chineduisaac:
*1. They enjoy quietly being alone*
Yes, we actually enjoy spending time alone. In fact, we thrive off of it. It gives us a chance to gather our thoughts and recharge. It gives us time to do more things that we really like to do such as read, write, or reflect on our day. Extroverts may enjoy alone time too, but our time typically needs to be in a quiet place and for longer periods of time.
*2. They can be overwhelmed by large crowds*
We don’t typically enjoy spending long periods of time in large crowds. While we may endure it for a concert, parade, or special event, we don’t look forward to being around masses of people. After a while, it can be really overwhelming and although we may not cover our ears, scream and freak out in large crowds, we secretly wish we could.
*3. They really do like other people*
Introverts aren’t necessarily anti-social. We just don’t get energized by people and sometimes it just takes us a little longer to warm up to someone. Be patient with us. Often, we want to get to know you better before we actually show you that we enjoy your company. We do like you, even if we don’t show it!
*4. They are highly introspective*
We seek to find the deeper meaning in life, sometimes to a fault. We tend to analyze situations that really don’t need to be analyzed. If it takes us longer to understand something, it’s not because we don’t get it, it’s because we are thinking about the deeper meaning. In general, we seek to understand the deeper meaning of life.
*5. They prefer to get know fewer people on a deeper level*
Many introverts are perfectly happy with a close, small group of friends. It can be overwhelming to keep up with a lot of friends because introverts feel like they need to really know all of them. So, they may prefer to have a select group of really close friends they can get to know on a deeper level.
*6. They are great listeners*
In fact, we love to listen. It gives us a chance to really get to know someone and understand them better. Introverts are typically highly engaged with someone they want to get to know. They are easily distracted by outside stimuli that may interfere with listening, because they want to devote all of their attention to the other person.
*7. They have a lot of fun!*
Introverts are not boring people. They just like to save their best stuff for the right people in the right situation. They can act silly, crazy, be loud, and even sing karaoke! However, even reading a book can be considered fun for an introvert. Reading a book in a crowded room full of people? Not so fun.
*8. They sometimes wish they were extroverts*
I sometimes wonder what it would be like to walk into a large group of people and to instantly become energized by the people around me. I always thought it has to be cool to have that infectious energy that draws people to you. As a guy, I used to think this was the only way to get the ladies (it’s not). I love myself as an introvert, but sometimes I wish I could live it up as an extrovert.
*9. They enjoy a quiet night in*
I actually prefer to stay home on a Friday night. I may go out with friends, a party, or out to dinner, but I actually prefer to stay in and avoid the large crowds. I live in a city so it’s difficult to truly get away and spend time alone. The best place I can do this at is sitting in my living room watching a movie or reading a book.
*10. They don’t enjoy being the center of attention*
Most introverts don’t like all eyes to be on them. It can be difficult to speak up at a work meeting, deliver a speech, or answer a question in front of other people. We typically like to listen to other people’s perspective and hear what they have to say. It doesn’t mean we don’t have an opinion, but sometimes it’s hard to articulate what we’re thinking.
*11. They don’t necessarily have fun at parties*
Even if everyone is having a great time, it doesn’t necessarily mean that an introvert will. A party with a lot of people just isn’t always fun. We know it’s supposed to be fun bu, large numbers of people in small spaces actually make us feel uncomfortable. It doesn’t mean we aren’t fun people or don’t enjoy people, it’s just hard to be ourselves in large groups.
*12. They don’t like to talk about themselves*
Introverts typically don’t like to brag about themselves. They are more interested in getting to know the other person first. They often have a lot to offer to a conversation but sometimes wonder if they add any value to a conversation. Also, they just don’t want to come across as a too much of a know-it-all. In other words, we might not say out loud how “stoked” we are about something.
*13. They want to really get to know you*
We like to build honest, authentic, “real” relationships. Sometimes it doesn’t come across that way initially because we can be guarded. However, we are interested in you and what you have to say. It just takes us a little more time to open up. We secretly revel in the excitement of getting to know someone better.
*14. They work better in small groups*
Employers should know that we prefer to work in small groups because it’s just easier for us to do it and we actually perform better. It’s also easier to speak up with fewer eyes watching you. We also like to get to know each individual in these small groups, because it’s less overwhelming when we don’t feel as if we have to know everyone in a large group.
*15. They notice things other people might miss*
Introverts are valued assets in the workplace because they often notice details that others might miss. Because they are deeply introspective, introverts might be able to come up with a potential solution to a problem that may have been overlooked. They may not speak up about it but doesn’t mean that they aren’t thinking about it. In fact, studies confirm that introverts can be great leaders, too.
*16. They easily see other people’s point of view*
They are typically empathetic to other people and what they have to say Even if they don’t agree with the other person, they make a good effort to see things from their perspective. They strive to get to know other people in all situations before judging or making the other person feel inadequate.
*17. They aren’t necessarily shy*
Shyness and introversion get lumped together because many of the traits between the two overlap. Sometimes an introvert isn’t afraid to meet other people, but they just prefer to do it in their own way. In fact, extroverts can be shy! A well-known Stanford researcher points out that many public figures are both extroverted and shy.
*18. They are drained by high energy people*
High energy people can be exhausting for introverts. They often feel like they have to match that level of intensity and may feel uncomfortable when they don’t. Introverts may need breaks from these high energy situations because unlike extroverts, they don’t become energized by these people. In fact, it’s quite the opposite.
*19. They like to take things slow*
Sometimes it just takes us introverts a little longer to move forward. We like to weigh all of our options and look at all possible outcomes before making a final decision. This can also be detrimental to us because we tend to analyze things too much. So, don’t take it personally if we just aren’t quite ready to take that next step.
*20. They are not just introverts*
Being labeled as an introvert can immediately put someone in a category. Although it is a useful term that people can relate to, it doesn’t define who they are. There are many types of introverts and many variations within those types. More than anything, introverts are people first. Being an introvert is just one aspect of who a person is. Many people fall into a continuum of traits and exhibit extroverted traits AND introverted traits.
One definition certainly doesn’t define who I am, yet it’s helpful to understand that I am not the only one who experiences these personality traits. We aren’t crazy, we aren’t boring, and we aren’t anti-social. We may be some of these at times, but who isn’t?!
In general, introverts are just people who prefer to slow it down a little and re-energize themselves from a quiet place of peace and tranquility.

okikiosibodu:

Will bear it in mind. Thanks for your generous assistance. It is accepted in good arms

okikiosibodu:

Yeah. Thanks. My job is an inhibitjng factor, for my to explore places. I run a shift job... 2days morning (6am-3pm), 2days afternoon shift (12pm-9pm), and 2days night shift, then two days off. Usually day1 is for sleeping off the night shift and the stress of prev week. Day 2 is to do my laundry (washing and ironing of clothes, and then scrub the bathroom) and prep for the next week. I spend an average of 3-4 hrs daily on the road (in summation) between work and house (and no, I have not been able to get an accommodation close to work). I leave at Akute (Ogun State), I work on VI (Lagos).
Any tips for me?
Please accept my profound gratitude in anticipation of your outstanding response

Hakeem12:
You've never been in one?

vincentjk:


Eeyah

vincentjk:


Okay I get it now, he's not ready

So you moved on with someone else or still searching

vincentjk:


You said you ain't ready to be emotionally attached meaning you've no time for love hence my question

vincentjk:


Really? Seems you ain't even thinking of marriage at all

Auxigen:

You're beautiful!

Oreoluwanimi:


Hmmm!
So I am not alone. I wish they could understand.

Akposy:
Hello Introverts!

I've been scared of dropping my comment here.... Well, it's good to be here.

I'm an introvert... lemme say ambivert (but 80% introverted). I prefer being on my own. I cherish my solitude. When I come out of my shell, I take the lead. It's so funny I love leadership. I took the lead all through my uni days but always looked for a quiet place to refuel myself.

Sometimes, my social battery runs down faster than I can imagine. Also, I've never been in a relationship and I ain't planning on being in one soon.

Finally, sometime in 2018, i found solace and tranquility in penning my pains, fears and rejection. I wrote poems that emanated from the pains, oppression, depression and rejection happening in my surroundings.

Am I welcome here ?

okikiosibodu:

I have never been to a beach not because I can't afford it, but cos I can't stand the imagination of a crowded place with total strangers, in an open space. I live in lagos. If it's a big hall (say a partyl I can always step out or go to the gents to get a grip of myself and then return. In the theatres, I make sure I go early to the cinema so I can be among the first set of people to enter and then walk straight to the furthest chair at the rear, to avoid human interaction/ contact. But don't knw how to deal in a beach
I know it won't be a day's work, but can you give a guide on how to come out of this shell?

Apus:





Too late. For me, I have come to accept the fact that I enjoy my own space too much and the benefits therein. Family can't even place why at 27 I haven't been in any serious relationship. Though I hide under the guise of building myself, career-wise and all of that, but I know deep down nothing of such is happening at least not soon.
I have become so independent that even solitude doesn't scare me anymore. About tomorrow's X-mas, trust me, I know how to catch all d fun in world all by myself

DivineGrace123:


Nice one.

DivineGrace123:


One important thing to note is that confidence will require you to step out of your comfort zone. You can choose to continue to hold yourself back or to keep striving on how to become better. In your case for instance, it is not that you cannot do it, but you would rather not do it. So, the first thing that you need to do is to come out of your shell. Of course, it will be tough initially. Rome was not built in a day. But you just have to keep trying and then you will realize that as time goes on, it will become part and parcel of you.

mypersonalty:

My case is a bit similar!


My girlfriend(fiance) called it off with me about a week ago!
Reason been that; I didn't show that I love her enough!
But her statement was that "we are not compartible''.

I can't just believe that she could say that...

From my thinking; My offenses are:

1. I only call once in a day... Me we dey call my dad like once in two weeks!

2. Send her #100 credit every 5days... I no be her father na

3. Money for "hair"... Na only 1k I dey send if she ask!

4. Data... Na #500 data me self dey use per month, #500 or nothing!

5. No extra money for her again after she finished her nysc around April! Through out the whole service year, I do send her like 3k every month oooooooooo!
Bought her new phone!
( She only bought me a pair of undies, a wallet and a belt)

Na now she know shey '"we are not compartible"
( The relationship was almost 2 years)


Since she made that statement last week, I hang up the call and never call her again! I never text / call her friends ( my friends too). I just lock up!

A part of me was happy, because of the freedom but the other is depressed! I will start all over again, me wey never toast more than one girl all my life!

I didn't have the strength to be looking for girls again, chaiiiii!

What pain me most be that, she knew I didn't have any other "girlfriend" before or after her!

I just use my sisters as consolation this whole week, I just increased everything have been sending to them by two... I cannot kee myself



Lol, your case is funny.

I'm still trying to fathom why mine decided to pull the plug too. I don't even know who is more introverted between the two of us.
To him, all of a sudden I have become rude? (Ayam not understanding). Good thing we didn't get to the engagement part. A part of me is also relieved and the other part is sad.

BTW, how so people getting away with receiving extra money from their parents or significant others, when serving?

I never did. In fact the one time I tried it, the speech my dad gave was enough to douse any future asking. After I got that one, I never asked. I took to freelance writing instead.

Even till date, I don't ask. If he gives good, he doesn't, still good.

Anyways, don't worry, she would realize herself (I don't want to call it mistake) But you sef, if you don't call often, you both should try chatting at night before bed time.

SilverG33k:
Something happened today and I would love to share, its about a girl I collected her number....

First off, as an introvert, I've said this lots of time, introverts are the best personality, you can train yourself in a way others will see you as an attractive gentleman, far better than the loud extroverts.

I'm not the only introvert in school na, but that's not the case, she likes my own type of introversion.

So today, she accused me lots of time for being shy, being shy to call, to text, to even say hi

Guyman was just laughing, I was in awe, the voice inside me was giving crazy replies


Her: you are too shy to call
Voice inside me: I don't have the time

Her: 5 years in school and you don't have friends
Vim: lukadiswan, its either you're my close friend or I just know you, simple

Her: Since you collected my number you haven't called me. Are you that shy
Vim: What is wrong with this one, I don't even call my relatives

Her: You're too shy to approach someone you love
Vim: OMG, what have I got myself into?

Her: You saw me and pretended you didn't see me, you're too shy
Vim: I can't shout abeg, dey your dey

We talked for almost an hour, most of the times I defended my personality and sometimes I laugh at how the questions and acquisitions are being thrown at me, lol

The thing is, I recently started approaching ladies randomly and getting their number, I find it interesting nowadays but the real me doesn't have time for any relationship.

Her questions today were bullets and giving back her answers will just feel like I'm being harsh, I could tell her straight that I don't need friends and I won't feel bothered about it, I can even tell her I don't have time making friends, which is the truth but I don't want to sound harsh, she's kinda younger than me.

So guys, fellow introverts, trust me, having lots of friends is rubbish, have just few friends who can have your back all the time, there was a time one of my true friend's dad died, I sent messages every single day to her ever since on WhatsApp, and if she isn't online, I call her, if I start narrating what she did for me ehn...

I'd pick introvert over extrovert if I ever come back to this world

We rock fellas, we rock

So she said I should call her tonight, heaven knows I won't call her, I didn't like the way she questioned my personality, she actually wanted me to act like fellow extroverts, at that point I said no, can't happen... This matter just dey somehow and one mind is telling me I'll delete her number very soon, I hate stress.

if you can't be a friend without trying to change me, please I'm grown up now and I know how special I am, don't stress me abeg

DaSugarBoi:
price?

Princeofasia:
there is nothing scam about skrill. i have been using it for close to 7years now. they start taking verifications serious after nigerians knew about it and started using it for serious scams

Imogenn:
I really don’t know where all this stems from. I’ve always been that shy quiet kid from childhood. But it’s just gotten worse as I’ve transformed into adulthood.
Sometimes I feel I’m not adequate enough because I’m so quiet in a world full of confident people. I’m very conscious about my looks, as I’ve been told I’m ugly more than beautiful in my lifetime, that could be another reason. I feel everywhere I go, people must always have one negative/weird thing to say about me, so it’s just strange. I’m troubled.

Dammykrone:
E Be Lyk Say D Girl Jazz Am nd D Thing Don clear 4 hin Eye,

No Mind Me, I Jxt Dey Reason Am Lyk Dat Ni O

Dammykrone:


Guy, why U Be Laidis Ah.... Callmemercy Coman Laff Small :-)

Dammykrone:
Good Afternoon

Dammykrone:
Chai. Buh

nellyquash:


,

Once am quiet He will be like, Wetin don dey run inside that your big head. I will just chuckle.

Sometimes eeh, I can be so quiet and once am in that mood, the next thing is mood swing. That's why most time i always feel like hanging around friends to avoid that lonely path.

nellyquash:


Sometimes my paddy will be like, choi people will be thinking am the bad babe because am extrovert but them no know say na you be baba