₦airaland Forum

acidrop:
submitting 2 your husband nko?

will you?

acidrop:
i doubt that one, babe u be feminist?

no, I just no want a policeman for husband

acidrop:
the hubby 2 be now

two can play a captain.

acidrop:
erm. . . . . . cadet . . . . . i hope say u fyn oooo? because d guy fit jst bone u. . . . .lol

which guy?

stillwater:
That can be pardoned but I would have to tell him not to use such words again that is if I have a thing for him.[b] There are some men who can't construe a single sentence [/b]without making use of swear words, those are the men I definitely wouldn't have anything to do with in the first place.

Men like his_grace

4 Him:
pele dear. live with it.

Live with wetin? That's why I'll know who am marrying before I do. He best leave his authoritative mentality with his last day of being a bachelor

4 Him:
Your husband is an authority figure in your home at least figuratively. Live with it dear.

Lord help me with who I marry. authority kini?

tRoOE:


Have come to a conclusion that nland men are all sadist plz learn to spread your wings

lmao. tell them o. but most of them are. 98% got problems past being a sadist

[quote author=D-reloaded link=topic=132309.msg2232281#msg2232281 date=1210131536]alagolo [/quote]

4 Him:
Acidrop, u're a small girl. u're not even 20 . . . do you even have a boyfriend not to talk of knowing anything about marriage?
Who told you my parents are not living in the 21st century?

Most of the females pushing this "i am a leader too" agenda don't even have boyfriends. When you are married please come here and tell us how much power you wield in your marriage.

I was going to sleep until I saw this. David, are you married too?

Anywaz, am going. David, enjoy flying your aircrafts

wendymanda:
So your mother comes home from work and does all the chores and cooking while your dad does what, flies an aircraft? Yes the way you describe. . . in fact mentioning submissiveness seems to suggest full time house wife.

Dnt mind him. Let him go and fly his legs to the kitchen

4 Him:
the captain never controls everything, he needs someone to announce safety procedures, he needs an assistant to help him in case he gets tired, he needs auto-pilot to enable him stretch his legs . . . YET the buck still ends at his table.

So , I ask you again, being a wife is just being an assistant?

4 Him:
you must be flying Wendymanda airways.

There is ONE captain on board an aircraft, the other is assistant pilot.

So we're just assistants?

4 Him:
When next u're driving your car have your boyfriend hold one end of the steering wheel too.

Ok, will assure him to. hisssssss.

acidrop:
all these ones nah story abeg

story story, story
Once upon a time
time time
the end




Now go to sleep

4 Him:
trying flying an aircraft as a partnership.

David, am tired of you always giving me that as your answer. Give me another. In a plane, the captain controls everything, so must it be likewise for the marriage?

Uche2nna:
It is kind of funny when they point out cooking as if it is a unique problem witht the Nigerian men. Which American person would cook for You? Not the ones I know around here, definitely. They can't cook for shit!!!! What about the ladies? Well, if You can't make do with Pizza and ordering in, then forget about dating them.

Depends on how each person is brought up. If your parents dnt teach you how to cook or if you're not willing to learn how to cook, then ofcourse you won't be able to cook jack

4 Him:
You certainly don't understand the term "submissiveness" in the context of marriage. It has nothing to do with inequality, it is about one giving the other the space and opportunity to be a leader.
You had class captains in school, that did not suddenly make you his househelp. you still remained equals even though he had to shoulder the bulk of the responsibilty for your class.

Must one be a leader? What does partnership means to you? seriously, answer thant question

wendymanda:
Is exactly what am saying. Thank God others see it the way I do. Also if the man can't do house work how the heck did he survive all these years on his own or was he living with his mom. . . which is another thing.

Dn tmind them jare. esp. David here

Oh David, hush! You're absolutely not getting my point. I can associate with my people, I can marry my people (yes), but I'll marry the ones am accustomed to. Not because of superiority, which I am not, but b/c of my choice.

I can't marry someone that might mess up my house or leave me just because am too "American". It's happen here more than often, but I won't let out anyone's personal story

4 Him:
The above is bull. Even white americans get married to nigerians and have happy homes.
Na wa o, its unbelievable to see nigerians live a few years in america and then suddenly they can no longer relate to people who were once their neighbours.

Seeing that you don't see where am going, I'll leave you to what you believe!

Who said I can't relate to them? So not marrying them is not relating to them? what happened to friendship and acquaintances? Must I marry them to relate to them?

4 Him:
Even men make mistakes, that is why we marry so we can have a second opinion. It will surprise you that so many women who look very timid outside are actually in control of the home. Its because they've learnt how to manipulate their husbands to do their bidding without necessarily upsetting his ego.
My father is one man who has a huge ego but he will NEVER take a decision without asking his wife first.

Yea, but who is sure that they'll have the same result as those "timid" women? What if my husband can't take it?

Uche2nna:
Marrying an Americana would not make You immune to that, either. Sorry to bust your bubble.

Read my post carefully! Who said I want to marry an American?

4 Him:
i'm solidly behind sheniqua (how them dey call am) on this. This is simply absurd.
A few years ago you were on the same plane as those you now say you don't feel acustomed to. Infact many in Nigeria have far better opportunities than some nigerian kids growing up in America. My cousins live in Lagos but they've been to disneyland and travel out of the country at least once a yr. That's a lot more than many here can afford.

What ideas do nigerians living in nigeria have that is inferior to urs? If it is the same mentality as i see in african americans then i'll gladly go back to my village to pick a wife.

David, my gosh. This is not about inferiority or superiority. This is about some Nigerian Mentality that I won't be able to agree with.

sheniqua:
Never said or insinuated that anywhere.
Any child born in America whose parents did not elevate her Nigerianess above her Americanness is a lost soul.
It starts with taking the kids home when they are young,speaking the native language and associating with your people to some extent.
This thread would never arise if this girl knew her culture.

kai! Look here, I stand by my choice. I can't marry a "new" Nigerian because there's equal Nigerian and American filled in me. Compare to someone still 100% Nigerian. That's a match in @#@$.

Of course I know my Nigerian culture, but I do not agree with all of them. Now that is where the problem comes in, if he's expecting to be who I am not.

4 Him:
mba. When you get married then see if you can put this to practice. A man is the head of his home . . . it is the way nature has designed it. Even female lions acquiesce to the leader of the pride. It is not because women are slaves, it is simply because you cannot have 2 captains in a boat.
It is this kind of mentality that has so many black women unmarried with a litter of children.

David, am not saying he wnt be the head, but it's not as if everything as to go his own ways. Then he berra be ready for arguments, which am trying to prevent

sheniqua:
I live right here with you.
You talk as if your people are some aliens from outer space
From your posts,I gather you were born and raised up in Naija to alarge extent
You almost sound racist against yourself.
If it was an African American saying those things,we all want to chop off their heads
There are cultural differences which we all had to adjust to while in America
You did same!
You probably wore the" wrong clothes" to school and spoke with heavy accent
We all had to make those adjustments.

How does me saying I won't marry a nigerian that's still fresh wit their mentality racist? this is not even the talk about race. I'm not saying I won't associate with them, although that idea is beginning to change. No, I have nothing against my people. But I'll rather marry one that's accustom to the same idea as moi, so there would be no talk of "trouble" or "divorce" in the future.

hahahha! heavy accent? thanks, but no.
wrong clothes as into jeans and shirt, yea, can't get enough of jeans

StephenP:
[size=13pt]I haven't really thought about being in a situation like that but I can imagine how difficult it must be. You should be try to be open minded to his ideas because you may find that some of the so called Nigerian mentality just might be useful.[/size]

Some. Am not into the husband telling his wife what to do. that she must "obey" him because he's the "husband". rara o. That mentality, I can't stand.

sheniqua:
Nigerians marry Americans whose great great grandparents were born and bred in America and have good marriages,talk less of a first?second geberation immigrant?
It depends on what you want it to be.

I wonder why your parents never took you home to learn and appreciate your culture
If they did you would see yourself as Nigerian and not start a thread like this.
what a shame!

So what you're saying is that one must marry a "new" Nigerian to learn and appreciate their culture? Why not marry the Nigerians that's been here and knows their ways? am not saying Nigerians that were born here o

sheniqua:
what a pediatric way of thinking!
like you weren't once a "new nigerian"

Amnot saying it to annoy anybody. But it's overwhelming how demanding it is to put on a smile for them. Do this do that, come here come there, you won't understand until you're here to bare. each person to their own experience. Like I said again, I hope not to find myself in the same situation

stillwater:
If you cheat mentally, doesn't me everyone does the same. There are better things for me to think about than what is in man's pants!!!!!!!!!!

dnt mind her, let's play along with her charade. everyone of her thread on this sec. is always about a man or woman's "kini"