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Its very simple and uncomplicated. first of all where do you begin to draw your line between like and love hen...
that you love someone dont mean you have to marry them ooh. truth is we all love many people at the same time, we love the way she talks, the way he move, his voice and some other thing.
Look at yourself and tell me outside your family you have no love for more than one person, presently i can say i love about three different peopl, and my gf aint part of these three.

SS, when i said not close relation ships i meant not family, nuclear or extended.
And yes i think, or rather know its possible to love a good many people at the same time in different ways. Not equally but yes date each one... lol
theres enough cool to go round

my take is simple it is possible to love two , sometimes three people in different ways at the same time. and i dont mean close relations at that.

So generally the vibe im getting here is that the ladies would not consider dating or eventually marrying a man a few years younger than you because
1) he might look 4 sumthin younger when you eventually grow older faster as u ladies have said
2) You wont feel to secure because the whole man taking care of me thing dont seem right when instead of him being a father figure , hes more like an annoying younger brother
3) at the back of your mind you feel society will frown on it...
i find this reasons just as shallow as any other reason like he aint rich or not mature.
Utter Crap

and as someone posted if by the time she is 30 or so and u still find this lady attractive her mindset would have changed and she would be more welcoming...

Selective integrity!!!
as for me, if i like her and she is older, then she dont need to know my age and she'll be just fine lol.

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Agree!!!

That is the height of it.

while i can tolerate a 10 year gap, but this... its an outrage.then again who made me judge, if she want him bad, he needs her bad....
but if me brother brings someone like that home, i'll kill him.
period.

1ce again its alright to date someone a few years older than you, once y'all can understand yourselves. (most def. not thirty sumthin years)

@hot angel: kinda like looking for shrek no offence lol

personlly, someone who is fun to be with. one i can have a decent converstion, perferably intelligent. definitely good looking. if i get beauty thrown into this , luvly.
i could play something from queen, and not get my head bitten off. yep
oh and yeah a little freaky side too would be nice.

i would also like it if she wasnt all perfect i would get bored in a week.
but we never really get what we want ei...

"nail and bail" bad idea
right now you are probably enjoying the feeling of being wanted, if i was u id go for it.

eventually if u let her go u will miss the attention she used to give you. the best part being that u probably always liked her and were just being pig headed cause she was helping u out.

if u think u like her Go, else let her down gently so she can help the next brother that comes along... *me*

Personally yeah.
to start with alll the women i have ever gone out with were significantly older than me. the least 2 years
its never been about the money, but i think its alright.
and just because she is older dont mean nothing, save she might try to run thing 4 u. so once that is all cleared up... play ball

Lets see,
the facts. you dont know her from adam.
you enjoy the eye contact
you think she might just like you

the thing is she might , she might not. the only way to find out is by asking her. If i wer u i usually do a little background check see if anyone in my circle knows her. {i hate NO's} then i find out if she is free. all this takes time if by the time i find out all this i still wann know her then the worst that can happen is
NO.

well i always say " Giving someone your love is no guarantee that they will love you back, just be glad love grew in your heart"

so Go for it if u really want to, not because yo feel you have to.

it is sadistic vengeance to sleep with the younge sister just because the elder sister is a putz.
personally id recommend dropping that entire family what kind of girl knows u r going out with her elder sister but puts the moves on you?

but if u r just a Hot bunny, go 4 it, satisfy your craving and then what?
Life is too short for all that.

Once again let me say it is impossible to know that someone is right for u when u see him or her.
Secondly the feeling is not only annoying, it also clouds your judgement.
Love is a feeling you learn, its not a thing you get.
Sex is for marraige. period[ call me old fashioned]
its only through time spent in a relationship that u learn to love a person for who they truly are.

yes "love is a feeling to be learned"

From the chauvinistic outlook i think men should be the first to make the move.
from a feminist point of view i still think men should make the first move.

from the weak brother who has no game, the woman can do all the asking.
my point is women if u like this gu and he cant seem to come aroud to asking you out, help him out!!!

Love... thats the favourite excuse men use to sleep with women,
the favourite excuse by women to rip men off
the ultimate excuse by both sexes to do pull any dumb stunt and say "i did it cos i was in love."

one thing i know: love definitely is not a feeling u feel,
its what we all desire, what we all want, what we all want to give but what we do not trust.
its requirements are immense, its rewards breathtaking, its pain heartwrenching.
its everything u want and what u can do without.

Basically its sumthin good, but we wreck it 4 ourselves.