₦airaland Forum

wolement:
The new responsible man will be doing no touch until marriage and the woman might never give him he*d.

Lol... this Life no balance

Anfieldboss:
God has a way of redirecting us to what is best for us, only if we let Him. I would not be where I am today, if I was practicing engineering.
I have no regrets whatsoever leaving engineering for internal auditing. On the contrary, my regret is wasting time trying to pursue a career in engineering (that I most likely would have struggled in)

I understand you bro... just that in a good nation, the possibility of that occurring is very slim.

sunkee:
We have similar experience. I was on a scholarship in south Korea for my MSc in chemical engineering with good stipend then in 2019. I was told by my professor ( a Korean) that I should stay back and do business with him but I refused. My friends in Korea begged me not to leave but I didn't listen. I'm still working with government agency taking less than 200k as take home after tax.
I always cry anytime I remember this act. My still struggling to make it though by learning new things and even I tried to enter US last year November but my Visa was denied.
I put all my hope in Almighty Allah now sha.

Hmmm, I wish had these opportunities when I was outside Nigeria, what will even make anyone belive in this useless country?, it's well.

Anfieldboss:
Not taking risks in my 20s. I've had a decent job since my mid twenties, when the economy was still fair and the japa movement was yet to be popular. If I was determined to leave Naija then, I would have been able to save up and leave via study route.

The painful part was that I was well informed about travelling abroad....I knew about the process and all but I wasted my time trying to get a fully funded scholarship. I pursued getting one for about 6 years of my life before I finally gave up.

Even when I got my Masters degree @29, a good age and profile for Canada express entry, I didn't make the move. A friend of mine, that we got our Masters the same time is in Canada today as a Permanent resident. He actually told me when he started the process, but I overthought the process like how will I get POF, and I didn't do anything. It was years later I got to know that POF can actually be arranged.

In my 20s, I was risk averse. I knew I wanted to leave Naija, but I wanted to go on a smooth sail. I didn't want to go abroad with uncertainties, and I missed opportunities of going abroad because of not taking risks and overtinking.

Another thing was not adapting to my career path on time. I studied Electrical Engineering, but somehow found myself in Internal Audit @ 26. I refused to adapt and chart a career in Internal Audit...I stubbornly went on trying to pursue a career in engineering. I did a Masters, got engineeering certifications like COREN, NSE and NIPE but could not land an engineeering job.

I became stuck in my career for years. I couldn't apply for senior Audit roles because I did not develop myself, I also could not land engineering roles.

But I thank God, delay is not denial. After working as an Auditor for 7 years, I decided to embrace my career as an Auditor and God gave me divine speed, I got Chartered within a year. My newly acquired qualification as a Chartered Accountant, coupled with my 8+ years as an Internal Auditor, landed me a senior role within the same industry.

I am sincerely grateful to God, because I thank God I am still young to learn from my mistakes.

My advice to the younger ones, especially those still in their 20s, do not be afraid to take risks and do not overthink anything you want to do, just start.

From an engineer to an auditor... chai Nigeria!

PROPEACE:
I Left Nigeria in my mid 20s, completed my MSc with a fully funded scholarship in UK, the son of poor naija civil servants o! Used my two legs to come back to Nigeria. My European girlfriend discouraged me from returning, she told me we should get married, I said no, I struggled for over a decade believing hardwork and merit in Nigeria will get me there. I was interviewed many times by several government agencies in Nigeria but never got the job, today I sit in my 40s licking my wounds. My naija friends that were friendly while I was there have vanished. Some have humiliated me before leaving when it seemed to them the tunnel I am in has no end to it. My biggest undoing in life is I believed too much in this country. Today, my peers that stayed back in UK are doing very well as citizens. I am trying very hard not to give up. Still strategizing. It's hard but deep down in me, I know I have learnt so much. Too much to not make it in the end. I pray for God to grant me long life.

Similar experience but I was used, if I had those opportunities as you did when I was in Europe, nothing would make me ever to comeback, an European girlfriend and scholarship?, never coming back to Nigeria, my poor background experiences taught me there's no hope in this country...so I wonder what made you think there's hope in Nigeria, it's well bro, you'll fix things!

atoliman:
i have seen two mature ladies who were single mum get remarried and now living with their husbands for almost 15 years. No one is perfect and people get divorced. A lot of men tend to bash single mum and sometimes some single mum dey fxxk up by sleeping around with multiple men

Single mothers I know that remarried are still cheating... only pathetic men with no option marries single mothers!

Then how did they infiltrate Nigeria??... you people are mad in this country!

SadiqBabaSani:
Nonsense, Igbo youths should stop fighting their most probable allies

What nonsense Allies?... Allies that was against us during the civil war, we don't need fake people around us!

Thescrutinyng:
https://thescrutinyng.com/police-declares-lagos-based-businesswoman-oyebola-adewunmi-wanted/

1.6ft??... is she a pygmy?

Bobodee09:
Fraud money has make alot of people lose there senses.

Anyone who say one 1m is small today is clearly into fraud.
No one with legitimate income will ever see 1m as small money despite whatever is happening currently in the current.

If she apply for 1million loan today for business does she no how much she will pay has interest.

See my brother we that understand value of money and how it pay to grow business aren't much.

EXACTLY 💯, OR THEY'RE STEALING GOVERNMENT MONEY/ANY ORGANISATION WHERE THEY WORK, even 500k hard die to get easily nowadays, how much is even level 14 salary in government?, bunch of entitled lazy ladies everywhere!

cr7lomo:
Are women like her and u disabled?? Adults that went to school can't make something out of ur lives ...what a shame .... must u depend on a man to be able to make something out of ur lives ?? Did any woman give that her man money to start a business?? This is so shameful that u women are so shameless that u feel entitled to a man's money like u are disabled or illiterates... even disables and illiterates are making millions from the scratch... how can that business even be successful when u didn't make the money urself ... u will end up running it down and still expect the man to recapitalise it ... I really dey shame for u women... that shows that sending women to school is a waste of money ... a father will spend millions training his daughter, onlyvfor her to graduate and now be depending on men to feed or take care of her and her family...an adult woman that's a graduate and not disabled, una no de shame ooo

Virtually 85% of all women who are graduates fall into this category!, after school dey go start to look for rich man to marry them... answering graduates for mouth and ordinary paper certificates, depicts marriage is the highest achievement for women, but dey go still dey lie and deceive themselves, when we see it everytime... omo better to marry a lady who has handwork, because she knows the worth of even 2k than all these spoilt brats with certificates seeking for equality untop of a man's money, God punish devil, na mumu men dey fall for that scam!, marrying a woman with handwork is the best for now!

Sirchiboy:
I asked a lady I want to marry that if i give her 1m to start a business.
Hmmm she told me 1m cant start any business with a shop.
Someone that have not seen 1m in her life saying this.
Please guys if you have such lady in your life never make a mistake to wife her or she will put you in a chronic debt.
You will never achieve anything in life if you marry such girl

If she's not working or have ambition to work with her educational qualifications, make she go learn HANDWORK!, you personally know how tough it is to make that money in present Nigerian economy... make love no make you go mumu oo, you'll suffer!, and once you drop and she senses it, issues will emanate and you'll regret, use head now oo, better dump her!

Letmecum:
Oga how 1millon wan take rent shop and stacked it up with goods. My friend give his newly wedded wife 5m to start a business renting of shop is not included. Oga u go start business with 1m abi na garri and yam u wan buy for the shop. Rawbish

Why her Papa no give her the money!?, all fingers are not equal, 1m is enough to start something, go learn hardwork, all of una just put eyes for man money, THIEVES!, same man to even respect and submit to him na problem for una, umu ogwugwu oge.

Bobodee09:
Someone who doesn't have money must only have eye for starting small.


There are many businesses out there she can start with even 200k but most ladies want to show off.

Swallow pride ,hustle hard and grow.

1m is more than enough to start a business for someone who has sense.

That's their problem, always raising their hands where e no reach on someone's pocket oo, money their Papa no fit afford!

Sonnobax15:

She's right...

1m presently in Nigeria can't do no shiit .

Here in Ughelli where I'm,only store rent+ wicked agents fees go collect half of that 1m.......So she's definitely right bro..

Rubbish excuse!... una just get ojukokoro and wants to form madam on a struggling man's hard earned money, there's shops that are cheap inside the market, start from there!, commonising 1m like you gave him any, mtcheeww

dominique:
She's right, the money is enough to start a business without renting a shop. I don't know about other states but in Lagos, neighbourhood shops now go between 8-10k per month. Shops in busy areas, bus-stops and market places go for much higher and most landlords ask for 2 years rent upfront. The spending won't be on rent alone, she'll need to furnish the shop with chair, table, counters, shelves etc and make it look attractive to customers. She's only telling you the reality of things but you're here poverty shaming her. You strike me as the toxic abusive husband who will treat your wife like you're doing her a favour by marrying her. How I wish she can open her eyes and see how better she'll be far away from you.

Reeks of entitlement... on someone's money oo, why her papa no give her 1m if it's easy to come by, women Full market shops with even less than 500k and making at least 100k per month, that woman and you na doom to any uprising young man!

Bendeco02:
Oga blame some of our Igbo people that sworn not to have sense.

Why can't they limit their migration to Middle Belt and some part of North East?

Why would a reasonable person enter Sokoto, Katsina, Kano, Northern Kaduna, Northern Niger, Zamfara, Bauchi, Jigawa, Kebbi state to settle?

They don't care about their lifes, so losing it shouldn't be a big deal.

Edo people have nothing to lose because the number of all the Edo residing in North West as a whole may not be upto 1k

After lamenting how thousands of Igbos were killed in the North before and during 1966/67 they still went back there to settle. Are those men cursed or what?

Talking like you don't know how difficult it is to survive in Nigeria?, you must live in the WESTERN world then.

noleflendum:
Our southeast brothers should be taking things easy
Everything is not Nzogbu Nzogbu

How did you find out the threats are from Southeast??, tribalism don finish your life... finally is this country actually working?

oluwafreshkid:
I guess Abacha was a southerner

Leave that clown 🤡

BlueStripper:
The only thing you said up there that makes sense is educational generation in Northern Nigeria. Every other thing is rubbish and arrant nonsense.

People like you don't know how large Northern Nigeria is. The decision to deprive Northern Nigeria the access to quality education was a conscious thing. And it was crafted by both Northern and Non-northern leaders for politics gain.

Besides deprivation of western education, we didn't loose our cultural - moral values and sense of community.

You that had access to quality western education, why are your kin pushing drugs in India and South Africa and prostituting in Italy?

You can say what you like, na una be the problem of this country with una lack of education!... now don't include other regions in your lack of education and infrastructural growth, all other regions supports and loves education so how he's non northern leaders involved, abi na dem dey give quota system? 😆, truth is bitter... your region ruined this country and FYI I know how large the North is, you guys won Biafra war till today there's no major development in your region!, with the education we have what have we achieved??, ask your olodo leaders that rubbish question, cus na dem no fit create employment for the citizens, so you want them to use the eduction where??, infact in the offices we have in Nigeria na still other regions dey do the actual work, your leaders are just there as ceremonial heads and receiving huge salaries, answering Oga without no input and productivity, you think say we no dey see everything?, Oga go face your FAILED region, na una even get terrorism, religious extremism, banditry, fulani herdsmen menace, killing innocent people everywhere and kidnapping!... infact I rather be a drug pusher than a foolish and wicked terrorist killing and maiming people for nothing!, say make dem kill dem, if they go by that standard many of your northern leaders will be put to death!, cus all of them na criminals!, name one important natural resources the North have that's boosting the nation's economy??, only Gold in zamfara, which na una dey mine am illegally with police protection, you better shut that your dirty mouth there and face your God forsaken region, hypocritical IDIOT!

BlueStripper:
My goodness! Can't we just live a decent life whenever we travel outside the shores of this country.

Why Nigerians relocate to "India, Cambodia, Kazakhstan and the Philippines" is still a mystery to me?

I am a farmer and I live a peaceful and decent life. I don't envy people because I have what I need.

Please don't release these animals because they will continue to cause harm and bring shame to Nigeria. Forget their families, they don't care. All they care about is money and obodo-oyibo.

Up North, we value our family name more than anything. You just cannot mess up the legacy of your father and ancestors.

Please Jail them for life or kill them.

But same north is ruining the nation... no development, economical growth, no employments and same north have lowest educated people, stop making your region look like you're righteous, na your region messed up the nation and pushed other regions into criminality, even amongst you people poverty is extreme. Before you cast stone make sure you're pure and holy.

GOFRONT:
You see Ngolo , You see Sadio, these two are the real G.O.A.T in Africa...........they both have sense. They returned home to pick their wives however huge their money and fames...

But you see Mikel Obi, you see Ekong Very senseless Footballers. They prefer to marry Russians

Love is love you slowpoke, we all deserve being loved genuinely, even if it's at the end of the world... week who actually loves and cherishes you!... talking like people don't divorce or separate within Nigeria and Africa in general 🤡

uche87:
Osahon George Osayimwen writes from England.

Which rubbish weather?... heat wan kpai person you're talking of weather, abeg no make me vex dis morning, there's nothing to miss about Nigeria except your loved ones and family!

Merry100:
Disagreeing with your baseless claims doesn’t mean I’m being emotional. I’m simply trying to educate you so you don’t keep spreading misinformation and blindly Googling things without actually understanding them.

If you recall, you started by falsely claiming that men rarely marry women in their 30s.

By the way, why is your focus often on women's issues? Why haven’t you ever advised your fellow men to cut down on sugar? Excessive sugar consumption negatively affects male fertility and sexual performance.

Stop acting like women reach menopause in their 30s or that all women in their 30s struggle with fertility issues.

While women do experience a gradual decline in egg count, fertility issues are less common in the early 30s.

Yes, fertility issues become more prevalent in the late 30s, but many women still conceive naturally at this stage.

Let me cite some examples, just as you did:

Rihanna gave birth to her second child at 35 with no issues.

My cousin gave birth at 37 with no issues.

Nicki Minaj gave birth at 37 with no issues.

I have friends who gave birth in their late 30s with no issues, some were even 38 or 39.


Though aging can lead to reduced sperm quality in some men over 60, some remain capable of fathering children. Similarly, although women's fertility declines after 35, with a more pronounced decrease after 40, some women in this age group can still conceive naturally. Everybody's biological clock is unique.

Susan Sarandon had her children between the ages of 39 and 45 with no issues.

Halle Berry gave birth at 47 with no issues.

Up to twenty of my acquaintances were over forty, and some were even up to fifty, and they gave birth without issues.

My grandma was over sixty when she gave birth to my dad without issues.

Keep fooling yourself... no face reality yeye!

Merry100:
I’ve advised you before to do proper research before making baseless claims. Did you visit marriage registries, churches, mosques, or other wedding venues to verify whether up to 70% of brides are in their 20s before declaring that men hardly marry women in their 30s? Or you just pulled your claim out of thin air?

You sound like someone who skimmed through a high school biology textbook and now thinks he's an expert.

Since you seem so eager to learn ‘biology,’ let me educate you: while women’s fertility declines at 35-40, men’s sperm quality also starts deteriorating around the same time.

Aging sperm leads to lower motility, higher DNA damage, and increased risks of autism, schizophrenia, and genetic disorders in children.

Instead of obsessing over women, maybe advice your fellow men to get their sperm checked because a lot of them have sperm that get a head start but can’t even swim, let alone make a baby.

Many women in their 30s conceive naturally. Menopause, which happens around 45-50, is the real cut-off, not some imaginary ‘30-year expiration date’ you made up.

Argue all you like women in there 20s easily conceive and give birth than women in their 30s, fool yourself all you like!

CallTheCops:
He was just 40 years old.
You can imagine even a doctor that knows and engages in the dos and donts to a healthy and long life don kpai at an early age while some ogogoro drinking men that lead reckless lifestyles live till 80.

This Life!!

People think it's by keeping healthy and fit and avoiding this and that, person wey go kpai early go kpai early, the most dirtiest man on earth (Amou Haji) who eats dead and rotting animals, dirty food and never took a bath all his lifetime, smokes multiple cigarettes at a time and also smokes animal dungs died at age 94, he was said to die the week after the village people convinced him to take a bath... longevity is in the hands of God the creator and nature.

Sirmwill:
Trump surviving sniper attacks does not necessarily mean he is the best man for the presidency

So who's the best man?, you or weak Democrats?

Thundafireseun:
I will be very very happy the day this boy called VDM ends up in jail for foooooolishnesss

You'll be the one ending up in JAIL 🤡

Mumu country, what benefit is Nigeria to Canada?, mtcheeww

Omooba77:
https://www.vanguardngr.com/2025/02/canada-can-go-to-hell-ribadu-defence-chief-slam-visa-denial/

Build your country to be like there's. That's what it means, FOOLS!

seunowa:
Elevated Illiterate

Corrupt, tribalistic scallywag, you're one the reasons Nigeria is a FAILURE! 🤡

seunowa:
can education be too much? Infact Nigeria still need More establishment of universities and other higher institutions of learning either through the government or private individuals. Your problem is that you are myopic and lack capacity to think extensively because of your defective brain.

Did I say education is too much?, don't you think having so much educational institutions without no employment for the graduates doesn't make any sense??, you're deceiving yourself cus you know it's fact, mòron 🤡