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ephi123:
Smh. With this kind of thinking, I am just weak. Do you realize men are physically stronger than women?

You shouldn't have replied him.

EASYSHO:
Hunnnnn, first I have two advices, dont ever take your life for him to live and still rape several pple after u have died and second, dont ever try to take his life under any condition that will not put you at rest for d rest of your life. What I can deduce from you is that u lack one thing which is being far from your parent at d tender age. Solution, call your mum and explain to her. She is next to you for now and now eraze all that have happened from your mind. REMEMBER everything has been destined so, u can never be smarter than your destiny. Cheer up and enjoy the rest of your life. We have seen worst than this my dear, your is not new and I pray you become a great achiever in life. Would have wish I discussed on personal note if u are in lag

Thanks sir.

I'm in PH now

tunde1200:
hmmm how could a reasonable man raped. get over it asap op if you cannot report the monster to authority.

I've gotten over it friend.

Ishilove:
Quite a pervert, he is.

He really is.

It is customary that when a man faces turbulence in life's way,good neighbours like you and others are always on hand to console and give useful pieces of advice.
Before now,I was thinking where my dying soul would find solace due to the numerous woes hanging down my neck. In fact,it got to an extent where I concluded that the sky and the ground no longer needs my tenancy.
I was sliding towards self destruct.
But today,I have enlist myself in the match of the bold men and I believe that someday,not far from hence,the good side of life will again attend to my fortune.
Happy New Month

anonimi:
@ OP,
Please note the highlighted. It is the koko of the matter/

Thank you so much
I'm stronger now

anonimi:
That was the first mistake.
You should have reported him to your mum at the first sign of stalking.
Most rapes are committed by KNOWN, even friendly people/ relations.
If he is 29 and your uncle's friend but started stalking you 12 years ago when you were in junior level (university?), that means you are about the same age?

Just a little age difference. I was in junior school then and I only get to see my parents during holidays.
I was blind not to have known it would lead to this. If not,I would have informed my uncle.

Ishilove:
How can you think of moving on with your life when the one who has caused you so much unhappiness will still be around you? Do you want to ever cut off from this guy? STAY FAR AWAY FROM HIM!

If your parents or anyone pesters you to join the company, just tell them that your uncle's friend is a terrible person and you don't want to be affiliated to him in anyway.

Personally though, I think you're too soft.

Take it gently with me please. To be candid with you,I gave that offer a serious thought. No doubt,the pay is pretty good BUT whenever I think of my sad experience with that monster my world seems to collapse. But from all your advices here believe me, I'm left with no option but to flee from him.

Sadly,your last sentence is nothing but the truth

anonimi:
He will surely call again.
You need to google how to transfer your recorded call to a flash drive etc as a back up copy and let him know you have that to share if he ever DISTURBS you with his call one more time.
There can not be any soft approach to dealing with RA.PE.
No soft approach even as you desire to avoid the risk of being stigmatised due to the abortion although I think that once you have the recorded conversation that should include admission of the earlier act then you should share with your mum and/or sister, who are likely to be more secretive while being sympathetic with you.
However, I do not understand the 12 year reference in your OP?

Ok sir,I'll check it up.
Btw,I've blacklisted his number.
12yrs reference I made? Well,I was pretty young then. He started stalking during my junior level.

Ishilove:
That is comforting to know. Now the ball is in your court.

Whatever decision you choose, remember that he must not be allowed to do to other girls what he did to you.

Ok ma'am

Please check my previous posts>>the one I quoted that guy. Thanks

wizod:
forgive him but don't hv anything 2 do wit him again

Ok,I'll

But is it really advisable for me to work with him in the same company? Since he has a say in the said company? Please someone should talk sense into my head.

Ishilove:
You have no blame. The monster forced himself on you.
Are you going to keep allowing him have power over your peace of mind?

You're absolutely right.
No,I won't let him have power over my peace of mind again. Never! Not anymore!
Thank you so much,I feel better now.

anonimi:
There should be ways of recording his calls and playing back to him so he knows you will expose him if he attempts to call or come near you again.
I imagine that he is married, much older than you are and with children since he is a friend to your uncle.

Of course,I recorded our conversation but I mistakenly deleted it yesterday.#sad
He's 29 and not married.

Ishilove:
Where did the assault take place?

His friend's place.
Then his friend travelled to Abuja while the girlfriend was around. Before she left the room that night I tried explaining things to her as lady2lady but it seem her mind was already bought. Well,the deed has already been done and I give myself a larger part of the blame because I trusted him more than he deserved.

Ishilove:
Ahhhhh, okay, now the picture is clearer.

It seems to be more complicated than what I initially thought.

Please give me the full picture because it seems we have been working with half. Make me understand

I don't know how best to explain this. But lets say we aren't friends and the "common fence" which is my uncle is just the only bind of our relationship.
In order for me not to be tagged a snub I forced myself to be friends with him. Not knowing that monster has a deadly plan for me. That's just it

But I'm consoled by your kind words and that of others here. God bless you

@Ishilove,God bless you for those words. Believe me when I say I've seen a ridiculous moment of shame and my eyes have produced tears in full,enough to even quench my thirst.Of course,this scenario speaks for itself.For clarification purposes;No,my parents doesn't love him more than me and No I don't want to die before my time.
About you locking things down well,I for one I'm both intro/extro kind of person.I'm very outspoken especially when the needs arise BUT when it comes to things more vital and serious like this,I prefer keeping it to myself.
Actually,when I first told him about the pregnancy deep down he was happy.And so, he wanted to play a smart game by first running a PT on me so that he could have me at the end.But since I got the message before time,I was left with no option but to turn the table against him.I denied ever getting pregnant so he wouldn't use it against me.He's so desperate believe me.
At least,it's possible for one to decode how oppressed and depressed I was from my bad experience.

moneybag100:
What's the title of the movie, poem or novel?

It would have been much better if you had ignored this thread.

ezugegere:
As long as he didn't carry weapon, you didn't fight enough. No man can rape u without weapons. Or did he tie u up?

I swear,I fought him with my whole strength. Imagine a lady fighting for like four good hours with a muscular guy? The pains I felt afterwards was something else my dear.

Ishilove:
Darima300, is he a relative?

No,he isn't.
We're from the same community.
He is a friend to my uncle. And again,almost everybody including my parents love him so much since he looks and act responsible.
And that is just the reason I'm scared of reporting him.

whywhyogun:
to marry the man who rapes you , this will help smooth your mind better, and give birth to a chubby baby, it is a happy ending

God forbid.
Not even if he is the last man standing. I reject everything in him.

George22016:
I will bet anything you are a guy.Seeking sympathy in other to draw soft nairalanders especially the gullible males on this platform to your scams

Be careful with your words here.

George22016:
Like if you agree with me this is a fake story


op account was opened two days ago

I created this account last night just for this purpose alone in order to clear my mind. And for your information,I didn't bring my story here to get cheap sympathy nor likes.

greatnaija01:
all this empty ranting is meaningless unless you had reported the matter to the police or human rights organizations and then it will be properly addressed and you will be healed due to the justice that will be handed to him.


STOP SUFFERING ALONE.

I wish I could.
But what about my parents? What will I tell them? The pregnancy? How would they feel if they gets to find out? Just tell me please

dingbang:
do u wish to take dat hate with you to the grave? I know it may sound so simple for me saying it but u can't live with it for d rest of ur life....


Now u say he is still communicating with u.. In what manner? Through social media or physical meeting? Have u tried cutting all chances of him reaching u

Through phone calls. How he got my contacts is still a mystery.

dingbang:
How did it all happen

I can't explain everything please.
Just know I fought him with my whole strength but at last he over powered me. He has been begging me ever since then and well,I tried to forget about it. But my anger is that he still wants me. I hate him

His words meant nothing to me that very night.It's a year and some months since he raped me.I still feel guilty,I still feel depressed and hopeless.Unexplained fear and anxiety have become part of me.That monster came around few days ago,he touched my nipple this time around.Oh! My knife! How lucky he was that very day?I missed my dear knife that moment
He deserved to die! I told him for like a thousand and one times that I had no feelings for him.
YET! 12years and still counting,he's still stalking me.
Is it by force to love him?At last,that rapist set me up and impregnated me.I was left with no option but to abort my first blood.God please forgive me
I've tried to move on with my life but he's still stalking me.I just don't want to be called a murderer for the second time.BUT that thing won't listen.
I told him to go away with his house and money since he isn't my type of man.If he ever comes close to me again I swear that day will be his last on earth.
N/B-I created this acct just to pour out my mind