The friend who told you this is surely one of the enemies of your happiness. That said, your happiness shouldn't be affected that something you can't control. How can you be sad over someone else's behavior?. Your husband is about to cheat and you're dying over that? Please get some thinking caps on. Just find a way to go meet him and the emotional attachment he craves would go down.

As for that friend, stay away from her. You'll thank me later.

Gudfadah:
Good evening nairaland.

I am a married man and I have six children. When I met with my first wife she was a single mother of 1 girl she was a years 6 months we got married when she was 5 years old.
We had 3 children together making them 4 unfortunately we lost her in 2016 during the birth of our twins.

Before she passed on she asks me to promise her that if anything happened to her I should never send her daughter back to her family to experience the same thing she went through in there hands.
I have promised her that the child is mine and she will never go anywhere the day she will leave my house will be on her wedding day.
I have also promised her that nothing will happen to her and we will grow old together. Unfortunately we lost her and I have continued being a father to all four children and I have never treated my step daughter differently.

I have since remarried and we are blessed with twins. When I met with my current wife I didn't tell her that my step daughter is not my biological child she knew she was my first child.
She has been a part of me ever since she was 1 plus and I didn't think it was necessary telling my wife she was not my child.

She was treating all four children good until my wicked aunty has spill the beans which I have apologised for not telling her in the first and I have asked her to continue being a good mother she was before knowing the truth.
But she refused saying I didn't tell the truth and the child should go and leave with her mom family. I have explained to her the reason why she cannot stay with them to no avail and I ask her not to tell the child the truth but she has told her.

It wasn't easy for her knowing the truth she asks me if I will take her back to her mom people I said no. She is still my child and she will not go anywhere and I will resolve the problem very soon.

Unfortunately my wife has totally changed so much toward the child and I hate coming home seeing her crying all the time. She feel insecure in the house knowing that she is not the biological child of the house.

Talking to my wife was to no avail she has insist that the child must go back to her mother family or they will be not peace.

I reported the problem to her people nothing was done and we are still dealing with the same thing everyday.

Honestly speaking I hate being in such a messy situation but I will not send her back to her mom family she is my first child and I have made a promise to my late wife that the day the child will leave my house it will be the day she will get married.
Since my wife want her to leave and the child is already depresses.
I have come to conclusion I will not divorce her but I will rent a 2 bedroom apartment for her to be staying with the twins while I continue staying with the four children in my house I owe the house.

I haven't told her anything about my decision yet and I want to know if getting her own house will help the situation. This is where I need your advice nairalanders what do I do in this situation?

Personally I think I support your decision. Hopefully it will help reset your wife's brain. What's exactly the problem in raising a child. Also, you should approach the court and legally adopt that first child. Life is unpredictable, that girl may eventually become the most successful in the family and she may need to help her younger ones climb the ladder of life. Perfect the adoption and she becomes your legal child. Don't be pushed into sending her away please.

It's standard procedure. You may have to pay some import duty charges. Your friend probably made a mistake when declaring the value. If it's electronics or anything gadget you must pay import duty. Contact UPS, they will bring you a letter from customs to inform you.

I still fail to see what exactly Obi has done or did has a governor that is different from what other known politicians have done seperately besides not accepting severance package. It is always about building roads to inflate the cost and claiming to purchase things over and over again...I think we need innovative ideas and a real champion. I unfortunately don't see that amongst the candidates in this election. If debates or town hall amounted to anything, I think Kola Abiola seems to understand better how to change the narrative of the nation even though it might be hard to trust him. But he seems to have better ideas... my views and opinion but I think we just need to do away with these generation of professional liars...till now Obi still hasn't explained why $2m was paid to a contractor in cash. Tinubu can't explain the businesses he can run successfully without public funds and Atiku can't explain how and where he has made his money...

In the real sense. I don't think Tinubu should be surprised because for years he had left the group and even financed the split body. Even though the group isn't exactly influential. I think it is normal they won't support BAT.

Well from information available protesters had to storm the palace and it was alleged that most of the construction projects awarded by the state government in the town were handled by the royal palace. How true is that part?

If you accuse PDP of supporting cultists. The only evidence of support for cultism in Osun is Asiri Eniba who is a known cultist and killer and he's a well known APC member.

As for Oyetola going to court, it's within his right but that doesn't mean he didn't loose tht election. He may win on technical grounds if he has his facts.

Olojuobinrin:
Nah who give up , nah him mess up ! Oyetola 4+4 , but Adeleke will borrow small from the 4 sha until he’s kicked out just like his counterparts!! Oyetola deserves a second term ! He did well in his first term but his only mistake is not putting those AREGBESOLA’s miscrants in Positions especially that Salenshile of a man in Chief of staff , that was the reason why they worked against him and moved to PDP just to prove a point but I see Oyetola coming back to finish his good work ! Aregbe messed up big time and he is not stopping at that because he thinks he is a big man now Tinubu made you what you are today ! Osun doesn’t belong to jokers like Michael Jackson and the likes of AREGBESOLA ! We don’t need them here in Osun to destroy things ! Serubawon could have been a better option if they didn’t take him out ! But this Joker called Jackson Adeleke should not be allowed to take over the affairs of my darling state ! He never even enter office , cultists everywhere jubilating and having a nice time and waiting for when to finally start their game in full gear !! I fear for Osun state !

As much as I won't vote Atiku or support him due to issues of how he managed privatisation. The truth is Atiku has so far demonstrated the best manifesto. But stupid politics and sense of entitlement of NIgerians always forced the man to retract his statements. That gives me feelings that he should be capable.

However, I'll wait for the manifesto of other candidates too. Atiku however needs to explain his own side of privatization and why OBJ still uses that against him. Most of the companies he was alleged to have sold for cheaper were already moribund by the time the sales took place.

If your story is true, don't allow one Jezebel ruin you. Don't make the mistake of telling your babe. No one detects pregnancy in 12 days. Na lie. Anyways, I'll advice you let her and her mother know you're getting married. Don't ever marry out of pity or forced marriage.

You're human and mistakes don't define you. I can see you truly regretted your actions. A babe did same to me weeks ago and I just gave her a choice to choose. She knew you had problems with the condom when you swapped it and that was all she needed.

Omo this is really tough. This is why DNA is necessary. To avoid stories that touch. You were banging two guys at the same time. Who even knows if the other children belong to the husband.

To imagine that Guardiola preferred this overrated failure over Kelechi still surprises me. Even at Man City he couldn't make any mark. Arsenal/Arteta and spending wrongly.

Arsenal would do better by focusing of their academy and recruiting young players than these type of guys who come on and easily become liabilities and no sense of loyalty.

As much as I cant predict who would win. I know these 2 politicians like the palm of my hands and I think defecting is their best bet. Both of them can't win their respective family compounds. The only politician here is Omisore, I hope they won't gang up against him again now that they are moving to APC. They are good at causing troubles especially Mr Wale Ojo.

Like my father says, only a foolish husband will earn 1k outside and bring everything home. You'll spend or save 400 and keep the rest.

My brother, the truth is bitter but I'll advice you to be rational. You need to have additional streams of income no matter what. We keep deceiving ourselves with education here in Nigeria when we the people are our own worst enemies. The majority still sell their votes leaving the minority to also suffer is failed policies.

As odd as it may sound, you need to consider something like goat farming or snail farming or anything at all. You'll only suffer a year before you start cashing out. My then you wouldn't even have time to know if your wife exist or not. Don't allow anyone not your wife, family or kids drive you into depression. Plan for your own sanity first abeg. Use your head!

I won't call you an idiot neither will I blame your dad. However, I need you're not been smart enough. Consider even a small business like rearing goats alone or even snail. You'll thank me 1 year later.

I used to be part of those shouting government is this, my parents are that until I discovered that heaven only helps those who help themselves. In Nigeria even that school would be a scam because to get the best job you'll pay for it but if you have some side hustle, you'll decide how to live your life...when to wake up and when to sleep. God help us all. Take the initiative.

Those who call you stingy now would be first to gossip about you. Forget your dad or siblings and use whatever you make the next one year to start any of those hustle I told you. That's my cruel advice but reflect on it.

I'll advice you probably used a sim that is unknown to him to send him an SMS and maybe proof. But don't ever let him know it's from you. According to our fathers, a woman who cheats will kill her husband last last

There you have it folks. These guys are not repentant 1 bit. The same Okowa who built a drainage of 30b and it got damaged within a year?. The same Okowa who led all Southern governors astray by hosting the first meeting where the communique to ensure power goes to the South was agreed upon only to go behind and queue behind a Northerner?. Guy has got no integrity and this ticket is dead on my side. I'd take BAT 100 times over this nonsense ticket and Obi 200 times over this.

No to sound wicked but does this collapse happen only under Buhari. Never heard this world national grid collapse before APC came on board

The way I see it, SW is more polarized now than what we grew up knowing. Considering the threat and all coming from Yoruba Muslims about insisting that Presidency to the SW should be Yoruba Muslims or nothing and the current anger amongst RCCG folks about Osinbajo's loss. I think the SW may just be the spoilers this time. The Muslim -Muslim ticket may seriously backfire in the South West looking at what terrorists have started lately here. It would be dead on arrival.

For the sake of his future and his own life you need to deal with him and help reset his brain. You've only tolerated him because he's family, if it's an outsider they may harm him so better to let him know you don't snitch, then you also keep secrets from him. But trust him resetting his brain will be doing him a good favour

Ayade must really be a failure. He left PDP because according to him former Governor Imoke and others hijacked the party from him. A Governor is normally expected to be the leader of the party even if he's a failure. Ayade's failure must be legendary o. Better he decamps back to PDP ...Lol

Nigerialabalaba:

Na old law u dey quote. All d yeye loopholes don dey addressed by serious laws wey don dey now!

If u do fraud with account now, na so sey u and ur money dey go. ur own don cast.

The locust useless gej era wey fraudsters and criminals and terrorists dey use proceeds of crime dey fight FG don end o.

https://www.vanguardngr.com/2022/05/buhari-signs-3-anti-money-laundering-bills-into-law/amp/

If OP dey into crime, e don cast be dat. Gbabesky!

This is where you got it all wrong. It is not oy fraud that would warrant your account getting closed. Even if you owe someone money and probably you didn't deliver the job paid for or maybe you issued a cheque that bounced etc. My own situation happened just 1 month ago.

You should only speak if you have been a victim of the process. It was then I discovered that banks close the account without a court order. Mind you my account was closed for 6 months and there was no court order. Law or not those agencies especially EFCC threaten banks.

From my experience two things could be the reason...I've had such experiences before ..the banks do not have right to close your account unless by a court order but security agencies are always overzealous and overreaching that they threaten banks

First your lawyer needs to write and request the bank order the bank got. To their head office. Once the bank hears that you requested the court order and they do not have one they will immediately beg you...same thing they did with me. But if there's a court order, then you will need to vacate it by another court order.

However, don't go to the bank o. They will arrest you. This is why you need to relationship with your account officer so they can update you even though it's u ethical. If you're good to them they will tell you some levels of the truth.

DMerciful:
Tinubu from Osun
Fasola from Ekiti
Ambode from Lagos
Sanwo Olu from Ogun


The only Lagosian(Ambode) was kicked out by Oyo,Ekiti,Osun,Ondo people pretending to be Lagosians.

Again, as far as one Nigeria is concerned,
Lagos belongs to all Nigerians equally. When you were advocating for one Nigeria and collecting Niger Delta oil money, you dont know what it means?

You got it wrong bro. Fasola's great grand father, Alfa Raji Fasola was from Ilesa.

Sadiq Abubakar?? Is it the people (delegates in this case) that are stupid, selfish and senseless or the political class just see us as puns they can toss around?. Certainly Sadiq Abubakar was siphoning Air Force money as Chief of Air staff otherwise where did he get such money to vie for governorship. It's now crystal clear why the battle against Boko Haram was a failure the last 7 years.

My Opinion is that the bane of this problem is Adedoyin's stupid son. If not for African mentality, that spoilt brat have no job managing nothing, these guys lives in my street and I know them. Dude is just using inheritance strategy to handle his father's business and he has always been a stupid brat from childhood. The father for almost 20 years built official residence for the Area commander and DPO but instead of the idiot son to call the police and report the case he instead went ahead to dump the corpse and started administering oats. Truth is Adedoyin may be paying for some other sins committed but I am 99% convinced he didn't kill the man. But the case was bungled by a useless son who never had management experience but was just asked to head such investment because he's the heir of his father. African people and always mixing business with family...

Supreme145:
It's not in my nature to bother about people's relationships but this is happening to someone that's like a brother to me. He has been dating a girl for a year now and it's obvious this girl doesn't love him but he won't just give up. He keeps throwing money at her in a bid to win her love.

Things got messier when this girl met a particular guy some months back... This guy happens to live in the compound of my club mate so I know him well. The girl has begged my guy to free her that she's in love with someone else but this guy no gree instead he's planning to attack the innocent guy.

He confided in me that the girl has not let him touch her since she met this other guy, that's over five months now. I once overhead the guy boasting to his friends that he's a redpiller because someone else is taking care of his girlfriend while he does the knacking free of charge. He's even flexing everything that my guy buys for the girl.
All pleas to my guy to free this girl has fallen on deaf ears.

My club mate told me that the girl has been with the guy for over one month now, my guy comes to town once a week to see the girl, gets her stuffs and this girl will just go back to the other boy that is even jobless.

My guy is finer and far richer than this new guy, he's planning to start a business for this girl and I've been trying to change his mind to no avail. It's no longer normal, I would've said he's charmed but the girl has begged him to free her but he refused. The guy is even the one flexing the sample of the products he sent her. Everything she has done to drive him has failed so she just relaxed and enjoying the money.

This simping is on another level, it hurts me to see my guy in this kinda situation. I've gotten him picture proofs that the girl is cheating but he won't change his mind. The girl even admitted that she's been having sex with the guy buy he's claiming its a lie and the girl is trying to drive away.

Is there anything I can do to help him abeg.

Report him to his family and your other friends before he injures the innocent guy and he spends a good part of his life in prison over a public property.

Sanwo Olu is trying but he still can't seem to overtake Ambode in terms of project levels. I think Ambode has been the best after Jakande.

Looks like CBN Forex Vault about to be opened. Time to envy APC delegates. Some will end up making billions as super delegates.

This certainly shows the level of looting that has happened under this useless government. They have practically deceitfully use their so called imaginary projects to siphon the nation dry and every thief now wants a bite.

So serving Nigeria is now by force after all...

Mooh247:



And in your mind Presidency of the most populous black nation is a single Job

If only you knew how many individual appointments makes up Presidency perhaps you might rethink

But then this is Africa, simple research we won't do, we just like to rant and wail everytime

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Are you mad or something What exactly can you justify in your countering of the question asked. So because a President appoints people he will also pocket their salaries abi??

At age 10. I didn't even know what a girls unclothedness looks like. I don't even think girls menstruate at 10. I blame the school and the parent.

The society has always been crazy but parenting truly is a serious job. I just pray I'll be able to raise kids the way I was also raised or even better ..

Malory:
No right thinking person will chose Tinubu over Amaechi. Only thieves and MC Oluomo faction of the NURTW will want Tinubu as the president

Based on antecedents we all know Tinubu performed better than Amaechi as governor. The same Amaechi who keeps us totally indebted into a Chinese rail loan that can't even pay salaries of the NRC. Amaechi that sold rivers state gas turbine and used the money to finance Buhari election.

As much as I don't support Tinubu, Amaechi isn't even an option if we are talking credibility.