₦airaland Forum

ebubeson:
Did you go to school where white man's idea where used?

He even typed what he said in white man's language, and with a white man's gadget...

Misplaced priority.... FG can do better

nairavsdollars:
That was the original plan

Sharrap dere! Anyone can fall sick...

immortalcrown:
Before I made the comment, I already knew that people like you will attack me.

If another politician appoints his family member in the same manner, you will condemn it and say that in Nigeria has become some people's family business. Even if they make Davido the commissioner for education or chief of staff, you will likely see nothing wrong with it because he is Davido.

Bro this thing is not hard to understand na... Appointing someone like Davido is a plus to the trust... He has influence, money and friends that can donate to the trust...

AfDapone:
It's not that we don't want to learn. When you can afford to feed on high libido food, it is very difficult to escape those younger women in their prime who, in exchange for career advancement, would dear take the shot and flirt at seniors and executives knowing fully well that the sexual prowess they'll offer will be more intoxicating than what their wives who are already having babies will offer.

Well said.... Everything still boils down to self control

Any man who can control his third has conquered the world by 50%...

The annoying part is that men will continue to fall into this same trap.... Some of us never learn

This is not true... Definitely a skit

Hallelujah 🙌🙌🙌🙌.... May your testimony remain permanent IJN Amen 🙏

Nukilia:
Love is a beautiful thing . Wonderful people building their lives irrespective of the prevailing situation around them...

Love kee you dere oh you mean love for the green pali?

Oga it depends on how we bond... If we don't really vibe, I will text you formally... And I'm not gay... You guys should F off with your baseless rules...

First and second commenters are so on point... Second commenter na OG

Sonnobax15:

Typical Nigerians...... Instead of them to rescue her,they were busy taking photos of her

How bro? Will you take a risk for her?

I go fire your leg if you move! Then the slaps follows

UnknownQueen:
Few minutes ago, for me and myself and the children

What of your hubby? He deserves some care too you know ...

Justice for the men

luminouz:
And you compiled all that epistle and YET YOU DIDNT CARE?
cho cho cho like parrot!!!

Na true you talk my broda, how are you feeling now? 😊

luminouz:
E no concern you and you wrote this epistle?

You sabi read so? Na how she dey make her money I tok say no really concern me oga

The matter get as e be abeg .. not easy to judge....


Whether she feeds them or not, they should accord her some respects, accomodating one person sef is not easy, not to talk of 3... Judging from that video, that tall guy is the eldest, and he's trying to exhibit that senior bro ego, dude needs to calm down for whoever is paying the bills, if he enter street go face the cold reality for like 3 months alone, then he would know the weight of what that little girl is doing....



Secondly, make she sef calm down oo, tables do turn oo... I'm not even talking about her getting poor while her siblings becomes rich, no, dat wan na Nigerian movie.. but I can sense from her utterances, that feeling that one gets when getting it young, I mean that puff up feelings that make you feel on top of the world.... She shouldn't break the bond between them just because of minor issues that can be addressed with patience....


Like someone said, her mental health is important, yes that's true, she can reset their brain by pretending to go broke, and then share the bills accordingly to everyone of them except the last born who's under age, I believe by then, everybody go calm down when she keeps reminding them daily of how the landlord will throw them out in few months if they are unable to pay rent...

Btw, e no really concern me tho, but I go like know how she dey make her money that she's able to shelter 3 grown ups....

ExudeLoveToAll:
A struggling family that hasn't added value to him? When I see broke ladies shouting I will marry a rich man I laugh, marry a rich man that has nothing to benefit from you?

You have a point, but that's not what I'm saying tho... Moreover, na joke I dey sef

It would be better sir to help a struggling family 😎


But who am I to advise a billionaire on how to spend his money

TONYE001:
Whoever teaches you guys these things has defrauded you all.

Funny how many of you think you sound smart, but in reality, your lines of thought are distant from facts.

A wife a liability? Just how? Your positions on husband-wife matters are strongly suggestive of childhood faulty family settings since our parents are the first to introduce the concept of marriage to us.

Now, I won't just stop at attacking you and your likes; I'll make frank efforts to educate you:

1. No, a wife is in no way a liability. In fact, the ideal husband-wife relationship isn't a business transaction where one can be labelled an asset, and the other, a liability. Ideally, a marriage is a setting in which a husband and a wife come together to work up a project - the family project. Both parties contribute according to their abilities; ideally, there is no fixed law guiding this collaboration. No law should dictate if the husband should bring A and the wife, B. This is because the union is fluid-like, it does not assume any particular conformation. Where one party is unable to bring A, the other party easily compensates. Like this, both husband and wife support each other, and do a lot of sacrifices backstage.

2. The African tradition has plastered an annoying stereotype in our heads. The African man easily thinks that the husband is the sole provider. In fact, this is not just a thing of tradition or culture; it actually reeks of ego, unhealthy ego and pride. DO YOU KNOW HOW MANY HOMES THAT ARE RUN BY WOMEN?? You just have no idea! In one Nigerian study, researchers noted that female breadwinning is becoming "increasingly common" in urban settings (Akanle and Nwaobiala, 2019). In another study that sampled Nigerian primary school teachers, results showed that in over 70% of families, females/wives are the breadwinners ((Nnubia, Ibeanu, and Okechukwu, 2020). The concept of female breadwinning would have been there decades before now if not for the skewed African culture many of our parents and grandparents practice(d) (this culture NEVER MADE SENSE; essentially, it is a STUPID idea to deprive women of education and empowerment, depriving women of their rights to steps that would have ensured their independence shows how insecure our forefathers were). Just imagine how the family structure has changed since females started achieving independence, especially financial independence. Now, because they now have money, wives support their families...and in multiple instances, they RUN/SPONSOR their families.

Let me explain more. Females are more motivated, more caring (biologically), and more ambitious than men (Tao, 2014; Wicht, Miyamoto, and Lechner, 2022; Naz, Shah, and Qayum, 2020). Even among Nigerian populations, the findings are similar (Ojule, 2024). With these attributes, females are likely to be more successful than males IF ALL THINGS ARE ALLOWED EQUAL. Imagine they were allowed access to financial independence long before now? If this were the case, many families would have been liberated from poverty long before the current generation. So, partly, it's the African culture that has made poverty strongly palpable across families today.

3. How can you call the woman that births your children a liability? Why did you not have those kids with the side chick? This is callous thinking and demonstrates a heightened level of irresponsibility. With this thinking, I should feel pity for any woman you end up with. Perhaps, intending spouses should be submitting their social media handles before marriage. With a post like this, I wonder if any woman would want to settle with you (that's if you aren't married already).

4. If you fall sick or run into difficult situations, who would stand by your side? The side chick? Mabel Okungbowa is a Nigerian wife who donated a kidney to her husband. Would a side chick do this? Who is present throughout the growth of the children? A side chick?

5. A more personal example. I went back to school roughly 2 years after getting married. At the time, I and my wife were concluding our master's-degree programmes. I was working, my wife was too, but not something rewarding, just something to keep her CV busy. I resigned from my work, went back to school for a third degree - MBBS. I was in medical school for 7 whole years. In these years, my wife was my strongest support system. If not for that lady, I wouldn't be a medical doctor today. She helped me realize my dream, and in so doing, she gave up some important moves that would have skyrocketed her career. My wife did a whole lot, a whooooooollllllleeee lot. Every single day of our 11 years of marriage so far, I make sure I let wifie know how grateful I am! In my family group chat, when discussing with my parents and siblings, I ensure I let them know all my wife does. I want my people to know about her sacrifices...just in case I pass on before her. And, thankfully, my family appreciates her! Is there a side chick in this whole world and in the heavens that would have done a millionth of what my wife did? Nope! How can anyone call a wife a liability?

6. Just like I had said, when it comes to husband-wife matters, many people think they sound smart, but in truth, their positions in the matter displays ignorance and poor parental orientation....like Gehgeh (or whatever he's called). Women are doing a lot on the family front. Many are sacrificing their lives just for the family to succeed. Many would have been professors, millionaires, heads of great corporations, international figures if not for the fact that they are wives and mothers......though I do not support this (I would create a thread about this one day).

Dear Nigerian women, dear wives and mothers, on behalf of the many grateful husbands of yours, I say THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO. We see your works, your sacrifices, your doings. Maybe we should be speaking out more so this horrible narrative about you won't be extended to the next generation.

NB: I'm guessing that many commenters on this thread are single young guys. This post is educative, and you all are the exact targets. You all may not accept it, but I'm grateful for those that will.

Links to References (in no particular order)

https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0021909619880283?utm=

https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/13668803.2020.1797634

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/341758004_Gender_Differences_in_Motivation_And_Academic_Achievement_A_Study_Of_the_University_Students_of_KP_Pakistan

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0362331914000354

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/343576708_Are_Girls_More_Ambitious_Than_Boys_Vocational_Interests_Partly_Explain_Gender_Differences_in_Occupational_Aspirations

https://www.tnhjph.com/index.php/tnhj/article/view/817#:~:text=Females%20are%20more%20motivated%20to,affiliation%2C%20and%20enjoyment%20than%20males.

All I can say to you is.... God bless you sir 🙏

Northerners food and Indian food are 5&6...

But their indomie sellers and mai suya is bit different sha...

All tribes queues for indomie and egg at the Hausa guy's shop in my area, the guy is neat...

Dazidon:
Then what makes ur white heroes cunny and smart ?

The gadget you used to type this is enough for an answer... like I already told you, it's not a must you type, you can just view and pass you know, it will save you a lot of embarrassment...

Dazidon:
pure confusion


u initially made it look like being cunny cant be intelligent


now you wanna explain sh?t

I initially as how? Am I changing my words? And again how is being cunny the same as intelligence?

A fool can be very cunny.... It's not a must you type mr man....

Dazidon:
every country has cunny people

True, but those countries listed has more of the intelligent ones, but that's not the case here with Africans

I Wanted to protest why Nigeria or any African countries do not make the list, but after a second thought, I realised the headline said intelligent and not cunny....

Fenrir:
Not your brother

Ok

Fenrir:
Nope, no problem
Go for a woman that actually wants the same as you and leave any woman that doesn't alone

If a woman only wants to be a full time mother and wife then let her find a man that wants that as well, you dont need to push people to be more than they want to be

Support = good
Pressure = bad

It's well with you my brother

jaxxy:
Lol u talk like u know her or u can read her mind and intentions. U should learn to read not just in-between the lines but know the broader meaning of what people say and perhaps dont say or they will sell u in the market without ur knowledge.

Sell who? my brother you don't even know who you dealing with at all, I allow people say, think, or do what they like(in as much as it doesn't affects my reality) until you cross the line..... Back to discussion, this is not about knowing her intentions, what I'm saying is, she doesn't need to go that far if she wanted to pretend to that guy, she could have just blown a well crafted lie...