Osirimononaye: W e’ve all been there at some point or another – wondering if we should call quits on a relationship, or just stick it out in hopes that things will improve eventually. Ultimately, it comes down to asking yourself a few key questions first before you make a firm decision; a little introspection and talking through the situation with yourself can go a long way in helping you make the right choice for your life. Here are 10 important questions to ask before ending a relationship: 1. Does this relationship bring out the best in me? Do you feel like the best version of yourself, or a less-than-stellar version of yourself? The right person should encourage you, support you, and feel a shared happiness when you reach a new goal or simply evolve more on your life path. If the person drags you down, brings out negative emotions in you, or just doesn’t fulfill your needs and desires, you really need to stop and ask yourself where things are headed between the two of you, and if you would be better off flying solo for a while. 2. Do I feel happy or upset the majority of the time? Of course, no relationship comes without some trials and tribulations, and oftentimes the struggles that people face together make their relationship stronger. However, the dark clouds shouldn’t totally mask the sun – meaning that you should still feel overall happiness in the relationship, even when life throws you a curve ball. According to Mark D. White, Ph.D., you should never stay in a relationship just because you feel you “should” out of a sense of obligation – if you don’t feel happy, you have every right and responsibility, actually, to disclose your feelings to your partner. “No relationship is terrific at every moment; one reason commitment is so valuable is that it carries us through the less-than- terrific times. It’s when the less-than-terrific times become the norm, and you don’t anticipate any terrific ones in the near future, that you naturally (and justifiably) start to think of alternatives. Commitment can carry the weight of keeping a relationship together once in a while, but it can’t do the job on an ongoing basis—there has to be something of value to a relationship itself to support the partners’ commitment to it,” says White. 3. Am I having to sacrifice more than I should for the relationship ? A relationship should never feel like a burden in your life; if it does, you need to question what they’re bringing to the table, and how much you have to sacrifice in order to make the relationship work. You can only give so much in a relationship before you feel taken advantage of and neglected, so you really need to ask yourself if you feel satisfied in the relationship or not. If the other person doesn’t pull their own weight and make you feel special and wanted, you should probably go your separate ways. 4. Do we share the same passions and goals for our future? In any committed relationship, talk of the future will inevitably come up at some point. In most cases, two people going in completely opposite directions won’t have much of a chance at keeping the flame alive way down the road, so you need to ask yourself this question early on. Two people can absolutely have different goals in life, but if you feel that your visions for the future just don’t mesh well together, you might need to wait it out for someone who shares more of your own passions. 5. Are we fighting more than we’re laughing? Relationships shouldn’t feel like a chore or dreadful part of your life; they should inspire you, uplift you, and just make you feel alive in general. Disagreements will occur in any relationship, but if you spend the majority of your time arguing rather than enjoying life in one another’s presence, this should be a red flag for you. Keep the company of those who ignite the light within your soul, not those who put a damper on your spirit. 6. Do we make time for one another? All of us have many obligations in the modern world, and life can get pretty hectic from time to time. However, no responsibility should take precedence over the love you have for one another. People either make time, or excuses, so if it seems that your partner often makes the latter, do you really want to continue the relationship feeling like you’re constantly put on the back burner? 7. Do I really love him/her, or just the person I want them to be? Oftentimes, we convince ourselves that people will change as long as we give them time and support, but honestly, people will only change if they truly want to. Plus, if you can’t love the person as they are right now, will you really love them at some point in the future once other conditions have been met? If you can’t say with certainty that you really love them, you owe it to your partner to tell them the truth – it might hurt, but the pain of staying in a false relationship is far greater – for both of you. 8. Would I regret it later if I didn’t end the relationship today? Five years from now, would you look back and wish you had moved on from the relationship? Living with regrets will always leave a deeper wound than getting out of an unfulfilling relationship, even if that means you have to be single for a while. Stay true to your heart, and never stay in a relationship just because it feels comfortable, or because you feel like you’d be letting the other person down. 9. Do they add value to my life? Do they truly enhance your life, adding color and vibrancy, or make you feel drained and uninspired? If you start seeing everything in black and white once you’re with them, is the relationship really worth sacrificing your happiness for? 10. Would my life be better without them in the picture? This is really the million dollar question – what would your life look like without them around? If you imagine yourself as a happier, freer, more peaceful person, you need to sit down with your partner and come clean about your feelings. Breakups can cause a temporary upheaval and emotional tidal wave in your life, but you will feel much better following your heart and cleansing your life of any negativity
Good evening Wonderful, I made the RIGHT DECISION.
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agarawu23: majority will not take that risk. I was even angry with my friend for taking such risk but you know it's a love situation so I wouldn't want to say anything that will break them up.
strange things dey happen this days all cos of love.
no long story , let me go straight to the point.
my friend invited her babe to spend 3 days in my apartment cos no much privacy in his apartment.
the lady is a Zambian. the first thing I noticed about her was her eyes cos she couldn't see properly and she was using recommended glasses. I asked her what's the problem with her eyes but she lied to me she had an accident.
she left this morning, so I was back from work this noon and I heard the shock that nearly busted my balls. He told me the lady is an AIDS patient, not HIV o, the HIV don turn aids and that's the reason for her blindness.
the first question I asked him was "hope you know sex her" I melted when he told me they do have sex, wtf how come? he told me the girl alws beg him to have sex so therefore, he always double his condom and tie his d!ck with nylon. I quickly adjusted my seat from him cos he scared the hell out of me.(he has been hiding the issue but I am confused why he confessed to me today)
He told me the first time he wanted to sex the girl(without condom) , the lady quickly confessed she had AIDS so since then he love the girl so much for opening up.
the Lady alws travel to south Africa monthly for medication cos she is living on drugs but u will never suspect she is sick cos her patents are rich and they are taking care of her very well.
I think we should all learn a little lesson from this story. assuming the Lady is the bad type, she would have infected my friend. don't just jump on any girl/guy without protection. HEALTH is WEALTH.
falconey: This is not for lazy readers its a bit lengthy
So I had a feeling she was cheating, as she set off a lot of red flags. Constantly laughing and smiling when texting, saying it was just her mother when I asked. Needing to stay late every night after work. When I’d call in her co-workers said she left hours ago. When I asked her what was going on she’d laugh it off and say it was just something they did to each other at the office all the time.
The last straw when I knew something was definitely up was when she went out ‘to get milk’ at 11:30 at night and didn’t come back until 2 in the morning. Now if there are any words of wisdom I can pass on to others in all my years of experience, it’s if you think your significant other is cheating, hire a private investigator.
They’re good at what they do and they will get some evidence that really helps in the later divorce. Fast-track to her birthday, several months down the road. Now I know what you’re thinking, why the hell did I wait months before I confronted her and did it really need to be on her birthday?
The answer to the first question is I wanted as much evidence as possible to hand off to my lawyer, as well as time to make arrangements to find a new place to live, etc. The answer to your second question is – ofcourse it had to be on her birthday. You see, after asking her what she wanted to do on her birthday this year she was rather insistent (sic) on me going out of town with my friends as she just had to work anyways and didn’t want to be reminded she was aging.
So I know something is up and after finding a bottle of champagne and two glasses hidden in my closet something in me snaps. So I do what any sensible man would have done. I leave and go to my friends house pretending like I am going out of town. While there I call up her mother, father, sister and several of her friends. I tell them how I want to give her a big surprise by sneaking into our room with party streamers, kazoos and a big cake with candles. Sounds fun, right?! Well, boy was it.
I had everyone meet me outside our apartment at 8:30 in the morning. We all pile in the elevator (about 8 of us in total); her mother is holding the cake and I’m reminding everyone to be as quiet as they can be.
I put my key in and unlock the door; we all sneak in and make our way down the hall towards the bedroom. Each holding a kazoo and her mom holding the cake grinning from ear to ear. Well as I throw open the door, we all yell surprise! But the surprise was on us and there was my wife, b**t unclothed with her lover staring at us wide eyed. Mom drops the cake, sister screams, father begins to shout. I pretend like I’m horrified to which her friends try to push everyone out while yelling at her.
My wife, excuse me, ex-wife is sobbing and screaming how could I while the lover is desperately trying to put his pants on while running out of the place. Needless to say, it was one of the best birthday presents I have ever given.
Goodmorning
Oh wow, the CIRCUMSTANCES were ORGANIZED smoothly.
NOTE: Can't ENVISAGE the AURA of the male/op throughout the PROCESS. Not to MENTION how DEVASTATING and TRAUMATIC it is.
Romance › Re: 10 Questions To Ask Yourself Before Ending A Relationship by Cherlene(f): 10:47pm On Jun 02, 2015
