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TheBigUrban2: I lied. I am not logicboy

An0nimus: Be like say I don miss road. Is this the Nairaland General complaints thread?

ihedinobi2: How about we mess around a bit with aManFromMars's concerns with Romans 13, especially vv 1-7? How should we relate to secular authorities?

UjSizzle: Brazil to beat Holland? Shey na match fixing

You will see na...and what is unbeatable about the holland team

TroyJay1: *hands over handkerchief*

lol...It was painful ...I have recovered...
I see them winning the third place...but havent seen clearly yet

TroyJay1: you'll support the machine?

TroyJay1: congrats. up germany lol

TroyJay1: k, i'll accept that answer lol. i'll admit that a european final is weird, but still, Holland is who I want to win the tourney lol

And so I beat you ;Argentina wins ...

TroyJay1: why

I want Europe/S.american final and europe/s.american third place

TroyJay1: yup, supporting holland

TroyJay1: I can multitask.

TroyJay1: Their accounts weren't banned. They were either deactivated or blocked because he didn't like that they complained after he removed Nkem's dp. If having a dp is now against the rules, show me which rule.

TheBigUrban2: WHAT?

You must be joking. What is inappropriate? Please point it out or remain a dubious liar.

#liars for Jesus

CFCfan: Referee: Marco Rodriguez (Mexico)
Assistant referees: Marvin Torrentera (Mexico), Marcos Quintero (Mexico)
Fourth Official: Mark Geiger (USA)

toluxa1: Thanks for the info dear, will confirm from here cos I dont think we have that here. How is Abuja?
Where did you finish from?

UniAbuja na

TheBigUrban2: Do you think that this make sense to rational people?

yetseyi: Okay since you have decided to rephrase the question let me give you an answer.

Firstly If I have a dream i cherish so much my husband would know from the husband-to-be stage and Its my duty to find out his reaction to whatever dream I have if he doesnt support then I weigh options.

1. Can I leave this dream aside coz he is not in support and move ahead with him
2. Should I go ahead with him and hope he will support the idea when the time comes
3. Or should i let him go and follow my dream.
Thats before the I do stage.

When you get married there are other people and things to consider not just 'I' and there are also options to choose from.
1. Should I go ahead actualizing my dream whether he is in support or not and cause friction in the home
2. Should I leave the dream aside, let go and remain unfulfilled
3. Should I try to persuade him to see reason with whatever I want to doand make him realize that success in my dream will not mean disrespect to him as my Head

life is a matter of choices.
DaGr8 pls I m not dodging the question ooooo i have answered it

TheBigUrban2: submission
səbˈmɪʃ(ə)n/Submit
noun
1.
the action of accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the will or authority of another person.
"they were forced into submission"


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Rather than submission, there should be mutual respect and compromise (from negotiation) in a marriage.

For instance, my uncle is a doctor and his wife is an accountant.
They are both successful people. They argue a lot but they have been married for 10 years now
I once overheard them discussing my cousin's (their son's) future....they had a disagreement- the husband wanted the son to be a pharmacist since he was a science student in secondary school while the wife wants him to study IT.

Accountants work with IT people a lot (accounting softwares eh?) while doctors work with pharmacists. Solution? They both agreed that they will solve it with the boy's own decision between the two.

The son likes both professions but chose to be a pharmacist because he already had a school excursion and project with a pharmaceutical lab/company.


Submission meant that the wife would have had to agree with the husbands choice
Submission meant that the husband would have had to agree with the wife's choice

Respect and compromise meant that they had to find a solution together, while respecting each others opinions.

Great....
But, you know in every team there is a leader, right? The concept of Biblical marriage(team) is related to the relationship between Christ and the Church, with the husband instituted as the leader of the team.
Men have a responsibility to submit too.It’s not just something that’s required of women. Every Christian has the responsibility to submit to the Lord, and also to the authorities the Lord has placed in his or her life. And when it comes to christian marriage the woman accepts the man as the authority to submit to. It will be foolish of her to do otherwise
Have you ever suggested a good idea to your team leader and after weighing it, he stills go with his own idea?
Do you know you have two choices,you can revolt or submit to his decision(accept it)? The Bible urge us to accept it.
Your uncle should respect, of course love comes with respect, his wife by listening to her reasons why the boy should be in IT but he has the biblical authority to decide on the matter and the wife needs to accept.
In conclusion,permit me to add that people without the Spirit have neither the discernment nor the power to live out submission and authority in a godly manner

TheBigUrban2: There should be no submission in any household.

It seems many christians do not understand the meaning of that word "submission".

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Mynd44: At least they will respect one another as sportsmen; when African couples fight over financial superiority, all respect is thrown into the gutter and they turn to blackmail and throw all sort of tantrum.

There was this hypothetical question that if you and your wife work in the same firm, she earns 350,000 and you earn 200,000. you might not see it as a problem initially but if the company wants to downsize and they ask one of you to quit, will you be the one to quit or your wife?

The answer showed how a lot of us men think and are even willing to sacrifice the comfort of our home for pride and arrogance. The truth is that a lot of men suffer from ego issues as they have been taught from birth that they are providers and the women are takers. This is also why Bloomingbud can confidently post that comment which contradicts itself. On one hand she wonders why men are threatened by because she does not see it as a big deal but on the other hand she does not want to be caught in that situation because she has been told that she must be financially inferior to her husband.

He earns higher submit, he earns lower submit.
She earns lower love her, she earns higher love her....Then you have a Christian home

Mintayo: Do you actually know that there are some women who does not want their husband to be more successful than them? I have seen two,if not three.
Let me too stop here first

When a couple become competitors, it becomes like Germany playing Brazil instead of Thiago Silva playing alongside Neymar .

ujsizzle: I can't help but wonder if you'll think the same way should your husband earn a monthly emolument that's not sufficient to cater for yours and the children's needs.

A lot of people need to grow up mentally. Marriage goes beyond what's good for me and my feelings to what's beneficial for us and our needs.
If a man's pride always gets in the way of progress foe the unit, then a woman's emotional response might just as well be validated too.
Certain feelings and emotions can be trained out of us if we even bother to try. Let's stop trying to validate childish behaviors please and start encouraging one another to grow mentally, physically and spiritually.
Take pride in the family unit. Take pride in your wife's success, because as long as she respects you as the head your ego should stay very much intact. What's the point of a help mate if you won't give her the chance of actually being useful if your domestic economy is low or literally nonexistent? How will she be helpful if you kept stifling every attempt for her to blossom in the past all because of your pride and ego?

I love it when you you post lady

@emboldened...this is where many wives have made mistake in the past and it is what I think many husbands are scared of.

yetseyi: hmmm

well its always easy to say this is what I will do when you re not in the situation so Da gr8 I may wont answer that question

lol,may be I should reframe the question. You have a dream you cherish so much, a time came for you to step out to achieve the dream, your hubby is not in support of it and knowing the Bible asks the wives to be submissive. Would you go against the husband's authority and still go ahead with the dream or you would give up the dream?

Mynd44: I like your profile picture. Hot and sexy......you are awesomely beautiful

Is that your Job

SalC: Yeah thank God

Am not surprise cos there was no story in the first place your determination to get an answer then lead to the 'lie' you told anyway I believe I was able to give you a clear answer and now I won't have to be asked that question every now and then

there was actually a story

Mynd44: That your username is about to become "Bighead"

Mynd44: Don't say I did not tell you ooo

Tell me what