Osirimononaye:
W
e’ve all been there at some point or another
– wondering if we should call quits on a
relationship, or just stick it out in hopes that
things will improve eventually.
Ultimately, it comes down to asking yourself
a few key questions first before you make a
firm decision; a little introspection and
talking through the situation with yourself
can go a long way in helping you make the
right choice for your life.
Here are 10 important questions to ask
before ending a relationship:
1. Does this relationship bring out the best
in me?
Do you feel like the best version of yourself,
or a less-than-stellar version of yourself? The
right person should encourage you, support
you, and feel a shared happiness when you
reach a new goal or simply evolve more on
your life path.
If the person drags you down, brings out
negative emotions in you, or just doesn’t
fulfill your needs and desires, you really need
to stop and ask yourself where things are
headed between the two of you, and if you
would be better off flying solo for a while.
2. Do I feel happy or upset the majority of
the time?
Of course, no relationship comes without
some trials and tribulations, and oftentimes
the struggles that people face together
make their relationship stronger. However,
the dark clouds shouldn’t totally mask the
sun – meaning that you should still feel
overall happiness in the relationship, even
when life throws you a curve ball. According
to Mark D. White, Ph.D., you should never stay
in a relationship just because you feel you
“should” out of a sense of obligation – if
you don’t feel happy, you have every right
and responsibility, actually, to disclose your
feelings to your partner.
“No relationship is terrific at every moment;
one reason commitment is so valuable is
that it carries us through the less-than-
terrific times. It’s when the less-than-terrific
times become the norm, and you don’t
anticipate any terrific ones in the near
future, that you naturally (and justifiably)
start to think of alternatives. Commitment
can carry the weight of keeping a
relationship together once in a while, but it
can’t do the job on an ongoing basis—there
has to be something of value to a
relationship itself to support the partners’
commitment to it,” says White.
3. Am I having to sacrifice more than I
should for the relationship
?
A relationship should never feel like a
burden in your life; if it does, you need to
question what they’re bringing to the table,
and how much you have to sacrifice in
order to make the relationship work. You
can only give so much in a relationship
before you feel taken advantage of and
neglected, so you really need to ask yourself
if you feel satisfied in the relationship or not.
If the other person doesn’t pull their own
weight and make you feel special and
wanted, you should probably go your
separate ways.
4. Do we share the same passions and
goals for our future?
In any committed relationship, talk of the
future will inevitably come up at some point.
In most cases, two people going in
completely opposite directions won’t have
much of a chance at keeping the flame alive
way down the road, so you need to ask
yourself this question early on.
Two people can absolutely have different
goals in life, but if you feel that your visions
for the future just don’t mesh well together,
you might need to wait it out for someone
who shares more of your own passions.
5. Are we fighting more than we’re
laughing?
Relationships shouldn’t feel like a chore or
dreadful part of your life; they should inspire
you, uplift you, and just make you feel alive
in general. Disagreements will occur in any
relationship, but if you spend the majority of
your time arguing rather than enjoying life
in one another’s presence, this should be a
red flag for you.
Keep the company of those who ignite the
light within your soul, not those who put a
damper on your spirit.
6. Do we make time for one another?
All of us have many obligations in the
modern world, and life can get pretty hectic
from time to time. However, no
responsibility should take precedence over
the love you have for one another. People
either make time, or excuses, so if it seems
that your partner often makes the latter, do
you really want to continue the relationship
feeling like you’re constantly put on the back
burner?
7. Do I really love him/her, or just the
person I want them to be?
Oftentimes, we convince ourselves that
people will change as long as we give them
time and support, but honestly, people will
only change if they truly want to. Plus, if you
can’t love the person as they are right now,
will you really love them at some point in the
future once other conditions have been
met?
If you can’t say with certainty that you really
love them, you owe it to your partner to tell
them the truth – it might hurt, but the pain
of staying in a false relationship is far
greater – for both of you.
8. Would I regret it later if I didn’t end the
relationship today?
Five years from now, would you look back
and wish you had moved on from the
relationship? Living with regrets will always
leave a deeper wound than getting out of
an unfulfilling relationship, even if that
means you have to be single for a while. Stay
true to your heart, and never stay in a
relationship just because it feels
comfortable, or because you feel like you’d
be letting the other person down.
9. Do they add value to my life?
Do they truly enhance your life, adding color
and vibrancy, or make you feel drained and
uninspired? If you start seeing everything in
black and white once you’re with them, is
the relationship really worth sacrificing your
happiness for?
10. Would my life be better without them
in the picture?
This is really the million dollar question –
what would your life look like without them
around? If you imagine yourself as a
happier, freer, more peaceful person, you
need to sit down with your partner and
come clean about your feelings. Breakups
can cause a temporary upheaval and
emotional tidal wave in your life, but you will
feel much better following your heart and
cleansing your life of any negativity

Cherlene:

Good evening Wonderful, I made the RIGHT DECISION.
Cherlene

MsBliss:
Thank @ op

Osirimononaye:

Evening charlene.

Cherlene:

Good evening How are you?
Cherlene

Osirimononaye:

am fine nd u

Cherlene:

Thank God, lovely write-up you have.!
Cherlene

Osirimononaye:

yeah, thanks for that
hope it helps.
#NaGodwin.

Cherlene:

POSITIVELY DID, thank you too.
Cherlene

Osirimononaye:

Nice meeting u.

Cherlene:


Good evening

Wonderful, I made the RIGHT DECISION.

Cherlene