Nairaland General › Re: True Story: I Lost ₦400,000 And Two Friendships by cloud(m): 6:43am On Oct 23*. Modified: 5:51am On Oct 26 |
YoungestPapa: I have been in the exact same situation as your friend.
I borrowed 200k from a close friend and things didn't go as planned, in fact i didn't recover from my financial slumber for years. During this time as much as i didn't want to lose our friendship, i tried avoiding him.
You have to understand that the person who is been owed would always ask from time to time his money, but what if you, the borrower is in a position where you cannot pay the money because you are dirt poor? The human feeling in that situation for the borrower is not try to be more friendly with you, because he is dying with immense guilt and embarrassment. He may be your bone man, but his feelings make him stay away. This may still happen even if you assure him not to worry about it.
I tried to stay friends with my friend, but i know that many times i avoided him and he knew the reason. Fortunately, he has an amazing level of maturity and so over the years, he wrote off the debt and it made me feel better gisting and sharing old memories with him. As soon as i got into a better position, i sent the money to him after 5 years.
Your friend is only acting that way because he's human. If you know him as a good person, then he still is a good person, but he is terrible guilty and embarrassed with the situation. This is a very irresponsible act. If you owe someone, you should be responsible enough to explain the reason why you cannot pay back rather than avoiding the person. As much as the loan was repaid 5 years after, I can assure you that the repaid amount lost probably a large percentage of it's value due to inflation. Hence you didn't really pay the full amount, except if you were considerate enough to add interest. Additionally, that your friend didn't ask has nothing to do with maturity. He just wasn't ready to lose you as a friend or didnt want an uncomfortable situation between both of you |
Education › Re: Nigerian Graduate Tears Certificates, Says University Was A Waste (Photos/Video) by cloud(m): 5:17am On Oct 12 |
All for the sake of content. |
Career › Re: Female Police Recruit Cries During Firearm Training (Photos, Video) by cloud(m): 8:06pm On Oct 08 |
With the way she's dressed, I can assure you this is not training! Even the most undisciplined force on the face of the planet have a specific dress code for training. Sooner or later, I expect disciplinary measures to be meted out in those who orchestrated this comedy show. |
Celebrities › Re: Phyna Vs Nkechi Boxing Fight: The Moment Phyna Knocked Out Nkechi Blessing by cloud(m): 5:18am On Oct 02 |
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Sports › Re: Moment Argentine Goakeeper Gustavo Tesonotte Refused To Save A Penalty by cloud(m): 4:58am On Sep 30 |
GanagiBitrus: That was never a penalty. The player should have deliberately missed the kick, out of fair play. You never can tell, missing that penalty could cost him his life. Football is marred with so much violence in South America. You can't blame the player. |
Nairaland General › Re: Man Destroys Wooden Shelves He Built After Receiving Quit Notice From Landlord(V by cloud(m): 8:50pm On Sep 02 |
Lovelink1991: The landlord is just being wicked because the house is an big open space and it is the young man who renovated it. Why giving quit notice because you saw something that he never expected. Increasing the rent is understandable but giving quit notice is devilish in disguise . I have learnt over time, that there are always 2 sides to every story. What if the man refused to pay rent over the years, is the landlord supposed to keep him as a tenant because he did woodwork on his property? |
Politics › Re: Group Hails President Tinubu, Ribadu For Salary Increase For Armed Forces by cloud(m): 9:22pm On Aug 05 |
demstone: PRIVATE SOLDIERS B4 TINUBU GOT 48K WAGE
IN 2025 TINUBU INCREASED IT TO 100K
TODAY TINUBU INCREASES IT TO 180K
YET SOME NIGERIANS HATE TINUBU...
IS TINUBU NIGERIAS 1ST PRESIDENT Honestly, don't go there. It's not that deep. |
Politics › Re: Tinubu Approves Salary Increase For Military Personnel by cloud(m): 6:50am On Aug 05 |
KingAzubuike: So a private who entered with ssce would be collecting above 200k While many graduates out there in different firms earn far below that.
You see say life no balance. Application form is free for all to join, if the 200k is a problem. |
Crime › Re: This Lady Is A Scammer, BEWARE!!! by cloud(m): 5:17am On Aug 03 |
TrainingResourc: This is Lady is a Scammer, Scamming people on Various Social Apps. Beware guys. How were you scammed? You need to provide more details. |
Entertainment › Re: Strongman Lifts Bags Of Rice With His Neck & Teeth, Stuns Crowd (Video, Photos) by cloud(m): 3:10pm On Aug 02 |
The real incredible hulk |
Health › Re: Lady Narrates How UNTH Denied Her Sister Emergency Service till Army Forced Them by cloud(m): 10:09am On Aug 01 |
Mopolchi: This is sheer intimidation. Why the break in by the armed forces? is that all you can say? Pray not to be in this sort of situation. |
Crime › Re: Hunkarin Segun George Jailed 2 Years Over Cocaine Importation by cloud(m): 6:59am On Jul 28 |
MEGAWATCH: Just 2 years for Segun and 22 years for Chinedu, what type of partial judgement is that?
You did not even give him up to 10 years?
Okay, he will still come out in 2 years time and continue from where he stop, since it is only 2 years you can give him. Did you read the part that said he evaded arrest for 10 years after previously committing same offence?
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Culture › Re: Bereaved Son Share Burial Demands From Village Group, Sparks Debate by cloud(m): 6:48am On Jul 17 |
The question is why does this type of exploitative list affect only those that are not based in the village because I doubt if people based there can afford to go through with this type of exploitation. Or isn't culture applicable to everyone from a particular geographical area? |
Jobs/Vacancies › Re: We Are Paying NGN 50K–500K Per Month To Anyone Who Can Close A Deal by cloud(m): 12:36pm On Jun 07 |
What exactly is the point of limiting a marketing job to females only? Does it mean that men cannot find clients. |
Crime › Re: How Police Rescued Olaide Busayo Adegoke John-Paul & Twin Sons (Video) by cloud(m): 8:58am On Jun 07 |
DrTee1: But why did the police have to shoot at the man in the roof who bore no arms?
I know the society is charged, but extra-judicial killing isn't right either. You don't shoot at an unarmed person except the court of competent jurisdiction has passed a death sentence, isn't it?
However, looking closely, despite the close proximity, it doesn't look like the suspected kidnapper in the roof was hit by the gunshot. He should have crumpled to the floor from the roof and died if that happened. However, his descent, thought fast, showed some clumsy coordination, suggesting that he wasn't killed.
Yet, this poses another challenge: how can our security agencies shoot that closely and not hit the intended target? in a room filled with smoke, visibility could be impaired and anybody can miss a target even at close range. The fewer criminals we have in society, the better for us all. I'm sure you'll still criticise the system when these criminals are arrested and there's a jailbreak. Until you personally become a victim of kidnappers, you may never see things differently. |
Crime › Re: Bandits Demand Weapons, Money To Release Kidnapped Oyo Students by cloud(m): 6:24am On Jun 06 |
Bluna: Please don't give them weapons. They will use the same weapon to commit another one. In some countries, weapons would be given implanted with tracking and self demobilisation chips. Just thinking aloud. |
Education › Re: See What A Former Secondary School Student Wrote To His Government Teacher by cloud(m): 7:56am On Mar 21 |
With the way this write-up was composed and the grammatical errors therein, it seems the teacher wasn't wrong after all. |
Health › Re: What Hard Drugs Turned My Friend To. by cloud(m): 8:26am On Feb 27 |
Thundafireseun: I wasted my precious time reading this poorly written post , without enough content are you looking for entertainment or you're interested in being reminded of the harmful effects of drugs not just on oneself but on close associates. |
Foreign Affairs › Re: President Trump raises global tariffs from 10% To 15% Effective Immediately by cloud(m): 9:44pm On Feb 21 |
Lukuluku69: The Orange Mussolini won't stop already.
10% Tariffs? The suppliers will still pass it on to Americans in form of price increase.
10% hike will only benefit the The American Customs which means more money for the government to play ping ball with world politics. It goes much deeper. The idea is when the goods become more expensive, people would look for alternatives and thus, reduce their purchase of those imported goods, which would affect the importers of these goods and by extension, the producers |
Education › Re: Mysterious Object In The Milky Way Fires Pulses Every 44 Minutes!-video by cloud(m): 12:58pm On Feb 05 |
We are not alone. There's a lot about the universe we don't know. |
Politics › Re: It’s Possible It’s An AI — Military Reacts To Viral Gentle De Yahoo Video by cloud(m): 8:01am On Jan 31*. Modified: 5:37am On Feb 02 |
SpaceX: Trial and error military, all they know how to do is traveling abroad for unnecessary courses. it's because of the same military that you sleep peacefully in your bed. It's unfortunate that so many military personnel have paid the supreme price just to keep ingrates like you from harm's way. If it were easy, kindly pick up an army form and show them how it is supposed to be done. |
Education › Re: 19-Year-Old Waste Seller, Samuel Gets ₦1M, ₦7.05M Donations, Scholarship by cloud(m): 2:48pm On Jan 30 |
bjcole: It's an arrangee content, and Nigerians are falling for it. I m sure in a developed climes, such contents would have been stopped by the authority.. People have problems truly, and so much problems that even the govt can't solve. The play acting in the video content to deceive people is the issue. It's all about clout chasing not really about helping. The young man doling out money, what does he do for a living, what is his line of business, I thought Charity begins at home, has he helped all.the poor people in his family.. This is my thoughts..and I so doubt the authenticity of the video. take the salient lessons from the video which revolves around helping the less privileged and touching lives. It's not every time you need to criticise. After all, in life, you grow by lifting others. So rather than condemn or criticise, look for a soul to touch and uplift. |
Education › Re: 19-Year-Old Waste Seller, Samuel Gets ₦1M, ₦7.05M Donations, Scholarship by cloud(m): 2:45pm On Jan 30 |
Love800: More publicity and gigs for the donor. Nothing goes for nothing.
Everyone are like the devil. They give cap to collect your head. which one have you done? |
European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga) › Re: Arsenal Vs Manchester United (2 - 3) On 25th January 2026 by cloud(m): 7:18pm On Jan 25 |
Draw soup loading |
European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga) › Re: Arsenal Vs Manchester United (2 - 3) On 25th January 2026 by cloud(m): 6:15pm On Jan 25 |
This will end in a draw. |
Foreign Affairs › Re: Iranian Leader Sends Message To Americans As Millions Protest In Minneapolis by cloud(m): 3:15pm On Jan 25 |
I can assure you, Trump will respond |
Politics › Re: Donna Duke Weds Tobe Rapu (photos) by cloud(m): 3:31pm On Jan 24 |
Freshandfitpod: With all her father money she still no fine, truly beauty cannot be bought. I know this marriage will not survive a year mark my words. how are you sure your own will last? |
Foreign Affairs › Re: Iran Bombed by cloud(m): 1:01pm On Jan 18 |
False news |
European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga) › Re: Liverpool Vs Burnley (1 - 1) On 17th January 2026 by cloud(m): 4:12pm On Jan 17 |
NeckingNgulping: Burnley that was written off by a lot of pundits is leading Liverpool very early in this game. I still don't understand how Arsenal failed to beat this struggling Liverpool side at home when they were the clear favourite going into that game at the Emirates. Burnley hasn't scored. Information is wrong. |
European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga) › Re: Liverpool Vs Burnley (1 - 1) On 17th January 2026 by cloud(m): 4:11pm On Jan 17 |
Am I watching a different match? |
Romance › Re: My Marriage Is Falling Apart Please I Need Urgent Advice by cloud(m): 11:11am On Jan 07 |
There's no reason to suggest why a 45 year old man cannot satisfy you sexually. The only reason his level of sexual activity is impaired is cause of his alcoholic addiction and lack of exercise. Secondly, you need to stop comparing yourself to your single friends which is why you feel the need to leave your marriage to explore uncharted territory. No marriage is complete and every relationship has it's challenges. Would you rather be in a marriage where finance is not an issue but you get physically abused? So rather than nag, look for constructive ways to make him change, such as showing him more love and support, proferring viable financial advice, encouraging him to reduce his alcoholic intake and exercising. If you like, continue to listen to your single friends, it's only a matter of time before you use your hand to spoil your home. |