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mbaise1000:
Like I said, may your pain remain forever. You chose it

mbaise1000:
Remain pained kid, it's your choice

Doolove:
My ex boyfriend broke up with me shortly before I went for service, citing irreconcilable differences. It coincided with a period that he had a setback in business that made him lose a huge amount of money and left him in debt, I tried my best to support him but he still accused me of lack of empathy towards his situation because of a comment that I made.

It has not been easy for me since I left for camp, and I'm still suffering, most times I feed from the goodwill of toasters. I've been receiving a huge amount of attention from men in Abuja though I haven't given in to any because I think I'm still in love with my ex. I miss him a lot and I haven't found someone that I can share that kind of bond with.

I've been communicating constantly with my ex since we broke up, in fact I still tell him everything that goes on in my life including about my numerous toasters. He's been supportive although not financially. He tells me that he misses me too but unfortunately he can't sustain a relationship now because he can barely feed at the moment. He once told me that we're just casual friends and it hurt me to the extent that I nearly had sex with one of my toasters just to forget him but couldn't stand any guy touching me.

There's a man that has been on my neck for a while now, he's been helping me financially but I'm not attracted to him and I don't think I can date him. All my attempts to put him off has failed so far. He took me out for breakfast this morning when my ex called, he noticed I was with someone and insisted that I was in the guys place, I suggested a video call in order to convince him but the man wouldn't let me make the call. He got angry and almost caused a scene insisting I must tell him who he is to me, I was recording the conversation and forwarding to my ex who told me to stop playing games. He told me to either date the man if I want to or tell him plainly that I'm not interested.

I couldn't give the man an answer because I still need his help for the main time. My ex got angry and called me a confused and self centered person, he said I should go on and date the man just because he's my meal ticket just because I told him that the man has been the one feeding me.

The man on the other hand told me to tell my ex to stop disturbing me since we are no longer dating, he was visibly angry and wanted to call my ex to threaten him to hands off me. He still ended up giving me a modest amount of money after the whole fracas.

Now I don't know how to handle my ex, he hasn't told me that he wants me back and even if he does it might not work because he's broke at the moment and I will have to keep talking to other men which he doesn't like. I don't get intimate with any of them, I just friend zone them till they eventually give up and leave.

I need ideas on how to go about this issue please.

mbaise1000:
It's not necessarily for things like you, it's an open forum and it shows people the type of people it's directed to, like I said, get a life

yamunla:
Obudu ranch is in a place called obanliku ..

U can go through onitsha.. I boarded a bus from onitsha south park to ikom and enter obanliku bus from ikom..

The road is secure

ICTspecialist:
Mariangeles
Clevagal
Pretydiva
Amongst others

mbaise1000:
You wouldn't understand that it's fools who will rush to call others fools just like mad men will see everyone else as mad, I don't expect you to figure these things out, you are beat and it takes brains to figure things out, go and get a life kid and stop thinking with your fingers, your inability to contribute or contradict anything said shows your level of understanding, you can only curse and insult, that's the only thing things like you can do, you can prove me wrong by going to that comment you started your curses from and disprove anything in it or give a superior opinion, you can't do that or can you?

mbaise1000:
You can't give what you don't have, like I said, it takes brains to reason and you are incapable of reasoning

mbaise1000:
When you resort to violence and insult, you ALREADY lost, if you are a little more intelligent, all you would have tried to do is bring a superior argument if you think I am wrong and not resort to insults, those that start the way you do are those that are what you are trying to call me. You can still try to think up something reasonable, but I will not expect that because it takes brains to reason and apparently, you lack that.
BTW, I stand by what I said and the person I was replying to seem to have taken one or two things from what I said but you? A retard

mbaise1000:
I think if the poster is serious, he is born looser, a failure, his poverty is follow come, and if anyone will by mistake give him a billion money, he will squander it too an give up again, imagine giving up at the age of 54.
Even if the poster made serious mistakes in the past, so what? How many successful people haven't made serious mistakes in their life, there are 54 year old people who haven't even married and are still hoping to marry and still hoping to be successful, the poster is weak since it is said that when the going gets tough, only the tough get going, since he stopped, that's the reason he is a failure. Mr poster you are a failure already because you have given up ALREADY, you can prove me wrong if you are not

Vidodino:
my question is this how can a single guy like me marry a divorce lady

Bankowner:
https://www.nairaland.com/8022724/heat-unbearable
https://www.nairaland.com/8164588/man-behaves-like-sex-starved
Only you!
In the unbearable heat, you still have time for sex three times a day.
If you channel half of the time spent having sex with your man into something productive, you won't be talking about your landlady asking you to leave. Who knows, it may even be because you and your partner disturb the peace of the compound with your sex that's made her give you quit notice.

Johnson225:
lol. You comparing a man's sexual life to that of a woman

Are you familiar with the lock and key theory?
A key that opens all lock is regarded as a master key. on the reverse, a lock that can be opened by every key is useless...reflect on that

DarkCaesar:
How is she any different from the ones we are running from on the street 😂
how many Exes will she delete?
How many past hitters will she introduced to our foolish Op as friends and harmless acquaintances?
How many times will he be depressed whenever his right side of the brain have some weird flashbacks about how over 20 men wif different baton hit the same hole repeatedly for free while he’s eating the remnants
Girls like op wife are submissive wh*r*, have you seen how men uses them in the bedroom? They are the best to try all degrading things and styles on because they know they will not resist and don’t know how to say the word NO.
Do you think our dear naive Op can ever satisfy this lady already plough to madness by different sticks?
Has the Op ever thought why none of the over 20 try marrying her since she was so good a woman and a wife material.
Lastly their is one virtuous woman too like her in ile ife who goes by the name Olamide and she’s also in her late 20s, fits the Op description and would treat any man like a king but people wey no her don sabi say she don cast. Her BC is probably more than this and she is not into hookup but can’t say NO to every dick, Tom and Harry that comes her way………DON’T MISLEAD THE POOR NAIVE MAN

Leemzyy:
Hehehe even me as a girl will not advise u to marry a girl with bodycount of even 5 sef,but wait oo 28yrs never marry?

ravensckar:
I hope I'm seeing properly? A 28 year old lady With a BODY COUNT of almost 20?

For a lady to garner such amount of body counts points to several things;

1- She could be a loose girl who can't keep her legs closed. i.e Cheerful giver.

2- She could be a dumbo who isn't hard to deceive. i.e those Indomie & Egg kinda b1tch.

3- She could be an immoral girl who sees no big deal in getting laid by any guy she's casually dating. i.e those sarewagba kinda girl.

If you cannot see anything wrong with any of the above, then, you need to go for a MENTAL EVALUATION because you're obviously low on cerebral fuel.

Funny enough, if you investigate further, you'll realize it's way more than 20. Most of today's guys didn't really learn anything from their Dads. May God never allow me raise a foo.l for a son.

Tina156:
Good evening, please I had protected se.x on the 13th, and 15th of July. On the 13th I also used an emergency pill with a boric acid at night that day, but that 15th I didn't use emergency pill, he pulled out too on both days with cond..oms, and we both checked the con....doms. Got my period last week Monday till Saturday. On Sunday, I inserted another boric acid. So since Tuesday till today, I've been having this cramps like period, sleepiness then stomach pains, I don't know if it's because I'm in my fertile week, or it's the acid or implantation cramping. I'm confused 😔.


Yesterday was my ovulation according to Flo, I felt serious pain yesterday night at my right side. I almost vomited cause of the pains, and this have never happened to me.

YINKS89:
What did I do..

MrBrownJay1:
ALL YOU NL FRAUDSTERS WITH VARIOUS PROFILES AND YEYE BEGGING STORIES...WILL NEVER KNOW PEACE!!! OLODO!!! in june, you needed 120k for your rent, now its blackboards for school, BWAAAAAAAAh!
aint you the same one below with all the various profiles (with exact same bank account) and various yeye stories for begging? :

BaddieFreak:
I won’t be replying a broke person like you again, I have given you enough attention already. I don’t belong to your caliber. Bye!

BaddieFreak:
You are not even close to where I am financially so just stop yabbing and face front.

BaddieFreak:
Go and warm your cold eba.

BaddieFreak:
1. Avoiding Unnecessary Stress

Dating a man without financial stability can lead to a lot of stress. Constantly worrying about money can take a toll on your relationship and your mental health. Financial struggles often lead to arguments and dissatisfaction.

2. Seeking a Man, Not a Project

When you date someone without money, you might find yourself taking on the role of a caregiver or financial supporter. A relationship shouldn’t be a project where you have to fix your man’s financial issues.

3. Setting Standards

It’s important to set standards for what you want in a partner. Financial stability should be one of those standards. It’s not about being materialistic; it’s about ensuring that you’re with a man who can contribute to a stable and secure future.

4. Building a Future Together

If you’re looking to build a future with a man, financial stability is crucial. Whether it’s buying a home, starting a family, or planning for retirement, having a man who is financially secure makes these goals achievable.

5. Emotional Well-being

Being with a man who is financially unstable can take an emotional toll. The constant worry and stress about money can affect your happiness and overall well-being. It’s important to prioritize your mental and emotional health in a relationship.

Ladies, don’t ignore the fact that financial stability plays a significant role in creating a happy and secure partnership.

So ladies, don’t settle for less than what you deserve. Aim for a man who can offer you not just love, but also the stability and security you need to thrive together. Even Davido said it in his song Assurance: That love is sweet but when money enter love is sweeter. Abi Regina Daniels wey marry Ned Nwoko, no dey enjoy her life despite the earlier backlash she faced from people. Na better money dey cook good food, ladies don’t let any man convince you otherwise.

Money will definitely build a strong and happy relationship not the unnecessary headaches lack of money brings, so men work hard and stop chasing girls up and down if you don’t have money because I am tired of you guys saying a woman dump you for a richer person. Ask yourself, won’t you dump yourself too? Just saying!

Justme1234:
Hello everyone, this is serious. I have been a nairalander since 2013 and I think I need help now.

About last 2 week, my family including me had a serious quarrel with our inlaw, the quarrel was so though and words were said. The man (our inlaw) boosted that he will deal with us, me in particular but I told him he can't do anything. I told him he doesn't have any money, but I remember he said its not about money.

Just now, about 30 minutes ago, I had a rolling sound from the top of my roof, I quickly on my flash light but I could not see what actually felled down from the roof. Though I had it clear the sound of the fall from the roof. I have searched and looked but did not see anything.

This just happened now, but I thing I am feeling something.

My left leg is feeling somehow, I can't even understand it, I can feel it very well. I am beginning to think if its spiritual something because right now I can't feel my leg very well. I haven't say it out though, just sitting and thinking currently

What should I do, do I watch it, or what should I do now.
Please, this is serious, I need advice.

Abetterperson:
I'm not joking at all. I have always suffered from depression. My ex, whom I dated as a teenager, caused me trauma, which led to depression and a craving for love. I lost my virginity to him, got pregnant, and had to abort the baby. He blamed me for the abortion, saying he wanted to be a father, even though he didn't have a job and I was in university. He wanted me to keep the baby, drop out of school, and be with a jobless man. I tolerated him despite this.

Since the abortion, I have been going from hospital to hospital, spending my own money trying to find a cure because I no longer menstruate normally. This year, after years of dating, he said he is no longer interested and doesn't like me anymore. I laughed, but I'm already depressed and have had chronic depression for years. This period has been the worst, and I'm going through everything alone.

He isn't giving me money for treatment and keeps blocking me. I have already made up my mind to commit suicide, which is something I am at peace with.
Have already made plans on how everything will go tomorrow
Tomorrow I will speak to a friend of his, and if he's mentality hasn't changed
Well our stories we be all over the news
Too sad we wouldn't be able to read it

PS..he said he wanted to baby but took me to do the abortion, paid the nurse
Dude is just looking for excuse
Because he is a guy, he thinks he can just move on, he messed with the wrong person