@ Coco

Don't worry, you all didn't mess up my post. I did get the advice I needed right? And that's all that matters

I see dancerina, there s no problem which you ever have a the momment or before I just think that you have a misplacement of personality which I woud love to advise should be corrected, well I think that you have a multiple love affair which is quite normal. I want you to know that its okay as many people practice this in the western world and which is gradually growing and existing here in Africa,

why don't you tell these guys that you have been into and invite them all in a plac and a same venue. get a good gang banging with them. I am sure after that you would have a very healthy sex life and better relationship. I think you are a wonderful fantasizer and a humorous woman, do this please and get back to me. if you want my direct contact I can give to you in the next post, I can advise you more on this and how you can go ahead and have a blissful life having it

I really think you have me wrong here. I definitally am not interested in sex and therefor a party is out of the question. And I also only like one guy beyond friendship. The other two I like as friends and nothing more than friends.

what do you mean speak like a teenager, don't you read inbetween the lines ? look at what she says, you only consider what she is saying and not what she is feeling, I feel a certain connection with what she is saying, not everyone has what she has right now, she is really diversed in her emmotional feelings and this can be psychic in nature, she says she is in love with someone and feels something for another , yet she thinkis someone likes her, not everyone is able to explain how much they feel or express it I see hers as no exception, I think she is more into relationships MULTIPLE than she can remember, this is to her, check yur mind and see if you prefer to have it a three some,

righocream, you really made me laugh with this one. Honestly, there is nothing to read between the lines here, my problem is as stated lol.

Another thing is I just recently started dating because I wasn't allowed to before, but I'm beginning to think that I'm just not ready to date right now anyways. I'm just going to call it off and focus on my books once more. And then if something happens along the line, then something happens, but as for now, I'm just going to let the cards fall where they may like mamaput said.

Thanks everyone for all of your opinions, they really were really helpful

Don't worry Coco, I never thought about you asking my age just to judge me. You're question does have a lot of merit.

I have stepped back, but when it comes to going through with the whole thing, that's where I fail. I'll make my decision, but then I feel bad about how he's feeling and I just take him back. And I just can't do that. I guess I just have to realize that either way the friendship is ruined.

And thanks layi for your advice. It's funny because my New Years resolution was just to stay single, for a long time

@Coco
I am a teenager. You might be right, I'm beginning to wonder if I even know what love means. But clearly there is one guy that I like beyond friendship.

@David
You're right as well. Except for one thing, I'm not fooling around with different men. I'm in a relationship with one guy, but my heart's just not in it.

It's not like I'm trying to hurt anyone, but that is also my very problem. That I don't want to hurt anyone, and I want to shield their feelings. And I didn't want to lose that guy as a friend. I just wasn't expecting him to like me this much.

I wish I could give a shorter version, but I don't really think that's possible. But I can try. I'm in a relationship with a guy that pretty much said either I go out with him, or forget our friendship even though we've been friends for a while and I value his friendship. Meanwhile there is this other guy that I like and likes me back, and I only feel a friendship love for my boyfriend, even though I hoped it might grow into love love. And I tried to break up with him a couple of times, but it tears him up, and then I feel bad and take him back. But I really like this other guy. And there is this third guy who I used to like and still likes me, we're not in a relationship though, but I just don't feel the same way anymore. And I don't know how exactly to tell him.

Help?

Sorry about the length, it was really long. But trust me, it could have been A LOT longer

I'm in a relationship with a guy that pretty much said either I go out with him, or forget our friendship even though we've been friends for a while and I value his friendship. Meanwhile there is this other guy that I like and likes me back, and I only feel a friendship love for my boyfriend, even though I hoped it might grow into love love. And I tried to break up with him a couple of times, but it tears him up, and then I feel bad and take him back. But I really like this other guy. And there is this third guy who I used to like and still likes me, we're not in a relationship though, but I just don't feel the same way anymore. And I don't know how exactly to tell him.

Someone please help me out and offer me some advice. I'm seriously lost here and I don't know what to do. And I can't help but wonder how everything just got to this point.

modified post to make it shorter