Is it wrong to use ur dad xter as a standard in judging d men u date. As for me I do dt a lot. Doesn't work out sha. Though I am not saying my dad is perfect.

Is it wrong to use ur dad xter as a standard in judging d men u date. As for me I do dt a lot. Doesn't work out sha. Guess good men r hard to find.

pretim: Am so hrt broken ryt nw am even shading tears,
wat have i done wrong dat i loved a guy, he hardly call me, i call him always, text him but no reply, he traveled without telling me wen he came bk he dnt wana see me

before dis guy became something i suffered wit him, i gave him my 6months salary to start a business, look @ hw he is paying me bk, he never buy anything for me, am so tired i need to brk up because i can't take it anymore God why me, or is it a crime dat am a gurl in love?

*Cries*

So sorry dear, I no dt feeling. I want u to understand dt when a man loves u he doesn't hav to say it. His deeds will speak on his behalf. But b4 u conclude, try and find out wat is rily wrong. The guy might be going tru emotional stress, or der is sometin abt ur relationship dt aint right.
But wen u finally conclude dt he is indifferent abt u and ur feelings my dear, walk away and dnt look back. The pain fades with time, trust me.

nbright: That's the Gospel truth... There's nothing like love at first sight.. I just don't know how people compare attraction to love or spark... I read how the real maria in "sound of Music" fared when she was with the Von Trapp family... She said she married the Captain initially because of the kids, that she wasn't even in love with him then, though she did liked him but later on the love materialised.. For you girls, I know you are good at hiding somethings, I will advice you to marry the guy that truely loves you even if you don't love him back (as long as you like him).. Later on with his love and devotions, your own love for him will come to the fore..

Hitting the nail on d head jare. U r so right

ujchief:
After 6 months of absence, this is all you could say?



Hi bukky, wad'up?

My favourite writer. Am good u?

Remember my uni days...there was dis restaurant opposite d school gate..went there to have lunch. Was eating my jellof rice wen I saw one of the girls working in the restaurant washing her baby's bum with the water meant for dishes...she was literally dipping her hand and washin his bum filled with faeces. Euwwwwwww

SimplYeahmee:

Hi bukkydoll,
First of all "here a big hug" (dnt let go until U̶̲̥̅̊ feel comforted)

Can ℓ̊ ask, ℓ̊ hope U̶̲̥̅̊'ve not given d ultimate, ℓ̊.e SEX. It may sound weird coming frm a guy.

U̶̲̥̅̊ dnt av to let it weigh U̶̲̥̅̊ down. Lyk it's said d road to success is laiden wit bumps and ditches. U̶̲̥̅̊ said U̶̲̥̅̊ caught him cheating, pls nd pls dnt think of eva going bck to him cos d same thing that made him cheat now won't kip him faithful in marriage. He will at one point find an excuse to cheat n in d end U̶̲̥̅̊ may end up considering a divorce.
Pls pick up urself, God has made U̶̲̥̅̊ see a bad route dat may lead to sumtin worse. ℓ̊ believe God is preparing U̶̲̥̅̊ for a better man out there. Sumtyms ℓ̊ wish all men were decent lyk me to be faithful to ladies who are decent.

Pls ℓ̊ know it will be hard bt giv urself tym. If U̶̲̥̅̊ av to cry about by all means pls do, ℓ̊ know it will help a bit. Bt pls dnt cry for too long. Dust urself up and move about ur biz [b][/b]ur prince charming is out there jst as my princess is out there sum whr waiting for me.

Feel free to mingle bt be careful in choosing.

Lastly frm me to Ÿ̲̣̣̣̥ø̲̣̣̥u̶̲̥̅̊ "A big snuggly heart warming bear hug"

awww tnks dear...really appreciate.

carmelion: Hello bukydoll,you are welcome to the thread ok?You don't have to be sorry for sharing your story,that was the main reason I opened this thread.

One thing is to have a problem,another thing is to have someone to share it with.In this world of ours ,people don't go around telling everyone their problem.They will only laugh at you.So I created this threadso that people can let some burden off their chest,believe me ,it helps when you talk to some one.

Personally I have shared my own experiences too,like wise some ladies here,so don't feel odd(((big hug)))

Now to the guy issue,nobody here would understand you perfectly cos you are the only one wearing the shoe.We are only giving the little advice we can.We hope it will help?

We all know marriage is one institution that bonds two people from different background together.There are times when they would disagree on some issues.

I am sure that out of all the things he did,what pained you most was the fact that he started cheating on you and that he wants you to take care of the feeding,while he does other things.

Nobody wants to be cheated on so I won't blame you for that ,but is that the first time?did he show any sign of remorse?if he did,give another chance. We all make mistakes,but please be careful. Your health as a woman is at risk now.

As per taking care of the feeding,I know that most women(including me) would not mind supporting their spouse,but personally I don't like someone telling me what to do.

It would look as if he is dodging his responsibilities. My husband should be my best friend and as such should DISCUSS with me the best way to run our home,not imposing on me,what I should do and what I should not do. I don't know how your boyfriend presented it,but if you guys never agreed on that,then its not fair.

As for you getting a job,before he marries you,I don't have a say in that because,he obviously has his reasons. But what effort is he making to help you get a job.?

Is he helping you distribute your CV?Does he give you info about vacancies?

Then just like Nbright mentioned,look inwardly,there might be some loopholes from your side(we all have one),saying it here is of no importance to me. Just work on it ok?

Things might still work out between you and this guy,you started from the scratch with him you know,you should enjoy with him too.

Now as for the pressure,my dear you are not the only one. In one of my subsequent posts ,I will give you a glue as to what my everyday life is like presently. It is is full of pressure but all I do is live my life the way I know how to.

By the way,is the proposal still open?

Thanks dear, wish he was remorse...God knows der won't be a breakup story here. Dis isn't his first tinme. But he cldnt wiggle his way out of dis situation. I no I hav my flaws( who doesn't) but I think if he respected me enuf he would have behaved differently. Guess since my story is one sided pple tink I am trying to paint ma self as d angel. Hmmmm wish u all wer in my shoes. Tnks carmy doll n others that tried to advice me. U guys r d best. Don't wanna whine just shared my story that's all. Carmydoll dnt forget ma party ooo I need it

Wow I feel loved, tnx to everyone who read my story.. I believe dis will make me stronger and wiser...well am bruised but not dead, glory be to God...oya carmydoll when am I getting my single lady status induction party...

Doncolio:

You see the part I quote is what I like about all you are saying.A lady that can't tell what direction her guy is moving in love terms or where her relationship is going will mostlikely be blamed. Coz she suffer the time wasted the more.
But in your case you were caught off guard I'd say.
These are possible reasons why a guy might form the attitude(though not all conclusive)
- its either he's distracted by all the attention he's getting from his new status making him take you for granted.
- Or he never planned marrying you but needed you for that period (which is born out of pure wickedness). Some guys have that in them, like a criminal instict.
- He probably has an impression you are stalk on him and you can go no where(from him cheating on you and now disrespecting you). A feeling that either partner can get in a relationship.

So now that you know better the true status of your relationship without a doctor telling. Make the best decision earlier so you don't regret later.

Hmmm thanks...guess I hav a lot to consider so I make d best of my situation

simayanki4real:

@bukkydoll:

Don't be sorry for sharing your story, you would get advice which will help you make very important decision in your life. You are very right to want to get gifts from your man from time to time especially if you both started from scatch (so to speak).

The issue of continuous waiting for things to get better is what i still haven't been able to wrap my fingers around. Would it be because things are now going well for him so you anticipate a change for the better in the future? While, so stories may have happened so, more than 50% of experiences proved that a 'sour fruit is always known from the outside'. I don't condone ladies accepting a proposal in a make-do relationship.

If a guy cannot respect you, then he doesn't love you & if he cannot love you now, he will never love you in the future...cHIKINA! Don't look at your mum's face o, lik you said you are still young & probably with good qualities...a great guy will come along! Your mum would not live with you & your husband o, so if it is good you all will enjoy it, but if it goes sour....its only you that will endure it.

Don't regret your experience, because however it was would contributing to making you a pillar to your future partner. NEVER AGREE TO MARRY A GUY THAT DOESNT RESPECT YOU! That's why in my list of what i want in a lady, RESPECT comes before LOVE!

Tnk you so much. I rily didn't go into d relationship with a selfish intent. Just feel dt once in a while appreciate ur lady. He kept feeling he since he proposed to me der is no need to appreciate me.

alutacontinua:

Why are you sad The fact dt u feel stupid or d fact dt u miss him or d fact dt ur mum is pressuring u already or d fact dt u wasted 3 years of ur lyf with him It wld help to know What exactly is hurting u d most, so as to know wot advice to give!

I feel sad dt he hurt me dis way... it just makes me feel weak dt I cldnt discern dis b4 now..guess I was blinded by love

Guess I shld tell my story
Started dating this dude abt 3yrs ago(april makes it 3yrs) he was just starting his life all over again after leaving edo state where he was born to jos. He said he needed a new life devoid of his parents influence. I dated him wen he had nothing, practically nothing. I knew he was a graduate and had a bright future. We struggled financially for abt a year with me helping him with the little I had since I was just a student. Life started getting better for him n he took care of me with the little he had. Then he got dis rily kul contract. He was at least an average guy with a nyc crib and a lovely ride...nxt thing I knew gurls started flocking around and he felt good. Started being rude to me, I just took it as one of dose things. He stopped taking care of me, though I am a lady that loves using my money to take care of myself, at least I felt he shld appreciate me as his gf wif little gfs. For over a year he nvr spent a dime on me. I felt worthless in his eyes but still took it again as one of those things... Finally He proposed to me and I foolishly said yes. After about 6 montjs d dude surprised me! Told me to get a job b4 he can marry me, mind you I am business oriented and I tld him I would prefer to run my business than work under someone else...he kept ranting that he didn't plan his life dt way so I must get a job..next strike was wen he told me dt wen I get a job I am going to be saddled with feeding the family while he takes care of other bills. This was so disturbing cos I feel a man should feed his family..though I dnt mind supporting but making it look lik my job wasn't just it. The last strike I finally caught him cheating on me last week, he kept denying but am no fool.
Rily sorry my story is all over the place but I keep thinking of all I went tru with him, he rude behaviour n how he has no respect for me. To worsen the matter my mum is rily insisting I get married soon..ha! Am just in my early 20's for God's sake. I rily need to start my life over again but I am scared. Don't no wer to begin and I feel so stupid for letting dis relationship stay dis long b4 realising dis dude was just using me. I need ur advice...am in a rily sad place rite now

carmelion: Dolls do not drink.
Dolls do not smoke.
Dolls do not bleach their skin.
Dolls do not dress indecently.
Dolls do not take pills.
Dolls do not fight in public.
Dolls walk gracefully.
Dolls are contented.
Dolls do not wear crazy hair styles.
Dolls smell cool/nice.
Dolls seek to develop themselves.
Dolls do not keep late nights.
Dolls do not go after men,they attract men

*A very good morning to the dolls in the house!,hope you had a sweet night?.

*Hi,dudes,thanks for popping in,thanks for your advices too.

Carmy doll u r d best gurl. With all these attributes I can say with pride that I am a complete doll..

Ms_Steph: not fine o. I just want to leave dis place

We have approximately 2months. Dnt worry it is gonna be over soon

Ms_Steph: pls o its not up to 100 I think its 93 or so. Cos me am marking my calendaR

Lmao...long time dear, how hav u been?

Ms_Steph: pls o its not up to 100 I think its 93 or so. Cos me am marking my calendaR

Lmao...long time dear, how hav u been

surveycash:

Use escrow or chrisvicmall. Samples are more expensive. You may need add say 15usd to the moq price

tnx

Hi, I hav been a silent follower of this thread. Tnks to all those who shared info for free to pple like me. May God bless u richly. Pls I saw a product on alibaba and I want the manufacturer to send me a sample. How do I pay for it so that I dnt get duped. Is it possible to get one piece from a manufacturer that sells minimum of about 100pieces per order. Tnx

Senior corpers I hail...we have less than 100days woop woop!! How una dey? Miss u guys ooo

@bukz4real just mention for a follow back

berniceu: @bukkylois,sure u can go for the test.

I don't think I can go for the test. Thought it was in jos den I read the text again and I saw kaduna. Maybe I will be lucky next time wen my schedule will be flexible

PriscOlade:
You didn't really specify what you're invited for... If test, you can go and tell them that you're yet 2pass out... They'll listen and understand but if its for interview, my dε̲̣̣aя̲̅ don't bother going ooo... You can call John for α̲̅ re-schedule of interview... Best wishes...

Invition for the aptitude test in kd

doyexy:

Try ur luck

tnx

Pls can someone assist me. I am a batch B corps member. I applied for the uba job and I just received my invite. I will be passing out in june approximately 3months from now. Do you think I can go for the test without my nysc discharge certificate?