adding to their scores) . My candid advice is that, if you want real and genuine love ,go for it and also if you feel you want lust make your intentions known from the onset because, In a typical situation when all a guy wants is to have sex and no relationship and ends up spending so much time and definitely money and achieving this goal , I tend to believe that he will feel no remorse Especially if the intention of the relationship were already stated clearly and Ladies should do the same..If all you want is a free meal or just a friend kindly let these guys know so that even when they do more than what you want you know that you're not a fault, (So that when Oga was forming Rambo was thinking you were playing hard to get and you've already told him what you are all about we will know who's at fault) This Write up is very debatable because I speak from my experience and environment and I stand to be enlightened with Opinions and Perspective or Views from different angles.

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