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dakmanzero:
Heh.

'tis nothing more than a bit of culture shock, m'dear.

He has papers already, AND you have proof he isnt after the 'wham bam thank you ma'am' experience, so we can rule out desperation (unless you happen to be filthy rich)

I suppose it's simply the way Najia men are socialized by our women here. They have cheapened the meaning of 'I love you' to the extent that it may pass as a simple dinner table pleasantry between acquaintances. In other words: What you may see as a rushed, haphazard approach may simply be what passes for a simple display of affection over here. Women here will absolutely ream you with their tongues if you don't call them three times a day every day of your life and say 'i miss you' and  'i love you' over and over again even if you absolutely do not mean what you are saying.

Simple solution: just treat the whole thing as if you are learning another language! Not all body language is the same. Get to know him better and you'll better understand what each thing he does or says really means. And don't be afraid to play hard-to-get to the point of ridiculousness,  that's how our girls behave over here. They EXPECT you to try to get into their pants every day of your life for donkey years just to prove that you REALLY want it. Conversely, the guys have come to expect you to reject their advances  even to the point of plain flat-out rudeness.

Sad, but true. lol! In any case, good luck.

PS: It is worth noting that it isn't unusual in this country for a guy to decide to marry a person who he has not known for up to a year.  Not the norm, but not unusual in any way,



PPS:

'Tis a shameful thing to admit, but there exists the definite possibility that the papers he showed you were fake and he simply wants to get you to put a ring on his finger and make him 100% legit. Yes, shameful, sad, but too many people do this crap and it would be hypocritical of me not to at least warn you. Double check all that stuff and satisfy yourself 100%. At the first hint of the word 'irregular' as regards any of his papers, run for the hills. *sigh*. such a pity that this warning has to be given at all,

mishooo:
If you are sure he's gotten his papers, then i think he doesnt want to lose you to another person.Maybe you are too beautiful for him to keep his eyes off you.Maybe his people are asking him to settle down on time.Maybe its the intensity of the Love thats making him act like that.


Meanwhile, you can still tell him to slow things down for you. It aint bad that way!!

jaybee3:
@ Nannu
Definitely not a "Nigerian guys" thing. I agree with you, it's a bit strange to be proclaiming love for you only after a week of knowing each other.
Makes it even hard to understand his motives since he his not in need of papers (This you really need to confirm, not that their is anything wrong in it as long as he his for real and your feeling towards each other is absolutely mutual)
Might be that he wants to get into your pants and using that magic word will make the process easier with minimum fuss.
Advice which you probably already know is that you guys have to get to know each other before he can even start mentioning dat word. Some people find it hard to differentiate between likeness and love. It is quite possible that he likes fanices you but believe me it doesn't amount to love.

jaybee3:
@ Nannu
Definitely not a "Nigerian guys" thing. I agree with you, it's a bit strange to be proclaiming love for you only after a week of knowing each other.
Makes it even hard to understand his motives since he his not in need of papers (This you really need to confirm, not that their is anything wrong in it as long as he his for real and your feeling towards each other is absolutely mutual)
Might be that he wants to get into your pants and using that magic word will make the process easier with minimum fuss.
Advice which you probably already know is that you guys have to get to know each other before he can even start mentioning dat word. Some people find it hard to differentiate between likeness and love. It is quite possible that he likes fanices you but believe me it doesn't amount to love.

bumitek02:
I even need to travel there next year, I will like to know the cost from calabar to Cameron

jvera:
no 10 really funny u prefer ma d hair they enta ur mouth.

iceberylin:
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edozie04:
lolz,make I pretend I did not see anything,but the only part I saw na d 10k,bros @ seanixking,I never see any recharge card oo

sheunfemix:
kk they are called Porphans and d people shaking are it must be father Abraham and baby Jesus, u knw.... Connecting people. And d last one, everybody knows suarez eat that apple!!

edozie04:
Sent you a pm

edozie04:
Shap babe,come let me spend on u,but only if u......

edozie04:
Sent you a pm

edozie04:
Shap babe,come let me spend on u,but only if u......

Seanixking:
Nah trouble atall, am glad u gonna transfer the recharge card i sent u to ur love....But next time be truthful huh
#Money nah be wahala #sean feat sarkodie

Feelitx:
How old is this husband of your?

Seanixking:
Just 10k recharge? Nah problem atall, just finish ur steam bath, we gonna hit nyt lounge, and be prepared morro weekend we going shopping....
#smile
Maga no need Pay

Seanixking:
#clear throat......Hold this wallet jare, uhmm aside shawarma, wah else do u need?

Seanixking:
Who did i insult? Bia, shebi u knw wan eat shawarma again ni? Oya beg me if not!

Seanixking:
Who? Bia, confession that really made me roll with laughter
#Ntoooooooor

rawpadgin:
the best possible answers

sheunfemix:
No suarez eat that portion of d apple

Seanixking:
Lol, maybe one of this days amma spank ur bottom......

Kachisbarbie:
1) childless

2) probably the founder of Nokia and wife...lol

3)Steve jobs(RIP to him ) ate it, you know that dude can preserve anything. That explains the rest

Seanixking:
Ai Guess u missed the humuor in that topic, Anyway will pretend i didnt see this, miss confession..