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Vulcan24:
You see the downfall of men is man ! Can you see how you turn an idiot into a genius with your seemingly more idiotic views?!! A student who cannot think of her future intelligently !!

This is absolute rubbish! Students must have a positive view and plan for their future and also what they intend to achieve with the education they are receiving! In her case there's no impact whatsoever she's in school and you are embellishing that dumb replies

Maybe her response sounds dumb, yes, but this your comment shows you are more dumber..... The question in that SS say what will she bring to the man's life.... Look at the jargons you typed

smallsmall:
Seriously, Guys of this generation are easily FOOLED!
You think any Undergraduate Lady is stewpid enough to disclose to a 'potential life-saver' that she has Sugar Daddies or do Hook-Up?
I laugh in Donald Trump
Will saying such things to 'a new Catch', enhance her standing with such new catch?
These Girl is super-smart and like most ladies, Super-cunning!

Men like you are the ones who always come back and start crying: An the Girl looked innocent before l married her, l dont know which Devil entered her immediately we got married.
Sorry, No Devil entered her, she was just smart enough to go "stealth" on you, before marriage.
Now that she got what she wants (marriage), there is no need for stealth anymore.

The greatest Weapon of any Woman, is to pretend that they are "Helpless"....... Most Men will generally rush to "Assist" such Women.
Naah, l dont fall for that trick any longer.

You are not even smart.... Go back and read the SS again

Fenrir:
Hey bob, you're the one thats proven you are so arrogant and narcissistic you think other people should change what they want in life to suit your needs and wants instead of getting off your backside and looking for that female husband of your dreams, its not hard to find someone who's goals align with yours in Nigeria, heck its not hard in Africa in general and you dont need flash cash to do it, just be better a better man than everyone else around

Why do you think men like me travel to Africa and Asia to find love and marriage? Because most women in Europe and America now have the same "best of both" attitude as you do bob

Bro, I'm done with you since.... You have issues with comprehension.... Go fix that first... Be safe 👍

shaybebaby:
What lifestyle is that? And you still haven't answered my question.

Then it means you don't even know what your arguments are.... You just arguing blindly....


And as for your question, I already gave you your answer... You don't need to be the lady's mouthpiece.... Moreover, I stated it clearly, "if she's willing", which means, I already saw what I wanted in her, but I believe she can do more, and it's not a must, which is why I said that.... So, I don't think your question should be necessary honestly...

jaxxy:
Prove me wrong. Any of us can be wrong based of the information she gave. We don't know her personally to tell anything.

We are both working on hypothesis and possibilities nothing confirmed.

I already did that in my previous comment, she she has no reason to be in-between lies and truth.... For what aim exactly?

Unrated900:
My guy you can't changed woman's orientation.
What they gonna do is what they gonna do nothing more




quote author=Clairvoyancy post=136622517]From the screenshot, it shows this one is still naive and innocent (not vouching for her tho)... It's understandable if she begs for money, cos she's a student, not all students have legit side hustles...

This girl have potential of becoming a good wife, girls like this can turn 100k capital to 300k in short period.. forget the fact that she said she has nothing else to offer, her honesty alone is an asset, she just needs someone to guide her...

For me, for the fact that she begs from family and friends alone, I can risk it all and marry her and then change her orientation.... Her peers probably have side hustle (olosho), begs from their sugar daddies, or date multiple men to earn a living an live large in school.... For me oo, I still fit risk this kain girl if all is in that SS is true...

Speak for yourself bro

shaybebaby:
No cogent response. Got it!

I'll leave you to reflect on my initial question. Maybe at some point, you will recognise the exercise in futility.

I think you guys, in your bid to sound western you forget that you are in Africa dealing with Africans...


If I should ask you to name one person you know that her lifestyle supports your claim now, you will vanish... Instead of being practical and real with yourself, you deceive yourself with what you read and see... As rich as Regina is, despite the fact that Ned has the capabilities to make her a full housewife(which she is anyways), yet she still have what's going on for her personally...

I challenge you to give me one female with a lifestyle that supports your claim...

jaxxy:
Diplomatic means neither saying the truth or lie. A toaster or friend with benefits might also be a friend. Lol

So yes she's honest only to an extent.

In this context... You wrong....

shaybebaby:
And if she is unwilling to be more, then what next?

So why should you be here mouthpiece? Kai! Nairaland and wahala na 5&6

shaybebaby:
I think he means that since her goals do not align with your values, do not bother risking anything. Recognise that it is not for you and keep it moving.

She did not state that she looking for otherwise, so why are you framing it like you could still be with her on the proviso that she changes to what you want?

When it is clear from the outset that you both want different things. Why not let it at that point?

You both are just twisting and making the whole conversation in that SS complex for yourself....


The fact that she even wanted to be a housewife is what got me attracted in the first instance.... I only went further to say even at that, she can still be more if she's willing, cos ladies like her got potentials.... What is hard to understand in this for crying out loud?

blacksam01:
The guy asking a student this is very unreasonable....

My ex gf, was a broke as girl back then in skl, only held on to books... Sh could offer you nothing, she begs aunt's and parents for money...

Las las, sh came out first class, finished her service, got a job , did it and resigned after 2 yrs, set up hers ND made it big, so big that sh was worth about 24m at age 26...


So u see, life is not about the now now, a student should not have side huzle, they should face thier books... Their is also a success route through education, everything is not about , huzle huzle....

So the guy sit park well

May God bless you my brother..... I'm really sick and tired of all these nairaland fake "alfas" who don't really know what an alpha male means....

jaxxy:
Begs from Family and friends, is very wide, open and unspecific. Some girl consider their toasters as friends.

I personally cannot say if she's honest by her statement but she is diplomatic.

Being diplomatic by shooting herself on the leg? Or didn't you notice she actually wanted the relationship? I believe she could have lied about the whole thing instead of her wasting her diplomatic reasoning to eventually sound f**lish....

kushme:
Don't just fvxkin' judge from what dey say, also watch and judge their damn actions.. So, you are one of those fellaz who keep voting Naija politicians based on word of mouf alone!!!

Only few nairalanders can comprehend words well.... Is judge the same as believe?

Can't you judge if one is telling lies from what they say? Nawa oo...

Fenrir:
Whatever you say Bob
You literally made it clear you would push her to be more than a submissive housewife as long as you dont lose the submission

You want a woman thats submissive to you but you her doing more than a housewife does

She is the type of woman that wants to be devoted to her man, raise a family and be a full time mother and wife

Whats wrong with that? If you dont want that then leave that type of woman alone, simple

There over 230 million of you, its easy to find one who's goals align with yours

Im an extremely weird man and I found it twice

1 died of cancer and a few years of grieving then back here and found another so you have no excuse you are just being petty for no reason

You are the one who is petty here, cos you are accusing me of what is not....


No where in my post did I force my opinion on anyone.... I saw many comments condemning and asking the op to dump the lady for having nothing else to offer according to that SS, and I said my opinion is different, that I can take a risk of marrying her if everything she said in that SS are true, and I clearly stated it that provided she's willing, so I don't know where all you are saying is actually coming from....

I think you have issues with comprehension....

Fenrir:
I can read

You want a submissive housewife and a working wife bob

This is a polygamy country so you could have that just dont force an innocent woman that doesn't want to do it

Let a woman like her find a man that wants the same as her and only her

You trick 2 women and marry them
1 can submit and the other can be your husband

You are not making any sense at all.... And I'm not sure you follow my post from the beginning... I guess you take your time to read again, from the beginning please.... So as to stop sounding incoherent

Fenrir:
You should change your name on here bob
You're the greedy and selfish type that wants the "best of both" and doesn't care about anyone else

How? Do you even know what my arguments are at all?

Kobojunkie:
1. So, your intention in a relationship is not to literally ignore what the woman says she wants instead to impose your will on her?

2. The very same decision that was made by your great-grandmothers, grandmothers, and maybe even your mother is now to be viewed as foreign ideology? Ya !!

I rest my case please... Goodnight

Kobojunkie:
You are the one not making any sense at all. You litterally sugggested that because some person called Drogba allowed himself be influenced by another person and that magically turned out for him— conveniently ignoring the mountain of evidence out there which indicates that the vast majority who allow others influence their dreams and desires end up regretting it—, this woman in the OP should allow the man or any man influence her desires.... are you eff-ing kidding me?

Jesus Christ..... Between my offer and her desires which is more better.... So you suggest that she be a dependant than making a life for herself? You never cease to amaze me honestly....


See, you better forget all these unnecessary wokenesss. this is Africa oo... I'm telling you things that are happening that many can relate with, you are bringing in western ideology... I'm being practical with you and not just assumptions... Many Nigerian girls will say the same thing with that girl, but in actual sense, they are great asset when guided.... Real life talk, not all those unnecessary wokenesss you are saying here

Kobojunkie:
How old are you for Pete's sake?

I should be asking you that....

Kobojunkie:
1. Some of these girls are naive? Sounds more like your particular excuse to use in pushing your own agenda on them. If what they tell you they want is a good life, why do you feel they should be denied that by you?

2. Wrong! A 300-level girl is literally saying that what she wants is to become a traditional wife. Why are you dead set on having that desire invalidated?

3. What you have there makes absolutely no sense to me. All women are not cut from the same cloth, so this statement of yours amounts to a desperate attempt to suggest your view of women is what should matter more than the individual desires women have regarding what is their own lives.

4. Again, this gal did not ask for an opportunity but rather stated clearly that she is looking to become a traditional housewife in this particular setup with the man. For the umpteenth time, why are you desperate to show you know what is better for her than she does?

You are made up for arguments.... Honestly I don't know what to tell you or how to explain to you that my offer is for a willing heart....

Drogba wanted to be a defender, Deschamps saw a potential striker and a willing heart, and Drogba was converted, today he is a living legend....

Same story goes for Mikel and Mourinho

Same story between Olamide and Adekunle gold...

I can go on and on like that... I just hope you understand.... Goodnight...

Kobojunkie:
Well, I am at least glad that you clearly comprehended the fact that what she wanted was to be a traditional wife in the deal.

2. Why are you dead set on creating a scenario different from that published in the OP? Again, you confirmed that this lady is looking to depend on a man, live as a traditional wife. Why do you continue to look for ways to argue about changing her after previously admitting she clearly wishes to be a traditional wife?

Does calling it a risk somehow make it OK in your mind that you are clearly only trying to force your ideas in this case? Are relationships no longer meant to be based on agreements between two individuals?

If you check my post very well, you will notice I made mention of how some of these girls are too naive.... Majority just want the good life which is not bad... If you are to be real with yourself, you should admit that a 300level student should at least aspire for something to better her life instead of being a dependant... Again, if you will agree with me, 99.9% of women would choose the soft life, even the industrious one we hear their name today, but the only difference between her and them is that some strives to be were they are today, while some found themselves in front of opportunities that eventually shaped their lives, and this is the same opportunity I'm willing to offer in the name of risk, provided she's willing... So there's nothing like forcing her against her will like you are insinuating...

Kobojunkie:
1. What? Wait a second... she is telling you what she wants to be in the relationship. However, you insist her decision should be invalidated because of notions you have about others. Why is that?

2. So, never mind that humans are not all the same and hence not all compatible. You think instead that compatibility should be forced on those you choose, regardless of whether their desires align with yours or not?

I'm not sure you are typing based on what we saw in that SS....

A lady who will be a grad in one year time telling someone wooing her those things has shown a trait of submission... Meaning she wants to depends on the guys, well I'm saying, her submission is all I needed.... If she doesn't believe in herself that she can do more than what she stated, I'm willing to risk it all by pushing her to do more... Provided what attracted me is still intact.. I might loose, but I'm certain I won't miss... That's why I called it a risk....

Kobojunkie:
1. Why should she turn 100k capital into 300k capital when she makes it clear that all she is interested in becoming is a traditional housewife, not a traditional business partner?

2. Change her orientation or accept instead that she is probably not right at all for you?

1. Because naturally she ought to be more than a wife... Some people don't even know about the potential in them until they are being placed in front of opportunities

2. There's nothing like the right one for you, you make the available one or let the one you choose the right one...

Zonefree:
@bolded

This "change her orientation" is the major reason many men are suffering in marriage.

No matter what or who you are, you can NEVER change a female adult.

Depends on the type of woman you attract bro... of course you don't expect me to say I want to change the orientation of a call girl. Whether you believe it or not, there are good girls, just that they are few, but we have them... And some of these girls are naive, so they need someone who will guide through life...

starpower:
better to see how she looks first. People are called intelligent beings, better to not have any expectations.

I do not understand your comment, but it's more reasonable to judge someone from what they say than to judge from how they look....

From the screenshot, it shows this one is still naive and innocent (not vouching for her tho)... It's understandable if she begs for money, cos she's a student, not all students have legit side hustles...

This girl have potential of becoming a good wife, girls like this can turn 100k capital to 300k in short period.. forget the fact that she said she has nothing else to offer, her honesty alone is an asset, she just needs someone to guide her...

For me, for the fact that she begs from family and friends alone, I can risk it all and marry her and then change her orientation.... Her peers probably have side hustle (olosho), begs from their sugar daddies, or date multiple men to earn a living an live large in school.... For me oo, I still fit risk this kain girl if all is in that SS is true...

dominique:
Are you helping her because you want justice for her sister or you want to lord over her. What do you mean by went behind your back? Her sister who is struggling to stay alive is her priority not your fragile ego. I'd rather die than seek for help from people like this verydadtman

why is Your gender like this for God's sake? Read the next comment below this your comment maybe your level of reasoning can at least improve... Nawa oo

But these guys are using phones na... Why is it that hard to track them?

You wan borrow woman wey you dey chop money? Congrats in advance ...

Btw, stop giving her false hope, let her know your intention about her, don't joke with what a scorned woman can do o....