Hafa egus, I am happy that you understood I didn't mean to disrespect any one, especially Nigerian people, i see in your post that you are able to speak french that's great!
In fact i think that many people have a problem with mixed couples because of past issues between european and african countries, of course there are still problems of racism, hatred, disrespect between whites and blacks , but in my opinion love can go above these limitations and has no borders, I will add that I don't call racists people who date only people form their color, every one is free to chose: if a black girl doesn't want to date me because she prefers a black guy I will not shout on her, call her a racist, or get nervous, I will just tell her : "no problem baby, there are other fishes in the ocean"

For egus : i really think there is misunderstanding, i have never claimed that all the nigerian people in europa live an infamous life of crime, I am just talking about thing i see, i also know nigerian guys who have normal jobs, who are lawyers, doctors, micro biologists, crooks and honest people exist in every races don't worry !
My experience is that if you want to spend time with ghetto people you have to know the rules of the ghetto : that means always watch your back ....me i allowd myself to to spend my days and night with people who have a hard life because i feel like them, nothing to lose, I am not a millionnaire! The problems is that many white men who are fascinated by african girls are very naive.
Instead of dating african girls who have documents and normal job (and there are a lot in europa) they date hoodlum girls form edo state (of course I don't mean that all girls from edo state are untrue, many of them are so sweet!!!) ,they don't have documents, they don't have money ,they don't have normal job they are here to take as much money as they can from european people and send it to their family, their nigerian boy friend (or even to nigerian mafia who lend them the
8 000 $ necessary to come in europa illegally, which turns into 30 000$ with the interests...). These white people (belive me i have seen a lot!) don't know the rules of the game,a girl who is always demanding, always begging money and gifts to her boyfriend is always always always a hustler, no exception to this rule, and this has nothing to do with the fact of being nigerian or not, black or white ....One day i warned of them, his girl friend asked him 40 000 $ to buy a house in benin city, i told him : as long as you make her wait and don't say yes she will be sweet as an angel as soon as you send the wire, she will treat you like dirt and spit in your face, guess what he has done ?
he has send the money, the girl became immediately unpleasant , rude and disappeared soon after that, the guy came to complain to me I just told him : the price of the lesson is 40 000$ now you know how life can be rough when you have lots of money and no brain......
My conclusion is simple, date whoever you want, whoever is attractive to you, black or white doesn't matter but remember you never know who is who before you spent some times with the person....

I am white (french)and I have dated white and african girls and I think that african girls can very romantic, as romantic as white girls.
however many african girls in europa have many problems (money ,documents, sometimes the poverty of their family .....), it can make them look a little bit rough and material, but i think it is because of their situation, many of them have a hard life and if they play the rough girl role it is often to protect themselves against bad people and the many difficulties they have to face in their life.
The difference is striking when it come to kisses : white girls kiss you two times more often than most african girls do.....

i will confirm what other people on this this topic has said : when a girl asks you money and gifts all the time that means she has a plan : taking advanatge of you and letting you down as soon as you bank account is empty.

I live in france My girl friend is nigerian (i am white) and i see how her sexy fiends treat their "boy friends", these boys are much older than me and very rich.

I can tell you one thing : they ask them money and gifts all the time, they say they need support to pay the rent, that their momm is sick in nigeria and needs money, that the little sister need money for school fees etc, this is hustle, strictly hustle, they don't ask anything to their other "hidden" boyfriend who is usually much younger, handsome ,athletic, fashionnable and nigerian of course.

Believe me someone who loves / likes you don't want to take every thing that you have , don't want to make you broke, don't want to see you unhappy.

There is a simple way to avoid that kind of girls: make her understand right form the start that having a relationship with you can not turn into a profitable business, that you are nobody's bank

If the girl doesn't like you she will run away immediately, if she stays that means she really likes you, it is as simple as that, after this very simple test you will offer her what you want when you want, but only when you choose it, not because she gives you an order.

Women have a very powerfull weapon: sex , if you do everything they want they will be hot, make them angry by refusing what they ask and their legs will be locked, thanks to this fantastic weapon weak men can get robbed and abused more efficiently than by two men with guns

For Ijebuman : I have written it because I have read in this topic that some nigerian men don't understand why their sisters don't want to date them and some nigerian women don't understand why some of their brothers don't want to date them.There was no disrespect in this, I just wanted to share with the other members of this forum the information and these explanations that have been given to me by nigerian people themselves....
In fact i am always very surprised by people who have a very precise idea of which type of girl they want to date and who already have an explanation for this, I feel very different from these people, I can be seduced by any type of girl (white black chinese brasilian, small, tall ....)as soon as my heart wants to jumps out of my breast when i see her....I prefer let my life and my destiny surprise me, planning love is a nonsense in my opinion...

I have just discovered nairaland, excuse me in advance for my poor english, it is not my natural language, i am french.
It is 3 years since I date a nigerian girl form bini city, I have dated other black girls before her and it is about 10 years since I have no relationship with white girls.That doesn't mean i dislike girls from my colour it is just i feel a natural attraction for african beauties, this attraction can not be explained and must not be explained, attraction and seduction must remain magic , trying to analyse it will kill it.
I agree with the ones on this thread who warn us about about the difficulties that come from the diffrerence of culture : my girl friend is here in europa to get a better life for herself and her family, her goal is to send as much money as she can to nigeria, sometimes i see her sending 500 euros to her mum, it is like if i was sending 3000 or 5000 euros (3 or 5 times the mimimum wage in france!) to my mum this is completely crazy but i never criticize her, i respect this way of life (i pay the rent of my mum too ).
I am the only white man (excepting some old white guys with a lot of money who will go back home broke after crazy luxury shoping,western union wires to nigeria etc...they call them wallets or bankin guys)!) in her birthday parties, meals ..... I never feel disturbed by this and since I met her, all her friends (men an women) have welcomed me and showed me very friendly behaviour. There is nothing wrong about dating someone of another colour as long as you feel good by her side....that is the only truth......
1) Now I can tell you why some black men don't want to date black girls the reasons they gave me :
- they say that black girls ask money (for themselves or their family) and gifts, white girls have their own job their own car their own apprtement their own credit card and help less their family so they don't ask anything...
- black girls are to nervous, they shout too much they want to fight sometimes (they say that white girls are sweet nice and less violent)
- black girls have more taboo when it comes to sex....
- if you date a white girl her family will not put you under pressure to mary her....
2) why some black girls won't date black men, the reasons they gave me :
- black men have a tendancy to ask their woman to serve and obey (wash the floor, cooking etc....)
- black men behave rough for any kind of little problem
- they want to have sex with every women on earth and are not reliable
- white men are more romantic /caring and helpfull
That is what i have been told ,fortunately it doesn't mean thait is is true of course every person is different and no white person is like another white person, same thing for blacks.....
Of course i have been warned by friends :
* avoid that girls she just wants documents : she never asked me to marry her even if it would solve all her problems, she would become french citizen and feel safe
* avoid that girl she just wants money : it is true that some of her sexy friends have found stupid old white men to pay them a house of 40 000 euros in nigeria, but she knows me, i have spent too much time with african hoodlums and hustlers to get robbed like this by a sexy girl who will disappear and join her nigerian boy friend as soon as she receives the big bank wire...i guess this is why i am treated with nice behaviour by all of them, they know i am not naive,they know i am not a newcomer in their nasty environment.
It is true that nigerian women have this bad reputation of handling love like if it was a business, a way to get a better life and $$$$, fo the moment i don't have to complain about this and i spend good times with a fine bini woman, the black men can have good times with with fine white girls and no one should criticize this.....