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mavinc4u: what is your issue?

CP912181145NG

Originalsly: Parcel left US on January 13th. Is for Nipost to pit further tracking on it. Maybe wrong address.

how can i get nipost to do anything about this package because they are not helping.

alvinjeff: Your Package is in Lagos Already . did you get it..

How can I find it?

alvinjeff: Your Package is in Lagos Already . did you get it..

No, did not get package.

crownjustice: There is nothing wrong with conditions. It is obvious that her conditions does not meet with your conditions. There is no need for insults. You move on.

Well said

this topic is very complicated. there could be danger with the man bathing his two year old daughter. He may be innocent as well. For the interest of the child, i think he should stop bathing with his daughter.

The mother of the child is naive somewhat and that is a fertile ground for a pedophile.

Originalsly: Parcel left US on January 13th. Is for Nipost to pit further tracking on it. Maybe wrong address.

i understand that since it is already in the USA, there is nothing nipost can do.

jidegirl12: Is depression sarcasm or you guys are serious?

Our people have a way of using big words for comfort need only , not necessarily that she's depressed, even if she's diagnosed , she'd rot in denial after its( depression) philosophy is unveiled.

Depression is a mental illness and mental illness in our society = Aro patient. or didn't you notice the OP's refutal to antidepressants??



Preposterous statement that's enough evidence for me to place a patient on physical restraint ( rehab kinda environment) ......not a very good idea to have a feeble minded like OP as an advocate/ trustee for a depressed client.

I just can't get it off my mind...really.

Thank you.

bibiji: it appears u ar a doc, right? Since her hsbnd may nt b d cause of her depression, u now tel us wat's d cause of her prblms. U can mek diagnosis online witout seeing or knowin ur patients, kudos 2u 4 breakin new grounds in d field of human medicine.

If your friend is worried about side effects of the medication and not taking her medication, there is a problem. She needs to discuss all this with her doctor.

There are many reasons for your friends depression. It does not necessarily have to be her husband that causes her depression.

Her inconsistency with medication may be part of the reasons why her husband does not allow her to go to work or go to social functions because he may be worried about her behaviour.

what a horrible story.

bibiji: wat sort of a question is dat? Must one rub it on her face as if she is insane? I stated in d post dat she had seen a doc.dat said she is depressed. Her concern is dealin wit stressors causing depression not jst goin on drugs dat wil hav effect on her sooner or later. I hop its clear!

Depression is a form of mental illness and nothing to be ashamed of. It is like any other disease. You are the one that came and told us that your friend is a depressed housewife confirming that she has been confirmed with depression by doctor. There is nothing wrong with taking medications if it is necessary for your friend. Are you a doctor? If her doctor thinks it is necessary for her to go on pills, she should go on pills. She is already fixated that the cause of her depression is her husband. She may be correct? It may not be! Let the professionals handle that.

Asking you to help your friend to get her depression taken care of is not insensitive. You friend has deeper reasons to have depression other than her husband and employment.

Her husband may be the only one holding up the family.

please help me trace this package:

CP912181145NG

thanks and remain blessed.

bokohalal: Still of Middle Eastern origin.

Maybe.

Evergreen4: we no go chill for her ooo, just becos I said she is beautiful and asked her 4 her contact she started asking if I handle her by reeling out conditions dat I must meet.

There is nothing wrong with conditions. It is obvious that her conditions does not meet with your conditions. There is no need for insults. You move on.

bibiji: very insensitive!

not insensitive, but very sensitive comment. You claimed that your friend is a depressed housewife which is a mental health problem and that requires urgent health care attention. How does asking you to get her mental health attention become an insensitive comment? Mental health problem is nothing to become ashamed of. It is the same thing as having a head ache or having any type of other forms of health problems that should be addressed immediately before it becomes chronic and she ends up taking a cocktail of anti-psychotic drugs.

Do you understand depression? You used that word to describe your friend.

yellowpawpaw: Must u say dat?

I do not see anything wrong with that. The housewife is depressed. Depression is a mental health problem that requires urgent attention.

bibiji: Tnx 4d wondaful advice 4rm matured minds and sincere people. But 2b honest, some say wat they say because they are not married or commitment means nex 2 notin 2 dem. No woman deserves dis kind of treatment. Its terrible 2 beg ur hsbnd 4 moni 2 buy sanitary pads and d only phrase u hear is "I don't hav moni". A man dat can help others get jobs and not 4 his wife has a problm. My friend has gone bak and I can tel u dat some of u were so helpful. And 4 those of u making mouth don't pray 2 b in a helpless situatn as dis.

Help your friend to also get mental health assistance.

Yes, you are beautiful. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

You also have the right to stipulate the type of man you are looking for ahead of time. You are being criticized by those who cannot take care of you so ignore them. The guy that wanted your contact information understands that if he wants you, there are stipulations.

Hold your head high up. You are not a prostitute. You are a very good person.

Take care.

femmical: I pray dis doesnt go out of here,because if it does... With bishop david oyedepo involved in it... The person who posted it ll not be alive to tell the story of his/her life, so the person should be more becareful

This baseless threat is nonsensical. Thou shall not kill.

one truth is that kenya girls are violent.

@poster
i think a lot of good suggestions came from this thread for your friend with regards to what type of business she can start from home that will make her husband very proud. What does she think about those suggestions?

There is a general consensus that she should not seek divorce.

I am not sure what type of friend you are to her, but divorce should not be the wise course of action at this stage. She has many other options left.

[quote author=baby_123]OP,
You better mind your business. She most likely married him, knowing his expectations and the kind of person he is. She also seems like a whiner. Maybe she is not getting what she expected to be getting from him to keep her lifestyle. All the time she stays at home, instead of thinking of creative ideas, she comes to you to discuss her problems. Yet she claims the husband won't let her leave the house. If the money does not come to you, you have to go to the money. She needs to sit down and map a creative strategy to a business idea for the husband. Which would not make her neglect her agreed housewife status. How can you sit down and complain your husband refused to look for a job for you. A graduate for that matter.lmao.[/quote]subsequent posting from the poster indicated that she got numerous jobs which the husband refused for her to take citing family obligations, and the type of jobs. When she suggested a nanny, he refused. When she asked him to help source the type of job he would prefer for her, he refused and claimed he could not find any.

nikkykay: @ poster
Please tell ur friend I said she is a lazy woman! She is so d@ft!
I will put d 150% blame on her while 50 wil go to d husband! Did d husband tie her down not 2go & find work?
By d way, wots dir age diff?! A graduate of 10 yrs marriage with no work experience shld forget abt getting an office work 4now! And wot does she want 2do wit masters? Such lazy woman!
I guess she is just using her husband as an xcuse! She is not ready 2work herselfb
If she's a very serious woman & she has plans 4herself & not enjoyin all d gossips going on in her are, wot happens 2 deducting frm monthly allownace being given to her 2buy food stuff? Am sure within 1yr if she s doing contribution, she wuld hv had some savings 2set her sef up!
Wot happens 2learning how to sow? Or with small capital like 5 or 10k, let her start making puff puff or buns @ home & take it 2schs 2sell! From dre she will grow in2 somethg bigger!
She has decided 2add no value 2her self, hw does she expect d husband 2value her?
No man wil ever respect u if dey knw u rely solely on them!
@ poster if u r working, u can borrow her some money! Not 2do business but 2go & learn sowing!
Let her take a step 1st & see if d husband wil kick against her!
Like some1 said earlier, her kids r alrdy in sch so dat shldnt b an issue!
She's complaining of house chores whn she's doesn't hv anywhere 2go or anythg 2dob
I wish she's my friend & I wuld b glad 2 rain abuses on her!
Poster if usef is such a good friend, dre is not point bringing her matter here!
Do u think pple will tell her 2divorce or wot?!
I guess birds of d same feather...
Pls we shldnt blame dat man much but d yeye house wife!

I do not find her lazy. Raising three young children is hard work, including housework and taking care of the husband is a lot of work.

She got jobs but the husband refused for her to take those jobs because it will impact on the family. She suggested a nanny to come in and take care of the children and the house chores while she works, the husband refused. She then asked the husband to look for a job that he will approve, he claims he cannot find any. She suggested that she start a business, the husband refused that also because it will impact on the family.

Her brother was stranded and her husband refused to help him out with transportation money. Her family is suffering including her old dad in the village.

The husband has refused to allocate funds for her allowance, he has failed his wife. The husband is obviously having problems financially and he should allow his wife to help him and she appears to be very intelligent and can contribute to the marriage in a positive manner.

I find the husband to be very controlling, abusive, insecure, immature, selfish, etc. The husband must have a lot to hide. He simply wants his wife to be kept in the dark about something.

I will suggest calling a family meeting, his family and her family and letting them know that you are not being giving your allowance. You are making a suggestion that you will like to start working or starting a business and that you need a nanny/housekeeper (part-time).

Nobody has the right to cause a mental illness such as depression on another human being. She may end up on psychotic drugs and the children and family that he wishes for her to take care of will be null and void.

The man needs to be very careful.

you do not know what you want. i cannot tell you what you want or need.

Sattors: Do you guys think this woman‘s action is justifyable?

necesity is the mother of invention.

Crayola1: When did people in the North start wearing Burqas? That's a Middle East tradition

We have always had women that dressed like that in Nigeria.

funny