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Mira4Ashawo:
more than 5 nairalanders said that once buried they don't disturb again.
Is it true?

Yes very true, some don't accept there death easily and get attached to this world. They don't cross over when they are suppose to crossover, they intend to roam the earth, later on became poltergeist. A poltergeist could be a dangerous entity.

BigTableShaker:
What tribe is your bf pls?
I can't talk about a particular tribe.

I know where you are going with this. Table shaker, some people wey no like dey commot for there domain.

Differ from trying to mold him to what you want and your advice. Have you tried to ask him what he really want instead of telling him what you want of him. Did you try to help him and support him financially. Adivicing someone is different from supporting him.

Ghost are Real. After the burial everything should be back to normal.

Koboko444:
Then the heading of your post should have been - both me and my girlfriend are HIV positive and she is pregnant. However I suspect you are a liar from the pit of hell and this whole story is a figment of your depraved imagination.

Wow if you believe this is fake. Then you go problem bro. I'm not the reason for your problem and fraustration.you really need help sorry. Only came here for advice. Anyway thanks.

Thanks to everyone who contributed positively, will follow your advices. We went to see a doctor for consultation in General Hospital, I was told thesame things no one's needs to know and she can breastfeed also. And it's Good since she open up to me. He Even went ahead telling some stories about some Gene who can't contract the virus and also most ladies don't tell there partner even when the married ones because they believe there viral load is low and can't pass on the virus.

If your viral load is very low and undetectable, there is zero chances of passing the virus. . If undetected=untrasmittable.

Femeto:
Don't tell your mother realtionship done scatter be that.Let are put to bed first then let the doctors write a report for you why she cant breast feed.

Thank you very much.

SmileDance:
I don't get it, will she live in your family house or how else will they know your wife isn't breastfeeding

Mother will be around for Omugwo.

Remaboy:
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I advise you not to pay heed to an uncouth person
Cc Crazeman03

Thanks

DanseMacabre:
Lol.

So the family people you're debating whether to tell or not, na them go breastfeed the pikin for am

They will ask questions.

KINGreignn:
Sit down and sincerely ask your self these questions.
1. Do you truly love her?
2 .or you're just it out of compassion and sympathy and pity?
3. Or you're in it for the sex?
4. Do you see you two going far in this union?
5. What values have you imbibed in her and also what values has she imbibed in you?

Yes I truly love her and she feel thesame way. Though she till have doubt and always feel insecure about me. She believes one day I will walk away.

emyrald91:
Help how?

You know get sense?

HIV is not a death sentence though.

But let me ask you, do you know your current status?

Thanks for the insult. The third I tested since we've been having sex was march and I'm still negative.

Hello Nairalanders, Hope you guys are staying Safe. Please don't mind my writing, I will make it short as possible.

I met this wonderful lady Last year and everything has been going good until 7 months ago when she told me she was Hiv+. That hit me hard but that didn't change anything, she was surprised I didnt react and opening up to me didn't scare me because I'm negative though we haven't had sex yet before the moment.

Now it has been 4 months we've been having unprotected sex. I'm not afraid of contracting the virus, as she keeps taking med and her viral load is low. I made sure before we went for test before having unprotected sex. Her CD4 count is above 750 and viral load is below 20, which makes hiv undetectable in her.

Now one night around 3months ago, she woke me up in the middle of the night to ask me, why do I love her knowing fully well about her status because she could not believe she will ever have a relationship with someone negative not even in this Nigeria by the way they stigmatize hiv+ people. I told her the reason and I'm not afraid hiv is not the worse or the baddest of diseases. There are more killer diseases than HIV and HIV is not a diseases but a virus. Only attack your immune system and its no longer a deadly virus.

The problem I have now is that whenever I imagine myself having it and how I will popping drugs everyday, make me kinda moody towards her, because I always keep telling her to always take her drugs. Last night she discovered she is pregnant and I'm just imagining things how everything will play out, I know when she will put to bed she won't be able to breastfeed. People will ask questions. I really need to tell someone in my family but I don't know who. My mom my react and the other person I trust is my younger sister.

On her own part, only her elder sister and brother knew she has the virus. And she had it since 2007.

I only need an advice if I need to tell any member of my family, looking to settle down with her this October.