₦airaland Forum

Solution0707:
Na the person wey get ATM card go visit ATM machine

Leemzyy:
That man is a very wicked man, okay yess she did wrong and so? Why overreacting and messing with her family

Why not just divorce her and let her go her way, he is not the first and wouldn't be the last, let him go and hug transformer

Diamond098454:
Girls should mind the can of guy they date.

DamnDamnDamn:
I will try sending you an email
Please respond

DamnDamnDamn:



Let us not over pretend about this matter

They keep asking what business can you do or what business idea do you have

What can you sell


Nonsense


No business is selling in Nigeria

Doesn't mean crime will solve the problem

But I wonder what will

The economic issue has made it impossible for any single business here to be lucrative

And nobody is supporting any business ideas

Enough is enough

In fact they have concluded that you are doomed except God will repair you

But same people will accuse you of offending God and not deserving anything good from him

I have never seen a country as frustrating as this

nurudeen181:
You mean coming to my house at 7am with a book named Jehovah witness to preach and give me a new testament bible isn't enough

tuoyoojo:
This is a show of strength

Know this and know peace

Newsgeek24:
https://verynigerian.com/2027-i-support-tinubu-iyabo-obasanjo-states-position-after-very-nigerian-story/

Jennyclay:
Mr stingy ko ko man, hope you will not cry like a new born baby when another man is spending on wife/girlfriend

Shame!!

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Lannister247:
Good morning, everyone. Please, I need honest advice from Nigerians who have experienced life in the UK, especially Nigerians who have returned home after relocating abroad.

Please as a Nigerian if you have not visited the UK or lived in the west before then stay away, you'll never understand the challenges abroad thus youll start making silly comments like:

"Na villiage people de call you"
or "anywhere is better than nigeria"
or start throwing insult on something you know nothing about.

Continuing..

I knew abroad was hard, i watched people's story on youtube but i never expected it to be this terrible.

I am a Nigerian currently in the UK studying for a master's degree. Honestly, I am struggling badly with life here, and I have been regretting since i came here.
Before coming to the UK, I had my own challenges in Nigeria, but I was far happier, i had peace i took for granted.

Since arriving here, I have been feeling stressed, worried and trapped. I don't enjoy anything about this place, and I find myself regretting my decision almost every day. Sometimes people even notice the worry on my face and ask me if I am okay, THE STRESS IS OVERWHELMING.

One of the things weighing heavily on me is the routine I have ahead of me for the next year. I either have to go to school or be working. I don't have even one day of rest in a week not even Sunday. This is what my life is going to look like for the next year, and honestly, I don't know how I will cope with it. The thought of living like this is overwhelming, should i even call that living?

Another thing that worries me is the future. I see people talking about five year and ten year plans to gather enough funds and return back home, but I don't even know how I can stay here for another month. I have met Nigerians who have lived here for many years, some 5, 10 years and they have nothing, even the ones who manage to build one small house in Nigeria built it with their life(not money) working like a sl@ve 7 days a week toiling and jeopadising your health just to build a house, is it worth it?

Seeing this has made me question what exactly I am walking into and wether its better to exit early when i still have my youth, i mean the kind energy people put here if they put it back in Nigeria they must succeed.
People are not happy here they are simply enduring everything because they have already invested so much in coming and is ashamed to go back.

If I return to Nigeria now, I will have to start figuring things out again.
My biggest fear is not just the financial side of returning. It is also what people will say. Some Nigerians may laugh at me for returning after such a short time, especially when so many people are desperate to relocate abroad.

I don't want to make a decision based on people's opinions, but I would be lying if I said their judgment does not bother me.
At the same time, I don't want to spend the next 5-10 years being miserable, missing out on life, toiling, waking up by 4am and getting home by 8pm simply because I am afraid of what people will say. If i ever get the courage to go back to Nigeria ill never leave that place, you'll never value that Country until you've left. I am just confuse at the moment.

Richtaiwo:
This is exactly what will happen. Infact, Tinubu will come first in North Central. Tinubu will come first in SW and NC. And the worst thar will happen to him in every other zone is second position.

FSBoperator:
This is kidnapping and she should be arrested and charged to court for such.

We4all:
That woman is into child trafficking, and she should be investigated.

Merry100:
I totally agree with this statement if it is not coming from a man that wants to claim headship of his home:

"If that lady during courtship does not FINANCIALLY COMMIT HERSELF TO THAT RELATIONSHIP JUST EXACTLY AS YOU ARE DOING…"

If that is the case, then this person must be extremely delusional.

Let's analyse this like human beings with brains, not like people whose brains society has plucked out.

A woman would take care of the home, give birth to the children, take care of the children, while the man who claims he is the head of the home would still contribute equal finances as the woman and still expect her to submit. If it is not delusion, what do we want to call this?

Firstly, let me make this clear: I am not wife material. I don't ever want to be, and I have absolutely no interest in marriage.

You talk about love and respect like they are just things people enforce on themselves or tell their brains to feel. We are psychological beings. Majority of the time, the brain does the screening. You are not the only type of guy out there. You guys seem to have forgotten that women are not just fruits you pick from a tree; we do the selection as well.

I doubt any guy I have dated would describe me as disrespectful if asked. They would probably even comment that I am respectful. Even when we had disagreements, I didn't disrespect them. It wasn't that I was perfect, but I simply never dated any guy I couldn't respect.

Whoever feeds you controls you. It is easier for someone to start treating you less when they feel you are totally dependent on them.

You don't have to be as financially buoyant as your wife to deserve her respect. What matters is the way you present yourself; sometimes, presentation even speaks louder than wealth.

You shouldn't look up to your wife to sustain you daily, even if she is much more financially buoyant than you. She can decide on her own to gift you things or even contribute the largest amount towards the home, but don't demand it from her.

If you need her financial help, you can ask her to lend you money to settle yourself and pay it back, if possible, with interest. But don't allow her to view you as a dependent and still expect her to respect you.

We are psychological beings. We all need a reason to respect each other.

Qloud69:
Find love in your broke era. If you don't, never settle for a poor woman.

KosiGee:
I concur,

Sometimes you want to travel by night, you’ll board a luxurious bus (coach) and land at your destination in the early morning and be on your way…

Sometimes, you want to make a short trip, you’ll sneak out and flag down a keke or okada…you’ll arrive at your destination, make your way back home, admire your car packed conveniently at the garage while this same car would be wishing you’ll turn it on, warm its it’s engine and let it enjoy the pleasure of the tarmac or the rough roads.

uche87:
https://www.facebook.com/thevillagetowncrier/posts/pfbid035QJjYkQniVKKfV4wFzG5m9mWgB2MNjY1YXCdkptFeBwZ2fJi8BZNeCNuRZvepmR7l

Kalatium:
This is the kinda mentality we are talking about. Did you even read the post well.

We have had cases where a woman has money but hid it just because it's the man's responsibility, her own child died as a result of that mentality. You have the money why can't you save your own child but you refuse because it's not her responsibility. That js a very selfish attitude.

gigabyte13:
If you go dey believe say, your wife must give you money inside marriage
Na there you go first loose respect.
Comot eyes for your woman money
Act like the man of the house for once.

A reasonable married woman, don't have to be told what to do with her money and her husband and children............
Na all these Almajiri wives, dem go dey beg to dey help her own family

Guestmale:
We know it's our responsibility as man to take care of our family but there's nothing bad in.wife too extending helping hands especially when things are not going well financially with the man. You women should please pity us.

99thEnemy:
I have not seen anything expressed better on Nairaland today.

morgstreme:
Women like you are raised in homes with a "scarcity mindset"...

Easy to see..

Simple to use them and dump them.....they almost ALWAYS come from below average to poor backgrounds..

Fidelity is a far cry in hearts as yours..

treesun:
https://www.vanguardngr.com/2026/09/2027-if-tinubu-wins-well-retire-from-politics-amaechi-tells-adc-leaders/

donogaga:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1E94VvdSAa/

Kamalex2:
I'll leave this Nairaland for una

Fekumzi123:
I will not hesitate to end the marriage right there. God forbid bad thing.

Adakintroy:
olosho no wan compromise her faith.