My mum would call them necessary evil,they both have their advantages and disadvantages. U get a female she ends up sleeping with security in the compound and or hubby inclusive and when u hire a male...hmm this ones na criminals....am sure there are good ones but the percentage is small...so nairalanders give me a clue of wich one to choose despite the dissadvantages

Pls ggoldboy whatsapp me on 08077520370i have a very important thing to discuss with u.

Dygeasy:
Why don't people date to a point where all they'd be interested in is getting married. No pressure on anybody.

Here, the OP was pressured to propose and now God knows what the lady has up to her sleeves. Don't you people talk?

We talk but as it is with some women. Talks never end. I wish I never proposed. Or I wish I had a second plan. I am a ad man coz I have invested heavily in the relationship. Plus the other part is that it aint like I cheated or something...I am proud of myself for remaining loyal,not to her but to myslf. In the end of all my life matter,I just wanna make heaven.

SirJeffry:
When you proposed, it was only you but now you've got company bro that's why she is distracted and being the old guy, you are now a second option.

Sad but true.

You have two options; Leave her and move on or if you still want her, reduce your attention to her and give her time to see that her new guy is no different from you. All men are same, just slight differences in perception.

U are smart...exactly my tots. I have already left her I collected back the ring but don't know what to do with it. I will move on and may God help me.

Dojupyo:
That's why plan B is perfect.. At that stage of yours, you should have another plan, if this one fails.. Now, I'm not saying you should bleep them.. You can be close to some female friends of yours, keep it going.. When you notice any kind of unseriousness in one, you leave.. No time to waste bro.. Some people can make you wait for nothing, time no dey your side again.. And attend more of relationship programs, be more closer to God too, cos He will lead you in the path to follow

She made me delete every single girls number that is not my family member from my phone. I wish I had a plan B now. So sad I don't. Starting a whole new relationship is a big headache . I am considering focusing on my career then give another relationship a chance after 1 or 2yrs.

Only for the matured mind pls...not just anybody that can read or know how to browse...
Have dated her for 3 yrs. Am in my early 30s and she in her late 20s. She has always pestered me to propose so as not to waste her time in the relationship. Its a clear fact that I am ready both financially and otherwise but she now told me that let's wait and see if she is actually my wife?
My question is this. SHe said yes to my proposal,why didn't she turn me down that very day and its not like it was a public proposal that will necesistate her to avoid embarrassing me. It was private.I sincerely want to move on with my life as. It is clear she might just be using all these excuses to bounce me.

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falconey:
Not the thumb nor the middle finger.... Bros I no know.

Wow

Valentines day is fast approaching and Nna na wa oh! I have never considered this little puzzle of knowing the exact hand (finger) of placing the engagement ring I bought for her...I have googled and googled sotey my eyes dey pain me. All I saw where conflicting answers and most are western. So I want to throw the questions to nigerians . E good make person know all these little little thing oh. Am in my 30s na now my eyes clear. So over to u.

eyinjuege:


Love nwantintin o...

There's no problem marrying someone with SS provided you are AA. Your kids will be fine.

However, SS patients need to pay constant attention to their health. She needs to be going regularly for her sickle cell clinic.
Pregnancies should be booked as early as possible and extra care taken during pregnancies. Pregnancies must be well spaced, like 4 to 5 years in between pregnancies. This is to allow their bodies to try and recover.
They must be regular on their medications.
Any form of illness eve if its common cold shouldn't be joked with.
Goodluck sha, since you say she hardly has crises

peopel wh reason like u are scrace....I am sure u are a very educated person. Thatnx for ur opinion

softappless:
GOD 4bid, but if it happens to someone else, like i said a wife loosen her hands will not affect the health of the kids, what im concern abt is the health of the kids, as for the wife take her to USA in newyork and with few surgical operations her hand will be recovered.

from ur last post sir, it is clear that your opinion on this issue is handicapped. Sorry for using that word. I am not pleading for your advice. If u had read from the begining their is a difference between advice and opinion. Yours has no objection at all. Just outright descrimination and misunderstanding f the entire topic as a whole

torqque7:
My brother Ss is not a death sentence, a lot of people die everyday who are AA and are supposedly 'healthy"..besides in case u don't know,there is a cure for the disease now,its different from the previous bone marrow thing, even tho its kinda similar..as long as u guys love each other genuinely then I'll advice u to go ahead and wife her asap before someone beats u to it,this life is just crazy,u could end up with a wife who is not Ss and she will make ur life hell,happiness is all that matters in life,I'll rather be very happy with someone even if its just for a few secs than to be miserable with another for a lifetime.. choose wisely

wherever u are or what u do may God visit u with blessings...u are a reasonable human beign. Thank u to a fault

softappless:
offcourse not, if i dont love my wife then i wud nt get married to her in d first place, "its the profound and divine LOVE that i will have 4 her that is what will make me propose to her, dats why im taking my time and life before going into any relationship becaus my next girlfriend will be my life partner, thats my goal.

this is not a prayer but have u considered the fact that even when two people are healthy before marriage things could go wrong along the way?I am not praying for any ills towards u but that's reality. If God forbids the man or the woman looses an arm or leg or even fazed with stroke. Wat will u say?

Cpumping:
chairman, I dnt exactly see wat the problem is?

u love her too much?
she is too emotional?
she doesn't reciprocate ur love?
she is ss?
u dnt want pple to say u married her out of pity cuz of her ss condition?

wch one of these is ur problem.


u sd u love her so much, then marry am na, as the ss issue no be issue.

the problem is maybe as a result of the societal descrimination,she is predisposed by the fact that I may at some point regret the marriage so therefore she is rather scared than myself. Pls understand

Thank u brotherly

Than u s much for understandinng. Exactly my plan. I want them to find out later.she may be ss but am suffering from a worse condition than ss and its love

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